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Joined: 11/30/2012
Msg: 2
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Your dark, unsmiling photos are awful, and a turnoff for women. Nobody wants to date an unhappy, gloomy man.

Please read the Profile Writing Tips highlighted in green. Your profile is an advertisement to help you meet the kind of women you want to date. The best profiles are well written, upbeat and interesting, with a dash of humor. Internet dating is a written, visual medium. Correct spelling and grammar are important because it shows you care about details. Write in short paragraphs. Nobody wants to read a wall of words.

Describe your best characteristics and strengths, activities you enjoy, and what you are looking for in a relationship. Talk a little about the type of woman you want to meet using personality traits.

You have 8 seconds to make a good impression. Women will see your main photo as a tiny pic the size of a saltine cracker on their cell phone screens. If your main photo is not clear, bright and attractive, they move on. A genuine smile is inviting, warm and attractive. Women want to see your eyes and smile.

Please get new photos taken outdoors for better lighting, and with a quality digital camera, not a fuzzy cell phone. Your main photo should be a head-and-shoulder shot, showing you SMILING and looking at the camera. You also need one full body shot, again taken outdoors and smiling.

Other pictures should show you outdoors, doing activities you enjoy. No hats, sunglasses, alcohol or stupid poses. You must be in every picture. Ask a friend to take 24 pictures of you outdoors with a digital camera, wearing different clothes in various locations. Upload the best 8. Caption and date each photo-giving the location and year- to make the photos more interesting and clear.

Interests should be ACTIVITIES you enjoy and would enjoy doing with a woman. Choose 12 or 15 activities. Since interests are displayed in three columns, this will give you three equal columns that look sharp on your profile.
Your headline should be short and upbeat, and say something about you. "Life is Amazing!" is my headline.

Good luck in your romantic search.
Joined: 8/25/2011
Msg: 3
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I get it....but
Posted: 2/20/2014 1:22:24 PM

I get that I'm more of a niche than every woman's dream but how the hell do I find those women with the niche?

I get what your saying about being 'niche' big beards arn't every woman's taste, but that doesn't mena you can get away with a poor profile.

Who ever you are you need to show you AT YOUR BEST. Is you in a tank top crashed out on a couch you at your best? One of my favorite past-times is sitting in my underpants eating cheese puffs and watching mindless sit-coms, do I put a picture of me doing that in my dating profile, HECK NO. 8 bright, clear, smiling photos. Think how you would want to look/dress on a first date, use that as a starting point at least. Include photos that highlight your personality and can give the viewer a view of who you are (at the moment the couch picture shows you as a lazy slob).

When you don't fall into the 6'2'' model six pack guy category, (and I'm in not in that category either, so don't be offended) then what you need to show off is you personality and creativity in your text. Currently it basically says you are independent, can cook and have a beard.

What are your hopes, dreams, life goals?
What are your big passions in life? What gets you out of bed in the morning?
Why should a girl date you over the millions of others on this site?

Sell yourself
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