what difference does it make?? bottom line, if he's working that hard to avoid you, your chances of finding out the "real reasons" a.k.a. "the whole story" are slim. write it off.
Exactly. When it's that messy & f'd up, and given enough tries as it has -- no sense in trying to get Real answers out of it. It sucks, but ya move on. At best, with luck & the right schemes of timing, you'll get PC responses. At worst, you'll just end up being more hurt because they've already shown they don't respect you much as a person and are more than ready to be defensive of what they internally feel guilty about.