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 coopercounty75
Joined: 3/13/2013
Msg: 1
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About a yr ago i started talking to a woman after her and her guy broke up..we met at a bar a few times an texted.. then after a few weeks she started dating him again an they were living together..she stop talking to me..then about 4 months after that they split again..an she contacted me back.she came up to my place which is like a 6 hr drive.. we hung out..she came up the next weekend.. acting a little different.. then a couple days later I get a text saying she an him Were a couple again..an she stopped talking to me...now its been about 5 months an they have split again..she came up..one weekend but not the next..an she didn't text me all day sat..an responded noon on Sunday..I have a feeling she was with her ex..but came up this weekend.. what's the dealdeal
 One_Winged_Angel
Joined: 2/13/2013
Msg: 2
am i a rebound guy
Posted: 3/23/2013 7:35:13 AM
Sounds like you're being used to me.
 Pinky127
Joined: 1/7/2012
Msg: 3
am i a rebound guy
Posted: 3/23/2013 7:43:17 AM
She's using you for sex in between being with the other guy.

You really cant figure this out?

*Edit* vvv She's seeing you coz you keep allowing it.
 coopercounty75
Joined: 3/13/2013
Msg: 4
am i a rebound guy
Posted: 3/23/2013 7:45:11 AM
We only had sex once..if she was with her man last weekend an they had sex why have sex with me
 tnt144
Joined: 2/1/2013
Msg: 5
am i a rebound guy
Posted: 3/23/2013 7:53:37 AM
We call them cheaters. Or sick in the head. Either way it's bad news. Cut her off and find a real girlfriend.
 Belluvthebawl
Joined: 2/19/2013
Msg: 6
am i a rebound guy
Posted: 3/23/2013 8:14:23 AM
Why ask why??? There is a 99% chance you will NEVER know why. Stop allowing her to "pull" you back in by cutting off contact.
 jan1025
Joined: 3/23/2009
Msg: 7
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Posted: 3/23/2013 8:20:09 AM
You’re not calling your situation the right thing. You’re not a “rebound”, because a rebound is usually someone seeing another person right after they got out of a relationship.

You are being used as another poster said. You are good enough to see in-between fighting with her boyfriend, and if you put out she’ll go along with that and if you don’t, she can handle that too, because she can get laid by her boyfriend. You are putting yourself into a no win, win situation besides getting laid.

She probably doesn't even realize that she is doing this because it sounds like when she fights with her boyfriend she comes running to you…

You need to shock her, by saying look, when you’re are finished with your relationship and are single for a few months give me a call maybe we can hang out, something like that…. But then again, if you say this to her you could be setting yourself up for a real rebound relationship.

If I were you, I’d keep her for a friend, and keep her out of my bed, but I would stay away from her intimately until she sorts out her life.

Find a woman who knows what she wants, and looks at you with clear vision.

Why you are being her babysitter goes beyond my understanding, are you desperate for a relationship?

Yes, I also agree with other poster who said she was a cheater, which she is...
Take Care,
Jan
 THEMEPACK
Joined: 12/17/2012
Msg: 8
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Posted: 3/23/2013 8:23:20 AM
She sounds like a keeper....! what a sweetheart ...I mean driving 6 hrs just to see you...and not even ask for gas money...you are one lucky fella! So how does her husband taste...
 MS.ICENI
Joined: 2/3/2007
Msg: 9
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Posted: 3/23/2013 8:30:40 AM
One of the wonderful things about game playing, once one player quits, game over.
 ARadicalPunk
Joined: 1/27/2010
Msg: 10
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Posted: 3/23/2013 8:30:50 AM
If you enjoy being apart of this woman's emotional rubber-band keep seeing her. If you wish to spare yourself a lot of unnecessary headache, heartache, and just ache avoid this "thing" like the plague.
 coopercounty75
Joined: 3/13/2013
Msg: 11
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Posted: 3/23/2013 8:31:28 AM
Yes.. I pay for gas an take her out..n buy her cloths
 ARadicalPunk
Joined: 1/27/2010
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Posted: 3/23/2013 8:33:29 AM
I'm not really trying to offend you man, but are you really this thick? She is using you as an emotional and financial crutch.
 SaltLG13
Joined: 12/18/2012
Msg: 13
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Posted: 3/23/2013 8:42:59 AM
And you still asking '' what's the deal''? Wake up and smell the coffee dude .
 SaltLG13
Joined: 12/18/2012
Msg: 14
am i a rebound guy
Posted: 3/23/2013 8:45:31 AM
''Yes.. I pay for gas an take her out..n buy her cloths''

You most be kidding right ? :(((((((((((
 coopercounty75
Joined: 3/13/2013
Msg: 15
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Posted: 3/23/2013 8:48:59 AM
Hmmmm..so I can expect her to be back with him soon?
 jan1025
Joined: 3/23/2009
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Posted: 3/23/2013 8:51:04 AM
You are a great example "..cattleman..." why city girls stay away from the label dumb cowboy. lol sorry, couldn't resist. One of your buddies need to put your head in a water /horse troff.
Jan
 SaltLG13
Joined: 12/18/2012
Msg: 17
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Posted: 3/23/2013 9:03:45 AM
Hmmmm..so I can expect her to be back with him soon?


Lord have mercy ,can't believe you are 35 years old and lower yourself like this . And you are not even a bad looking guy .
Do you know how many good girls are out there looking for a good guy like you ? At least 900000000.Go get one .
 MS.ICENI
Joined: 2/3/2007
Msg: 18
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Posted: 3/23/2013 9:20:17 AM
After reading other posts, I have a feeling my earlier opinion might have been too subtle. So let's make this clear, she is using you, you are allowing it, and as long as you allow it, it will continue.
 coopercounty75
Joined: 3/13/2013
Msg: 19
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Posted: 3/23/2013 9:21:53 AM
She says it different this time..but with me 6 hrs away..an my family here...an her kids an there dad there.. I mean there has to be a chance or she wouldn't come back all these times..
 tnt144
Joined: 2/1/2013
Msg: 20
am i a rebound guy
Posted: 3/23/2013 9:24:38 AM
Different this time? - baloney! How many times do you have to get burned to know the stove is hot?! There are a ton of single women out there, and all you need is one good one. Drop this bad one. Just because a woman is beautiful and breathing does not mean she is good relationship material.
 VolcanoKing
Joined: 8/6/2012
Msg: 21
am i a rebound guy
Posted: 3/23/2013 9:25:56 AM
You're being used.
 SaltLG13
Joined: 12/18/2012
Msg: 22
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Posted: 3/23/2013 9:34:40 AM
Man she most have a golden vagina if you refuse to open your eyes . In one day you will woke up broke and hopefully not with a sexual diseases.
SHE IS USING YOU BIG TIME AND THIS TIME NOTHING IS DIFFERENT . CAN'T YOU FALLOW WHAT EVERYBODY HERE IS TELLING YOU ?
 Whisky_River
Joined: 9/12/2010
Msg: 23
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Posted: 3/23/2013 10:09:17 AM
You know...I can remember being this trusting and hopeful.
One thing... I do like about country guys, is you do see the good in everyone and you trust with all your heart....the city guys(some) are all about themselves and their game...of how to get/play the girls.

Listen...Draw your foot in the sand with her.
You need to communicate to her....that there will be no next time....time to $hit or get off the pot
You need to be respected and desired as any "man" does....use those words.
Make sure you don't spend anymore money on her and don't get her pregnant....use some common sense.
Good Luck! Yes...there are many fish in the sea....
 coopercounty75
Joined: 3/13/2013
Msg: 24
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Posted: 3/23/2013 10:58:39 AM
What if she is not using me..what if its real..this time..I asked about last weekend she said none of my bizz so I know she went out with her ex to a concert an stayed the night at a motel an most likely did it..but why would she drive all this way too hangout..an why is she still sleeping with her ex if she says it over between them
 MS.ICENI
Joined: 2/3/2007
Msg: 25
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Posted: 3/23/2013 11:04:33 AM
Duh! And you're 35? This woman saw you coming Big Time. I would drive 6 hours too if I knew there was a pay out from a soft touch who believes every word I say. This is the last post from me because it's obvious that you are in deep doo doo denial and no one will make you see the light. You'll find out on your own, eventually, maybe. Hopefully, before you catch an STD and end up with a baby that isn't yours to raise...and you'll believe it's yours because she told you it was yours. Now I'm going to let you mess up your own life. Don't ask the questions if you don't want to hear the answers.
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