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 jwidower3666
Joined: 3/5/2015
Msg: 1
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There are a lot of players on here who say they are not who they are.You have to be careful about who you reply to. They lie to you about things.
Also it is rude not to answer your reply at all.If you're not interested in a person just say so instead of ignoring them.
 bluemoon24_7
Joined: 4/18/2014
Msg: 2
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Posted: 3/9/2015 3:22:22 PM
You are correct, there are a lot of players on here so you have to be careful who you talk to, trust your instincts, ask lots of questions, meet in a public place and don't give out your personal information.

As to not sending a reply, some folks always reply politely with a "thank you but no thanks". I rarely reply to someone I'm not interested in because when I do say "not interested" I get "what's the matter, aren't I good enough for you Princess" or other rude comments. So, I take a non response as an automatic "no thanks". I suggest youndo the same.

Take it slow, try not to get your feelings hurt. We aware and have fun.
 CrookCatcher
Joined: 7/14/2014
Msg: 3
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Posted: 3/9/2015 4:07:55 PM

You have to be careful about who you reply to. They lie to you about things.


Here? Not a chance.....

All joking aside jwidower3666 you probably will be in for quite a eye opening experience. Some lie, some don't.

The "players" are probably more so on the dating side than in the forums. There are a few here I suppose, but try as they may they're still here.

I used to be in the alway's reply camp, but after you get nailed with the snotty comments enough you see what the no reply is a reply camp is all about.

Good luck in your search! Helps to have a thick skin. :)
 VolkanoKing
Joined: 8/1/2014
Msg: 4
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Posted: 3/9/2015 4:32:22 PM
You just asked and answered a question in the same post.

I dont know if you are referring to women replying, although so far 100% of the posts here are about exactly that. Many men get abusive and pushy when you write back and say "thanks but no thanks." I USED to reply back to everyone, and then I started to get the men who would not let it drop, figuring they had a foot in the door since I wrote back. They would drag it out asking me why I didnt find them attractive, wanting me to explain myself.

Some men got nasty and abusive, insulting my looks, my sexuality and calling me names. A couple stalked me to other dating sites and would write again expressing their glee that I was still single and looking.

There are alot of nutcases online. Weird, creepy social retards, abusers, goons, loons, guys who cant take no for an answer, or just revert to playing games because who cares, we aren't really "real" people anyway. It's just a bunch of faceless ghosts online, so let's just screw around like sociopaths.

Also, and here's a concept for ya-women dont owe you ANYTHING, And I'll extend this to men too. When I used to date online, I wrote to plenty of men who never wrote back. So what?

Women block and delete because they are trying to be safe. Alot of men laugh at how careful women seem to be...how could a man possibly understand how it feels like to feel the vulnerability that women feel? Even online..and now, these days, ESPECIALLY with online, there's a whole new way to abuse women.

Men need to understand the a woman's sense of *safety and security* with a man is JOB NUMBER ONE. This may not even register on the radar for most men, least of all guys online who I am convinced represent a far more selfish and angry component of the singles world.

You MUST protect yourself from abuse. So, we simply block and delete men are are not interested in. Pretty simple.


You can thank the a@@holes online who came before you, spewing their hate and rage at women who say "no thanks."

Don't whine to US about it. We're just trying to keep our sanity intact.
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 5
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Posted: 3/9/2015 5:40:42 PM
How exactly do you know there are a lot of players here? And what is your definition of a player? If someone dates multiple people and is not exclusively committed to any of them. that does not make them a player. The habit to call someone a player is very popular here, because a lot of people assume that if they start to contact someone and the person doesn't immediately delete or hide their profile or mention they're contacting others, they're a player-even if they haven't met in real life. And a lot of people make the same assumption after a first meet or date, even if they didn't have the exclusive talk, and the other person has made plans for a date with someone else.

Everybody is free to date other people, and that should only change if both agree to not date others. OP-did you have the exclusive talk with someone, and that person decided to date someone else? That doesn't make players rampant here. Maybe she decided that you two weren't a good match, but didn't have the guts to tell you and she moved on. I have no idea if there are a lot of players, since I or anybody else never took a survey. Even if someone attempted to, how would you get truthful answers?
 VolkanoKing
Joined: 8/1/2014
Msg: 6
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Posted: 3/9/2015 6:10:25 PM
The revelation of a person being a player is when you actually meet them for that first date and realize their profiles was falsified, and that their desire for a relationship..which they clearly state they want..rather than a one night stand, was a lie.

Pretty simple.
 Literate_Hiker
Joined: 1/1/2015
Msg: 7
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Posted: 3/9/2015 6:22:03 PM

volkanoking: A lot of men laugh at how careful women seem to be...how could a man possibly understand how it feels like to feel the vulnerability that women feel? ESPECIALLY with online, there's a whole new way to abuse women

Exactly.

Today a man lashed out meanly after I said his photos were too blurry and dark to see him. "You are as unattractive inside as your unattractive outside!" he replied. "Good luck finding a man, you ugly old grannie!" I was taken aback by his meanness.

This from the man whose previously wrote, "You have the market cornered on cuteness."
 adventurejoe70
Joined: 3/1/2013
Msg: 8
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Posted: 3/9/2015 6:46:17 PM

There are a lot of players on here who say they are not who they are.

So to reiterate..you are saying there are many people on here who actually tell you they aren't whom they say they are?

So they are honestly telling you that they aren't whom they say they were? So for example Adventurejoe is really Adventurejason? (Actually most here I assume know my name isn't Joe!)
Volcano is your name really Volcano? (COMMENCE WITH THE EYE ROLLS)


You have to be careful about who you reply to. They lie to you about things.


So you are saying here that you have to be careful to whom you reply to..is that correct?:)
But you also say.....

Also it is rude not to answer your reply at all. If you're not interested in a person just say so instead of ignoring them.


Hold on. So let me get this straight..tell me like I am a 4 yr old( I might be since we aren't whom we say we are)

It seems like you are saying that you have to be careful with whom you reply to but at the same time you criticize those who don't reply as being rude. Am I missing something here? You also say they aren't the person they say they are and lie( imagine that) but are rude for NOT replying.

Ah I see !Confusion over!

Oh yeah...hate the game and not the player seems to really apply here since NO response = no interest!


I am glad that we now know what a player is! Takes one to know one!
 ozsealady1
Joined: 6/13/2013
Msg: 9
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Posted: 3/9/2015 7:20:43 PM
Love it Literate.


I had a man today tell me that the reason I am single and will die alone is because I could not understand his text speak and asked for a smiling photo.


OP.

Sadly lots of people lie.
In real life and on line.

They will tell you what you want to hear to get what they want to get.

OP I am not sure of your definition of player.
Are you getting lots of women wooing you and telling your beautiful things to have sex with you then disappear?
 DietFree
Joined: 11/1/2012
Msg: 10
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Posted: 3/9/2015 8:08:03 PM

Also it is rude not to answer your reply at all.If you're not interested in a person just say so instead of ignoring them.

How the hell do you answer your own reply?

Op, do you answer all those junk mail (ads for products) that you get? You know...the Viagra, the porno, the Russian women and all the other miscellaneous junk mail? I bet you don't.

The women get tons of "hi there" and "let's hook up" e-mail on this site....they're not going to answer them.
 FullMoonGuy
Joined: 3/7/2014
Msg: 11
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Posted: 3/9/2015 8:43:21 PM

And what is your definition of a player?.


A person who wears a jersey with their name and a number on it.
But not those people who wear other people's jerseys.
Like 5' 2" blonde women who wear a "Bryant 24" jersey.
Those are wanna be players.


I used to be in the alway's reply camp, but after you get nailed with the snotty comments enough you see what the no reply is a reply camp is all about.



They would drag it out asking me why I didnt find them attractive, wanting me to explain myself.


People only get "nailed" and it only gets dragged out when the rejecters actually open the rejectee's nasty/abusive emails, rather than deleting them unread, and ending it right there.


So for example Adventurejoe is really Adventurejason? (Actually most here I assume know my name isn't Joe!)


Oh no.
Say it ain't so, Joe.


I had a man today tell me that the reason I am single and will die alone is because I could not understand his text speak and asked for a smiling photo.


Obviously, he doesn't know what he is talking about.
When clearly, the reason you are single and will die alone is because you cannot find a man who revels in the joy of life.
:)
 VolkanoKing
Joined: 8/1/2014
Msg: 12
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Posted: 3/9/2015 8:53:00 PM
"Today a man lashed out meanly after I said his photos were too blurry and dark to see him. "You are as unattractive inside as your unattractive outside!" he replied. "Good luck finding a man, you ugly old grannie!" I was taken aback by his meanness.

This from the man whose previously wrote, "You have the market cornered on cuteness."

The sudden turn around is comedy gold! One second they are fantasizing about you and the next yer a dried up old c*nt!

And this is the reaction you get if you simply tell a guy hey, I cant see you, your photos are kinda dark or blurry.

Can you imagine what would happen if you were late for a date or something? You'd have a bullet in your head. I mean, you'd never even be able to make it to the relationship stage..you'd be so beat and up and so dead like 100 times over!

PS-

That's Volkano Da King, if you want to know my full name. Don't wear it out.
 adventurejoe70
Joined: 3/1/2013
Msg: 13
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Posted: 3/9/2015 9:13:02 PM

Oh no.
Say it ain't so, Joe.


Don't worry Fullmoon, I will always be Joe for you. But if I hear Joey I will get a bit uncomfortable!

That's Volkano Da King, if you want to know my full name. Don't wear it out.

HAHAHA
 ozsealady1
Joined: 6/13/2013
Msg: 14
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Posted: 3/9/2015 9:47:49 PM

I had a man today tell me that the reason I am single and will die alone is because I could not understand his text speak and asked for a smiling photo.


Obviously, he doesn't know what he is talking about.
When clearly, the reason you are single and will die alone is because you cannot find a man who revels in the joy of life.
:)


^^^ Quite right.
Although I have a first meet from here on Thursday with a very cheeky fellow who certainly revels in the joy of life.
Our phone and typing conversations so far have been hilarious.


I hope he is not worried that I am a player and only want to use him for his dopamine.
 Eric_Summit
Joined: 11/3/2009
Msg: 15
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Posted: 3/9/2015 10:13:09 PM
Love is often like atmospheric conditions in that thunder only happens when it's raining.
Based upon what you may have observed, players only love you when they're playing.
 FullMoonGuy
Joined: 3/7/2014
Msg: 16
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Posted: 3/9/2015 10:20:19 PM

Based upon what you may have observed, players only love you when they're playing.



Love is often like atmospheric conditions


Love is also like oxygen
You get too much, you get too high
Not enough and you're gonna die
Love gets you high


Love is often like atmospheric conditions


Yes, the atmospheric conditions on Uranus:

"I've had the blues the reds and the pinks
One thing for sure

(Love stinks)
Love stinks yeah, yeah
(Love stinks)
Love stinks yeah, yeah
(Love stinks)
Love stinks yeah, yeah
(Love stinks)
Love stinks yeah, yeah"
 CTRLvector
Joined: 9/21/2014
Msg: 17
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Posted: 3/10/2015 2:15:21 AM
Oh damn guy, its you - Mr. nice guy - the one who lives on nice guy lane, on the corner of player hater avenue - and when Mr. nice guy goes to sleep at night, his very dreams turn into plight.
For
Players are the bogymen who haunt his very life, and turn his dreams to nightmares, oh what a dreary life...

...Because it’s Mr. nice guy....

And he is just trying to protect your dignity and vagina... so he can have it and love it forever.
 kj521
Joined: 8/8/2012
Msg: 18
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Posted: 3/10/2015 3:09:40 AM
Say...Women...they will come and they will go

When the rain washes you clean...you'll know....you will know!
 Never_in_Life
Joined: 1/13/2015
Msg: 19
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Posted: 3/10/2015 3:57:45 AM

Oh damn guy, its you - Mr. nice guy - the one who lives on nice guy lane, on the corner of player hater avenue - and when Mr. nice guy goes to sleep at night, his very dreams turn into plight.
For
Players are the bogymen who haunt his very life, and turn his dreams to nightmares, oh what a dreary life...

...Because it’s Mr. nice guy....

And he is just trying to protect your dignity and vagina... so he can have it and love it forever.


Time for a med adjustment.
 InnerGorilla
Joined: 4/1/2014
Msg: 20
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Posted: 3/10/2015 7:30:43 AM

Also it is rude not to answer your reply at all.If you're not interested in a person just say so instead of ignoring them.


It's not rude. No answer, IS an answer. If you do not like it, then you just have to get over it, because it's the way things are. A woman that gets 300 emails a week is not going to respond to all of those. Particularly since in her first week, she felt like being polite and said to the guys, thanks but no thanks, only for those guys to continue to pester her with questions of "WHY?" To then call her some expletive.
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 21
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Posted: 3/10/2015 8:19:13 AM

OP: You have to be careful about who you reply to.


The ones that don't reply are taking your advice.
 Cdan1957
Joined: 9/17/2013
Msg: 22
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Posted: 3/10/2015 9:52:35 AM
OP, a couple of things. First your definition of player isn't correct. A player is someone that hits and runs. What you are talking about is scammers. Scammers are people that aren't really interested in dating or aren't who they say they are. You might want to do a little research on the ins and outs of OLD (online dating). As far as replying to your emails, no answer is an answer, it means she is not interested. This is not a dance social where you are you are walking up to someone, asking them to dance and they turn and walk away. This is the internet and what that means is people can be total azzholes without being accountable. Unfortunately many people do. As VK wrote earlier many times a thanks but no thanks is just a beginning and not an end.

By the way, if you are serious about finding somebody online I strongly suggest a profile review.
 norwegianguy123
Joined: 10/27/2014
Msg: 23
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Posted: 3/10/2015 12:04:59 PM

Also it is rude not to answer your reply at all.If you're not interested in a person just say so instead of ignoring them.

Highly disagree, Mr Widower. Nobody's obligated when signing up to communicate with anyone who taps them on the shoulder. You're just wanting attention. Why? Because not getting a reply from an initial message to a STRANGER = no interest. Why do they need to Tell you that? Are you obsessing over their profile, WAITING a response? If so, then you're going about it All Wrong.

It's only if you start corresponding that it'd be kosher to let you know they're not interested. But to a stranger hitting them up? This isn't real life. Plus, when many reply that they're not interested, a question as to why, etc is asked, and it can become a hassle. On top of that, it can come across as Rude to someone else as well. So just go back and realize that it's an online site of 100% STRANGERS. You shouldn't be in position to write them back about anything. A no-response already lets you know they're not interested.

Don't let "your gut" be the deciding factor of what's polite/impolite. I think you are looking at the OLD scene from a slightly unfitting lens -- as if it was a potential match in the first place when you wrote them and they're in position to write back... or that it's always expected that if someone writes you, they're Waiting for a response. That's not how it is nor should work.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 5/19/2005
Msg: 24
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Posted: 3/10/2015 12:08:19 PM

The ones that don't reply are taking your advice.


That's what I was going to say!

You need better pictures first off.
Don't worry about the people who don't reply to you...they aren't
people you're interested in anyways.

And yes...you need a profile review if you are seriously looking.
 SunshineGirl__
Joined: 10/7/2014
Msg: 25
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Posted: 3/10/2015 1:04:14 PM

There are a lot of players on here who say they are not who they are.You have to be careful about who you reply to. They lie to you about things.
Also it is rude not to answer your reply at all.If you're not interested in a person just say so instead of ignoring them.


Right. All the OTHER guys are players and liars. Not you. You are not a player or a liar. You are a knight in shining cotton T-shirt. You are the “nice guy.” And since you’ve so nicely warned all us women about all those other nasty liars and players and boogeymen, YOU deserve to call women rude and demand replies. Because you are so very nice.

On behalf of all the rude women who didn’t respond to you, “not interested.”

There, is that better?
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