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 BeyondtheMatrix
Joined: 2/11/2016
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There are five or six profiles when I log on, sometimes more, one or two with photographs, if you’re lucky, of women in ‘my area.’ It’s a small country population-wise, so I keep getting the same women repeatedly, no matter when I log on, day or night.

There is one profile that really gets my goat, and I’m wondering if there’s a way to blank it out so that it doesn’t keep coming up repeatedly day after day, almost guaranteed. It’s the profile of two women, about 20, I would say. They are sitting there with their tongues sticking out – so far out it’s like a bizarre competition to see who can get their tongue out farthest or hardest against their cheek.

They’ve got that wild, ‘wide-eyed’ look, as if what they’re doing is somehow wonderful and that men should be breaking the door down to get to know them. Frankly, I wouldn’t look in their direction if I was in Sahara Desert and they were the only human beings around. I expect they feel much the same way about me. (Just thought I’d put it in there before someone mentions it by way of reply.)

Is there a way of blocking this or keeping it out of the way, because it really is ridiculous. I’ve seen some shocking profile photographs, but there’s no need for this, not on a dating site. Again, I am probably wrong – I am usually wrong on PoF, no matter what I say or how I say it. So, fire away. Don’t hold back. I should be grateful that these young women with the sledgehammer sticky-out tongues cramming the photograph are there at all. Isn’t that right? Why the tongues in the first place? What’s that all about? What’s the attraction here? You wouldn’t do that when you meet someone in a club or a restaurant, so why here? Or is this a reflection of what they think of the place?
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Posted: 8/11/2016 4:19:10 PM
You're having such a hard time. You need a hug.
 BeyondtheMatrix
Joined: 2/11/2016
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Posted: 8/11/2016 4:32:05 PM
Thanks, Drinkthesunwithmyface, but it's not about hugs.

It's about the two women in the same profile thrusting their tongues out at the camera, to the point where it's almost like their mouths are going to burst.

I have several family photograph albums, the majority of which are from my late mother's side. Some of these photographs are when she was a toddler, right up to when she was married and beyond. My mother liked a joke, like everyone else. She was a bit eccentric and could have us laughing as easily as falling off a log. Not once, not once, in all those photographs is there a posture as insane as the one I mentioned in my post.

I honestly don't know what's going wrong. This incident is a mere glimmer of one example of the things I see on here. One woman yesterday, for example, got right into the meat and potatoes in her profile within a few words, saying, in LARGE LETTERS: "DON'T ASK ME FOR MY PANTIES. AND I DON'T DO SEX WITH JUST ANYONE. YOU STALKERS SHOULD BE REPORTED." And then she attaches the usual disclaimer or 'warning' or whatever it is that we see these days at the bottom of the profile. I just clicked on the next one . . . and the next one . . . and still the tongues were thrusting out at the top of the page. I couldn't get rid of them. That's why I have asked your advice.

Again, hugs are not the issue I raised in my post.

Best wishes.
 moogatrøn
Joined: 5/3/2016
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Posted: 8/11/2016 4:37:09 PM
If you are seeing women in their twenties after you sign in, check the age range on My City and set it to the ages you want to see.
 Whatsamattababy
Joined: 5/3/2016
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Posted: 8/11/2016 4:45:28 PM

You need a hug.


Haha!

To the compulsive thread deleters: Please could you at least try to exercise some degree of objectivity? If some posters had posted this very same thread, I'm pretty sure you'd have an entirely different reaction.

Peter: I myself have a distaste for the sticking out of tongues. It irks me. But not to the extent that you're describing. Are you having a difficult time emotionally in general right now? Don't answer if that's too personal.
 BeyondtheMatrix
Joined: 2/11/2016
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Posted: 8/11/2016 4:51:50 PM

Peter: I myself have a distaste for the sticking out of tongues. It irks me. But not to the extent that you're describing. Are you having a difficult time emotionally in general right now? Don't answer if that's too personal. Whatsamattababy


It could be, WAMB. It could be.

My health is not good. There's something bulging and 'growing' in my right shoulder, crushing against the shoulder blade, to the point where I can't lie down on my right side. I am seeing a professor of surgery a week today, 200 miles south of here, so I hope I can drive the distance without stopping all the time for coffees to keep me awake, because the pain is keeping me up all night, despite the sleeping tablets (Zopiclone). I've been taking these sleeping tablets for eights years now, and God knows what they do to your insides. I am also taking Pregabalin (Lyrica in the US), at $300 a packet. They are serious painkillers, and the side-effects are shocking. Maybe, just maybe, seeing sticky-out tongues are one of the side-effects.

Seriously, guys, thanks for your responses.

- Peter
 BeyondtheMatrix
Joined: 2/11/2016
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Posted: 8/11/2016 4:59:17 PM
I forgot to mention, WTMB . . . I've been in this house for 19 years,
renting all that time, and the owner put the rent up, get this, $150
a week a few months ago. It's the same all over this town. Crazy.
House prices in this town have gone up 27% since July last year.

Anyway, the rent increase was bad enough, but we've just heard that
he now wants to sell, so he gave us 90 days' notice through the property
management people.

We've got six weeks left, and we still can't find anything, even though
we've got a lengthy advertisement in the local newspaper every week.
We saw a place yesterday, my flatmate and I, but even he was disgusted
with it. "I wouldn't put my dog in there for the night," he said. That's . . .
quite something, coming from him.

So all that plus the health thing . . . not good.

- Peter
 flaneur001
Joined: 7/31/2011
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Posted: 8/11/2016 5:38:39 PM
Peter,

I'm so sorry to hear about your health issue. I hope the meeting next with the professor will be beneficial.

I wish your all the very best Peter
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
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Posted: 8/11/2016 7:24:57 PM
its nice to hear the Free Market is doing well in your neighborhood.

I hope the professor or surgeon can do something with the chip or whatever it is in your shoulder, sounds uncomfortable. its a shame the astrology didn't warn you sooner, now you will have medical bills and a higher rent at the same time. you could have saved up for it. Unless your government has a social program to help with that, that would be quite a bonus.

as for profile that annoy me, I tend to stick a post-it, kiddie sticker, or masking tape over the screen. White out can work well, too.

good luck with these troubles. they sound so unfair to suffer, especially the tongue sticking out part.
 daynadaze
Joined: 2/11/2008
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Posted: 8/11/2016 9:42:33 PM
I hate the tongue pictures, I don't even like it when kids do it. But, alas, I have no control over other people's pictures.
 BeyondtheMatrix
Joined: 2/11/2016
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Posted: 8/11/2016 11:30:07 PM

. . . . its a shame the astrology didn't warn you sooner, now you will have medical bills and a higher rent at the same time. you could have saved up for it. Unless your government has a social program to help with that, that would be quite a bonus. -- gtomustang


I thank you, gtomustang, and Flaneur001 (above) and Daynadaze (below) for your responses and kind comments. I am grateful indeed.

What I am about to relate may come to some of you as 'ridiculous' or 'far out,' or some such expression, but believe me when I tell you that this is all true.

I have studied astrology, the real stuff, since I was about 10. I somehow recognized the planetary symbols even then, as if I had seen them before. A past life, maybe? Some other way? I don't know. But when I saw my first horoscope -- I think it was the chart of Abraham Lincoln -- my Soul rejoiced in the recognition. I knew that this would be my passion in life, and so it was. My 'jobs' have kept the roof over my head, including sub-editor, proof-reader, court stenographer, and such-like; but astrology is an absolute passion that goes beyond words.

When I was working as a sub-editor for a regional newspaper back home in the UK, I was also their in-house astrologer. I wrote the monthly column. I included photographs of famous people in the news. That aside, I made three predictions . . . global predictions . . . and would you believe they all came true? I have the newspaper article written about me upstairs in my office. My 'office' is basically a heap of papers and folders, but you get my drift.

The response to my predictions, which included the Armenian earthquake, was overwhelming. I received a sack of letters from interested people, many of whom asked me to 'do their charts.' No payment was offered, of course, but I remember, very clearly, doing one -- a young woman. She lived in the same town. I heeded the urgency of her call and 'did her chart.' You're not going to believe this . . . and even now 30 years later, it chills me to the bone when I think about it.

I wrote about 15 pages of notes for her and included her hand-written chart. She was delighted and sent me a thank-you card. Anyway, I made one single prediction, one that was imminent. I told her that, I forget the date, but say it was "some time between the 15th and 20th of this month your physical body will be threatened in some way. You must stay away from any risks and protect your well-being, particularly during this short period."

I thought no more about it. But lo and behold . . .

I read in our newspaper, the one I worked for, that this woman had been assaulted, dragged by the hair in an alleyway, punched in the face, and left there by the ex-wife of the man she was now living with. It was a case of vengeance, some kind of feud. The poor woman was found by passers-by a couple of hours later in bad shape.

I kept a copy of her astrological analysis, and I checked the date. I honestly couldn't believe it. She was attacked on the 18th of the month, the month I specified. You see, Mars -- in space -- was lining up with her own natal Mars, and making what we call an opposition (180 degrees). However, her Mars was no ordinary Mars. It was sitting next to the fixed star Algol, the "most vicious star in the heavens," according to the medieval astrologers. The Chinese astrologers also had a name for Algol. The name spelled out as "piled-up corpses." Whatever way you look at it, Algol is not a welcome presence.

So when Mars came around and 'hit' her own natal Mars, it was igniting her Mars/Algol configuration in her horoscope and putting her in danger. I remember having to go upstairs to the cafeteria and get myself a coffee, because the 'coincidence' was so great. I even thought, My God, what if they think I had something to do with this? I kept quiet and hoped the whole incident would pass. It did, of course, but I'll never forget that woman and how she was severely beaten by the ex-wife of her present partner.

As for medical bills here, gtomustang, this visit to the specialist is on the health system. You can go private, but it would be enormously expensive. As it is, I am being seen pretty quickly. My doctor put this through as urgent, so I only had to wait about a month. There are people here in this country who are literally dying on the waiting lists. I heard only yesterday about a man, a father, who waited so long he went back to Europe for treatment. Turns out they missed a kidney stone here, it was seen in the CT scan in Europe and they treated him there.

This country is going to the dogs. The New Zealand government, and very few people know this, the New Zealand government is borrowing $275 million a week from Communist China just to survive, the country with the worst human rights record in the world. We've been borrowing like this for years. What happens when China says they want their money back? We'll be in a sorry state then, far worse than looking at sticky-out tongues in profiles.

Best wishes to you all, and thank you for your kindnesses.

- Peter
 gcdeb
Joined: 4/1/2015
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Posted: 8/12/2016 3:03:14 AM
OP, if you have an adblocker on your pc, you should be able to right click on the image and hide it so you never have to see it again. I'm not sure how/if this is possible on a phone though.
 kj521
Joined: 9/20/2015
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Posted: 8/12/2016 4:28:21 AM
Mr. Matrix.....

First this.....


"There is one profile that really gets my goat,"

"They’ve got that wild, ‘wide-eyed’ look, as if what they’re doing is somehow wonderful and that men should be breaking the door down to get to know them."

" I should be grateful that these young women with the sledgehammer sticky-out tongues cramming the photograph are there at all."



And then this......


"My mother liked a joke, like everyone else. She was a bit eccentric and could have us laughing as easily as falling off a log. Not once, not once, in all those photographs is there a posture as insane as the one I mentioned in my post."



Not an expert but kinda seeing the stars aligning toward a....possible.....Madonna/Whore complex. I am a teeny tiny bit concerned about the word choices of....."sledgehammer" and "cramming". It lends to a vague Norman Bates-ish feel to me. Not saying it is....just a vague impression that may be unintendedly being conveyed.

Given the other stessors occurring simultaneously in your life.....perhaps, dating is something that should be best left for a later time......a time when your housing and health issues are resolved. Those powerful stressors have the potential to exasperate minor annoyances into major ones. All just my opinion..... :)


Wishing you the best with the resolution of your housing and health issues. :)
 flaneur001
Joined: 7/31/2011
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Posted: 8/12/2016 11:17:18 AM
Peter,

I'm concerned about you. It is clear that you are suffering great physical pain and mental anguish. I hope that in the next few months you will have some respite from this very difficult time. You don't have control over your medical situation nor a clear path for your housing situation.

You do have 'some' control over how you manage your emotions. You are very angry about so many things Peter. You have a right to be angry about many things....but the degree to which you marinate in this rage isn't helpful. It's taking up too much energy....energy that is needed to marshal your strength to get through this next tough phase in your life.

When you come across anger that is not effective in enhancing your life or irrational, perhaps you might consider an approach used by some people called "opposite action'. So instead of expending negative energy you redirect your energy by: gently avoiding; take time out; and by being kind and compassionate towards yourself and others(even the gals with the tongues!).
 BeyondtheMatrix
Joined: 2/11/2016
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Posted: 8/12/2016 12:46:26 PM
It is interesting that you say this, Flaneur001, that I need to "marshal" my "strength to get through this next tough phase" in my life, because that is exactly what my flatmate said, almost word for word.

I have a thin carapace, and I take on board everyone else's issues and problems and what have you. The stupid photograph of those two women in the same profile with their tongues sticking out just hit me between the eyes. I mean, I was in bad shape that day, painkillers and what have you, so it just set me off. How absolutely ridiculous, I thought. And I then ranted about it.

I am not actually 'dating' on here. I haven't dated (anyone) for a long time. I get messages, not that many, perhaps two a week, but I usually delete them before opening them. I look at the profile first, and while they're not exactly the tongue-sticking-out situation, they are not what I would want. I am also getting a lot of fake profile messages. I am pretty sensitive with these things, and I know deep in my what's-it that the words, the message -- the grammar and style and content -- simply don't resonate with the photographs. Not in a million years. Also, the fake/scammers keep doing something time after time after time . . . so much so that you would think they would realize it by now. But no, they keep on doing it. And so I keep on blocking them.

There was one woman, a lovely soul who lived in Montana, who wrote to me about six years ago. I swear, her message was like something out of an early pioneering woman's diary or journal. Her writing was superb. It was pure Louisa May Alcott. She wrote in such a way that you hurried to reply in case she disappeared. Alas, at the end of the day, there was no point in writing -- at least in terms of dating and marriage -- because she is in the US and I am a British/NZ citizen half-way across the world, and I am 62 (now) and she was similar, and it would never work immigration-wise. They wouldn't let me in. It would be too much trouble. If I had been 20 years younger, it might have been easier. But I shall never forget that woman. Her writing, you see -- her writing was simply delightful. There was an other-wordliness about her, a depth of graciousness that seems to have disappeared into the history books. A far cry from the tongues sticking out.

I am going to a yard sale, guys. Wish me luck. It is a 'deceased estate' yard sale, a big one, and I am hoping there may be books there. I dig books. They put my pains and my painkillers, and even tongues, in perspective. Books, to me, are like food. I feast on them.

Thanks, Flaneur001, and everyone else who has dropped a note here. I am counting the days down until Friday, when I see the professor. I am hoping for a CT scan of my entire back. I am certain he will find something. But I hope not.

- Peter (an old and decrepit derelict, hanging on to a past life that has long since disappeared)
 FullMoonGuy
Joined: 3/7/2014
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Posted: 8/12/2016 12:46:52 PM

I myself have a distaste for the sticking out of tongues. It irks me.


The only thing that "irks" me is that I am not on the receiving end of those tongues (women's).

The things people stress out over.
 ThroatLozenge
Joined: 3/2/2016
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Posted: 8/12/2016 1:14:41 PM
I'd like the option of never seeing a profile pic as well.

I had a bad experience and really don't like to see that gal's face on the screen.

I only search within a 15 mile radius to avoid seeing her face. This was on PoF.

On Match, you can delete a profile and never have to see it again, even if it viewed you.

Perhaps try Match Peter?
 BeyondtheMatrix
Joined: 2/11/2016
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Posted: 8/12/2016 1:40:03 PM

I had a bad experience and really don't like to see that gal's face on the screen . . . you can delete a profile and never have to see it again, even if it viewed you. -- clooneystutor


If only that were the case here, my friend. I realize I have more on my proverbial plate to deal with than those tongues, but that photograph seems to be at the top of my screen every time I log on. It seems to be 'huge.'

As for Match, Clooneystutor, I think, to be honest, I am too old to be finding my soul mate -- anywhere. Perhaps I've missed the boat.

Best wishes
- Peter
 treber2
Joined: 7/15/2016
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Posted: 8/12/2016 2:46:06 PM
^^^^ very, very few actually end up with soul-mates. As for the photo . . . geeze. . . just ignore it.
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