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 surfitup
Joined: 7/9/2005
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Sex can happen, (and would if i ruled the world), between anyone of opposite sex and be fun HOWEVER, to find the marriage is the hardest part. It is out there, but do you expect THE ONE to like you most and NOT ever having sex, lead to marriage?
 bulldoizer
Joined: 7/31/2005
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Posted: 8/4/2005 10:44:20 AM
yep sex is good. methinks all that lets be friends stuff is crap! Its just armor to hide in if the fellow is not "the one"! Most women know right off the bat if they are into you or not. Thats like the saying "I just don't want to be with anybody right know" that means I ain't doing nothing with you buddy! Hey whats the man/women thing about anyhow? I mean why even be makin a grocery list if you are not going to cook? Anyhow any gal that I had just the friendship thing with usually didn't end up havin sex with. Hey I know everybody on line has seen ads from women that read something like this: Boob4u with a photo of big old nipples starrin' at ya and then you read the text and there is those b.s. words again, if your just after one thing do not reply! Hell,fellows just don't pay no attention to that trash! If she likes ya, you going to know real fast and if she don't all that pittifull suckin' up like so many guys do just ain't going ta help ya.Now for any of you ladies that are readin this, if ya want a "real man" hit me up! Now I do believe in that "chemistry" thing so if the vibes be right and I can find the time we might hook up! As far as the "only after one thing" deal goes, if that bothers ya get off of dating and join a soap story club or a knittin clutch or something else ya like cause your waisting my time readin' your B.S.!!!!! Now the friendship thing is good if ya move in or something cause it doen't take all day to do the dirty but most of us guys will put up with alot if the booty be REAL GOOD! So whats up? Da BOOTY PIRATE scores again in GEORGIA!!!!!!!!!
 HottieScotty
Joined: 6/9/2004
Msg: 9
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Posted: 8/7/2005 11:01:29 AM
The majority of men .....are out of a relationship .
They have lost the tactic of comfort with the ladies.
Many ladies......are fresh out of a relationship.....and want to be seen as
a productive person .....not just as their body.
Men out of a relationship want their freedom of teen age years...
last thing on their mind is to have a "relationship"( ball and chain)
Women out of a relationship wish to recapture their youth...
They want men to look pasionatly in their eyes...and say wonderful things they haven't hear for years.
SOoooo....What's the problem.??
To many people got married to early....have not discovered all the mysteries of them selves.
They seek others to fofill their dreams.
Men want a sexy partner.....to go get them beer.....and don't slam the door when they leave.
Women want a hansom partner to carry the shopping bags...fix the leaky drain...
stand strong at the business lunch......but treat them as a solid contributing person.

It's a wacky world we live in .
Mixed familys....mixed relationships...desires...and dreams.
My suggestion is to remain single.....but develop a strong group of friends
some for sex.....some for camping....some for fixing things..
Why limit yourself to just one ......when there are so many fish in the ocean.
Have fun with life....if it doesn't feel right......JUST DON'T DO IT.!!
 americangentleman
Joined: 5/11/2005
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Posted: 8/7/2005 10:24:39 PM
Interesting thread. . . .

This guy is not looking "for just sex!" I'm actually looking for a companion or someone worthwhile. . . .sex is down the road if the relationship leads to something higher like marriage or close to. . .

Just an FYI. . .
 TimPommell
Joined: 1/13/2005
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Posted: 8/9/2005 11:16:46 PM
Not that I've been elected gender spokesman for the over 40 crowd, but I think some of you kind of missed the boat completely.
The majority of us want to have a great long term relationship, and sex is a very important part of any relationship for any age group. Simply because we're less inclined to beat around the bush (pun intended) does not make us less sincere or less focused on the other aspects of a relationship that are equally important. Of course there are some people who just want a physical relationship, and if that isn't what you want, you should be greatful they were honest about their intentions!
This isn't high school, and we aren't 16 so let's stop pretending to be naive ... good guys seldom get the girl and good things usually happen to bad people, it's called life.

PS. To all the girls who pose half naked in their photos and then complain about getting hit on for sex, were you thinking if you showed T&A you'd be getting invitations to attend church socials?
 TimPommell
Joined: 1/13/2005
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Posted: 8/10/2005 1:37:03 PM

WHy should I conform to others and some stereotyped image by posting pictures that I think will attract the right "invitation".

Ok, we're not soliciting in a school for the blind.... men are visual creatures, and instinctively, when we see a naked photo in a personal ad we think easy POA. Think of it in fishing terms, you're going to catch whatever you bait your hook for, regardless of what your intent is. Your photos are the image you are portraying to the world at large, and posting nude photos simply states, "ANYONE THAT WANTS CAN SEE ME NAKED". Since you apparently don't care who see's you naked, it's not illogical for some men to think that they might catch you at a weak moment when yer willing to bend your own rules, and since e-mail is free on POF, they have nothing to lose....
I personally think you have the right (and obligation) to post any photos you feel represent the true you, but be aware that when you leave the cover off of the potato salad, you're going to attract a lot of flies.
 TimPommell
Joined: 1/13/2005
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Posted: 8/10/2005 1:49:26 PM

Why can't people just date and have fun and if it leads to sex, then so be it? I had already told him that kisses should just happen, they shouldn't be forced. So I agree with you on that one!

Ahhhh food for another thread (which already exists by the way)... Dating is VERY expensive, and most men in their mid 30's to late 40's have existing financial obligations such as Child Support, Alimony, extra car payments, kids in college, etc.... so we don't view dating as a recreation anymore, it's merely a necessary part of the mating ritual. We do understand that women see it differently because they don't realize "a couple of drinks in a nice place" can destroy a $50 bill, or "dinner and drinks in a nice place" generally leaves only a clinking sound in your pocket from a $100 bill. In fact, there is a term for women who date someone just for the sake of dating, (having no intention of kicking things up a notch).... it's called SPORT DATING. Men get played too.... just not so much once you've hit the big 40....
 shadowgirl58
Joined: 7/24/2005
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Posted: 8/12/2005 12:58:41 PM
good thing you found out where certain ones are coming from..
"sex is normal in a normal relationship"
They can seek alternative sites too.

*pre-arrangement of profile>>>they specify and some want more then that-some deserve more then that.

Yeah but the raunchy ones do get gross-
 TimPommell
Joined: 1/13/2005
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Posted: 8/12/2005 8:37:36 PM

most of the women i know that are my age aren't looking for random sex from some old dude... they either want a lasting relationship with someone, or they can get random sex with someone their age... and a lot hotter!

I hate to burst your bubble but youth does not equal "hotter". Common mistake and we can attribute it to your youth and inexperience...LOL
 TimPommell
Joined: 1/13/2005
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Posted: 8/13/2005 8:04:47 PM

I am 53, and I have plenty of things in mind when i join personals, such as travel, concerts to attend, or just going for coffee ... activities that can be shared easily. We can have friends of any sex and age group without just thinking about "corporal knowledge".

Ummm.... your profile indicates you're here in search of a woman to date. Granted it doesn't mention carnal knowledge, but why would you join a personals site to find "buddies", when you have options like friendfinder.com....
If your truly here to meet men to play poker with, or women to sit around sipping coffee with as "friends" then it would seem you're not being honest in either your profile or your post.
 RichTheLeo
Joined: 7/9/2005
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Posted: 8/19/2005 5:09:45 AM
Whats with this older guy crap only wanting sex. Do your home work and live out side a shell.If I'm mistaking guys and girls from 18 to 30 on these sites talk about sex all the time. Check out the sex personals linked to this site. The girls are as bad as the guys. I've seen girls on pof try to act all shy. Then you see them on the sex personal asking for guys girls couples and all kinds of stuff. Aleast with an older guy you can get a man that knows all the buttons to push until your satisfied ( at least with me). Never a quickie unless your a dead fish. I am looking for long term if I'm not carrying the load. At 44 I can tow a line with any young guy. Its call experience,desire and passion for makeing someone feel good. If your a giver as well as a good reciever text me. So please don't pick on the older guys.
 TimPommell
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Posted: 8/19/2005 6:06:42 AM
Blastkist
I think you're right, most men view sex as a physical act, and intimacy as an emotional attachment. They truly are two different things, but unlike a lot of women we don't necessarily need both to enjoy it. In the long run, I suspect it's seldom fulfilling, but immediate gratification can be just as fun and healthy long term as exercising self control....
It's sort of like some womens affinity for "bad boys" ... or, what's good vs. what's good for you... Like anything else in life, if you pick the fruit AFTER it's fully ripened, you kind of lose the right to complain because it doesn't last... (Meaning if you make your selections based on curb appeal alone, and don't take long term needs and desires into account, you've already doomed the relationship to failure.)
 VeryPrivate
Joined: 2/16/2005
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Posted: 8/19/2005 6:06:47 AM
Sex is the mortar that bonds the stones of a relationship together. As you stumble and get all the cuts and bruised on the rocks along the path of your togetherness, the mortar can help smooth over the rough spots. Having said that, time has shown that many stone structures have withstood the test of time without mortar. They were just a good fit…

Stones are ageless. A newer stone bonds well with an older stone. They just have to fit. Older stones are usually smoother, while the newer ones typically has a few rough edges.

My guess is that if that’s the only bites your getting in this pond, maybe you’re using the wrong bait.

VP
 lrover
Joined: 3/9/2005
Msg: 33
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Posted: 8/19/2005 10:14:52 AM
I think I qualify as an older man (39). I'm not that interested in a sex partner, I want a friend, and a cuddle buddy more then anything else. I think it is kind of unfair to paint any group with a single brush.
My X used to say the best way to see if what you are saying isn't politically correct swap in a racial group. So if I said "seems like the (black, asian, polish, jewish, muslim...) crowd of guys here are only looking for sex", it would be frowned upon.
BTW I'm not a racist, and try to be sensitive, so if your ethnic group and race was left out of the list feel free to add it.
Pat
 mrob_rob
Joined: 6/28/2005
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Posted: 8/19/2005 10:58:19 AM
how old are old some of us are looking for a lifetime partener.. I am only 28 thew.
 bearzz2002jfa
Joined: 8/29/2005
Msg: 50
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Posted: 9/19/2005 3:38:02 PM
i agree dating is exspesive i do also think these woman are on here for a free ride also you take them out wine dine them than they say thank you for the good time your not my type ,thats how they get there free meal for the day , but they will complain if you want to have sex ,maybe they had enough sex when they slept with the other guys and had theere kids . single mothers are mostly the ones not looking for sex .
 bearzz2002jfa
Joined: 8/29/2005
Msg: 56
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Posted: 9/20/2005 12:22:21 AM
well you should look in the mirror i dont think your getting any younger , besides i did not mean all woman just about 90 percent of them thats not all is it .lol where the other 10 percent is well there out there somwhere.
 idgaf
Joined: 11/21/2005
Msg: 58
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Posted: 12/18/2005 7:42:09 AM
Perhaps they realize that allthough sex is but a small part of a relationship it is the foundation which it is built upon.

We are no longer hormone driven sex machines at our peak subject to your charms being waved in our face and demand a satisfactory/compatable sex life not subject to your whims.

My experience is that if you cannot discuss it like an adult you certainly can't do it, with anything that approaches a rewarding experience.

If you don't match my passion and tastes why would I want to get involved in a relationship with you when there is less stress being alone.

These threads are informative to use to learn who not to approach and waste our time with men bashers.

If sex isn't part of a relationship perhaps you should be looking for a roomate or a platonic companion or keep your profile hidden like your is.
 ladywyatt
Joined: 6/28/2007
Msg: 60
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Posted: 11/25/2011 9:54:44 AM
"Immagine going out and meeting a woman and having a great time socially.Having great conversations ,finding lots of common ground ,enjoying each other immensly. Finally getting together to make love (NOT SEX) only to find the woman knows nothing about how to please a man.The wet fish cold and unemmotional.Just lays there .The poor guy has worked hard at making this night special only to find the woman he has came to love ,doesn't know how to"

wwinniethepoohh and all you guys who think questioning a woman about her sexual preferences guarantees a great time in bed so you aren't wasting your time wooing her....imagine this news flash!.....People lie!

Yup even the men who brag about their bedroom skills are generally crap in bed...so what makes you think a woman would never do the same thing...
 Dr.Z2008
Joined: 1/18/2007
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Posted: 11/25/2011 10:22:57 AM
Honey here's the news... ALL men I don't care if they are older,younger or even that nice 95 year old gran gran papa want to have sex at the beginning (unless the are "virgin-ridiculous")
. Marriage or a relationship is something you must EARN with a man.I will admit that most of the men out there will act nicer,more accommodating,and generally on artificially good behavior when around a woman that the want to get physical with( a form of manipulation and scarcity of a mind),BUT even most"players for life" would actually prefer a wonderful woman. I don't agree on lying to women but you and most of the women out there should strongly reconsider the way they think and start taking responsibility for there actions and thought on dating.To many times,girls bring an expectation of relationship ,marriage,etc.to the table.This cause all kinds of problems-from idealizing positives and exaggerating or not noticing the negatives(same goes for men).I rather walk into any new situation open to any possibility,BUT with the mind set of I'm here to enjoy the moment,I don't have an agenda...If something physical happen happens,fine.I don't have any hangs-ups about sex-BUT,I'm not going to think about "relationship and marriage"until at least date 10 if it ever gets that far and no relationship talk or behavior for at least three month!Like a said...You must earn that....
 Dr.Z2008
Joined: 1/18/2007
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Posted: 11/25/2011 12:47:01 PM
Read well dolly what I meant was that just because you had sex on a first date the guy should introduce you to his mom,friends,pets and family members the same week.I believe she should be more selective on picking a first date. and take full responsibility for her acts.I had many night stands in my life,I don't have no sexual hang-ups about sex. But in order for me to be in a relationship she most be attractive,interesting,intelligent and emotionally stable to be girlfriend material...I believe we all humans deserve that wonderful one.IF SHE IS LOOKING FOR FRIENDSHIP FIRST...That's not me...Friends don't put friends in little boxes like that,the only thing I will agree with a woman that I really,really,really like on a first date is that I won't do anything unless we both agree to and that's the way I work(I don't let women sexual power to take advantage/no sexual privileges).Some guys can hide there desire...I can't...I don't have that talent...Dr.Z
 MandyLOVESCandy
Joined: 11/15/2011
Msg: 66
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Posted: 11/25/2011 1:35:05 PM
yes, sadly even the rather older ones, 50+ or 60's, even, IME

~M~
 Moonlassie
Joined: 12/21/2007
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Posted: 11/25/2011 8:52:47 PM
For some reason I had it in my head that an older man would be past the tripe of searching for sex over and over again. And I felt an older man would be a wiser man. But have found that with my experience here, that the older guy has left a long term marriage and suddenly feels like a young billy goat and romps around from one hit to another. Or I should say he was put out of a long term marriage, most likely for the same reason he is on here. This astonished me at first when it happen to me with a rather kind appearing man. When I found that he was continuing to surf for women while we were dating it crushed me. But he is still on here, still doing the same thing although he claims on facebook that he is in a relationship. So I figured that he is just a user, combing the social dating scene for women to carve notches on his belt. The saddest thing of all is that he covers up a grave flaw with trinkets and flowers and dinners out. He was very dishonest and expects you to be totally honest with him. The flaw did not turn me away and I tried to be understanding, but his continual trolling was what ruined the situation for me. It made me sad to see his pitiful attempts to lie just so he could feel like he was still in the game. Kind of sad.
 Moonlassie
Joined: 12/21/2007
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Posted: 11/25/2011 8:55:46 PM
You need to earn a few things also laddie.
 dmzvisitor
Joined: 3/25/2011
Msg: 72
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Posted: 11/26/2011 9:14:43 AM

Finally getting together to make love (NOT SEX) only to find the woman knows nothing about how to please a man.The wet fish cold and unemmotional.Just lays there .The poor guy has worked hard at making this night special only to find the woman he has came to love ,doesn't know how to"


And it is really too bad that you cannot help her learn. wow, that would be so awesome, taking a person to whom sex is special and helping them learn to enjoy it. Oh, but it can never be!!!

It just continues to amaze me that most men do not understand that sex with an unfamiliar partner is very often unsatisfying for women. Even if she climaxes, the experience can have been more unpleasant than positive. It is generally not worth the risk of STDs and a difficult-to-come-by orgasm (no pun intended) to have sex with a person who is still something of a stranger.
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