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 CatManDo1959
Joined: 2/23/2008
Msg: 4
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Do anything...at first I thought you were advocating a system whereby a "scarlet letter" (reference to the Hawthorne novel, if you missed the connection) to be attached to member's profile. Sometimes an intended relationship does end badly, like either side ending it while the other is mentally 'caught in the headlights', and miscommunication and disappointment can lead to vindictive feelings.
As far as height disparities, if your eye questions it, coffee shop, and notice the yardstick at the door. Age, second date if there is one, odd look and say a friend saw 'us' together and we need to settle a bet - could I see your drivers' license? Technically a lie, but no worse than what we tell telemarketers - no 'malintent', no harm, no foul. You could be straightforward but it's awkward. I have been told at work I look younger over the years but I've never used that in a profile; a car may be well waxed but that doesn't roll back the odometer. And, if things work out, the truth will out and then... much credibility lost.
Important things are more easily obscured and more important to honesty. Marital status, smoking or other vices, health issues come to mind offhand.
 Booboola
Joined: 1/10/2011
Msg: 5
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Posted: 5/21/2013 11:58:17 AM
Oh I don't know how upset anyone should be about stuff like that, you'd have to be pretty naive not to know that guys add a couple inches and gals understate their weight when they write up their profiles.

Because of that expected "fudging" I request no one under 6' even though I would date a shorter guy , and when I post profile pictures of myself they are very recent, what you see is what you get.

I have the opposite problem with age, I request guys who are older than me so I don't know why young guys are messaging me, are they looking for a cougar or something ? I am just a big old pussycat, I don't want a frisky kitten bothering me. I'm not going to spend any time reporting those kittens though, I just swat them back to where they came from, silly things ;)
 Booboola
Joined: 1/10/2011
Msg: 6
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Posted: 5/21/2013 12:07:58 PM
...oh except this, THIS I would report, it happend to me, what a figgin nightmare:

If someone says they are divorced but have just recently "sperated" from their spouse.
One time after dating a guy for two years I found out he had a wife in China, when I confronted him he insisted that he was "geographically" seperated. Oh and they had an "agreement". (kicked to the curb).
Another time after a few dates I found out the guy was not divorced, nope, he had just been seperated from his wife for a few days before going out and searching for a new woman to replace his wife. I told him where to find a nanny and housekeeper (yellow pages).
 NtvNtv
Joined: 5/15/2013
Msg: 7
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Posted: 7/13/2013 8:59:25 PM
Men an inch taller than you....is still taller than you...and that's what you like : )
 Fort Garry Dark
Joined: 11/25/2005
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What about honesty? Should we do anything?
Posted: 1/12/2014 7:41:04 AM
I'm not surprised you are sleepy. Sure is quiet in here lately.
 kalasmontreal
Joined: 2/26/2016
Msg: 10
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Posted: 5/22/2016 4:15:18 PM
That's the risk of using this site, there's nothing to do about it
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