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 LadyEssKay
Joined: 2/13/2015
Msg: 2
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:) Hopefully, by the time one gets to the first meet, there is at least a base of repoire between the two, so not sure it would be absolutely necessary, but it is a way to weed out the questionable characters. I don't think they will be meeting at a police station if they have any outstanding issues with them.

Personally, I would think it was a bit quirky, but I would roll with it.
Police Station First Meets?
Posted: 3/28/2015 10:46:55 PM
this conversation will end up where all the other premeet/first-meet security threads go, with the women on one side saying, 'if you object to any precaution i take, it proves you have bad intent,' and the men on the other saying, 'if you need to take this many precautions to feel safe, it proves you're not emotionally stable enough to date.'
 VolkanoKing
Joined: 8/1/2014
Msg: 4
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Posted: 3/28/2015 11:11:46 PM
I will not encounter a situation where any man is going to ask to meet me at a police substation, unless he is actually a police officer himself.

In which case I would turn him down because I don't date cops.
 cooldog65
Joined: 6/27/2011
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Posted: 3/28/2015 11:17:33 PM
Police station is perfect for the users of Craigslist...except for the ones that use the escort section.
 ThePig0fYourDreams
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 6
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Posted: 3/28/2015 11:22:27 PM
No way. I don't want to be anywhere near pigs when I'm meeting up with a woman.
 Blackwood85
Joined: 5/20/2013
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Posted: 3/28/2015 11:26:08 PM

this conversation will end up where all the other premeet/first-meet security threads go, with the women on one side saying, 'if you object to any precaution i take, it proves you have bad intent,' and the men on the other saying, 'if you need to take this many precautions to feel safe, it proves you're not emotionally stable enough to date.


I'm hoping that doesn't happen, I'm hoping most women feel like volcano does.

I'm not having a meet and greet at a police station not because I have something to hide but because it's not fun, it's not comfortable. I'm hoping after we've had a conversation or two or three or four that we've built up some trust between each other to at least meet in a coffee shop.
 ThePig0fYourDreams
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 8
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Posted: 3/28/2015 11:43:52 PM
How the hell are you going to "fog up the car windows" with the pigs hanging around?

Such a bad idea.
 CharminC
Joined: 2/19/2011
Msg: 9
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Posted: 3/29/2015 12:19:31 AM

How the hell are you going to "fog up the car windows" with the pigs hanging around?
Such a bad idea.



Two words: tinted windows



Not telling how I know :)
 CrookCatcher
Joined: 7/14/2014
Msg: 10
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Posted: 3/29/2015 12:58:42 AM

No way. I don't want to be anywhere near pigs when I'm meeting up with a woman.



How the hell are you going to "fog up the car windows" with the pigs hanging around?


Hey kid rock wanna be....what's up with the "pig" noun? A frequent flyer at their facility?
 Dee4166
Joined: 6/16/2007
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Posted: 3/29/2015 2:31:27 AM
I heard abut this program on my FB news feed....
Sound like a good idea for people buying and selling stuff, as that can be a risky business from what I hear....

As for dating, well, I wouldn't be averse to it as my record is clean as a whistle....and as far as a place to start out and then move from there, why not?

There's only been twice that I needed additional 'security' since I've done OLD....

Once was a guy who I had been on a couple of dates with, that just seemed....too good to be true, I guess....
Also my gut was saying that there was something 'hinky' about some explanations he provided for gaps in his employment and his whereabouts for certain time periods....

Because he had so much else going for him, I decided to check him out and discovered that he had a sexual assault on his record, not too far in the past, convicted, time served....
There wasn't a third or fourth? date....

Another guy well, I don't know...today, looking back on it I was young then, hadn't met him online, we met at a party, and when he kept insisting that I had to go with him to his chalet I decided to dig a little, there, too....

Turns out nobody at the party knew who he was, even my hosts said that he must have come with someone, and that was more than enough for me to refuse his invitation for a date, when I casually asked him who he knew at the party and he told me that he was 'good friends' with one of the hosts.

While I can honestly say that I don't feel a need to go to those lengths when meeting someone on a regular basis, maybe some people do, and would probably feel more comfortable doing this, then more power to them....


Thing is, I find it interesting even when thinking of my own POV, that I can easily see the necessity of something like this for online purchases, which is only about THINGS and MONEY ....but don't feel a necessity for it with my own physical self!!
Kind of strange when you look at it that way....lol

But generally speaking that's one of the reasons that I prefer to talk to a guy on the phone before meeting, to get a better sense of him as a person....Although there are enough horror stories out there about people ending up taken advantage of or worse, dead, even when they thought that they 'knew' the person.....

As far as me 'justifying' my reasons for ANYTHING that I do to keep myself safe, nope. And I don't think that any guy who disagrees with my methods necessarily has a 'bad intent' , he doesn't have to agree with it, but if he doesn't understand it, then he's simply not the guy for me....
I am not 'paranoid', but I AM careful. My Life experiences have taught me what some of the more unpleasant possibilities can be, and I don't plan on becoming nothing more than a statistic anytime soon....
 ThePig0fYourDreams
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 12
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Posted: 3/29/2015 2:48:08 AM

Hey kid rock wanna be....what's up with the "pig" noun? A frequent flyer at their facility?


Hey Barney Fife wanna be....I guess your irony detector isn't working today, eh??

Oh, and Kid Rock f*cking sucks.
 Eternityboreme
Joined: 3/18/2015
Msg: 13
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Posted: 3/29/2015 4:06:34 AM
I live in a small city with a police station and satellite offices in different squares within it, so no matter the establishment in the area, there's a station to where I can go. But first (or subsequent) meets at one? No way. The day I need to do that is the day I should banish myself from the dating world, completely. I do afford some trust (knowing there's help around the corner, of course).

I have conducted personal sales transactions of small electronics (my unused phones/ipods/ computer parts/ etc -- all mine) to purchasers from Craig's list publicly in a populated place with a power source if applicable, to proof test equipment. As I said before, there is a satellite police office in the vicinity, so in this situation, such an exchange would make sense.

Some parents in difficult custody situations arrange to do drop offs/pick ups at police stations. (How heart-breaking.) There is a use for this purpose, as well.

I have to think more along the lines of somebody else's confortability in a larger space where reach of law enforcement is further than what somebody wants, so in that case, I understand the concern or need to do it this way. I should think of my safety in the same way about dating -- but in my case -- everything is within close proximity of my reach.
 IgorFrankensteen
Joined: 6/29/2009
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Posted: 3/29/2015 5:30:40 AM
Public places familiar to me have always been good enough for me so far. I do think it's an excellent move for local police to provide such things though, if nothing else, as a way to increase their personal interaction with their neighborhoods.

The closer you get to the Police being your neighbors, and not some occupying armed force, the better.
 Ouija2025
Joined: 6/11/2014
Msg: 15
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Posted: 3/29/2015 6:12:56 AM
Seems my Mother was wrong and you CAN be too careful! I wouldn't meet at the police station. I also imagine it lulls people into a false sense of security.
If I was that nervous about meeting someone I'd not use on line dating sites of places like CL. I'll opt for the good old fashioned way - backalley after midnight.
But a fun story for the grandkids " yep we met at the cop shop"
 LadyEssKay
Joined: 2/13/2015
Msg: 16
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Posted: 3/29/2015 6:37:53 AM
You know, the more I think of this the more brilliant of an idea I think it is!!

You meet who could potentially be the love of your life, and while you're there, free fingerprinting and buccal swabs. You sit there in suspense and anticipation, and at the end of the date, the police tell you whether your date is a match for you, OR...a match in their database.

Win win, as far as I can see. :D :D :D
 purplerider1200
Joined: 9/10/2011
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Posted: 3/29/2015 6:59:49 AM
They've had that in my town for about six months. That was in response to some craigslist car robberies we had last summer.

If a lady is that un-trusting, then maybe she should not bother to meet with the man in question. I have no issues with the cops, wherever I am. Perhaps, if you insist on breaking the law, then, you should clean up your act. I've gotten out of a lot of speeding tickets, and some other questionable situations only because I was up front, and totally honest with the officers that I've encountered. Too bad some dopes just don't learn that. (Or refuse to)
 CTRLvector
Joined: 9/21/2014
Msg: 18
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Posted: 3/29/2015 7:16:30 AM
That is going overboard, and for no reason... If you really want to be secure in your meet, then choose a high traffic meeting location. The idea of meeting in a police station, wouldn't be acceptable to me, for the simple fact that I wouldn't humor what I consider to be an insulting precaution. Not only insulting, but extremely awkward... How would it go?

Guy - Hi
Girl - Hi
Guy - So, its awkward meeting you here. We probably stand out, and look pretty ridiculous.
Girl - Yeah, but I need to make sure you're not a rapist.
Guy - How long does that take?
Girl - I don't know 15 minutes...
Guy - 15 minutes, because why? Rapists can't wait 15 minutes?
Girl - Good point, the general idea probably revolves around potential robbery. As it was intended, not potential rape. As the police station would only prevent the rapists who were on a time crunch.
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 19
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Posted: 3/29/2015 7:20:03 AM
The number one question is: Do the cops pick up the tab for the coffee? Who pays for the coffee on a first meet seems to be a controversial hot button topic here, so if a third party picks up the tab, that's problem one solved.
 Kay9876
Joined: 7/4/2012
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Posted: 3/29/2015 7:46:41 AM

Msg. 25: The number one question is: Do the cops pick up the tab for the coffee? Who pays for the coffee on a first meet seems to be a controversial hot button topic here, so if a third party picks up the tab, that's problem one solved.

^^^ Lol. I love it when men think of everything!

On topic: If I had so little trust in a potential dating partner that meeting at a police station felt necessary, I wouldn’t meet him at all. Besides, the idea that someone would be watching every move and (probably) hearing and recording our conversation would kill any chance of chemistry happening for me.

 adventurejoe70
Joined: 3/1/2013
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Posted: 3/29/2015 7:49:20 AM
That be really embarrassing , also not very romantic. Might as well meet a friend!(rolls eyes)

But it can be double embarrassing because station house security can run plates and go summons the daters who have unpaid tickets!


Yeah his career is really going somewhere. What did he do to piss everyone off?


Well yes and no. Depends on dept. Tbh that assignment would be VERY popular since it is a perfect do nothing 'house mouse' assignment and it eventually promote that person up to rank of Captain if they are looking to promote. Why? because assignments like that allow plenty of time to study for the promotional exams. Busy active cops are too busy to move up!

As for pissing someone off...well being the hostile work environment most large dept's are...one gets the assignments that the bosses think you don't want. You end up on midnight's because you mention you wanted to work the other 2 tours. Little did they know some really wanted midnight's ;)
 dragonbytes
Joined: 12/25/2014
Msg: 22
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Posted: 3/29/2015 7:54:37 AM
I think it's a good idea, but only if they include mandatory fingerprinting / retinal scans. I would feel much safer.
 CrookCatcher
Joined: 7/14/2014
Msg: 23
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Posted: 3/29/2015 7:59:14 AM

Hey Barney Fife wanna be...


Actually it was Andy....



Oh, and Kid Rock f*cking sucks.


I know.
 south_city
Joined: 10/12/2013
Msg: 24
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Posted: 3/29/2015 9:32:27 AM

this conversation will end up where all the other premeet/first-meet security threads go, with the women on one side saying, 'if you object to any precaution i take, it proves you have bad intent,'


I think a lot of women will agree that this is going way overboard. A woman wanted to bring her friend and her friend's husband to a first date / meeting. I declined. When I told other women this, most of them agreed with me. Having a first date / meeting at a police station is being more paranoid than bring another person to a date / meeting.
 FullMoonGuy
Joined: 3/7/2014
Msg: 25
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Posted: 3/29/2015 12:36:28 PM


How would it make you feel if someone asked you to meet in such a facility?


Will there be donuts?

I'll go if there are donuts.

And what about conjugal visit rooms?
 adventurejoe70
Joined: 3/1/2013
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Posted: 3/29/2015 12:42:16 PM
^^^^sorry the new guy/guests bring the donuts(bagels here). But at one point after your 10th meet..you can have someone else bring the donuts. But there is free coffee!
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