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 gcdeb
Joined: 4/25/2011
Msg: 1
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Did a forum search and can't see anything on this new feature.

On my conversations page, I can now give date feedback. Is there anything I can read here that tells me how this is used? Love the idea so long as it used intelligently by the site.
 Lexti
Joined: 3/14/2013
Msg: 2
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Posted: 5/16/2013 6:12:27 PM
Whoa. I didn't even notice that. The bigger question is do these people SEE the feedback that you leave??
 QT3.18
Joined: 2/1/2013
Msg: 3
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Posted: 5/16/2013 6:14:03 PM
This is going to be a disaster. Straight up.
 Eric_Summit
Joined: 11/3/2009
Msg: 4
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Posted: 5/16/2013 6:37:32 PM
wolftxusa66, you've had some coldhearted hussy virtually discard precious virtual roses with virtual fragrance?
You should really let her profile have it when you have an opportunity to provide feedback about her insensitivity. ;-)
 QT3.18
Joined: 2/1/2013
Msg: 5
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Posted: 5/16/2013 6:41:33 PM
There is no information anywhere on the site with respect to who sees the information, what it is used for, how the legitimacy of it is confirmed. For all we know, someone could use it solely to exact revenge on someone who has "done them wrong" by not being interested.

EDIT: Someone has now posted to the site help forum, so hopefully, they will explain the feature there.
 BelleAtlantic
Joined: 11/7/2012
Msg: 6
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Posted: 5/16/2013 6:43:11 PM
I'm not fond of this idea. I like to think that there are always going to be people that jive and those who don't, who are we to give them feedback? Just because it didn't work out with you doesn't mean it won't workout for someone else.

I say this because I went on a horrible date from hell, lol, and he had the nerve to give me feedback at the end of the date, and ask for mine. First of all, he had a philosophy about dates, some kind of "if things don't workout, its 50/50". I explained how a gentlemen never views a date with a woman, a matter of if it works out or not, its about getting to know each other. It not working out has nothing to do with paying the bill. Then we agreed to meet (though I had my hesitations), and I told him that he was not planning to meet me, then we would not speak any further. He then made plans, wouldn't tell me about where we were going, other than the street and intersection. We ended up at a place that I had been to 2 weeks prior.

We missed our reservation due to me being delayed by a sick person on the train. I agreed to go to the deli with him to get some tea while we wait or a table. The first thing he does is bring up a topic I had already expressed my hesitation about, just to get a reaction from me. He then points out that I have a lisp (talk about someone who chooses conversations and observations wisely). I was already pissed off, but I let it be. He pretended to leave the store without paying as a joke. I thought that was immature, then asked if I had a dollar, again just to see my reaction. We get a table.......

He insisted that he wanted to order a platter for two and seemed too excited about it, I didn't want to argue so whatever. The conversation is all over the place, I point it to him and his reply was "I have random thoughts, my friends love me for it, I can keep any conversation going". I mention I like miniature things, he said I have a fetish, that its a fetish. Mentions he's taking up psychology in school and I'm guessing testing it out on me (I'm a practicing social worker, lol).

I serve myself from most of the plates and proceeded to eat, I wanted a little more from another plate and he just shot me this look, like I'm not supposed to have more or some sort of straight look. I wanted to walk out but my instinct as a social worker is to work with what you have (I should have walked out though). He proceeds to tell me "well, now to part 2 of this date, we're going to my friends house, he's having a house party". I tell him, I don't go to people's houses it friends' houses on a first date. So he agreed the date would end there. He tend proceeded to tell me that I'm brilliant but come off as a downer, uptight, and reserved. I need to loosen up and be more spontaneous, he then asked if I had anything to say about him, I told him, what doesn't work for one may work for another, goodbye.

That's why I believe the idea of feedback to be misguided. I had a normal reaction to a bad date that in all aspects was sub par, insulting, reaction provoking, and the person seemed a bit off his rocker.

Sorry for the long winded story, but the words feedback will for always (may be exaggerating) be associated to this guy giving me feedback, lol. And sorry for not answering your question.
 Lexti
Joined: 3/14/2013
Msg: 7
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Posted: 5/16/2013 6:46:51 PM
So he left you feedback through this feature and you were able to view it?
 BelleAtlantic
Joined: 11/7/2012
Msg: 8
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Posted: 5/16/2013 6:52:10 PM
If your message was for me, he gave me feedback in person, not on the website. The date was in January, I don't believe that feature existed on POF yet.
 HelenBackAgain
Joined: 1/7/2013
Msg: 9
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Posted: 5/16/2013 7:15:25 PM

This is going to be a disaster. Straight up.

Indubitably.

The site's been asked for this sort of feature before, many times, and Markus always said no precisely because it's likely to be disastrous - people can say anything about each other, for any reason, and POF has no way to verify its veracity.

Made sense to me...
 annywn
Joined: 4/17/2012
Msg: 10
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Posted: 5/16/2013 7:18:31 PM
Oh my, now nothing can go wrong with THAT feature...........(facepalm)
 LiliMarleen
Joined: 5/24/2009
Msg: 11
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Posted: 5/16/2013 7:26:29 PM
I think he should have been much more creative with this.

Where is the "would you shave your legs for a second date with this man?" question? And what about: If this man did not ask you for a second date, did you exact revenge, and if so, how?"
 m8t
Joined: 3/14/2013
Msg: 12
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Posted: 5/16/2013 7:38:27 PM
Holy Smokes! You mean I have to be nice to dates now? lol...
I imagine its to boot off members that are abusing the site.
However (as mentioned), it can be used by disgruntled dates with a vengeance.
 LiliMarleen
Joined: 5/24/2009
Msg: 13
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Posted: 5/16/2013 7:47:50 PM
I'm tempted to abuse this, already. :)
 m8t
Joined: 3/14/2013
Msg: 14
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Posted: 5/16/2013 7:58:33 PM
A poster and I tried it and it said "thank you for sending your date feed back to ____".
Thing is he didnt get the date feed back. I gave him high marks too.
 VolcanoKing
Joined: 8/6/2012
Msg: 15
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Posted: 5/16/2013 8:17:27 PM
Haha feedback!

So now more than ever we're all products.

Not only that, it's like rent-a-human. Just the fact that people are encouraged to leave their opinion about a date seems to imply that none of us are here for anything serious anyway, so once you're done with someone put them back on the shelf, leave feedback and move on for the next person.

Blegh.
 QT3.18
Joined: 2/1/2013
Msg: 16
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Posted: 5/16/2013 8:42:20 PM

I just stuck a hand-written post-it note on my last date's forehead when I left.


Sometimes, it would be even better to have a tattoo machine. :P
 QT3.18
Joined: 2/1/2013
Msg: 17
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Posted: 5/16/2013 9:09:46 PM
When you fill out that form for someone you have exchanged emails with, and hit "send", they should get an email notification that you have rated them on a "date", and an offer to verify that you actually DID go on a date with them or not.


But if someone is going to get a bad rating, they may be inclined to lie and say they didn't have a date with the person rating them.


Then if someone accumulates ten or twenty separate very bad ratings, they may get an email advising them of that and to change their behavior pronto or be booted off the site..


That would probably cause people to not go on dates (totally going against the purpose of this site), and it doesn't weed out the bad people, it just weeds out the bad ones that go on dates.

I just see so many flaws with this process, that it is making me question whether or not I want to ever risk meeting someone on a date from here. Yikes!
 annywn
Joined: 4/17/2012
Msg: 18
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Posted: 5/16/2013 10:00:12 PM
Now I can tell myself how awesome I am and rate my date with myself. The only problem is that I'm very critical, so I probably won't get a full score...

LOL.........

I was ok with the first part of the date with myself, but trying to slip myself the tounge was just uncalled for!
 tnt8
Joined: 4/22/2013
Msg: 19
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Posted: 5/16/2013 10:10:26 PM
So, what do I get if I win... a cookie or something?!
 HelenBackAgain
Joined: 1/7/2013
Msg: 20
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Posted: 5/16/2013 10:16:15 PM
^^ I'll send ya Doritos and M&Ms.

But how do we know who wins?
 Pinky127
Joined: 1/7/2012
Msg: 21
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Posted: 5/16/2013 10:20:58 PM
The FIRST thing i thought of was this Feature pertaining to all the guys expecting to get laid on the FIRST date and it NOT happening and then all these dudes get UNFAVORABLE feedbacks from all the girls they tried it with.......hmm......

 tnt8
Joined: 4/22/2013
Msg: 22
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Posted: 5/16/2013 10:30:10 PM
You can test this new feature yourself. Do this:

1) Click on the "My Profile" link.

2) Send yourself a message... you don't have to send yourself a long love letter... just type at least one character in the message box.

3) Then rate yourself.
 IgorFrankensteen
Joined: 6/29/2009
Msg: 23
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Posted: 5/16/2013 11:13:29 PM
What I know is, that it is in the nature of human beings to abuse every single system LIKE this. Therefore, I also predict it will be a mess, and I certainly HOPE that nothing is ever attached to it that gets people booted off.

I have learned always to look carefully at the exact MECHANISMS being put in place, and never to pay attention much to the INTENT of the mechanisms. If the mechanism designers make abuse possible, abuse will occur, often just because lots of people get entertainment value from misusing things.

Heck, the intent of felt tip pens and bathroom walls, was not to promote vindictiveness, racism, verbal abuse, pornography, etc, but the day after they came into existence, people started using them for all that.

If all that it takes to leave nastygrams on our profiles, is that we answered an email, it's going to get septic around here really fast.
 The_Whole_of_the_Moon
Joined: 11/25/2012
Msg: 24
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Posted: 5/17/2013 2:36:06 AM
It might just be a feature POF is using to calculate dating satisfaction and when the numbers don't go their way they'll just lie.
 jlynn1955
Joined: 8/24/2012
Msg: 25
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Posted: 5/17/2013 7:40:03 AM
Oh this is sooo funny already and I have not even looked at it. One thought..as in giving reviews for almost anthing, human tendency is to only reply with the negative viewpoints. Most of us seldom give a review of a hotel for example, unless we got pissed off for some reason.
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