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 jlynn1955
Joined: 8/24/2012
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Gosh, I don't know. Do condoms have an expiration date? She could be keeping them because she doesn't want to go to the expense of replacing them just in case the relationship doesnt work out. It bothers me more that she seems to have been evasive. I'm sure you'll get some better answers from some of the others.
 4ms4me
Joined: 4/24/2010
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Posted: 5/27/2013 11:19:08 AM
Some people just keep "stuff" - especially if it's still usable, and even if they never use it. I'm like that; I'd probably keep unused condoms around for a couple of years after getting into a committed relationship, just cause, too. I'd eventually get rid of them, since they do have a best before date but I would honestly find it hard to toss something that isn't yet garbage. Maybe I'd give them to my best girlfriend, or my son, or something, but I wouldn't want to just throw something that is still perfectly usable for someone, even if it's not me.

And she might not be being defensive, but maybe there really is no real reason but you kept pushing her for one so she feels accused, and then she comes up with a reason that doesn't really make sense. Does she seem to keep other things that aren't strictly necessary? If so, you might take this prediliction for keeping things as a sign that she'll keep you, too, rather than worrying that she plans to cheat on you. The fact that you are worrying about this suggests to me that you are insecure, and that is going to more of a relationship killer than her keeping a few condoms.
 jan1025
Joined: 3/23/2009
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Posted: 5/27/2013 11:23:58 AM
Red flag my arse, just don't go reading her journal that will really piss her off! You're a snoop!

Why do men always think just because a woman keeps her stash of condoms she’s using with someone else, gawd!

My ex did this crap to me too. Hey they are not cheap, and it’s like everything else in the medicine cabinet… or all those extras bras in our drawers that we don’t wear all the time, or all the other stuff we like to keep…

All I got to say is you are insecure and paranoid. You have trust issues that you need to address.

Ooh, and the more you harp on something like that the more she’ll rebel and start making her stash even bigger then what it is already. Don’t be surprised if she comes home with some new toys to add to her collection just to get your goat.

Lol..
It’s nothing…
Jan
 Bachelorette.Number1
Joined: 4/18/2013
Msg: 6
We don't use condoms anymore.. But she keeps her stash
Posted: 5/27/2013 11:26:13 AM
Maybe it's a little like not being able to throw away something that's perfectly good.
Like wasting something? I keep stuff sometimes - cause you never know!

If it means alot to you that she get rid of them maybe you should say so.
If it borders on a dealbreaker for you, maybe you should convey that.

And right, you have to find a way to talk about it without attacking.
I can say, when you brought it to her attention that you were wondering about it, it may have been a cool gesture on her part to say wow, good point and toss them.

Sometimes the small gestures can mean alot to someone. (I'll have to remember that)

I guess I may have a slight problem if I were in what I thought was a committed relationship with tied tubes and the guy kept his stash of condoms...but I haven't been in that scenario.
 Avenger8900
Joined: 5/24/2013
Msg: 10
We don't use condoms anymore.. But she keeps her stash
Posted: 5/27/2013 12:04:28 PM
Maybe she wants to have sex with a model type guy since most women go for that. Carefull with women in ltrs. They are known to cheat with young male models
 Confident-Realist
Joined: 2/8/2004
Msg: 11
We don't use condoms anymore.. But she keeps her stash
Posted: 5/27/2013 12:08:35 PM
If she moved them away and just stored them elsewhere, what's the harm? You're expecting her to throw away stuff that she bought, that still has value? Lighten up, man. People keep stuff they most likely will not use, but has some value, and store them elsewhere. I wouldn't be jealous about it.

Even with you, it COULD be an option to use. Say her pill situation gets screwed up down the line and you both are REALLY horny? Ya never know, even though condoms aren't so feasible with you, if you can have sex without one, even if you're routinely "too flacid" as you put it, it could in an isolated incident be considered & feasible to use.

It's not a routine, nor should it be, that a guy or girl throw out all condoms in the trash can because they've been dating and are going bare-back... even if one hates using condoms or doesn't do well in the sack with them.
 daynadaze
Joined: 2/11/2008
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Posted: 5/27/2013 12:13:53 PM
Why throw out perfectly good condoms that aren't expired yet? Makes sense to me, better to have them than not and I'd rather give them away than throw them away, etc. You are looking for trouble, if you do not trust her, then better to stop seeing her since you can't use protection anyway.

Yes, it could be that she's cheating or thinks she might.
It could be that she doesn't want to throw them out just to keep your insecurity in check.
Could be that she sees no reason to throw them out but she's not up to anything sneaky.
Could be that you don't really trust women and nothing she does will keep you secure.
Could be that she's only known you a few months and is smart enough to know it may well not work out.

For me, it would irk me to no end for you to question me and tell me or make me feel like I need to toss out something I have decided to keep. That reeks of insecurity to me and I do not like being told what to do in my own home. Personally, I wouldn't even answer questions about why I do things in my own home.
 flaneur001
Joined: 7/31/2011
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Posted: 5/27/2013 12:19:57 PM
Geez Louise OP: Forget the condoms......talk to her about the status of your relationship! Relationships are not static...they are fluid! (no pun intended). If things change the two of you should discuss it...directly...clearly. Avoiding these conversations does not make the strain any easier.
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 14
We don't use condoms anymore.. But she keeps her stash
Posted: 5/27/2013 12:24:39 PM
She's keeping them because she's going to wait until it's your birthday and use them as balloons instead of going out and buying balloons.
 mrsforums
Joined: 6/14/2011
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Posted: 5/27/2013 12:38:27 PM
...OP has closed his account.

Maybe the girlfriend was checking HIS online history....karma...


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 Hanoverfella
Joined: 2/14/2013
Msg: 17
We don't use condoms anymore.. But she keeps her stash
Posted: 5/27/2013 1:09:46 PM
The only time I didn't mind wearing one was during her time of the month, a little less messy
Just a thought
 ladyc4
Joined: 2/14/2006
Msg: 18
We don't use condoms anymore.. But she keeps her stash
Posted: 5/27/2013 4:16:39 PM

Why throw out perfectly good condoms that aren't expired yet? Makes sense to me, better to have them than not and I'd rather give them away than throw them away, etc.

Precisely.

what would you have her do? Donate them to Goodwill or Salvation Army?
Cindy O
 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 19
We don't use condoms anymore.. But she keeps her stash
Posted: 5/27/2013 4:21:58 PM
"Several" months doesn't mean a whole lot to me in the whole "timing" of this "relationship". And to add, I have no idea of your ages. Just like the "miracle" thread, months do not add up to anything that I would define as "long term", and even if you had the "exclusive" talk, things can and do "happen". There's a reason why there is such a thing called "divorce".

Think about it. At least she is keeping ALLLLLLL the critters away. Win win,even if you do lose.
 MS.ICENI
Joined: 2/3/2007
Msg: 22
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Posted: 5/27/2013 5:53:49 PM
They make great water balloons.
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 24
We don't use condoms anymore.. But she keeps her stash
Posted: 5/27/2013 6:00:37 PM
for the record:

yes, condoms have a shelf life. They're thin rubber with a chemical lubricant attached.

also, they're cheaper than a child ($100,000 before college) or an STD.

in other words...there's just no flippin' reason to save old condoms. Toss and refresh.

I worked w/ a woman who was cheating on her bf w/ a coworker. The bf figured it out when he found the condom wrapper, which he hadn't had to use in a while. The gal, meanwhile, tried to blame booze on the sex, but of course, someone figured to bring the erection-protection-for-the-deflection-of-infection, so obviously it didn't "just happen."

Its not the only "thing that makes you go hmm", as the old C&C Music Factory used to sing.
 daynadaze
Joined: 2/11/2008
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Posted: 5/27/2013 7:36:05 PM
I don't think he said they were old, they have only been dating a short time it would seem and while condoms do have a shelf life, she may have bought them when they first started dating not knowing he couldn't keep one on. Of course she could be cheating, but then again she'd probably not have let him see them if she was hiding something. The fact remains, if he doesn't trust her he shouldn't be dating her, it's not his place to get all upset because she's not tossing out condoms.

And no, my answer wouldn't have been different if it had been her finding condoms in his bedside drawer. Why would it be different, other than between two psycho drama players who thrive on this sort of thing being a big deal. Again, if they do not trust each other they should stop seeing each other. Why do people make such a big deal out of nothing? If your relationship is that shaky, you have a much bigger problem than whether or not she didn't toss out some condoms when you've only been dating her for such a short time.
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 26
We don't use condoms anymore.. But she keeps her stash
Posted: 5/28/2013 1:31:44 PM
If you wrap a Twinkie in a condom, three thousand years from now, you can still eat the twinkie, but the condom may still have a leak.
 RERE1026
Joined: 4/4/2009
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Posted: 5/28/2013 6:25:36 PM
Yes, I have an answer....if she gets a yeast infection, she can pass it on to you. I hear it is not a nice experience for either sex. Plus, condoms cost money.....never know when you might need one. Perhaps, a friend in need of one? Relax......reading too far into this one.
 ShelbySask4friend1
Joined: 2/10/2005
Msg: 30
We don't use condoms anymore.. But she keeps her stash
Posted: 5/29/2013 1:10:30 AM
I think you should be more worried if the count of the condoms keeps lowering , every time you snoop through her hygienic items...


I have a problem using condoms anyway, (flacid syndrom) so it never worked in the beginning.

Ok...


She cleans out a bedside table the other day (where her mighty condom stash was - several opened boxes) for me to use when I sleep over..

Huh,lol...So I take it she takes the pill, for how long has she?...and you do not use condoms anymore for how long?...Yet there are many opened boxes...
 Proteaus
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 32
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Posted: 5/29/2013 1:39:13 PM
Really hate to say this , but the stash of condoms probably isn't for your benefit . Better have her tested again for STD's .
 MidnightDreamweaver
Joined: 3/20/2013
Msg: 33
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Posted: 5/29/2013 1:46:32 PM
Ewwwwwwww, people use condoms? Condoms are gross, they ruin porn movies too.
 cooldog65
Joined: 6/27/2011
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Posted: 5/30/2013 6:25:55 AM

It just occurred to me, belatedly, many people use condoms with sex toys. I guess they hold up better over time if they're covered? And it must make them easier to clean.


Especially if the toy is spending time in the brown hole.
 LoneScottishBoy
Joined: 2/13/2012
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Posted: 5/30/2013 8:32:52 AM
My GF and I have been on birth control for a year now and I havent thrown out my condoms.
Why? Because a friend might need one or I dont feel like throwing away perfectly good items.

The problem is deeper than just condoms.

EDIT: They also make great containers for holy water in the event my house is attacked by vampires...hey...you never know...:)
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