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 LiterateHiker
Joined: 11/30/2012
Msg: 2
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At the bottom of your profile, set your minimum age restrictions higher. That will solve that problem.
 ImReadyForUnow
Joined: 11/11/2012
Msg: 3
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Posted: 4/9/2013 10:07:01 PM
In answer to all your questions, you have been on here a few days and you are fresh meat.
Go to edit profile, mail settings and adjust the setting to an age that works for you.
 rgvmale
Joined: 7/29/2007
Msg: 5
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Posted: 4/10/2013 2:55:57 PM
Lol you make it sound like 25 and 31 is a big diff. that by no means makes you a cougar/craddle robber. MILF could come into play regardless of age or age diff.

Why not give them a chance?
 BabblingBrookes
Joined: 2/14/2013
Msg: 6
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Posted: 4/11/2013 8:50:29 AM

You should probably date the men that are messaging you and be happy that you are getting messages at all.


Shouldn't we all be that way? We aren't owed anything.

I'm dating a younger guy, and it's going Wonderfully. I highly recommend it if you're not finding attractive men your own age.
 rgvmale
Joined: 7/29/2007
Msg: 8
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Posted: 4/11/2013 3:10:55 PM
If they are a mother, then they can be a MILF lol.
 Deadliest_Snatch
Joined: 10/25/2012
Msg: 10
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Posted: 4/12/2013 7:24:08 PM

I've already done the 20 somethings when I was living them with my ex-, I don't know that I want to go back to that level of immaturity(thats the best word I can think for it).


Well, unless you have more than one voice in your head, I would think your profile would reflect your stance.
(But it doesn't)
 ForumRuler
Joined: 4/2/2013
Msg: 12
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Posted: 4/14/2013 12:13:51 PM

At the bottom of your profile, set your minimum age restrictions higher. That will solve that problem.


Haha, her minimum age is already set at 25. Clearly OP wants the attention from the younger guys.
 spiffykatt
Joined: 2/24/2012
Msg: 14
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Posted: 4/23/2013 8:51:25 PM
i couldnt help but get a giggle over the comment we mature women have expiration dates?ive never been compared to a carton of milk before.if anyone would like a date,i guess we ladies can be found chillin in the dairy section..:)
 KatarzynaLuiza
Joined: 10/5/2012
Msg: 15
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Posted: 5/23/2013 7:31:24 AM
I will go for a guy like lil younger than me guys my age n older are boring n to busy to came out and see me they are set in their ways n u will take last place on their list they will prefer clan up yard and house n play with a dog before comming out to see u. Younger guys seems to be more fun they still go places n u will actually hav fun with them. Highly recommended :)
 FSU9144
Joined: 11/12/2012
Msg: 18
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Posted: 5/24/2013 8:53:06 PM
I refuse to see anyone who is younger than me. If someone tries to contact is younger than me. I won't respond to it.
 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 19
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Posted: 5/25/2013 5:38:20 AM

I've only been on the site a few days, but it seems I get messages more from guys that are 2-6 years younger than me, opposed to those who are my age(31) or older,


Send a complaint to the Big Fish. You will never know what could happen, unless you ask. Try to be polite about it though.
 NDTfan
Joined: 6/5/2012
Msg: 21
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Posted: 5/25/2013 7:45:37 AM
I've always dated younger (so I don't really understand the "problem"), except for one man who was almost a decade older.

While I'm very responsible when it comes to day to day tasks like paying bills, keeping up the house and things like that I do seem to have the same interests as guys who are younger. Video games, cosplay, cons, even the same music.

I find that too many guys my age consider themselves "fun" but their idea of fun is vastly different than mine. I don't find it fun to sit around once a week watching UFC, eating wings and drinking beer only to head off to bed for perfunctory sex. Then spend the rest of the week complaining how hard my job is and putting a dent in the couch.


It may come as a surprise to you but not all men who are older than you watch UFC, care much for wings or make a habit out of complaining about work and surfing the couch.


I was not aware that "too many" meant "all".
 NDTfan
Joined: 6/5/2012
Msg: 24
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Posted: 5/26/2013 10:51:18 AM

Too many women online like to spout bitter stereotypes about the guys their age.


Not bitter stereotyping at all, experience. Most guys my age who don't do that are gay or taken. We're the fattest, laziest people in Canada according to all the data too, so it's not like I'm waaaaay off base here.



No one should get upset about that, because I'm not saying "all", right?


Obvious quote directed at me is obvious. I won't get upset though, because I don't get butthurt over other people's opinion on the internet. I couldn't care less what you think of me.
 Avenger8900
Joined: 5/24/2013
Msg: 26
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Posted: 5/27/2013 11:02:49 AM
A poster on here made a good point. Can't remember her name. Anyway suppose a guy is in an late with a woman 15 years older than him, suppose he's 35 she's 50. Being guys are visual (I think women are just as visual besides the point) anyway would a guy still be happy when a woman at a certain Age? What if he wants to be with Someone his age or younger?
 Confident-Realist
Joined: 2/8/2004
Msg: 27
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Posted: 5/27/2013 12:33:23 PM
OP,

it seems I get messages more from guys that are 2-6 years younger than me, opposed to those who are my age(31) or older

So? Why would you see guys a couple years older than you as THE normal way vs a couple years younger than you? A guy who's 29 isn't less mature than someone who's 31. Also, you can't say "people who are in their 20s are immature". There's a big difference between 20 & 29. Essentially, if you read one's profile and they seem mature and have things going for them, and they're over 25, you can't play the "fear of immaturity" game.

Now with that said, I can understand TASTES. If you like guys 40-50, express that in your profile and put your age restrictions that way. But don't GASP at guys who are a few years younger than you writing you -- come awn. That's immature. :)

Also, you have "no commitment/no relationship" as your setting. That explicitly cries out for something of a fling... and when one has an aim for a fling or 'whatever', the age-difference is JUST a taste issue, as the generation gap means much much less.
 JerseyGirl2008
Joined: 12/27/2007
Msg: 28
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Posted: 5/28/2013 5:15:44 AM

Women have an expiration date while men do not.

I always laugh when I read this garbage because it's usually the most unattractive guys who make this claim - and age is the least of their problems.
 the_biggavell
Joined: 7/9/2012
Msg: 29
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Posted: 5/29/2013 8:25:49 AM
You wont be talking this way when that clock kicks in, or when your 40 with no man. You'll be happy a young guy talks to you.
 LoneScottishBoy
Joined: 2/13/2012
Msg: 31
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Posted: 6/13/2013 8:55:16 AM

Women have an expiration date while men do not.


I'm pretty certain we all have an expiration date...it's called Death.
 jessebunnies
Joined: 2/18/2013
Msg: 33
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Posted: 6/17/2013 10:38:46 AM

I've always dated younger (so I don't really understand the "problem")


I agree. I've almost always dated younger as well. It works for me.

2-6 years is nothing. I don't understand why people have to head trip about age so much. There's a lot of variation between age and maturity and they aren't necessarily connected.
 LoneScottishBoy
Joined: 2/13/2012
Msg: 34
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Posted: 6/17/2013 12:53:01 PM

My milkshake has expired, hasn't it =(


Until your entire happy meal expires, your milkshake is viable! :)
 BelleAtlantic
Joined: 11/7/2012
Msg: 35
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Posted: 6/17/2013 3:12:34 PM
I don't usually date younger, I won't even speak to someone younger than me. Whether it is based on fiction or not, I tend to think they are immature, don't have it together, probably still live with mom, hasn't finished school (if they even thought of attending), do not have a career or an idea of what they want to do, many of them are into collecting sneakers, video games, the latest little item from LV or whatever, and like to get wasted. They see value in things I find none (watching reality TV, the latest HBO series, standing in line for the latest electronic or sneaker). I'm not saying all are like that, I'm saying I haven't meant the exception nor worked with the exception of what I've described.

I prefer older men, they look like men to me. Younger than me look like boys to me. I like gray hairs, I like a wrinkle or two, I like to learn (and yes, I feel like older than teach me much more) and offer and different perspective based on the fact they existed before I was even a thought. I enjoy the generation gap, to hear about how what I see now is a replica of what happened before I was even born.

I went out with a younger guy (25) on Saturday. We went to a Thai restaurant and then went for a walk around the neighborhood. He brought his passport to show me all countries he's been to (who does that?), anyways, there was nothing about the conversation that spelled out "wanting to get to know me", everything was so abstract and rhetorical, I didn't know if he was trying to be my buddy or was interested in me. He kept asking me questions such as "If given the chance and resources, what would you invent?" "what you think about the idea of bike racks in the middle of NYC?", Then when I offer my ideas (in my mind, fantastic and eco-friendly), he was speechless and didn't have anything to say, and just kept telling him to give him more of my ideas. So you ask a question (clearly with an idea he wanted to share) but then don't know what to say?

I bought an organic coffee ice cream cone from a local food truck (I support small business & anything produced organically), I asked him if he wanted any, to which he replied no. I offer him to taste mine, and he said it was good and hijacks the cone. I had to ask for it back as he polished the top and it was already at the point where the ice cream met the sugar cone. Like WTF? We could have gone back and gotten another ice cream cone, $5 bucks is not that big a deal and I did offer him one when I bought mine.

We walked around and got around to his train station, mine was a block away. So he comments that mine is a block away and says his goodbyes and "we should check out a museum next time", I said "choose it and let me know". I'm not used to men that won't even ask or gesture to accompany me to my train station (a block away) before departing. It's the gentleman-ly thing to do, the whole damn thing was odd.

I'm not saying all younger men are like this. This was my first and probably my last date with someone younger than me. I need something more substantial, I live in this world, I'm failing to see the purpose of the futuristic questions that are not about me or him per say. I'd be a different thing if he has asked "where do I see myself in 5-10 years", "what is your idea of a great place to live", "have you ever thought of owning a business, if so, what would it be", "if you had a chance to cure something, what would it be and why", those questions reveal something about your ambitions, human-kindness, and you're ability to speak about goals or at least be familiar with something you want.
 DomG79
Joined: 3/12/2011
Msg: 38
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Posted: 8/30/2013 1:40:57 PM
I had an older one before, 10 years older to be exact. She didn't drive, I paid for everything. Age is just a number. All we had in common was physical attraction, which worked at the time.
 SpankYouVeryMuchly
Joined: 9/8/2013
Msg: 40
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Posted: 9/11/2013 8:50:45 AM

i couldnt help but get a giggle over the comment we mature women have expiration dates?ive never been compared to a carton of milk before.if anyone would like a date,i guess we ladies can be found chillin in the dairy section..:)


You have never heard the expression that "men age like wine and women age like milk " ?
 BabblingBrookes
Joined: 2/14/2013
Msg: 41
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Posted: 9/11/2013 12:30:55 PM
Bah, that's some people. Some men/women age well, while others age poorly. Genetics play a role, but it doesn't hurt to live a healthy lifestyle and protect your skin.
 LoneScottishBoy
Joined: 2/13/2012
Msg: 43
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Posted: 9/12/2013 8:51:36 AM
^^^^+1!

Fine wine, Fine women...fine times. :)
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