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Joined: 11/13/2014
Msg: 1
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Hello everyone I'm rather new to the whole culture of online dating and would like some help if you can. I believe I've had my account for roughly week and I have sent many messages to several dozen ladies. I am always courteous, polite and I feel I can hold a conversation well. Of all the messages I've sent I've gotten 6 replies half of which feel like I'm interviewing then and respond with brief open ended answers which doesn't contribute to the conversation. The other half initial reply back with "Hi, nice to meet you", and "Hi my name is.." but when I send a second message I get nothing back. Anything in my profile that needs some work? Thanks.
Joined: 7/20/2014
Msg: 2
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Posted: 11/18/2014 9:38:43 PM
You're Married.
Looking for 'no commitment'.

Don't you think craigslist is more appropriate? Unless, of course, you're also messaging 'ladies' who are also married and looking for 'no commitment'.

(You've gotta be kidding...)
Joined: 11/13/2014
Msg: 3
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Posted: 11/18/2014 9:43:30 PM
Sorry I accidentally changed my status when I was updating my profile. I am not married. I'm a young single 23 year old
Joined: 12/1/2013
Msg: 4
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Posted: 11/18/2014 9:48:04 PM
Hi Rgillian. Try putting captions on those photos. Women like to read what you're up to when they're taken. Perhaps a few more action shots.

You're looking for "Casual Dating/No Commitment" code on POF for looking for a fvck buddy. The women you've messaged likely aren't looking for a f-buddy so there's no point in responding. The others who respond are probably just being polite and sending you a reply. They're not responding to your second message because they're not interested - they can see you're looking for a f-buddy and they're not. And if they were they can head to a bar and find one there instead of shopping online.

Profile is OK. Any woman looking online for a f-buddy probably isn't going to read your profile anyway, just look at your pictures and decide whether to hop in bed with you or not.

Somewhere down the road if you decide you're looking for a more committed relationship you could add a few more things about your goals, what its like to date you, places you'd like to travel to. Not really necessary right now because you're not looking for a relationship.

Good luck in what you're looking for.
Joined: 7/20/2014
Msg: 5
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Posted: 11/18/2014 10:25:50 PM
No commitment/Hangout still looks like casual sex. Who knows, maybe that's what you're really looking for, but the majority of women you contact won't get past that to read the rest. Your call.

By the way - when you invite someone to a meal on a first date, you pay. Isn't that a little pricy? Why not just meet for a casual afternoon coffee and cake thing? With the 'distractions' of people watching there will always be something to talk about if the conversation slows and it won't feel like an interrogation.
Joined: 11/13/2014
Msg: 6
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Posted: 11/18/2014 10:50:44 PM
Thank you both for the insight, I appreciate it.
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