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 fiery_blonde
Joined: 1/19/2013
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Orange county. Most of the guys over 30 seem to be married already. The ones that aren't married are either screwed up, hispanic or nasty looking. I work out at a gym in Irvine and live in Costa Mesa. It should be a nice place to meet guys that you have something in common with, right? Wrong! The men here are so snobby, self-obsessed and competitive against anything with a pulse. God forbid, you are a faster runner, biker or swimmer than they are. I've seen hot looking women come in the gym, and the guys don't even approach them. You go shopping, you meet no one. You go to the bookstore, you meet no one. You go out to eat somewhere, you meet no one. You go to the coffee shop like I'm in now, and you meet no one except loser guys over 50 with no career to speak of. I don't mind going to clubs/bars, but I can't drink much since I'm on medication.

I don't want to sound racist. I'm a white girl, and I have no attraction to minorities whatsoever. Unfortunately, every other girl out here (including the minority females) feels the same way and only wants a white guy. So every time you run into a caucasian with a good job who is somewhat attractive, they are always taken. It's so frustrating. I'm thinking of just moving elsewhere. Don't know what to do.
 ImReadyForUnow
Joined: 11/11/2012
Msg: 2
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Posted: 3/19/2013 8:28:03 PM
Wow!
I have heard from the main forums about woman like you. I thought all the men were joking or lying. Boy was I wrong.
You are one of those jaded "B" Princess I have heard about.
I am torn between telling you to stay cause you make ANY other woman like a real catch or tell you to move to another state and where you will be appreciated I'm thinking Northern Alaska!
 Indira46
Joined: 8/19/2012
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Sick of the singles scene out here in
Posted: 3/19/2013 8:34:16 PM
Move to Utah. Thank you.
 LAgoodguy
Joined: 8/21/2008
Msg: 4
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Posted: 3/19/2013 9:53:49 PM
Well if they guys don't aproach you, maybe you should aproach the guys lol... If you can't find what you are looking for then guess what life stinks get a few cats lol .. No one owes you anything get proactive
 GreenThumbz18
Joined: 4/25/2012
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Posted: 3/19/2013 10:10:44 PM
^^^^^^
"Don't know what to do."

Turn gay?
 RocketKingFisher
Joined: 2/4/2013
Msg: 6
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Posted: 3/19/2013 10:48:00 PM
An interesting and humorous rant!!
 gentlebear22
Joined: 8/30/2006
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Posted: 3/20/2013 12:35:31 AM
Don't let the door hit your ass as you leave. You are very judgmental person. Maybe work on your attitude and you might meet somebody; If you don't change your attitude, it does not matter where you live.
 BabblingBrookes
Joined: 2/14/2013
Msg: 8
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Posted: 3/20/2013 5:46:55 AM
You're coming to some pretty strong conclusions about people you don't know. You can't have everything. If you're at a point where you can't get a "Caucasian with a good job who is somewhat attractive," then readjust your priorities. Start approaching every Caucasian man you're attracted to, and forgo the "good job". If you'd rather be alone than do so, then continue searching and stop whining.
 mamasboy069
Joined: 11/6/2012
Msg: 9
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Posted: 3/20/2013 7:33:24 AM
#1,fiery blonde
I agree with every word u said 100%,young guys in so cal r no doubt a mess,,to begin with they dont know how to do anything,,,hell ,,,its all they can do to put gas inna car an air inna tire ,its a miracle they can even warsh there own windshields.forget the gyms an puter nittwits an look 4 worken men,guys that can actually do something as const trades men an stuff like that,U wud make any Realman Proud.Look at a mans hands,if there smooth as butter,, he dont work hes an officeboy dont waste ur time,there a dime a dozen .i feel sorry 4 any woman tryen to find a realman in socal,,,,,its become mexifornia 4 sure pathetic,throw out ur politians an start ova,,which is hard to do with all the voter fraud in ca









the proofs in the puddin.
 Rabbitman49
Joined: 10/20/2005
Msg: 10
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Posted: 3/20/2013 11:35:16 AM
Re: #1 - You have at least a couple of strikes against you here:

1) Being in Irvine, you're firmly embedded behind the Orange Curtin. I agree that you need to get out of there, but Utah or Alaska isn't necessary. Coming north to Los Angeles (in the correct neighborhood) may be all that is needed.

2) Your profession could be a problem. Although there are many professionals in your field that do your field honor, there are also alot of "bad apples" from a certain other profession that claim your profession as a cover for their illegal activities. Being a good looking woman on top of that doesn't help, but at least you're not Asian too! The post at #22 played on this and although I'm certain it was meant as a joke, there is a truth behind such a statement as well.

Maybe you have too many contact restrictions on your profile. Perhaps they should be loosened up, especially age where you're looking only 4 years older but 9 years younger. Most women have a more balanced range above and below.

Re: #8 - Nice retort. That made me laugh.
Re: #10 - That's a given from the OC; maybe not from the person.
 Jennywillwin
Joined: 12/27/2011
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Posted: 3/20/2013 12:14:08 PM
I would have to say that southern California is not a very sociable state and the men here (for the most part) really don't have any social skills. Some suggested sarcastically for her to move to Utah. Utah has the highest online porn subscription rate per thousand. Just something to think about.

Realistically OP, you would be much better off in many other states to hook a man. I know I would be!! Ever seen the TV show "Hot in Cleveland"? There is some truth to it.
 TuMuchFun
Joined: 9/29/2008
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Posted: 3/20/2013 12:27:52 PM
Looks like the pot calling the kettle thang...

BTW I go to the gym to work out, not talk. People who think the gym is a social stop tween coffee and shopping need to get a clue. Get your workout in/done and clear out so others can do the same. Those who chit-chat, meander and talk on the phone in the gym drive me (and those who like a good quick work-out) friggin nuts.

Looking the way you do, if you can't find someone you best look in the mirror...BTW every gym has a few.
 Jennywillwin
Joined: 12/27/2011
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Posted: 3/20/2013 4:17:37 PM
^^^That's too bad,Steve. I always acknowledge someone and say something appropriate. Don't let a few (or many) ruin it for everyone, just continue to be polite and know that some of us appreciate it.
 mamasboy069
Joined: 11/6/2012
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Posted: 3/20/2013 4:56:12 PM
now were tawken bout time.......find a werkin man notta smooth hand mamasboy hahahahaa,er office boy,hey...this is a neat thread i hope it stays









the proof is in da puddin grl?
watchen da train wreck has always been fun though?
 GreenThumbz18
Joined: 4/25/2012
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Posted: 3/20/2013 6:20:11 PM
^^^^^^
"Utah has the highest online porn subscription rate per thousand. Just something to think about."

Maybe so, but California boasts a much higher percentage of tech-savvy residents.
Bottom line: We don't subscribe, we hack :)

As for the hapless OP, her talents as a "massage technician" are no doubt being wasted.
With no boyfriend, who is getting all those happy endings?
 mamasboy069
Joined: 11/6/2012
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Posted: 3/21/2013 9:10:30 AM
this is a Single Site fer crissake .....does anyone eva autually date on here?





hows that hope an change workinout 4 u
ur only as good as ur worst employee
 JS3344
Joined: 2/12/2013
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Posted: 3/21/2013 9:44:55 AM
Say hello to a woman passing by, or open the door for her at a local Starbucks and you get a frown or they look down at their cell phone.
- this reminds of a few years ago, I was on my way to a restaurant and it was pouring rain, I had no umbrella, but I held the door for a few women and got freakin soaked, of course no acknowledgment, no nothing, felt like a chump....and they wonder where attitudes come from....you never forget things like that.
 mamasboy069
Joined: 11/6/2012
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Posted: 3/21/2013 9:58:23 AM
steveie ur funny hahahah

fiery blonde....stick to ur guns ya dont have to date outta ur race an i dont blame u 1 bit.....remember ur in ca..... a state that sold the farm to mexico an illegals,,dont listen to ca folks.oh i might ad they also voted to Raise there own taxes,omg?






watchen the train wreck has always been fun though?
hows that hope an change workinout 4 u?
hey good looken goin my way?
it jus gets betta everyday?
 Rabbitman49
Joined: 10/20/2005
Msg: 19
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Posted: 3/21/2013 10:56:43 AM
Re: #15 -
Utah has the highest online porn subscription rate per thousand.


1) Most of that porn is made here in California. There's a reason for that.

2) How does Jenny know this about Utah? Hmmmm.... ;-) (just teasing)

Re: #18 - Or get slapped with a restraining order for just saying, "Hi!" Approaching someone in Southern California is taken as a sign that one is a mental case. People in San Francisco or New York are much friendlier in this respect.

Re: #23 - That's where the term "free porn" originated! A California invention.

Re: #24 - I noted that too, but chose to remain silent. Alot of people end up in professions that have nothing to do with their education.

Re: #25 -
this is a Single Site fer crissake .....does anyone eva autually date on here?
Thank you for saying that. That's why I'm calling this site "Plenty of Flakes." No one seems to want to follow through except scammers, but that's just my experience with this site.
 jc91607
Joined: 1/21/2013
Msg: 20
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Posted: 3/21/2013 6:13:31 PM
The problem with the OP is that she is acting like a teenager trying to lure men who are no longer teenagers. You might have been able to kill a sparrow in your backyard with a bee bee gun when you were a kid, but you are not going to bring down a mighty lion in the jungle with that bee bee gun.

When I was in college and a lot dumber than I am now, I probably would have considered it a privilege to have the OP treat me like a subhuman piece of trash. Now I am a bit older and wiser and can spot women like the OP a mile away. Am I some sort of relationship genius? No! Far from it! And most men well over 30 are going to look at you and think "She is high maintenance and if I am going to put up with that stuff, I might as well get somebody half her age!"

Things are not hopeless for you, but you need to change your approach and attitude. Put away that bee bee gun. You are no longer an 18 year old girl chasing after 18 year old boys who will do anything a non-obese female tells them to do. You are going after smart men who have something to offer and expect something in return.

Do not fool yourself into thinking that something is just sex. If a guy just wanted sex he would go to a prostitute because even an expensive prostitute is a heck of a lot cheaper and can does not entail nearly as many headaches as a girlfriend. He needs moral support, he needs somebody that will help him out with the things he is not good at, he needs someone that can hold a conversation, and he needs somebody that will represent him well. He also does not want any nagging or negativity. He needs somebody who makes him feel like he is the king of his castle.

So my advice is go out with the guys that are less than perfect and practice these skills. You do not have to sleep with them, but practice talking with them and making them feel good. Who knows, maybe you will be able to turn some frog into a prince.
 fiery_blonde
Joined: 1/19/2013
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Posted: 3/21/2013 9:58:13 PM
Here we go with the age shit again. I don't treat people like shit. You don't know me. I may be high maintenance, but I give a lot in return. I love have you assume that every guy over 30 wants a 20 year old piece of ass and that we're all prostitutes that can be bought and sold. Typical southern Cali. male. You know what, stick to your corner of pretentious snobs that think that women are as good as their appearance and that's it. No wonder you are single.
 TuMuchFun
Joined: 9/29/2008
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Posted: 3/21/2013 11:19:50 PM
^^^WHAT!!! Men approaching you during March Madness...I hope you told them you were watching the games and to stop bugging you.
 TuMuchFun
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Posted: 3/22/2013 7:04:17 AM
^^^I think it was Rabbitman copping a look see, wait maybe it was me, gosh I love the Yardhouse...BTW lose those damn glasses, just get a guy to read the menu fur ya or the Mag app for your phone...an kidding, I love women in reading glasses, that is when I can see them.

BTW how were the hot wings?
 jc91607
Joined: 1/21/2013
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Posted: 3/22/2013 8:40:25 AM

Here we go with the age shit again. I don't treat people like shit. You don't know me. I may be high maintenance, but I give a lot in return. I love have you assume that every guy over 30 wants a 20 year old piece of ass and that we're all prostitutes that can be bought and sold. Typical southern Cali. male. You know what, stick to your corner of pretentious snobs that think that women are as good as their appearance and that's it. No wonder you are single.


FB, you are an outstanding internet troll and I salute your great work...or you are one messed up person.

1. You say you are high maintenance but "give a lot in return." Well you have to ask yourself exactly what you give. Do you cook and clean? A guy can hire a maid to do that. Sex? A guy can hire a hooker.

2. Not every guy over 30 wants a 20 year old piece of ass, to the contrary. Most of them avoid 20 year olds because they think and sound like you. Some will go for 20 year olds, but that is because unlike you, the 20 year olds have youth to compensate for their under developed personality and immaturity.

3. The problems you are facing with the "typical southern Cali. male" that judges women on their appearances may stem from the way you hold yourself out.

If you open up a restaurant and put a sign out front that reads "FB'S FRIED CHICKEN" people will judge that restaurant primarily on the fried chicken. They may not like the restaurant if the fried chicken is mediocre, even if the restaurant has outstanding hamburgers, sandwiches, and salads. If you put a sign that reads "FB'S DINER" people will judge the restaurant as a whole. People will flock to the restaurant if it has outstanding burgers, sandwiches, and salads even if the fried chicken is mediocre.

The sign outside your restaurant seems to read "hot chick." That may have suited you well 20 years ago. Unfortunately, your fried chicken is no longer amazing. It is time to develop other items on your menu and sell yourself as something more than just a "hot chick."
 Rabbitman49
Joined: 10/20/2005
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Posted: 3/22/2013 11:49:32 AM
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I think it was Rabbitman copping a look see....
Huh? I'm just standing back watching "fiery blonde" start catfights all around the forums. In another discussion, she ****-slapped the westside brit babe, and over here OCR stepped up to slap back.... Sometimes, it's better for a man to just watch the women go after each other, especially since the current catfight is by OC residents.

It wasn't me. I don't normally travel to the other side of the Orange Curtin. I wonder what I shall be accused of doing next!
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