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 DivineBovine
Joined: 5/13/2005
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I was intrigued to find this online today:

http://thehill.com/blogs/in-the-know/272407-dating-site-survey-most-republicans-lie-about-party

I put it ALL in my profile.

Once upon a time, it was my understanding that politics and religion were never discussed in polite society.
 LetitiaLeGrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
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Posted: 3/9/2016 4:13:26 PM
for casual dates I don't discuss religion, politics or my past relationships. If in a more serious relationship then these issues may be of importance. Putting it all in your profile will weed out those who are narrow minded or looking for someone with the same beliefs and it may save time.
 CarefreeBeauty
Joined: 5/30/2014
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Posted: 3/9/2016 4:24:26 PM
In the USA, with all the craziness associated with this presidential election, I suspect it's best not 'to share' your political opinions in a casual dating situation.
 Lasthookbringsme
Joined: 11/8/2015
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Posted: 3/10/2016 2:51:26 AM
Political affiliation, per se, doesn't mean that prospect is a mismatch, a total wash-out.

I do look at how a person views certain issues. I have found that people who share my political affiliation have really skewed views about issues regarding abortion and birth control, public education, vaccines, science, you name it. We are individuals and can't be homogenized into one political affiliation.

Their viewpoints are not something you really know until you've actually spent some time with them (and by observing them, not interrogating them). People say what you want to hear, in the beginning.
 BlackLady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
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Posted: 3/10/2016 3:42:41 AM
I am active politically, and worked in the PA state legislature (House and Senate) for 25 years. For the most part, if in a casual conversation with a potential "date", they hate this or that about my political affiliation, or make blanket negative statements about "all of us", then I am very polite in saying that I don't think we would be compatible. My core beliefs are part of who I am, and I am not going to argue with anyone about my (or their) core beliefs. I don't think that is respectful.
 BeckyHT
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Posted: 3/10/2016 11:14:39 AM


Political affiliation, per se, doesn't mean that prospect is a mismatch, a total wash-out.

I do look at how a person views certain issues. I have found that people who share my political affiliation have really skewed views about issues regarding abortion and birth control, public education, vaccines, science, you name it. We are individuals and can't be homogenized into one political affiliation.

Their viewpoints are not something you really know until you've actually spent some time with them (and by observing them, not interrogating them). People say what you want to hear, in the beginning.


I agree Lasthook. I've found that political affiliation doesn't mean a total mismatch, but more often, strong religious affiliations does.

Some people say don't talk politics and religion in early dates. I say, DO talk politics and religion, but use courtesy and listen as much as you want to talk. It's a time to learn. If you wait and find out later you're having really big problems with something you don't want to tolerate, you just wasted those first dates... unless all you want to do is first dates.

I consider life's purpose is for learning. You never stop learning. I believe in seeking the truth. And sometimes you may replace information you thought was truthful, with new and better information that is more inclusive of better truth.

It takes effort to tolerate another's belief which may not coincide with your own. I just assert my right to provide alternate ideas, and I try to back them with evidence and not hearsay.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 8/14/2015
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Posted: 3/10/2016 12:25:17 PM
Well with this year's republican clown car parade,
I'm sure I couldn't take a trump supporter seriously.
There's not anything about that I might learn that
might change my mind.

And core issues, basic human rights, nothing I'm going
to learn there that will change my mind either.

Politics didn't used to be important, but now, yeah they
are.

There is another thread about dating political opposites
here someplace.
 Like2dance
Joined: 4/13/2013
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Posted: 3/10/2016 3:19:48 PM
I do not discuss my political affiliation on casual dates. "Girls just want to have fun" and so do I.

Furthermore issues this country (USA) faces have become extraordinarily divisive over the last twenty years. It is in such a mess over the whole political spectrum (IMHO) I really do not want to go there unless I really must.
 Sweet_Danimal
Joined: 10/31/2015
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Posted: 3/10/2016 3:49:59 PM
My notion is that your political decisions mean something vital WHEN you get into a voting booth every couple of years or so. There's a bajllion other aspects of a partner's personality and goals that have a far more IMMEDIATE impact on your immediate dating life than the decisions you make for the benefit of society as a whole. If you can't discuss your personal history, current situation, or relationship goals - what does it matter if you have a position on human rights or capital punishment or international relations? You gotta start with the relationship right in front of you first.
 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
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Posted: 3/10/2016 5:00:34 PM
Personally, it's not a person's thoughts, beliefs, or whatever that causes me grief or conflict. It's usually how they came to the conclusion that who or what they chose is the best choice that kills it for me.

Listen to someone explain why think Trump, his words and actions, should be taken seriously, and you will have a prime example.
 cookymaker
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Posted: 3/10/2016 5:25:49 PM
I am willing to listen to someone's views and can do so with most people without arguing.. You can get a good idea of their affiliation by their opinion on many topics .
Normally, politics don't come up often in my early dating stages. So it's not a problem

It was however the one area I avoided with my x. Unless I wanted to have fun.
One election year when I came out of the voting area, he said to me "well, I hope you voted the right way" in a tone that really meant I should have voted for who he wanted. I told him " I played it safe and voted for anyone whose name sounded like they were Irish"
 cassie2425
Joined: 3/4/2016
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Posted: 3/10/2016 8:06:02 PM
I never discuss politics or religion with too many people. I have "unfriended" a few lately because of all the FB and email messages I get regarding Muslims and Muslim refugees. I don't like hate or racists.
 TrvstInKarma
Joined: 9/1/2015
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Posted: 3/10/2016 11:02:19 PM
I hate discussing politics on dates or with my friends. If I feel the need, I'd rather just go to a forum for that. It's just too divisive, and as a non-citizen, I can't vote here anyways,so what's the point. I have gone out with guys who made it very clear on the first date what their political orientation was, and it was a turn off for me. I don't like extreme left or extreme right views, and racists make me sick. It's a great way to weed them out quickly though.
 IgottaName
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Posted: 3/10/2016 11:58:43 PM

Once upon a time, it was my understanding that politics and religion were never discussed in polite society.

Society was never that polite to start with.

The old saying about avoiding talking about politics and religion serves two purposes. As far as religion it keeps people from lifting the veil and seeing the wizard for who he really is, just an old man behind the curtain manipulating the masses. In politics it keeps the masses from uniting and rising up against the ruling class.
That being said, I don't hide it, nor do I advertise it, and won't try to avoid it if it comes up.
 Seki1949
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Posted: 3/11/2016 12:04:49 AM
The Trumpster is The Man!
 Onyx49
Joined: 3/6/2016
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Posted: 3/11/2016 6:00:05 AM
It's fine to discuss Politics on a date as long as you both have the same opinion, and you know that going in, otherwise things can get awkward really fast.
Therefore, on a first date...there is no reason to ask...who are you voting for, or how do you feel about abortion, you may not like the answer.
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
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Posted: 3/11/2016 6:06:50 AM
I've gone out with women who wouldn't know the name of the mayor in the city they live in or any local politicians-never mind what's going on in the national or international political scene, other than when it becomes a media circus, like the Trump freak show. That's fine with me, since discussing politics is not my thing as well. As far as the golden rule of not discussing politics and religion on a first date, I would want to know something about their religious practices early on. I'm not a church goer, so I would want to know if church is a big part of someone's life. That could be a deal breaker. Just like a religious Christian person would want to know early on if their date is an atheist or practices a non-Christian religion.
 Ouija2025
Joined: 6/11/2014
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Posted: 3/11/2016 6:38:34 AM
I don't discuss politics - even with friends. I would think it would make a fairly stale first date.
But if there is something important then it should be asked before setting up a date. Well except if the person is a vegan, they will volunteer that LOL.
 B_Hasenpfeffer
Joined: 10/6/2014
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Posted: 3/11/2016 6:45:00 AM

Well with this year's republican clown car parade,
I'm sure I couldn't take a trump supporter seriously.
There's not anything about that I might learn that
might change my mind

Same here.

I could never take an Obama or Clinton supporter seriously. There is nothing a democrat can say, nor can I learn from, that will change my political views. Obama has urged Americans not to vote for a reality show host. What does he think a politician really is?? They are the ultimate in reality show hosts. Obama was the Reality Show Host-in-Chief for almost 8 years. Time to move on.

My dating checklist is very specific in no democrats/liberals/socialists. I say it's best to find out your date's political affiliations during the 1st or 2nd date (tops) in order to weed them out before wasting valuable time on the wrong political stripe.

I'm just glad the Obumer clown car is on its way out. Hopefully, Americans won't be dumb enough to replace it with the Clinton clown car. Otherwise, the White House will have to rehire Monica Lewinsky for her "intern" services.

Then again, Canadians were stupid enough to elect a drama teacher for PM ... one who spends most of his time posing for narcissistic selfies with his adoring fans, instead of running the country. So stupidity could actually strike twice in the US.
 daynadaze
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Posted: 3/11/2016 7:49:12 AM
I don't go on dates to have my political leanings challenged or changed LOL that would pretty pathetic, but I also wouldn't seriously date someone whose political leanings made me ill. Have a good debate is fun, if both people can keep it clean, but for a partner, I don't want to be with someone who is my polar opposite.
 Sweet_Danimal
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Posted: 3/11/2016 8:06:42 AM
I work a 2nd job doing janitorial work at a plant with 100 or so workers. Cleaning the cafeteria when the politicos take their break is always entertaining. What scares me is the talking heads in the media that create drama and attention by preaching fear and loathing all the time definitely gets inside people's heads. There's too many clever broadcasting people who make a living out of stirring up drama about really benign issues -- because 'drama' is what gets ratings.

The pundits who scream the loudest about not being 'sheep' led astray are actually the shepherds doing the leading into their OWN world of drama. People get sucked into that stuff with an almost religious fervor. Scary. How anyone would want to date someone that blind to the rest of the world is beyond me - but, heck, a lot of them are married with kids - so SOMEBODY liked them.
 DivineBovine
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Posted: 3/11/2016 10:40:28 AM

...if in a casual conversation with a potential "date", they hate this or that about my political affiliation, or make blanket negative statements about "all of us", then I am very polite in saying that I don't think we would be compatible. My core beliefs are part of who I am, and I am not going to argue with anyone about my (or their) core beliefs. I don't think that is respectful.


Yes to all of this!

I also put in my profile that those who are religious in any way need to move on to the next person. It just saves time.
 Whatsamattababy
Joined: 12/24/2015
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Posted: 3/11/2016 10:50:36 AM
I never hid nothin'. Never understood the logic behind that.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 8/14/2015
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Posted: 3/11/2016 11:04:41 AM
^^^me eeida.
It's either part of my charm or my undoing...not sure which.

hahahahaha!
 sactownromantic
Joined: 6/14/2015
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Posted: 3/11/2016 11:32:54 AM
I won't bring up the topic unless she asks me my views, if all she talks about is religion and politics then I'm gone. I don't want to be with a woman who is fanatical about religion or politics.
The Jehovah Witness women are pretty and dress nice when they walk up to my house but I never answer the door.

That reminds me of a time I was at a Home Depot waiting for the store to open: a nicely dressed woman walks up to me, as she approaches I notice a Bible and a Watchtower pamphlet in her hand, before she says anything I say "no thanks". 5:50am and they are out trying to save souls at a Home Depot no less.
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