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 GreenThumbz18
Joined: 4/25/2012
Msg: 2
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Hi Sam - Drop the chloroform line, it is poisonous to your profile.
I would also delete one pic that shows you drinking, one of those is enough.
Good luck.
 call_me_tater
Joined: 12/30/2014
Msg: 3
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Posted: 1/28/2015 11:37:24 AM
Hi Sam,

1 in 10 response isn't bad but we can do better.


I'm a pretty laid-back, easy-going, thoughtful guy with lots of interests and I'm not a ****(although the latter is entirely my own opinion and may not be true).
Women aren't looking for laid back. Cliche here.
They want excitement and passion. They can be bored on their own.


ere's what my friend Alistair said about me. 'Sam is one of the funniest guys I have had the pleasure to meet, I've never met anyone else who can pull off deadpan humour quite like him! He has ambitions for getting places, which includes moving up the job ladder although he still finds time to go cycling and relax with his friends. He's a great pianist! He used to always try to play more, but I think he's getting back into it now so he can play more gigs like he used to. Someone who is chilled out, but still likes to have an active life would be perfect with Sam'.
Ah, the dreaded friend reference/recommendation.
Looks silly, so just speak confidently about yourself.
What friend ever delivers a paragraph like this anyway?
Especially at your age where it's usually name calling and insults among real friends.


So if I sound like I'm remotely appealing and someone you would like to talk to, then feel free to send me a message. If not the 'back button' is located in the top left of your internet browser.
Lame and weak.

Where did you read the advice you got?

Write about yourself showing personality and humor.
What's it like to hang out/date Sam?
What do you do in free time?
What type of young lady interests you?
Use your humor, but not in every sentence.
 GreenThumbz18
Joined: 4/25/2012
Msg: 6
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Posted: 1/28/2015 11:46:00 AM
Also try not to chop off the top of your head in your pics. You do that twice here.
 Ouija2025
Joined: 6/11/2014
Msg: 7
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Posted: 1/28/2015 11:56:29 AM
Hi Sam
You are super super cute
But see, I repeat myself just like you do - about Sam hi my name is Sam and I'm 24. We already SEE that :)
Is your friend coming along as a dating coach? Of course he is your friend, cause he says nice things about you! What do your enemies think Sam? "p
Another laid back Man. How rare. not. Don't pepper your dating profile with cliches.. give her something to be excited about when you msg her. To me lists of movies, etc is like saying
" I was born a baby"
Don't ask her to msg you, she will if she wants. Plus it isn't a " quizzing" game so you have to give info to be able to have a convo hmm
Use the cap photo. Get rid of this one you using as a Main. FB maybe.
I prolly would have liked the cloro line. One of my fav dating lines involves Mace
 CuriousInDB
Joined: 7/12/2014
Msg: 8
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Posted: 1/28/2015 12:05:06 PM
Pics 1 (what's going on there?) and 3 (drinking) and 4 (top of head missing) need to go.

Please, please remove all mailing restrictions.
 CuriousInDB
Joined: 7/12/2014
Msg: 11
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Posted: 1/28/2015 12:58:47 PM
Main pic much better than previous.

Sam, what we offer here are suggestions, but you'll find that when you don't heed advice, you will lose some of your helpers here.

Why on earth is the red-eyed boozing with the lads photo still up on your profile? Sure, I know drinking is the national past time over there, so I'd think the only Brits who need to mention drinking at all are those that don't drink. What is it you like about that photo?

Fantastic on the mail restrictions. Just weed them out in your inbox, if you should be that lucky.

And I love my Brits so no offense (or "offence") intended, young man. We drink too much here, too.
 call_me_tater
Joined: 12/30/2014
Msg: 13
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Posted: 1/28/2015 1:17:12 PM
Sam,

You had some good stuff in that paragraph from your friend; I meant that you should rework it so it's coming from you :)
It's up above if you want to copy it back in.

You have a good sense of humor so work that back in.

Throw in the cooking line from your old write up; just don't use titles for paragraphs.
Sometimes a lot of advice is overwhelming...absorb as you can.
I didn't see you rejecting advice.

Elaborate on a couple of your interests. Any funny stories?

When you describe your future gf, what personality traits attract you aside from common interests?
Shy or outgoing, girly or tomboy, indoors or outdoors...you get the idea.
 Ouija2025
Joined: 6/11/2014
Msg: 14
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Posted: 1/28/2015 1:17:51 PM
It is getting better Sam :) Lose the cursing ( POF even censors Coktails )
You have cooking as an Interest - then the microwave.. no, put the cheesecake back!
Try not to use so many I's
Instead of saying " they don't do a table for one" why not make it more personal? IDK, " always looking for a new Italian place to try - do you have a favorite?"
having both casino and poker makes me thing you spend a fair amt of time gambling
First date - aww, that reads so formal. No . of course it should be fun
What about Gelato and a wander about, something local that is fun to visit, a trip to your favorite pub for a pint? remember first date is first meet.. pick someplace public, inexpensive ( don't buy dinner) then if you get along you two can plan the actual " firstie"
Tater we typed same time, thought same things! gmta
 Literate_Hiker
Joined: 1/1/2015
Msg: 16
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Posted: 1/28/2015 2:08:14 PM
According to Urban Dictionary, "laid back" is defined as:

"Repressive, apathetic, does not care enough, brain dead, has no pulse, unlively, passive or passive aggressive, not caring enough, slow paced, follower mind set, compatible, middle American, lack of passion, lack of drive, bland, boring, white bread American.

"laid back is another way to describe a culture, community or a person that tends to be repressive, apathetic, passive, submissive, slow, lack of passion or drive, and or lacks guts!"
 PurpleZebra12
Joined: 10/9/2013
Msg: 18
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Posted: 1/28/2015 9:16:33 PM
I hate the term "laid back". In my experience, it often translates to lazy, indecisive and/or apathetic. "Easy going" is another overused term on this site, so I would avoid it. "Flexible" might be a better term if you feel it suits you.


Nothing beats going for the real thing
Homemade food from a guy I like *always* beats out restaurant food. Even if the food is inedible and we ultimately have to order takeout, he made a genuine effort. Don't underestimate the power of cooking.


I will try and show you that decent men do exist and that going on that first date wasn't a mistake
So she is going to share your hobbies and make you laugh and push you to be a better person and be your new best friend, while you will... not cheat/abuse? Being "decent" is the least you could do for her. What else do you have to offer her besides not being a jerk?
 Tarnished_Knight
Joined: 3/5/2009
Msg: 19
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Posted: 1/28/2015 10:40:11 PM
Dude,

Don't let others define you.
Laid Back: relaxed, easygoing, free and easy, casual, nonchalant, unexcitable, imperturbable, unruffled, blasé, cool, equable, even-tempered, nonconfrontational, low-maintenance, insouciant, calm, unperturbed, unflustered, unflappable, unworried, unconcerned, unbothered

Growing up, "laid back" was not a term of derision as the previous posters made it out to be. If you are any of the defs listed above, I would put it back in. You're a CNC programmer, production controller, and I'm sure a number of other skill positions that support the two listed. If "laid back" fits, use it.

TK
 GreenThumbz18
Joined: 4/25/2012
Msg: 20
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Posted: 1/28/2015 11:50:02 PM
I'm not gonna tell anybody how to describe themselves, but words tend to run in cycles of popularity, and their meanings may morph into something very different than as used 4 or 5 decades ago. That's why we cannot read Olde English without a dictionary, we all speak English, but Good Lord,, what words are those ? ? ?
Happy people are no longer gay(although they might be).
Enjoying yourself isn't swell.
Buzzed isn't something to be proud of.(like it was when I was in high school)
Nerd is not a put-down.
Retard is taboo.
See what I mean?
 CuriousInDB
Joined: 7/12/2014
Msg: 21
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Posted: 1/29/2015 6:58:56 AM
Good on removing the drinking pic. Did you add the parrot pic after? That's a great pic.

And another looking really good. What a nice day in profile review.

On the "do you want children" question, how about "undecided/open" (I think that's the option) instead of "prefer not to say"?

Put a period where that comma is in your first date.

You're ready to roll. I like it, Sam.
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