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|whats the norm just had a reply after 9 days with no explanation ie holidays etc..just wondered how long is a reasonable time i somehow feel i could have been lying in the cant be bothered pile,anybody have any input|
Posted: 12/23/2015 7:24:12 AM
|The 'norm' is to be totally ignored........|
Nine days? - Sounds like you were in the reserve squad, imo.
I could be wrong, she might have a sick auntie......
Posted: 12/23/2015 8:41:34 AM
|Well at least she came back to you. But yes, probably tried a couple of others and now has come down to the B list. Nothing lost though, get together and see where it goes or not.|
Posted: 12/23/2015 4:47:14 PM
|If a man that interested me messaged me, and it took me 9 days to respond, I would make sure my message explained why. I would want him to know that I was also interested and that I didn't want him to think he was on the B list.|
The fact that she didn't do that makes me wonder how communicative/enthusiastic should would be as the relationship progressed. It's hard being the only one that makes an effort.
IF you still have an interest in her, you could reply saying something like "HI xxx , what a pleasant surprise. I thought you might not be interested so I was really happy to see a message from you. How are your Christmas plans/holiday plans/whatever coming along?"
Posted: 12/24/2015 3:13:29 AM
|thanks for your input and lots taken on board, i know where your coming from duracell... i have decided to stop sending messages first as feel i am pssing into the wind thanks guys/gals|
Posted: 12/24/2015 3:22:11 AM
|If you're not going to send messages first then get used to the sound of tumbleweed blowing past.|
Posted: 12/24/2015 3:54:41 AM
|i know....but there is only so much us men can take...women want gender equality which i agree with totally but lets have an even playing field.|
Posted: 12/24/2015 7:54:58 AM
|If you send no messages you'll probably receive no messages, so what's the point? |
Don't judge everybody by a few, we're not all the same.
Are you really so sensitive that not getting a reply to a message causes you such grief?
You need a thicker skin to survive online dating.
What would happen if you got a really rude, nasty reply?
Posted: 12/24/2015 2:16:48 PM
|no this is just not about this individual incident but basically a finality reached about being so long on plenty of fish and putting time into this one way traffic syndrome, not wishing to be disrespectful but being a woman you are not having to face this but thanks for your feedback.|
Posted: 12/24/2015 3:27:14 PM
|You have no clue, women send messages and heavens above they get ignored sometimes too, we get sent pure filth at times but hey it's on line dating so what do we expect. We get rudeness when we send a polite rejection, told were stuck up B!tches and a hell of a lot worse. Yeah you're right best not to bother, oops I mean best not to let it bother you.|
Posted: 12/28/2015 1:44:28 AM
|I've just created a Pof event and have had a huge amount of email, most of it nice but quite a lot of abusive stuff too. I had a chat with a fellow organiser who said something like "welcome to the (female) dark side".|