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 knlmdd
Joined: 3/20/2014
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How would I let a guy over 60 know that I am interested in him, in person. Just curious, no rude answers please. Online I imagine it'd be simpler. In person I'll get compliments from older men but always in this reserved way. "I may be an old man but I'm allowed to tell a girl she's pretty". I have a thing for those born in the late 40s-50s, I just want to pick their brains and touch their bodies. I'm 21, if I meet a 67 year old how am I supposed to get him to take me seriously?
 Eric_Summit
Joined: 11/3/2009
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Posted: 4/3/2014 10:46:28 AM
You should definitely break-up with your 27 y.o. current boyfriend first whom you've mentioned.
That guy is someone who "gets your motor running" as you have shared.

Starting with a clean and honest slate would be the best route for seeking a 60-70 y.o. gent.
Good luck with your ongoing romantic search.
 JoeBnD
Joined: 3/23/2012
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Posted: 4/3/2014 12:16:17 PM
I am sorry, but you don't exist. Ask any of the women here - women don't date men who are over twice their age. :)
 moonbeamlover
Joined: 10/12/2013
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Posted: 4/3/2014 12:31:20 PM
wait a minute, what happened to the 27 year old who wanted you to be straight with him when you were horny?
 Bellacate
Joined: 9/26/2012
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Posted: 4/3/2014 1:19:01 PM
Calling troll on this one. How did this post not get deleted?
 ouija2013
Joined: 12/9/2012
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Posted: 4/3/2014 1:28:40 PM
Some days are just better than others.
If you are being hit on by 67 yr old men flirt back.
 DragonBits
Joined: 1/6/2012
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Posted: 4/3/2014 1:33:35 PM

I just want to pick their brains and touch their bodies. I'm 21, if I meet a 67 year old how am I supposed to get him to take me seriously?


I don't know what you mean about being taking seriously? Like, you want to have his baby or want money for a startup? What do you mean by being taken seriously?

"I just want to pick your brains and touch your body."

But if all you want is sex and conversation, that would work just fine.
 knlmdd
Joined: 3/20/2014
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Posted: 4/3/2014 2:17:01 PM
You should definitely break-up with your 27 y.o. current boyfriend first whom you've mentioned.
That guy is someone who "gets your motor running" as you have shared.

Starting with a clean and honest slate would be the best route for seeking a 60-70 y.o. gent.
Good luck with your ongoing romantic search.


I definitely have no reason to break up with him, haha. He knows that I like 67 yr old and he likes 47 year olds. We're exclusive now but we're both interested in ORs, have been open about this. There are no qualms here, if you'd like to answer my question, answer, but please no useless info and aggressive assumptions, thanks :)

--and no, I'm not a troll.
I don't understand why, if you don't want to answer the question at hand, you can't just scroll past it and not waste effort on criticism.
 lasttangointulsa
Joined: 2/25/2014
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Posted: 4/3/2014 2:51:39 PM
I'm going out on a limb here and guessing you have some unresolved daddy issues. I'm 58 and I rarely find a man in his 60's I'm attracted to. But in answer to your question, none of them will take you seriously. They'll try to use you for sex or as arm candy, but not for the long haul.
 Westernguy
Joined: 2/14/2014
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Posted: 4/3/2014 2:56:54 PM
he likes 47 year olds.


Wow, that's pretty specific !

So, when they turn 48 he doesn't like them anymore ? Can he tell just by looking at them ?


Just ask him questions that are important to you. Things like how much money does he have, what kind of house(s), car(s), investments etc. does he own. Does he have anybody in his will, and the list goes on.


Hey now, don't assume she's a gold digger , it is possible she wants to jump his wrinkly old bones and hear tales of rotary dial phones ya know. Geeeeez .



Re your q ... I would suggest holding a bottle of Viagra in your hand while asking if he has plans for the weekend.

Be sure to wink for added effect !


Good luck !


... is it just me or is this a refreshing topic from " aw golly, I'm having no luck on here " ?




Westernguy
a ee a ee a !
 or_current_resident
Joined: 6/3/2013
Msg: 11
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Posted: 4/3/2014 3:28:29 PM

I have a thing for those born in the late 40s-50s, I just want to pick their brains and touch their bodies. I'm 21, if I meet a 67 year old how am I supposed to get him to take me.


Hummmm....maybe first.... you can volunteer at one of those Senior Citizen Centers... & maybe shag one of those lonely hearts in....cuz his kids don't stop by too often....^^^^^
As I know a few..... who live in FL that use that ploy for free room & board etc....in their services for the old folks.^^^^
And u can offer to take them shopping, cooking for them, etc...... & that might work .....
And who knows.....& maybe have them put your in their Will for all the wonderful help u gave them living & having a friend then living alone........ & all of the other posabilities there is what u can do or offer to provide the old & senile...^^^^
....hope that help....cheers
 flaneur001
Joined: 7/31/2011
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Posted: 4/3/2014 3:35:43 PM
OP : why is this difficult. If you have the chutzpah to get involved with someone older than your grandfather why would it be difficult to simply say:

I know that you are 67, and I am 21, however, I am very curious and would like to pick your brain and touch your body. I know this is hard to believe, but I am serious. Let'd do it. By the way, my boyfriend is a non issue. We have an agreement about this. He is is pursuing women who are 47, so If you have a daughter who is single and 47 this might be a win win situation for all of us!

Voila
 coyotefeller
Joined: 11/12/2011
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Posted: 4/3/2014 3:36:55 PM

I have a thing for those born in the late 40s-50s, I just want to pick their brains and touch their bodies. I'm 21, if I meet a 67 year old how am I supposed to get him to take me seriously?

If this is not an April's Fools gig I will say this:
Nice old horny guys can be a little obtuse when it comes to young girls
so you have to hit them with a sledge hammer or at least a 2x4 to get their
attention.
It took like 7 years for a young thing I knew on the net to get through
to me that she was interested in cyber sex, and she had to spell it out!
Another one was a step-niece who all her life tried to get my attention
but failed, even when she would call me at 4 in the morning !
So don't be shy .... You say you are Crafty in your profile I think.
If the old guy says he likes you to start with I'm sure he won't be
offended and call the cops on you for trying to subvert a senior citizen !
Don't pay no never mind to the under 60 crowd here who are just
jealous they are not old enough !
 moonbeamlover
Joined: 10/12/2013
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Posted: 4/3/2014 5:44:12 PM

OP : why is this difficult. If you have the chutzpah to get involved with someone older than your grandfather why would it be difficult to simply say:

I know that you are 67, and I am 21, however, I am very curious and would like to pick your brain and touch your body. I know this is hard to believe, but I am serious. Let'd do it. By the way, my boyfriend is a non issue. We have an agreement about this. He is is pursuing women who are 47, so If you have a daughter who is single and 47 this might be a win win situation for all of us!

Voila


Wiping my eyes at this one. I would love to be a fly on the wall on that particular conversation.
 kj521
Joined: 8/8/2012
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Posted: 4/3/2014 6:00:39 PM
Wait.....Wait.......Did I miss something?

Is there something magical about 47 yr old women and 67:yr old men?

Okay.....I'll just google it........:)
 IgorFrankensteen
Joined: 6/29/2009
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Posted: 4/3/2014 7:13:24 PM
The best way to deal with ANYONE, is to try to actually look at things from their perspective.

What I mean by that is, that you can't simply pretend to be a cartoon version of what you imagine the other person is, and then make up your way of dealing with them from that. You have to actually learn about who they really are, what their concerns and desires are, and deal with them.

You can't start from what YOU want, and expect them to accept it. Most people want to be treated as though they are human beings, and are not a set of specifications.

The way you express yourself here, makes it appear that you view pretty much everyone as resources that you can draw from and utilize, and not as equals who may or may not have desires and life goals of their own, with whom you enjoy interacting.

Online, I can't imagine believing that anyone as young as you approaching someone as old as I am (too young for you, I know) is even a real person, there are so many bots and scammers pretending to be what you claim to be. It would therefore actually be much HARDER for you to do so online.

In person, it would all depend on how your target person found your behavior, and what their own interests were.

I deal with obviously mentally disturbed or handicapped homeless people almost every day. It is almost always very obvious that they are handicapped socially in some way by whatever their affliction is. A twenty-something person who said they wanted to pick my brain and touch my body would probably make me think "serial killer" first, "financial scammer" second, "self-deluded child" third, and "a person who is both sincere and self-aware," a distant fifth or sixth, at best. For someone such as you claim to be, to succeed in having me take you seriously, you would have to have tremendous patience, and be aware of my trepidation about being a target, and be willing to work step by step to prove yourself as genuine. That is part of what I mean by ACTUALLY seeing things from my perspective.

The best way to think this through, is to approach it as you would a job hunt. You have to prove yourself to an employer. They have to believe that you are who you say you are, that you actually do want to do the job, and not just arrange to get the paycheck. Doing that isn't a matter of saying the right things at the right time. What you say, just gets you to the starting point.

By the way, if you want to load your picture so that it DOESN'T look as though you are sneaking in from the side, look for the "rotate picture" arrows at the bottom of the Image Load screen, as you are uploading.
 carolann0308
Joined: 12/9/2006
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Posted: 4/4/2014 10:48:43 AM
If you are interested in a man tell him, he will either reject the idea or not.
 knlmdd
Joined: 3/20/2014
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Posted: 4/4/2014 11:01:01 AM

OP : why is this difficult. If you have the chutzpah to get involved with someone older than your grandfather why would it be difficult to simply say:

I know that you are 67, and I am 21, however, I am very curious and would like to pick your brain and touch your body. I know this is hard to believe, but I am serious. Let'd do it. By the way, my boyfriend is a non issue. We have an agreement about this. He is is pursuing women who are 47, so If you have a daughter who is single and 47 this might be a win win situation for all of us!

Voila


Lol! Thanks for this :)
 knlmdd
Joined: 3/20/2014
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Posted: 4/4/2014 11:17:23 AM

Hey now, don't assume she's a gold digger , it is possible she wants to jump his wrinkly old bones and hear tales of rotary dial phones ya know. Geeeeez .


This is true, actually. Don't care about money, I care about the link to the past.


I'm going out on a limb here and guessing you have some unresolved daddy issues. I'm 58 and I rarely find a man in his 60's I'm attracted to. But in answer to your question, none of them will take you seriously. They'll try to use you for sex or as arm candy, but not for the long haul.


What long haul? Lol. "Seriously" meaning, look at me as something more than a babychild. Perfectly fine being used as sex or arm candy, I would basically be doing the same + I get to hear childhood stories and see old photos.


Nice old horny guys can be a little obtuse when it comes to young girls
so you have to hit them with a sledge hammer or at least a 2x4 to get their
attention.


The problem is doing that in person, and I don't think I'd want to fraternize with an old over the net, the fact that they know how to use computers that efficiently is a turn off.
 daynadaze
Joined: 2/11/2008
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Posted: 4/4/2014 11:48:08 AM
There are sites online for casual sexual hook ups, you make a profile that says you are in an open relationship with a guy not really fulfilling your sexual needs and are looking for men in their 60s plus to have sex with and hear about partylines and discos and hippies. Surely you already knew this, so I'm going to assume you hoped all these posts would get men here to contact you, which is actually against the posting rules, in case you are interested.

Not sure what you are really looking for though, if a person in their 60s knows how to use the interest is a turn off for you, because 60s isn't that old, almost all of us can use a computer. It would seem your fetish is for someone in the back woods, who still lives like they did when they were teens...???? Other than some technology, like computers or cell phones, they pretty much had everything back in the 50s & 60s as they do now. It's not like we grew up before machines were invented. I think you are going to need to be much more specific. But when you are in the presence of someone of your type, just tell him that you'd do him so he's not confused by your attention that he may think is just you being nice to an older man.

You also seem to be saying that you are willing to trade sex for these old men's childhood stories...you don't have to give them sex for that, many people in nursing homes or the market or sitting in a park would be glad to tell you stories about their childhood, unless the stories make you horny, again you need to be more specific. And you need to go older than 60s to find people who aren't current on what's new. A lot of people in their 70 and 80s and older are pretty computer savvy. And what's with the age of 67 & 47, in this case it's a bit too specific, can you explain this?
 knlmdd
Joined: 3/20/2014
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Posted: 4/4/2014 12:37:16 PM
There are sites online for casual sexual hook ups, you make a profile that says you are in an open relationship with a guy not really fulfilling your sexual needs and are looking for men in their 60s plus to have sex with and hear about partylines and discos and hippies. Surely you already knew this, so I'm going to assume you hoped all these posts would get men here to contact you, which is actually against the posting rules, in case you are interested.


Again, not looking to find older men online. That's specified in the OP. Don't ever assume, just as a general rule. You're wrong, by the way.


Not sure what you are really looking for though, if a person in their 60s knows how to use the interest is a turn off for you, because 60s isn't that old, almost all of us can use a computer. It would seem your fetish is for someone in the back woods, who still lives like they did when they were teens...???? Other than some technology, like computers or cell phones, they pretty much had everything back in the 50s & 60s as they do now. It's not like we grew up before machines were invented. I think you are going to need to be much more specific. But when you are in the presence of someone of your type, just tell him that you'd do him so he's not confused by your attention that he may think is just you being nice to an older man.


So, so wrong. I know what tech did and did not exist in the past. I'm a historian, and even if that weren't my chosen course, I think it's common knowledge that people alive today weren't roughin it in the woods or driving in steam-powered locomotives...


You also seem to be saying that you are willing to trade sex for these old men's childhood stories...you don't have to give them sex for that, many people in nursing homes or the market or sitting in a park would be glad to tell you stories about their childhood, unless the stories make you horny, again you need to be more specific. And you need to go older than 60s to find people who aren't current on what's new. A lot of people in their 70 and 80s and older are pretty computer savvy. And what's with the age of 67 & 47, in this case it's a bit too specific, can you explain this?


The stories do make me horny. I was being sarcastic with the whole computer thing, but still would not want to date an older man who is purposefully seeking out a younger woman online. As far as the age thing...Too specific? Who gets to measure that? I don't know about 47. That's his preference, not mine. Guessing he's just placing a number on his preference for older middle aged women. For me, I find my attraction is usually to men who happen to be 65-75. Older than that reminds me of my great grandparents, who were lovely, but I can't cross that barrier just yet.
 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
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Posted: 4/4/2014 12:46:00 PM


How would I let a guy over 60 know that I am interested in him, in person.


It doesn't get any easier than this. Just take your clothes off.


I'm not going to get into all of the other ramifications, is she for real or just a troll, etc, etc, etc. But if you want to let a man, any man, any age (over puberty and short of dead), know that you're interested, it is just that easy. I thought all girls knew this by the time they were 13?
 daynadaze
Joined: 2/11/2008
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Posted: 4/4/2014 12:52:59 PM
Again... so what wasn't around, except an older model/form, back in the 50s & 60s? What stories do you long to hear? I'm sure some men here wouldn't mind meeting you and telling you stories but you are vague in areas where they might not wish to reach out and get rejected.

You don't want cyber sex, okay, but you do want sex while hearing stories of their childhood. While 65-67 is pretty specific, what went on in that age groups' youth that you like hearing? I could be wrong again LOL but I'm betting some of these men are unsure enough to not contact you because you aren't making yourself clear.

I'm just trying to help, as I'm sure I'm not the only one a bit confused. I'm not judging or trying to call you out.
 DragonBits
Joined: 1/6/2012
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Posted: 4/4/2014 1:53:24 PM

The problem is doing that in person, and I don't think I'd want to fraternize with an old over the net, the fact that they know how to use computers that efficiently is a turn off.


Then that may be a problem. We are the ones that started using computers that help set up the net. I started using computers when I was 17.

At 61 I am a little young for you, but those that created the computers I used were 20-30 years older than me. Most of those that created the first IBM System/360 are probably in their 80-90s by now. Gene Amdahl is 91.

Even my mother who is 85 uses a computer and has facebook.

Still not sure what you mean by being taken seriously? I guess you mean that you would seriously like to get naked with them?
 Peppermint_Petunias
Joined: 3/30/2012
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Posted: 4/4/2014 3:19:22 PM
Not likely..esp if he has kids and grand-kids
I have seen just 15-20 years cause issues and families to fight like the Hatfields and McCoys over "dating" younger women/men.



A twenty-something person who said they wanted to pick my brain and touch my body would probably make me think "serial killer" first, "financial scammer" second, "self-deluded child" third, and "a person who is both sincere and self-aware," a distant fifth or sixth, at best. For someone such as you claim to be, to succeed in having me take you seriously, you would have to have tremendous patience, and be aware of my trepidation about being a target, and be willing to work step by step to prove yourself as genuine. That is part of what I mean by ACTUALLY seeing things from my perspective.

^^^^^^^^^^^really.
Even then, I would think it would take 2-3 years. I would think along the lines of blackmail, thief, other numerous agendas too.
Gawd..and good grief.

I personally find your questions and comments ODD as hell in your threads.
I would have ab- so- lute- lee puked at the thought of a man even 15 years older at your age.
Is there something you aren't sharing here?
We need to pick YOUR brain..Do tell us, WHY?
Whats this urge REALLY about? Just curious? Need to feel in control?Social experiment/sexual experiment?

If you want to know history or learn about the 40's, then READ or be a volunteer at an old folks home/senior center.
But sex? I wouldn't want to see that on you tube myself.
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