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 imanorangetiger
Joined: 12/29/2011
Msg: 5
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Last year, I dated a woman "looking for a long term relationship". She had the same "I have some great friends that I enjoy socialising with doing a variety of things such as eating, drinking, cinema, theatre, comedy clubs, pampering, walking, dance for fitness with my two left feet!" and "two grown up children and a grandchild who are amazing - not that I am biased of course [who] are a huge part of my life and I love their company."

Despite saying "I would very much like to meet someone special to share my world with" and that dates would "depend on you too as we could combine our interests and make a memorable time for both of us - however it goes!", all she ever did when she when out with me or with any of her friends was go out of her way to get bladdered. And she did that with her friends A LOT. She never made any attempt to do anything else or to explore other past times. She always took the view that if she didn't see her friends twice a week, they'd shun her and disappear. If that were the case, they're not friends anyway but simply want a drinking buddy. However, at the back of my mind was that that was an excuse so that she didn't have to leave her comfort zone.

Anyway, I agree, there should be some sort of advertising standards to weed out these people. Fitting in any sort of relationship into lifestyles that are too set is next to impossible if they won't compromise and "combine".
 fleursky
Joined: 9/5/2011
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Posted: 4/24/2013 1:01:48 PM
I'm not an only child (have four siblings) but they all live either abroad or around the country miles away from me. My parents live miles away aswell and I only see my mum probably about once a year. I talk on the phone weekly to my family & we get on great and are close but we all have our own busy lives and jobs etc so it's lovely for me that I don't feel that pressure of having to visit them weekly or whatever, I'll do it when I have time.
My job is demanding and long hours but swings in roundabouts and can always make time.

Like most people I love to spend time with my friends but if I had a partner then my time with them would obviously reduce a bit. I think if there can't be a compromise then it won't work.
 eve1962
Joined: 12/26/2009
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Posted: 4/25/2013 7:20:11 AM
I think if you meet someone, get on and get to know each other - then eventually you both blend into each other's lives. You'll visit family together. If the other half has friends with partners, you can meet up together. Good to have just friend times alone though without the partner.
 GeordieColin
Joined: 10/18/2012
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Posted: 4/28/2013 3:34:52 AM
Can the same song be sang at places of worship of differing religions?
 GeordieColin
Joined: 10/18/2012
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Posted: 5/1/2013 2:30:47 PM
It seems to me that attitudes can create a status quo here. But that is just the starting point. Given good reason to want to spend time with someone then those edicts could well be thrown out and revised .
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