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 TALL_IQ2
Joined: 12/22/2014
Msg: 1
What self-improvement steps can you begin NOW, or stay just the same for all of 2015?Page 1 of 4    (1, 2, 3, 4)
Time to take a good realistic look at yourself, evaluate what changes you CAN DO for self-improvement starting NOW to become more that way you would actually like to be by next December!

With enough real self-improvement you may actually achieve a highly compatible long-term SO relationship, which IS the 2nd greatest challenge in life to find and maintain.

IF you are satisfied with the way you are now ( hardly likely for most ), then you will be almost exactly the same in a year from now without making the effort required towards that self-improvement you have always wanted.
Are you going to start making the effort right now? Or just stay the same?

HAPPY NEW YEAR and let's all see what we can do to improve our next year...

S
 CynthiaSM
Joined: 3/29/2014
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Posted: 12/31/2014 9:04:45 AM
Neither.

I'm on a course of action that started a long time ago and will continue into the future. I don't feel the need to start something else/different NOW, nor will I be "the same" next new year.
 _shakti_
Joined: 2/22/2014
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Posted: 12/31/2014 9:33:27 AM

which IS the 2nd greatest challenge in life to find and maintain.
For some reason that made me laugh really loud, I had totally forgotten about this oft used phrase of yours :)

I've been learning to let go, of a lot. I hadn't realized how much I was holding onto over the years, but my last meditation retreat in Sept really highlighted things. So I'll continue with that. Plus, I'm becoming more and more addicted to yoga, so things have been improving on a physical level- I'll continue with that too.

As for something new? I feel like I need to re-integrate certain aspects of my personality that I sort of killed off. And I'm looking forward to the wholeness that will likely arise out of it.

I also want to force myself out more, I've become way too much of a loner/hermit in recent years.
 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
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Posted: 12/31/2014 9:41:14 AM
I'm with Cynthia and her thoughts on "starting" something that I am already doing. I wake up every morning with the thoughts and hopes I will "improve" myself and the way I live, and act towards others.


With enough real self-improvement you may actually achieve a highly compatible long-term SO relationship, which IS the 2nd greatest challenge in life to find and maintain.


This one statement really raises more than one eyebrow. I have a whole list of "challenges" with my quest of self improvement that I would rate a LOT higher than "just" finding a long term relationship and "maintaining" it. In fact, I actually believe the more challenges I meet, and pass, the less chance of this long term relationship every happening. Especially in this day and age of which we are living in, here in North America.

Anybody see that new (full) bottle of mine????? I think I may have misplaced it amongst all the empty ones.

I hate when that happens.
 Dee4166
Joined: 6/16/2007
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Posted: 12/31/2014 9:45:18 AM
Yup...self-improvement started LONG ago.....

Seems like there's some MORE in order, I'm discovering recently....LOL

The 'fun' never ends.....
 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
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Posted: 12/31/2014 9:51:37 AM

The 'fun' never ends.....


Oh, I think it does when you start hearing the dirt hitting the coffin lid. ;) Till then ya just gotta learn to bounce with it all.
 Boshed
Joined: 12/12/2014
Msg: 7
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Posted: 12/31/2014 9:57:04 AM
Well , after tonight I plan on cutting down on my drinking !

I mean it's really getting out of hand , so I plan on forcing myself to get back to enjoying life SOBER .
 CharminC
Joined: 2/19/2011
Msg: 8
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Posted: 12/31/2014 10:02:00 AM
On Xmas eve I had a migraine which continued well into the next day. It got so unbearable I was in tears (which is rare because tough me never cries ) and throwing up. It was localized behind my left eye.
I was in emergency all day and night Xmas day. After two IVs full of painkillers finally ceased the pain, I was sent home with a red, sore and blurry eye.

The next day, Boxing day, I finally broke up (for good) the man I had been seeing on and off the last six months. I couldn't text him to come and take me to the hospital because I knew he wouldn't. Too busy with his kids.
If it was the other way around, I would be there in a heartbeat.

So there I was, spent the weekend in bed alone with the painful blurry eye, resting hoping it would go away and asking for someone to come and help me fulfill my prescriptions for the painkillers. People were sorry I was in pain but too busy to come my way.

Monday, I went to my GP who personally drove me to emergency who then sent me to an eye specialists.
Turns out the migraine was from glaucoma. Pain and blindness was from pressure built up.
I had laser surgery to relieve the pressure and now taking eye drops. The vision loss is still there.
I'm scared.

I was my own pillar of strength during one of the worst and lonely times of my life
and gave so much of myself to man in the name of "building a relationship" only to be rendered half blind and alone.
Given my situation, this whole, how to improve yourself blah blah blah, compatibility blah blah blah is bs.


2015
I'd be happy to just see again and have someone I can call to take me to the hospital.
That's all I ask for
is it too much?



(mic drops)
 TALL_IQ2
Joined: 12/22/2014
Msg: 9
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Posted: 12/31/2014 10:12:48 AM

I was my own pillar of strength during one of the worst and lonely times of my life
and gave so much of myself to man in the name of "building a relationship" only to be rendered half blind and alone.


Wow, sorry that happened to you. Is it acute angle-closure glaucoma? What did your opthamologist say?

If the pressure on the optic nerve was relieved, I believe that some of your vision loss could improve over time. So glad you have had treatment.

Your story may help some of us put our own trials and tribulations into a better perspective. As I say, HEALTH IS number one!

All of the Forumites, do whatever you can NOW to improve your health as much as you possibly can DO!

S
 Kay9876
Joined: 7/4/2012
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Posted: 12/31/2014 10:14:44 AM
Charmin, my heart goes out to you. May 2015 bring you hope and a thoughtful, kind man to share the good times and help with the hard times.
 forumfellathesequel
Joined: 7/28/2014
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Posted: 12/31/2014 10:17:47 AM
Sorry to hear about that Charmin, :(...I would gladly drive you wherever...just need about a weeks notice. ;)

not the ideal holidays too say the least, I hope things get better quickly...but remember what Robin Williams said( in case it's on your bucket list), blind people shouldn't skydve..it scares the sh1t outta their dog. :D
Personally I have to gather my nerves and start using my AZ license in 2015, gotta break outta my shell and try new things and put myself out there more.
Happy 2015 too all!
 _shakti_
Joined: 2/22/2014
Msg: 12
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Posted: 12/31/2014 10:20:43 AM
What a horrid Christmas experience Charmin! I'm so sorry you had to deal with all of that, I hope that your vision returns and you find someone who is able to give as much as you do

Given my situation, this whole, how to improve yourself blah blah blah, compatibility blah blah blah is bs.
No kidding!

Not that there's anything wrong with wanting to improve yourself, but for the record, mine was not to attract a mate. I'll always want to improve upon myself, it's just who am.
 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
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Posted: 12/31/2014 10:23:35 AM
Damn, CharminC, that was a very bad experience you went through. I really hope your eye gets better.

That last relationship sounds kind of “iffy” to me. “Seeing on and off the last six months”, “too busy with his kids” to “come and take me to the hospital”. When you say, “I finally broke up”, I don’t think you had much of anything to break up.

I don’t have a SO to turn to if I were in need of help. And I don’t have any relatives who live close enough to conveniently ask, although I’ve got both a nephew and a niece who would drive 2 hours to come and help me if I asked. I am fortunate to have friends that would come through for me if I needed them to.

Perhaps you should concentrate in the new year on forging some better / closer friendships? . Have you considered “Meetup”? I have made some pretty good friends there.
 FullMoonGuy
Joined: 3/7/2014
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Posted: 12/31/2014 10:34:40 AM
Time to take a good realistic look at yourself,


Done.


evaluate what changes you CAN DO for self-improvement starting NOW


Well, since I am already......

Very healthy, well-rounded, down to earth, low-maintenance, not married/never married, no kids, non smoker, no drugs, no diseases, no medications, no addictions, no allergies, no special diets, no criminal record, love animals, have eclectic interests in almost every field, have a good sense of humor, and can converse on a hundred different subjects, ....

I'm not sure where to start improving.
 chameleonf
Joined: 12/22/2008
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Posted: 12/31/2014 10:40:21 AM

I'm not sure where to start improving.


Neither am I about me. Except for me, there are so many areas to improve on, that's the puzzler of where to start. I'll pick the area of procrastination...then everything else should start taking care of itself!
 flaneur001
Joined: 7/31/2011
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Posted: 12/31/2014 10:47:49 AM
Charminc,

What a tough experience. I can appreciate that you are scared. I wish that 2015 is a much better year for you!
 ladyc4
Joined: 2/14/2006
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Posted: 12/31/2014 10:53:06 AM
Char
I can completely relate to the situation you found yourself in.
Similar to what happened to you- a couple of years ago- I found myself calling 911 the last Saturday before Xmas because I finally accepted that I was REALLY sick and could NOT drive myself to an ER or urgent care center, and I did not want to bother anybody, because everyone I could think of would be so busy with pre-holiday activity.
Turns out I had pneumonia and was developing sepsis so a good thing I called paramedics.
But I can appreciate the position you were in.
It can become a mindset to HATE to have to ask for help, to develop a lifestyle focused on proving how strong/tough you are.

I actually don't know as I learned much, I was able to reach out to friends& family for help while I was in the hospital, but once I achieved a level of recovery allowing me to return home, I'm back to being Ms Independent-as-a-hog-on-ice. Probably to my long-run detriment. But ya play the hand you're dealt.

You will be in my thoughts and prayers for optimum recovery. Hang in there, kid. Medical science can do AMAZING things these days.
Cindy O
 activemelaney
Joined: 9/8/2012
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Posted: 12/31/2014 11:03:26 AM
More dancing!

My guy signed us up for more dance lessons in January. Yay! Lindy Hop. Time to crank up the speed of our jiving. I just need to be prepared to be tossed around more. Good thing I still bend and tend to bounce rather than break when I hit the floor. Bless his soul...he's not exactly Fred Astaire but I'd like to put together a routine and compete in one of the amateur dance competitions next Fall.

Ha! I must dance around the house at least an hour every evening... Perhaps I'm actually some possessed mentally disturbed patient in an institution. Crank up the music and I can't keep still. We went dancing for 2 hours yesterday, he dropped me off and I danced on my own for another hour or so.

Odd thing is we don't start the New year dancing. We go for a late evening hike and have a cup of hot wine around the campfire. So cozy.

Other than more dancing?... starting Pickle ball next week (don't ask). Never tried it but should be fun to have an inside sport to keep the body limber during our rainy season

^^^Charmin.
Eye related issues are not my field but don't get too anxious. It's a real positive you had such quick access to laser surgery. It would be weirder if you did not have temporary blurry vision for a few weeks afterwards . Also, eye drops are not generic so they have various effects. Anyways, this is almost 2015 and glaucoma prognosis is so much better than even a decade ago. Your doctor needs to be commended. It's great that he is there as an advocate to guide you in the system.
 BLoNDeANGeL845
Joined: 6/10/2014
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Posted: 12/31/2014 11:10:30 AM
Dear Charmin,
Every cloud has a silver lining. I think this year will bring u a GOOD MAN + GOOD FRIENDS. I am glad ur GP knew enough to take u to a specialist & I think soon ur vision will improve.

FEEL ALL THE LOVE & SUPPORT just in this thread alone?

XoX
 CharminC
Joined: 2/19/2011
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Posted: 12/31/2014 11:16:34 AM
I'm back to being Ms Independent-as-a-hog-on-ice. Probably to my long-run detriment. But ya play the hand you're dealt.

No shyt lol
ditto baby... ditto


The whole point of my post was not to field a pity party but thank you all nonetheless. Very,very kind of you xo
The point though is when I saw the words improvement, I'm thinking we can do all that we can, building ourselves up to exactly who we want to be to live the life we want and be with the person we want and yet................stuff can and will still happen.

You can still meet the wrong person
You can still not succeed
My point is.....................no delusions..... please. None!
Yes... do what you can for YOU but with no delusions.


Now.. allow me to add some positives with all this doom and gloom.....
there is ALWAYS a chance you will find the right person and
you can succeed
in other words
along with no delusions, never give up


how's that for self improvement? *snickers


edit*
Yes blondie, I do.. I do *smiles

Suddenly I have a craving to read the comics. *grabs a newspaper
 CTRLvector
Joined: 9/21/2014
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Posted: 12/31/2014 11:19:47 AM
I employ self improvement more frequently than annum inspired resolution. That seems like more of a potential loophole to perpetuate negative habit/lifestyle. Mainly because it leaves long periods of perpetual, uninterrupted procrastination, with a singular potential that is more of a trivial way of identifying problems, than it is of hoping for pragmatism.

You get one chance a year to make a change, failing that, you can procrastinate to the next year. Seems, odd, I've never resolved to change vis a vis annum.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 5/19/2005
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Posted: 12/31/2014 12:03:21 PM
I'm sorry for your troubles, Charminc, and I wish you the very best in
2015.

I'm going to stop procrastinating. I have several projects going at one time,
and I always ALWAYS leave them until the last possible second to finish them.
I think about them often, and I have plans to finish them, but then...ohhh look...
a chicken!

Who am I kidding...I'll not stop procrastinating...I work best under pressure and
things always work out in the end.

I'll have to think of something else to improve upon.
I'll think on it and get back to you. :o)
 Fire_and_Ice4_You
Joined: 10/28/2014
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Posted: 12/31/2014 12:33:56 PM

I'm sorry for your troubles, Charminc, and I wish you the very best in
2015

Ditto!

I am a lot like you Browneyes...lots on the go and need to getter done!
I sometimes over think myself into a paralysis mode for the things that can be put off.
Other than that....my physical health...I need to start on a regular exercise routine and take better care of myself.
Also my mental health...I have been a worrier/fixer all my life and have got to step back and let things evolve and just let it be...for my own sake.
This is stuff for "me" and my well being...not too worried about a SO...anymore.
If it happens...it happens.
 Qura
Joined: 8/5/2014
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Posted: 12/31/2014 1:58:34 PM
So sorry, charmin. I had to drive myself to the ER with pre-term labor once because the ex was passed out drunk. I was my own rock during my marriage and of course now that I am single again.

As for self-improvement, well, there is always something! I want to heal and then strengthen my Achilles so I can jog for many more years. I do not back off my exercise routine very well, so this is a real challenge for me. I hope I can report success in six months to a year!
 daynadaze
Joined: 2/11/2008
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Posted: 12/31/2014 4:34:11 PM
In 2015 I am hoping to have mad powers to cause a reaction in the universe that will give me the winning ticket to the overwhelmingly, outrageously highest-ever lottery jackpot. Then I'm going to pay off all my kids' bills and get my teeth fixed.
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