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 AgentNinety9
Joined: 6/9/2016
Msg: 2
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Apparently, in your country being rejected by other women makes a man attractive and amusing.

OR, she has the emotional maturity of a 12-year-old and you hit a delicate nerve.

OR, you're leaving some important detail out and none of us were there to see what you actually said to her, and the context in which it was said.

Based solely on what you've described, you didn't do anything wrong. Be cool with people walking out of your life for reasons like this. You'd end up regretting it if they didn't.
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 3
what not to talk about with girls?
Posted: 8/1/2016 7:17:51 AM
Do not talk to girls about how small your penis is, how you like gay porn, or you're thinking about changing genders.
 BHinFL
Joined: 4/26/2016
Msg: 4
what not to talk about with girls?
Posted: 8/1/2016 7:34:06 AM
How is this ...

this girl ... was talking to me last night about other guys hitting on her.

the same as this ...

so in exchange i told her stories of ME hitting other girls and the results of it.


You told her about how you hit other girls? Hell, I wouldn't talk to you either if I was her!

Seriously, assuming you're not an abusive guy, don't talk about your past successes or failures. She should avoid doing that, also. Maybe it's customary where you live (I doubt it), or because of your ages (I doubt that, too), but try to focus on each other.

Other than that, maleman offers good advice:

Do not talk to girls about how small your penis is, how you like gay porn, or you're thinking about changing genders.
 dameunbaso
Joined: 10/4/2011
Msg: 5
what not to talk about with girls?
Posted: 8/1/2016 7:34:21 AM
Telling women the techniques that you use to get women, turn them off. They want to believe that they never ever fall for them, yet they fall for it all the time. Same thing when the topic of online dating comes up. If you tell them that you kind of suck at it and maybe have gotten a few dates, they like you. But if you tell them that you are good at it, they will stop talking to you. Why? I have no idea.

Also if after that first, or second date, they catch you online, they tend to get really pissed off, even though, to catch you, they had to go online. To off course, respond to some message, not to keep looking online. I used to tell women I dated that until we were steady, I would be going online.
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 6
what not to talk about with girls?
Posted: 8/1/2016 8:02:31 AM
some pickup artists will tell you, signs that other women are chasing after you, ignites the competition in some women. Its a sign you have value to women, and by goodness, she's not going to lose in this battle! Some women also want to believe a relationship magically happens b/c its meant to be. not b/c a guy pulled a routine that worked.

another thing not to discuss with women: talk about sex, the way you'd talk about your money. General discussion about money likely isn't a turn off, but ever have someone who seems to want you to know about their money situation? when does it give you the creeps? How about when someone compliments you on your wealth, seems to be interested in getting to know more details, has suggestions on how you can spend what you have on them to make them feel better (all the while they are selling you the idea its going to make you feel good)?
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 7
what not to talk about with girls?
Posted: 8/1/2016 8:52:57 AM
^^^Isn't every guy who is interested in women a pick up artist? Guys contact women either on line or in real life, in order to get dates. In other words, he's trying to pick up the woman or women.

As far as not talking about money, there are other techniques used to find out about a guy's financial position-like asking where he lives and if he's the owner of the house, what king of car he drives, ask about previous vacations to see if the guy's a world traveler, etc.
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 8
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Posted: 8/1/2016 10:20:46 AM
well, every guy interested in picking up a woman, is picking up. whether or not they do it well enough to earn the title, "artist"......:) But then I always thought a bullshit artist was the one who got away with it.

there are other, better, sneakier ways to learn about money, like where he lives and how he spends his spare time, you are correct. In fact, I think when a woman complains about getting snookered by a deadbeat, thinking he was as rich as he BS'd her about, I wonder why she didn't pick up on what crappy neighborhood he lives in, where he vacations, etc. but, then, to be fair, those who don't know much about money, don't recognize all the ways it can be spent.

I wouldn't mind someone asking me about my vacations, in order to understand my money. Talking about visiting new places and what was learned, isn't a bad conversation in my book. bragging about how much you spent and how little you care, and the whole thing sounding like all you saw was the tourist traps and how sloshed you got on the boat....not so much.
 Whatsamattababy
Joined: 5/3/2016
Msg: 9
what not to talk about with girls?
Posted: 8/1/2016 11:31:25 AM
In some ways, women/girls are almost like people, in that they differ from one another. Having said this (and because I'm pretty sure I'm what you're after) here are mine:

1) Money (tacky)
2) Hockey (boring)

Amusing dating anecdotes? Do it up!
 norwegianguy456
Joined: 6/11/2015
Msg: 10
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Posted: 8/1/2016 11:36:45 AM

my first story was of me being rejected. she had a good laugh at that.

the second was me being successful and getting a date.
on that she suddenly turns cold, tells me she doesn't see the point of the story, and leaves the conversation. she hasn't said anything to me since then....

is this something i should never talk about with girls who i'm flirting with?

The only thing you lie to a girl about is how many you've slept with, if/when seriously asked. Also, you never go in to explain your successes in garnering other womens' interest. Unless you're talking about when you were a kid in K-6, or when in a relationship you're referring to Long Long ago like in college or something -- ya don't. Instead, after your 1st story about rejection, you just say "But obviously I wasn't rejected every time. I can be charming of course...," and just leave it at that.

Telling women the techniques that you use to get women, turn them off. They want to believe that they never ever fall for them, yet they fall for it all the time.

I agree, except most of it doesn't require "falling" for anything. But it still makes them Feel that way if they feel the guy is/was out on a "chick hunt".

Same thing when the topic of online dating comes up. If you tell them that you kind of suck at it and maybe have gotten a few dates, they like you. But if you tell them that you are good at it, they will stop talking to you. Why? I have no idea.

Because it's about power & control, underneath it all. If you're a guy who's able to garner womens' interests here and there fruitfully -- you must be tricking them and not caring enough. Because obviously you must have piled up a ton of dates. "Where's the LTR? How many women do you have to go thru?" are some thoughts. The fear of a guy who lands dates and pops-n-drops 'em. It's guilt by association.

That's why you do well, but at the same time you're picky -- like you Could be "that guy" -- but you haven't piled up tons of pop-n-drops because you're picky. It makes her feel that she's a cut above the rest -- all while you're not some guy getting shot down left n right.

Isn't every guy who is interested in women a pick up artist? Guys contact women either on line or in real life, in order to get dates. In other words, he's trying to pick up the woman or women.

Exactly. Well, he's at least Trying to be as good as possible at it, right? Striving to be on an "artist" level. You can't Try to just get a C in class -- you try for the A, and may get the C when you're not so good at it. Girls want the social construct to be where the guy goes up to the girl -- yet not want them to be good at it? Of course they should be good at garnering their interest. But a guy being touted/seen as good at it is going to oddly get eyebrows raised, because I guess if he's too good at it, she'll assume it'll either be trickery involved ("us girls are not so easy to get!"), or that she'll be just another-on-the-list. Because the guys who are good at it, can get a lot of girls. And a guy who can get a lot of girls Does, in many minds -- whether it be jealous guys or many girls' protective mindsets. So your reputation has to ride a fine line -- where you want to avoid any reputation of being good or bad at it, but if you do -- "Yeah, I guess I am (shrug), but I'm no artiste (wink)."
 Whatsamattababy
Joined: 5/3/2016
Msg: 13
what not to talk about with Whatsa?
Posted: 8/1/2016 3:00:15 PM
^ Oh, calm down. I was just messing with you.

As you were.
 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 14
what not to talk about with Whatsa?
Posted: 8/1/2016 3:31:31 PM

what not to talk about with girls?



Never spill the beans to a woman about anything and everything that you find enjoyable partaking in behind closed doors. In fact, things that happen behind the closed curtains can get be added to the list.


It's a long winded list too.

After that, I usually end up not talking much, and the potential is quickly eliminated.
 LetitiaLeGrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 15
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Posted: 8/1/2016 6:14:26 PM
We dont know what you actually said or how it came across to her. If she has not bothered to contact you again, she has lost interest I would say. I would never talk about my previous love life on such short acquaintance except in light terms and no detail.

 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 16
Don't be un-PC. Chicks hate that shit.
Posted: 8/1/2016 6:24:41 PM
Well, broads are sorta like people, who don't want to talk about sports or cars, don't laugh at pharts, won't hang out with us like guys do unless we pay for everything, but have these wonderful bumps that make us feel funny. So, they're like an alien type of people.

Agreed, hockey is boring, that's why everyone goes for the fights. what the puck.

"Striving to be on an "artist" level. You can't Try to just get a C in class -- you try for the A, and may get the C when you're not so good at it"

>>>I wouldn't mind getting the T&A in class, but getting the C isn't so bad, either. I like to look for silver linings.
 aintnodeal
Joined: 4/10/2016
Msg: 17
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Posted: 8/1/2016 6:37:20 PM
Women don't like to hear your stories about being with other women. They don't want to know the numbers, the names, the positions, how close they lived to you, etc. UNTIL THEY DO~! So shut up about it unless she asks a specific question.

When she asks, tell the story about some gal you dated ONCE - don't tell the story about your ex-wife or ex-girlfriend. Women want to hear about how others are inferior and flawed and were found unsuitable. End you story with "She was NUTS." or "I dumped her quick!"
 Iredurbio2
Joined: 4/18/2013
Msg: 18
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Posted: 8/1/2016 10:31:01 PM
I always get a kick out of someone with a
broad perspective.Traffic tickets,drunken outings
women's fashions or your current time running a mile.
All no no's !
 hemingway234
Joined: 6/6/2015
Msg: 19
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Posted: 8/2/2016 5:03:56 AM
Don't talk about other women to your date, except family. It can make them jelous and turn them off. Don't worry, there are a gazillion other things to talk about.
 ThroatLozenge
Joined: 3/2/2016
Msg: 20
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Posted: 8/2/2016 5:18:32 PM
I think men and women probably have similar subjects they're not comfortable discussing. Most don't want to hear you hate your exes, have financial problems or how prolific you are.

Past relationships, finances, sex and online dating can be a clumsy mine field for the...uninitiated daters.

IME, it's the women that bring up the taboo subjects first. I know this isn't gender specific according to the women either.



Women don't like to hear your stories about being with other women.


That's what I assume too but oddly enough some women will broach the subject of online dating and want to share experiences, usually about their expectations regarding sex and what they're looking for from a partner (i.e. > ex).

They drop hints and innuendos.

HIGH MAINTENANCE

My last boyfriend gave me a promise ring before we did it.... Will a $50 ring on the 2nd date work?

My ex is a pilot at American Airlines.... And how did that work out for you again?

My friend has been dating her boyfriend for 5 months and he's willing to wait.... Sure, and he's banging someone on the side too.

I think our first time should be in Napa.... I think our 3rd time should be in Napa.

ENJOYS THE CHASE - She KNOWS men love competition so she sets one up for them. Will you win her over?

I can't believe you're #26 on my list of prospects and sends me a screen shot of the men in her list before the 2nd date. I could tell her she's not on my list but I decide not to share it...

Just to let you know, I had a 2nd date with a gentleman a couple of days ago. Gee, I need to up my game before she goes on that third!
 Blackwood85
Joined: 5/20/2013
Msg: 21
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Posted: 8/2/2016 6:33:26 PM
Only talk about dating other women to a woman if she invites you too and even then it could be a trap. The failures with women you probably told in a comedic manner, it showed that you were a little self-deprecating and didn't take yourself too seriously.

If you think about it do you really want to hear how guys successfully picked her up and banged her? If anything you should have told some stories of some strange girls you've encountered that would be in line in what you two were talking about.

As for other topics it just depends on the woman, I remember having a meet and greet at this pizzeria in DC and me and this girl spoke about the Philadelphia Eagles the entire time, since we were both fans and complaining about the direction of the team We were hitting it off or at least I thought we were but a day later she told me she felt that we didn't have chemistry. Really none of us have an idea what the opposite sex really wants.
 perspektiv
Joined: 7/28/2016
Msg: 22
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Posted: 8/2/2016 6:58:27 PM

is this something i should never talk about with girls who i'm flirting with?


Personally, I try to avoid talking about past dates, or relationships in detail. If asked, I'll be honest, but will keep things brief. I try to make it about the moment, vs the past.

That said, I don't really thing anything is off limits. I've got a dark sense of humor, so will talk about whatever. If she can't handle it, I already know we're not compatible.

My attitude, is I shouldn't have to hold back, or second guess who I am around a woman. If I do, then we have zero chemistry. All women I've been in relationships with, I was myself completely unhinged, from the start.
 FullMoonGuy
Joined: 3/7/2014
Msg: 23
what not to talk about with girls?
Posted: 8/2/2016 7:04:14 PM
GI Joe action figures, and the world's largest ball of twine.
 HalftimeDad
Joined: 5/29/2005
Msg: 24
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Posted: 8/2/2016 8:32:54 PM
Past convictions. Upcoming court appearances. Imaginary friends. Alien abduction experiences. "Weird" fetishes - at least as judged by society's uptight standards. I could go on. Sometimes it seems like there's nothing safe a guy can talk about.
 ThroatLozenge
Joined: 3/2/2016
Msg: 25
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Posted: 8/2/2016 9:05:30 PM
DMV violations and ankle bracelets don't go over very well, or so I've been told...
 Nancybythebay
Joined: 4/5/2016
Msg: 26
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Posted: 8/2/2016 9:09:28 PM

Hockey (boring)


Not anywhere NEAR as boring as golf. Just saying..... :)
 Whatsamattababy
Joined: 5/3/2016
Msg: 27
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Posted: 8/2/2016 9:50:39 PM
At least at a golf game you can count blades of grass.

If a guy talked to me about his ankle bracelet (isn't that an anklet?) there would be no doubt in my mind that he was coming on to me. I'd be like "Duuude... save something for the bedroom".
 HippyDippyWeatherman
Joined: 3/20/2008
Msg: 28
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Posted: 8/3/2016 3:47:33 AM
You should probably never talk about Nantucket.
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