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 camranaway1
Joined: 11/28/2014
Msg: 1
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Hey everyone, Ive been on here a while and I have some self esteem issues atm,

First being that In real life I have gone on a lot of nights out with friends and I get girls that I find attractive around me telling me im good looking etc, I like that sort of attention for some reason, I mean more than a compliment I really like it lol. That's on nights out and I'm fairly confident in myself but not confident (YET) approaching girls and such.. *working on it..

My question is here that I like a lot of girls profiles (majority being older than me slightly) and they mostly view and pass my profile, This often makes me question if im as good looking as I think I am? kind of affects my ego, lol I'm only 19 and maybe I'm in the wrong place? I dont have many friends IRL as i've moved away and for some reason im struggling to socialise as Im finding myself.
 GreenThumbz18
Joined: 4/25/2012
Msg: 2
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Posted: 1/26/2015 4:24:35 PM
Your ego isn't gonna get much happiness if you have sub-standard photos on your profile. How can those girls see your total studliness with low-quality selfies?
Help them out by taking new, sharp, well-lit photos that allow those poor lasses to gaze upon your beauty. Think of how happy they will be !
Look here to see what a "good" photo looks like, then compare to yours. http://www.headshots101.com/
Remember, the girls can't see "you", they can only see what you have posted on your profile.
 Forums_only
Joined: 7/20/2014
Msg: 3
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Posted: 1/26/2015 6:13:18 PM

maybe I'm in the wrong place?

Perhaps. Do they have a free f-buddy site where you live?

The naked torso shot is not only against the site rules but gives the impression you have nothing else to offer. With a skimpy profile and the intent 'nothing serious', there really is no reason for anyone looking for more than casual sex to take you seriously. Can't really tell if that was your goal, but if not, you may want to read the Profile Writing Tips in green lettering at the top of the forum page.

As you can see, it's not just about how pretty you think you are. There has to be something after the snack.
 petula1908
Joined: 8/9/2014
Msg: 4
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Posted: 1/26/2015 7:29:39 PM
You dont have a car and that can be a real dealbreaker. One of your shots you look like your legs have been cut off. Try to get full length shots and get rid of the selfie and the shirtless pic. Not classy. You can find someone that can take decent pics of you, surely.
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Girls look at more than just your looks, the stats etc are very important. You are very young yet and I would concentrate on real life where you can see what you are actually getting. You need a very thick skin on dating sites like these where you will get the inevitable rejections.

YOu need to find a common interests group where you can find people in a healthier situation to socialise with. Perhaps ask the guys you work with if they have friends they can introduce you to.
 CuriousInDB
Joined: 7/12/2014
Msg: 5
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Posted: 1/27/2015 11:05:58 AM
With all due respect, Forums_only:



maybe I'm in the wrong place?

Perhaps. Do they have a free f-buddy site where you live?

The naked torso shot is not only against the site rules but gives the impression you have nothing else to offer. With a skimpy profile and the intent 'nothing serious', there really is no reason for anyone looking for more than casual sex to take you seriously. Can't really tell if that was your goal, but if not, you may want to read the Profile Writing Tips in green lettering at the top of the forum page.

As you can see, it's not just about how pretty you think you are. There has to be something after the snack.



This young man is 19 years old. We sent him to profile reviews. I posted that, if he were respectful, most people would be "nice" to him.

Good for you, Cam. I'm glad you're here. Everyone who has posted before me has been here longer than I have, so I stuck my neck out here for you, kiddo.

Just laugh at whatever insults come and take all the good stuff away. This is POF boot camp.
Why are people just passing my profile? and more
Posted: 1/27/2015 1:14:39 PM
Its not your looks, but confidence will boost how attractive you are to women/employers/connections in all aspects of your life.


At 19 you have tons of competition wanting the same gals you are attracted to online.
Many have careers/good jobs/cars/nice flats and can show young girls a really good time.

I hate to say that I think you are in for a big let down further in your confidence online at 19.
Men have lived with women for centuries and 99.99% still dont get what makes them tick.

Forget it for now( unless you are willing to look at a diff type/age ranges of women)
Make yourself get out and interact with people in general. You will develop social skills,develop more confidence and rejection (which is inevitable) will get easier.Further your ambitions to other than women for now. Work and study hard.

Your time will come.

Anyhoo
Pics have to flatter you and be clear enough to see you.
You have to really stand out.Sound fun.FUN!!!
You need a decent paying job, esp at your age to attract 25 and under as girls that are hot/attractive and dont want to sit at home.
Ones with good intentions for the most part dont need to be on here.
Its for older folk.


If you look at early 30's or "less hot" girls you may actually find some are fun and interesting to you ,also could learn something that will benefit you down the road.
You can find out "what "on your own.
 ScooterSB
Joined: 8/25/2011
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Posted: 1/27/2015 1:37:40 PM
First picture looks like an advert for a phone. Second there's no way of knowing it's you, and also it looks like you have a broken rib.


You are 19 and a bricklayer, which university did you go to. Your profile says you have "some university" somehow I feel this is not true. Do not lie in your profile.




Hey,

Im 19, love kedping busy not long lived in worksop originally from derby !

Id Love to meet a nice girl just enjoy spending some time, would love to meet someome who is on the same wavelength :)

Message me


Why? Why should a woman message you? What reasons are there for a woman to date you over the millions of other on this site? What makes you special and unique? Why are you so amazing?


Even if you keep it as it it (you shouldnt) bit if you do make sure it's:

Hey,

I'm 19, and I love keeping busy. I've not long lived in Worksop and am originally from Derby.

I'd love to meet a nice girl just enjoy spending some time together. I would love to meet someome who is on the same wavelength :)

Message me
 Forums_only
Joined: 7/20/2014
Msg: 8
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Posted: 1/27/2015 6:15:54 PM

This often makes me question if im as good looking as I think I am?


This alone tells me you have been getting by on your looks for years. It's going to be a hard adjustment. Again, if you want something of substance, you have to offer substance.

Will wait until you edit with effort.

ps - was not intending anything earlier as an insult, just a gut reaction to a profile that gives off that impression. Only you can change it, IF you want to.
 ozsealady1
Joined: 6/13/2013
Msg: 9
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Posted: 1/27/2015 6:24:34 PM
I agree.
Good looks and charm works for a while.

Your profile is screaming that you are seeking a F buddy.
Or lots of them.

If that is what you are seeking then fine.

If your intention is other.... you need more substance.
 earwigs_have_wings
Joined: 10/16/2014
Msg: 10
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Posted: 1/28/2015 8:49:18 AM
If you have better luck irl why are you on an online dating site? Youngins such as yourself don't need OLD.

Regarding your profile, your photos are horrible (not face on) and you have no information about yourself. What you have written is also double spaced making it awkward to read. Anyhow, close your account and come back in twenty years.
 alloverag
Joined: 8/17/2014
Msg: 11
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Posted: 1/29/2015 7:48:08 AM
can u check out mines miss
 CuriousInDB
Joined: 7/12/2014
Msg: 12
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Posted: 1/29/2015 7:54:10 AM
^^^alloverag, you gotta post your own profile review.

Use this link and click on the red, white and blue New Thread icon in the upper left-hand corner of the page. There you go.

http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingForum94.aspx


Your profile still needs work, Cam.
 earwigs_have_wings
Joined: 10/16/2014
Msg: 13
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Posted: 1/29/2015 9:30:51 AM

can u check out mines miss

Not sure who you're asking to check out your profile, but upon reading some of it maybe some women would like to see dose bootiful brown eyes your speak of.

As mentioned above, go to profile review if you're serious about having your profile critiqued (I didn't get through it all, but maybe others will).
 Bebedeleau
Joined: 2/25/2013
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Posted: 1/30/2015 12:44:44 PM
1) I would put either 9 or 12 interests in the interest section. It looks tidy in multiples of 3. People use those key words to search others who have those words in their own interest section.

2) You need a good head shot. It should be good lighting (outside preferred) and show your eyes clearly. Women want to see your eyes usually. Your pictures are too focused on showing your body. It's ok to have one of those, but when they are all that way it appears to be that you are selling your body, not you, and/or you are looking for hook ups.

3) Tell us about your self.

4) State what you are looking for in a partner but be very very careful not to be specific. You don't want to write something like "I prefer brunettes" and eliminate everyone except brunettes from contacting you. Something like "must have a great sense of humor" will turn away the serious types.

5) I personally like profiles that 'feel' like the person is speaking directly to you, such as writing "We can ... " in the first date section.

6) Read other people's profiles, especially the middle aged people. They tend to 'know' their selves better and can portray that in their words. That's what you want to do.

7) When the reader finishes reading your profile they should have a sense of who you are (your personality), have a little smile, and feel safe to reach out and contact you.

8) Avoid too many "I"s

9) Paragraphs of 3-5 sentences are usually easiest to read.

10) Proofread then have someone else proofread (might be a good way to strike up a conversation with someone you are interested in ... find a GOOD profile and then email that person with a heading saying "I have a question...." and let them know you are doing a profile overview and ask for their opinion, not letting them out with a "it's good" ... tell them you want honest advice ... how do you feel reading it, are there errors, what would you want it to say if it was someone you were interested in dating, etc.
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