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Joined: 1/23/2013
Msg: 2
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He may not just be ready, give him another month or two and if he still cant say it then id be looking elsewhere
Joined: 2/18/2013
Msg: 3
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Posted: 5/11/2013 8:03:50 PM
Some guys just can't and don't say the L word. This is really more for woman and their reassurance.

Actions speak louder than words. At the end of the day it's just a word and everyone can say it but few can live it.

Do you feel he loves you? Is his actions speaking to you that he loves you? If the answer is yes then he loves you.

I was with a man for 8 years who probably said "I love you" a handful of times, mainly because I forced him to. Later on I stopped forcing him to say it because I realized the verb of love is much more powerful and real than just the word.
Joined: 2/3/2012
Msg: 4
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Posted: 5/11/2013 8:42:54 PM
He says that he will never leave me - that if we ever split up, it will have to be me. I don't understand - isn't that love?

that's not love... that's irish.

. He tells me he's happiest with me, and that I can't even fathom how much he cares for me and how he feels for me.

why isn't this good? maybe he doesn't like the "L" word... this seems like a big issue for some.
seems to me you're splitting hairs and possibly jumping over dollars to pick up dimes.

Buddy of mine says "gratitude is not a fvcking emotion"
I think love could be included in that...
so many say I love you while doing something they know is going to hurt the other...
Joined: 10/13/2010
Msg: 6
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Posted: 5/11/2013 9:28:12 PM
You asked him and he said he isn't ready which I understand given it has only been three months. Ask him again three months later, because if he doesn't reciprocate something similar then be concerned. Right now just go with the flow and observe his actions.
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Posted: 5/11/2013 10:39:43 PM
so impatient. obsessing over semantic trivialities as you grope blindly and desperately for the prize.

be honest now: is there any part of you, even the teenist tiniest part, that played the 'i love you card' as a manipulation aimed at slaking your emotional thirst? as in, ' i gave you a token, something of value, my precious declaration of love. now you OWE me.' and maybe he's honest enough not to fall for it, but not quite secure enough to keep from hedging with the 'i'll never leave you' stuff.

it's the endorphins talking, both of you. at only a few months in, that powerful magical thing you feel is the infatuation of the discovery process. and you've discovered so little. you're not even close to the point where you're both settled in and the warts start showing up.

there's a big difference between being loved and hearing 'i love you.' it behooves you figure out what it is.
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 9
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Posted: 5/12/2013 7:22:43 AM

And the saga continues...sigh

Kinda what I was thinking, though, I'm a little foggy this morning,so my thinking could have been off.

The OP's constant "scenarios" give me great satisfaction knowing that my placement of "dating" of my list of things to do is exactley where it should be. Holy moly macaroni.

OP, you can't "make" anyone say (or feel) what they don't want to. Orrrrrr, he could just say it, so that you can sleep at night???? Honestly, I have to keep checking your age when you post your questions. You are one very confusing young lady.
Joined: 1/2/2013
Msg: 15
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Posted: 5/12/2013 4:54:47 PM
It's too soon to tell. When two people meet their bodies start releasing chemicals which make them feel great. This goes on for about three months. Then the body stops releasing the chemicals and reality sets in. A lot of people split up after the three months. So wait and see.

The theory is that humans are so infertile they need to stay togther for about three months to raise the probability of fertilization. Other mamals do it half a dozen times and the female is pregnant. Not humans. We need to do it many times on average before the female is pregnant. It' s just how we've evloved. The chemicals make us feel really nice so just enjoy them and wait for him to ask you to mary him or at least move in together before you assume he's serious. Actions speak louder than words.
Joined: 2/11/2008
Msg: 17
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Posted: 5/12/2013 7:17:39 PM
No, that's not love, that's like, that's lust, that's that new feeling of a fresh relationship that makes one all giddy. Give it time, what will you have gained if you run him off with your clinginess or force him to tell you something he doesn't feel yet?
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