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Joined: 12/9/2009
Msg: 3
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Would it help if I said, it's not you, it's them?

Honestly, I don't see too much wrong with your profile. You are good looking, earnest, ambitious....these are all good qualities. Your height, trust me, has nothing to do with it. Lots of women LOVE tall guys. And, if a girl likes a guy at 6'0, she will more than likely like him at 6'2 as well.

The main problem I see is that you are 19. You are wise beyond your years. (which is a good thing) Most boys your age are out partying it up, getting drunk, sleeping around, etc etc. It could be that women in your age range just aren't ready for someone like you yet. Don't worry...they will be!
Joined: 8/25/2011
Msg: 10
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Posted: 11/18/2013 12:52:39 PM
The profile text is ok (not great but ok), but the pictures are poor. The main focus needs to always be you, not your car, not your parrot, not your family but you. And good well taken photos of you too.

As for the message...


I love playing basketball since I was young, and love business as well! Hope to open my own business one day. I also listen to Hip Hop and R&B music. I love animals myself I have 2 cats haha. What are your interests/hobbies and what kinda music do you listen to?"

The message is more about you than the girl you are messaging, and really you are just repeating yourself form your profile. What are you interests/hobbies? You should know this if you have read the girls profile. Asking this implies you haven't.

Talk about them an their profile, compliment them (not on looks that's creepy for the first message), talk about shared interests and ask them questions that are easy for them to answer.

Try something more like this:

"Hi ______,

I loved reading your profile you sound like a lot of fun, I especially like the part about________.
I see that you ___________ have your been doing this long? It sounds really interesting I'd love to hear more about it.
I think we would get along because I too love ________ and ________.

I really look forward to hearing from you soon"

Show them you are interested in them and show them why you would be a good match.

Hope that helps
Joined: 11/3/2009
Msg: 12
Not getting many responses on POF
Posted: 11/18/2013 9:31:16 PM
If you're still reading this not type "haha" into future messages.
It makes the writer sound nervous and tentative. It is useless filler that is unnecessary.
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