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Please review.. I am having terrible luck here. I could really use some advice especially from women on what my profile lacks. I would think I have a lot offer the right woman.
Posted: 12/20/2013 8:40:36 PM
|You copied your profile from OKC. Eh. |
What your profile lacks is any real incentive for women who are seeking Long-Term (or something else) to message you. For a lack of better words, nothing about it exactly screams that you want an actual relationship. There's no exposition about what you value in women, a potential relationship or even the simple idea of what it's like to be around you. So, people are basically going in cold because they have no idea what to expect or how exactly to approach you.
Even your First Date section fails to really say anything about actual dating. If your intent is truly Long-Term then your profile simply doesn't match up with that.
Posted: 12/20/2013 8:44:14 PM
|It was a good description of yourself.|
But you failed to direct the profile towards dating. This is a dating site, right? Try mention some activities or qualities a possible date may possess that would make her a good match.
If someone can relate to them, then they are more likely to respond or even message.
Posted: 12/20/2013 8:50:50 PM
|That is certainly something that wasn't apparent to me. But I guess new insight is exactly what this is for. I had avoided putting specifics on what things I value in women, since I like combinations of things and I thought it may turn off potential suitors if I did. I would rather judge for myself if I thought that particular person might be compatible. |
I had thought there was plenty on there to judge what I was like, but I guess not..
Posted: 12/20/2013 10:49:14 PM
|The beard photo is the only decent picture of you and should be your main. (do the kids' parents know you've got their faces on your adult online dating profile?)|
The OKC format really doesn't work for this site. Use the same information but in a more (allegorical?) style.
Posted: 12/21/2013 4:31:39 PM
|Omg - take out the kid pics! Breech of privacy, seriously. The comment about herding little girls is WEIRD. It is a bad photo too.|
Posted: 12/21/2013 9:25:09 PM
|Use the 5th photo. The current one will get you 67 year olds. The written part is good. Delete those OKC titles.|
Posted: 12/22/2013 4:07:56 AM
**On Vacation will reply to messages when I return**
Get the best pics possible is the best advise I have for your profile.
The main needs to be "fetching". Look at the camera like you would an attractive woman.
feel free to message me
Do not sound like you expect women to message you first.
Other than the pics and" feel free" statement, I think its fine.
Posted: 12/22/2013 1:10:11 PM
|...why not just leave the profile as is and answer messages when you return? It's not likely a woman will find your profile and bookmark it until after the holidays. You can reply with "Sorry I didn't reply immediately! I was home for the holidays."|
Posted: 12/22/2013 1:18:01 PM
Tell you what, I'm on vacation too and will review your profile in a few weeks.
Doesn't make you feel very special, does it?
Posted: 12/22/2013 2:25:19 PM
|I wonder how old he will be then?|
You need to have your correct age
The leave a msg made me laugh out loud.
Are you going to someplace you can't check POF? Does such a place exist?
Posted: 12/22/2013 10:29:57 PM
|^^^rural Sudan? I have a feeling they have WiFi there too...|
Posted: 12/25/2013 9:07:02 AM
** On X-mas vacation**
Still expecting bombardments and can't bother to spell Christmas. Gee, You fail again.
I have a feeling they have WiFi there too...
He's not on vacation, me thinks he's on a VACASHUN of the" X rated" kind, not Christmas.
Who ya "vacationing" with that you can't be caught logging on to POF op?
Posted: 1/7/2014 2:21:45 PM
|Jesus people.. I was gone 2 weeks on an ice fishing trip in northern WI. No I don't have internet access there. Why were you all obsessing over such a trivial thing? Were you all stuck at home with no one to be with for X-mas??|
Posted: 1/7/2014 2:58:18 PM
|Well yes actually some of us were home alone from Christmas. Thanks for rubbing that in while you were out having fun. Meet anyone?|
Posted: 1/7/2014 3:15:21 PM
|I wasn't alone. Glad to see you repay strangers kindness with digs. Not only telling of character but ppl can read your posting history - you know, if they are looking for a sweet man to date|
Ha! from Op's profile " I think I am one of the kindest people I know"
but your age is wrong, how did that happen?
Never good to have a profile with a disclaimer, then ppl wonder what else is not correct.
Best of luck
Posted: 1/7/2014 3:17:51 PM
|Geez, relax. They were just having a little fun.|
I'm not good at describing myself,but I think I'm one of the kindest people I know.. I'll feed you a funny thing instead that will give the best look into how my life works. I know it's meant to be funny, but not sure how it will go over. Looks like a sneaky way to toot your own horn. It's original, anyway.
Recently, while trying to console me over my frustration with women, a friend told me, "You're young, attractive, & healthy. You have no substance problems, no criminal record, no financial/credit problems, no family issues, no jealous ex-partners, no dependents, & no sexual hang-ups. You've traveled widely, and are cosmopolitan & open-minded. You're loyal, honest, politically astute, and passionate about conservation & human rights. You're the smartest guy I know, articulate, creative, & ambitious. On top of all that, you're going to complete your degrees at a range of prestigious US universities."
So he then asks, "What is your problem?"
"In short," I replied, "I'm not real."
Still has the format from another dating site which just looks like you were too lazy to be original.
Posted: 1/7/2014 6:11:47 PM
|It looked more like personal attacks to me, thus why I was up in arms. I can usually tell when comments are in good fun and vice versa... Anyway I got what I needed from this thread. I have a couple dates this weekend, so we will see how it goes.|
Thanks to those who provided [u]constructive[/u] criticism
Posted: 1/7/2014 7:05:41 PM
|"Jesus people.. I was gone 2 weeks on an ice fishing trip in northern WI. No I don't have internet access there. Why were you all obsessing over such a trivial thing? Were you all stuck at home with no one to be with for X-mas??"|
Pretty simple, , , you asked people for their help, but you weren't going to be here anyway. No one here gets compensated for helping others to avoid the frustration commonly found in these pursuits. Kind of like leaving a bunch of paint and brushes, on your front porch, and hanging a sign "Please paint my house and do a good job. I will be back to inspect in 2 weeks."