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 Maria11418
Joined: 3/14/2017
Msg: 1
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Inspired by NewYorker58's thread below, I am curious what important things have the forumites learned on POF forum. I was here as NJGirl sometime ago and posted a lot, then got bored and stopped because from seeing a poster's name and thread title I knew what every poster had to say without opening it, now looking every now and then, I still have my quotebook and I have really learned tons on here. One of my favorite quotes, I think it was Oujia the pretty blond, said "don't waste your time worrying about why someone who is not interested in you, is not interested in you. Move on." and so many other words to the wise that I save.
 SLAFFA
Joined: 8/13/2007
Msg: 2
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Posted: 7/8/2017 6:55:58 PM
I have one of "those" jobs where on a "normal" day for me, 2/3 - 3/4 of my time is mine to use as I see fit...

Who needs a train wreck when one can see multiple pileups here daily and no one dies.

I suppose I could "Google" it and try to figure out the persons responsible for a couple of quotes?

1) "You can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink".

2 "Pot meet kettle".

I'll bet both parties resonsible for those spent some time at the Fish Forums.
 Maria11418
Joined: 3/14/2017
Msg: 3
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Posted: 7/8/2017 7:05:49 PM
"I have one of "those" jobs where on a "normal" day for me, 2/3 - 3/4 of my time is mine to use as I see fit..."

Way lucky, Slaffa. For me and most people I know (unfortunately) 8-hour workdays don't exist anymore - the clients wants the job done and you work around the clock or fear being sacked for a younger fresher more energetic etc.
 ThroatLozenge
Joined: 3/2/2016
Msg: 4
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Posted: 7/8/2017 7:07:48 PM
I encourage folks to read these forums.

There's good, bad and ugly here.

66% chance of misery meeting someone online

It's not an organic way to meet someone.

And that is the main problem.

So, reading the crap by NY58 and that entitlement attitude is a very good read for my male colleagues

That sense of entitlement is keeping Ben & Jerrys in business

Home with the cats and...BOB...

Hahahahahaha
 forever_live_and_die
Joined: 6/6/2017
Msg: 5
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Posted: 7/8/2017 7:33:15 PM
and its a great way to stay in shape
 yourstillhere
Joined: 7/30/2008
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Posted: 7/8/2017 7:52:57 PM
I shouldnt post this but........I`ve learned what I`ve always expected, since I was very young.
So its not so much a learning experience as it has been, a" validation of my suspicions experience. "

People in general are extremely naive, predictable, and therefore, vulnerable to manipulation.
 purplerider1200
Joined: 9/10/2011
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Posted: 7/8/2017 8:21:16 PM
A lot of comments from women who think they're entitled to insult men. A couple of them, if they got physically abused by men, I highly doubt that I could feel sorry for them.

A great many of them, I wouldn't deal with on a day to day basis. Their ideas of how men are, is pretty well grounded in common conception of the male sex. A man who is different, doesn't gather his views of women from other men, is branded as undateable. They claim that they want something different. Give them one, and they wouldn't touch him with a ten foot pole.

Many lash out at me, and claim that I hate women. I just counter with comments that I think are just as distasteful as what they handed me. It's amusing, that I see them behave just like the girls that I knew in grade school. Then, I said nothing to them. Now, I'll defend myself some, but still shut up and take it, because they still want the last word in. If they think they've defeated me, think again. I just refrain from sending back more pithing comments, just to move on.

I read the forums to remind me of what I'm NOT missing, about dating. Most of the time, I'll just sit back and read the arguments. What I do remember, is this- Women want

Men who make 150K+ a year.
Drive a Ferrari.
Want one with a PhD (Or higher)
At least 6 foot tall.
Is a hopeless romantic.
And admits that women are always right.
 ThroatLozenge
Joined: 3/2/2016
Msg: 8
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Posted: 7/8/2017 8:27:30 PM
^^^
Cosmo's 666 formula for male success

6 inches
6 feet
6 figures

Whoop! There it is...

Shakalaka shakalaka....
 ThePigOfYourDreams
Joined: 6/30/2017
Msg: 9
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Posted: 7/8/2017 9:25:46 PM
Comedy. Pure comedy.
 Maria11418
Joined: 3/14/2017
Msg: 10
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Posted: 7/8/2017 10:13:59 PM
The PhD part reminds me of a depressing article I recently read (partially cited below) which confirmed that there are not enough educated men for educated women. Not all may agree but water seeks its own level and similarities such as education level make for more stable relationships. While online it may seem there are several men per one woman competing for her precious attention... in real life things are not so great at all.

"A dearth of marriageable men has left an “oversupply” of educated women taking desperate steps to preserve their fertility, experts say."

The first global study into egg freezing found that shortages of eligible men were the prime reason why women had attempted to take matters into their own hands. Experts said “terrifying” demographic shifts had created a “deficit” of educated men and a growing problem of “leftover” professional women, with female graduates vastly outnumbering males in in many countries. The study led by Yale University, involved interviews with 150 women undergoing egg freezing at eight clinics. Researchers found that in more than 90 per cent of cases, the women were attempting to buy extra time because they could not find a partner to settle down with, amid a “dearth of educated men”. Experts said the research bust the myth that “selfish career women” were choosing to out their fertility on ice in a bid to put their careers first.

They said sweeping social changes meant that many professional women now struggled to find a partner that felt like an equal match. In recent decades, the gender balance at British universities has tipped dramatically. In 1985, 45 per cent of UK students were female, but by 2000, 54 per cent were women. This group, now in their late 30s, is finding it harder to find a man of equal status, fertility experts said. And the trend is set to steepen in future generations, they warned, with nearly six in ten current students female. The research, presented at the European Society for Human Reproduction and Embryology conference in Geneva, was based on detailed interviews with women in the United States, and Israel. But the lead author said similar trends were likely in the UK, where women are 35 per cent more likely than men to go to university.

Prof Marcia Inhorn, Professor of Anthopolgy at Yale University, said professional women found themselves losing out in a game of “musical chairs” because there were simply too few men of the same calibre to go around. “There is a major gap - they are literally missing men. There are not enough college graduates for them. In simple terms, this is about an oversupply of educated women,” she said. “In China they call them ‘left over women’. It sounds cold and callous but in demographic terms this is about missing men and left over women.”
 aintnodeal
Joined: 4/10/2016
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Posted: 7/9/2017 1:48:43 AM
Thinking about it.....I don't think I ever picked a date because I thought she could make me laugh.

I'm kind of an information miner. I pull humor/joy/adventure out of the details and context of what people say. Many people think they lead dull lives, but what they're missing is that they just don't know how to interpret their activities in a way that screams "adventure" or "fun".

When I talk to people I'm like a game show host - I quiz them comically about the details of their life. Where? Who? When? How? Why? I give them a personal tale that relates to something they said, and then ask them "What's your favorite XYZ?" out of the blue. People never expect it. Conversation experts will tell you to always talk about the OTHER person, because everyone's favorite subject is themselves.

What were your thinking? How did you feel? What did you do? What comes next for you?

Some people don't like to talk - I move on. Some are always angry - I move on. Some people what stuff - I always give what I promise: NOTHING.
 IBup4it
Joined: 6/15/2017
Msg: 12
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Posted: 7/9/2017 2:10:10 AM
An idea of how people who are not like me view things they really are rather interesting everything they do actually does revolve around sex and find ways to get it. It was rather enlightening to see how people really view how much sex actually effects their lives, not sure why or what drives it but a learning experience definitely. I never knew have the stuff sexual beings actually take into consideration when looking for someone. They make it harder than it has to be, put up barriers intentionally so they don't find happiness, and love, and they do it on purpose which is shocking.

There is nothing secret or personal with them everything is discussed, half the stuff I wouldn't even think talking about, not some of these people. All the information they have put out in the last year, I see why some guys go their own way, and do without women or why their alone, I see why some women are careful, and others why their alone. I see some topics and in the original post are warning signs they are abusive people, and think well that explains that. It's a learning experience as I came here to learn about them as I always thought everyone was similar to me but that was not the case. I thought people who watched strippers, pornos, read dirty magazines had severe issues and were sexual deviants who had problems in relationships, glad that was wrong.

This is a huge learning experience for me for someone in general to talk about these topics with me is hard. I don't understand their sexually driven desire, their pains in dating, and why it's so hard, rejection and why it bothers them, I don't feel that I try but to me it's of no consequence to me it don't bother me if a woman rejects me, or not reply, I have no feeling one way or the other. I try to relate but honestly I cant I am not built that way at all. I don't understand something like approached anxiety I don't grasp the concept on why it bothers others to talk to someone. I try to relate to how they feel but I cant, until you feel it you never truly know.

I don't even know how to explain the difference between us is a reversal of how we think and approach to relationships. They think sex to get emotional and I think emotional to get to possibly sexual. It's an after thought if people here thought like I did they place would be dead, not topics cause there wouldn't be a need for them. I am only trying to increase my knowledge and get a feel on these forums on how people might think or react to different comments. Not sure if I explained that right but these forums are amusing, informative, and fun to read.
 spot4username
Joined: 12/15/2015
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Posted: 7/9/2017 4:30:54 AM
I used to post a lot. I was a casualty of the great purge a while back.

Lost my job in March. Filling out online applications can be tedious and the machine was already right here in my lap so...

Fractured my ankle in May. Being stuck on the sofa has meant lots of books read, shows binged, and old usernames reactivated.
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 14
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Posted: 7/9/2017 5:41:37 AM
goodness...all the prodigal children are returning :) well, the ones who posted often. As bored as they may have gotten, they posted for a reason, and that reason has brought them back. What do they all likely get from the forum? watching the human nature, and being able to interact with it. If soap operas on TV allowed interaction, they might get even more attention.

I like being exposed to people that, honestly, I wouldn't meet otherwise. Part of that is due to their geographic location, part of that is due to their political views, part of that is they are more attractive than I so we wouldn't cross paths, part of that is they are looking for partners that treat women in ways I wouldn't consider. a troll can post a made-up question, and yet...someone will admit they've been in a similar situation. its interesting to see how they think, even the people who don't listen to advice. many people live in their bubble, and forget there are other people out there, conducting their lives in different ways. its nice to "finger the pulse" so to speak. And since i'm early retired, yes, I don't get "office drama", so I can come here for it, and if its too much, just shut off the computer. it beats the boss you can't escape :)

the study about educated women is interesting, I wonder in the old days when women weren't allowed in higher education and died in childbirth so that educated men (who according to cemetaries here in New England lived longer) had more than one wife in their life, how did the men cope? obviously they couldn't freeze their sperm until the right woman stepped out of the stage coach one day.
 Ouija2025
Joined: 6/11/2014
Msg: 15
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Posted: 7/9/2017 6:08:47 AM
I appreciate hearing different points of view.. sometimes I change my opinion based on info.
Easy, I am logged on my puter, it is a nice break from a hectic day
I don't have a big Tribe, consider many of the people here friends.
Have often thought of the fun it would be to have a giant GTG.
Have gotten a lot of support. Lots of laughs too
 fullmoonguy2
Joined: 6/14/2017
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Posted: 7/9/2017 10:40:36 AM

What do you get out of this forum?


Lots of smh entertainment is the simplest way to sum it all up.

A quote from the 1913 novel "O Pioneers" by Willa Cather:

"There are only two or three human stories, and they go on repeating themselves as fiercely as if they had never happened before, like the larks in this country, that have been singing the same five notes for thousands of years".



What I do remember, is this- Women want

Men who make 150K+ a year.
Drive a Ferrari.
Want one with a PhD (Or higher)
At least 6 foot tall.
Is a hopeless romantic.
And admits that women are always right.


Don't forget the male model looks.
 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 17
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Posted: 7/9/2017 12:09:36 PM
Use to come here for the booze.

Now?????

Just here for the shiats and giggles.

And the nutbars.

Makes me feel sane and normal for a few minutes a day.
 Canandaigua_Momma
Joined: 12/16/2015
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Posted: 7/9/2017 6:39:19 PM
Mostly just lighthearted reading for fun and seeing ideas of others.
 Chromis1
Joined: 9/9/2015
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Posted: 7/9/2017 7:44:15 PM
I do the majority of my posting in the Profile Reviews forum. I see profiles that often can be easily improved ... sometimes the poster takes the suggestions to heart and sees better results - no easy task in the land of OLD. So its nice to see success stories in the making.

P.S. Nice to see you back, NJGirl. You're an impartial and intelligent poster.
 hemingway234
Joined: 6/6/2015
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Posted: 7/10/2017 5:41:54 AM
What do I get from this forum? - free cookies! Yay!
 Whatsamattababy
Joined: 6/10/2017
Msg: 21
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Posted: 7/10/2017 12:24:13 PM
I fantasize about everyone on here. If you think you're an exception, you're not. And you can't stop me.
 spot4username
Joined: 12/15/2015
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Posted: 7/10/2017 12:31:10 PM

I fantasize about everyone on here.

I only fantasize about the ones who haven't been using the same photo for the last decade.

I need at least the tiniest touch of reality if I want the big finish.
 ThroatLozenge
Joined: 3/2/2016
Msg: 23
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Posted: 7/10/2017 12:31:14 PM
Finally done with house arrest?

They granted you PC access again?
 Whatsamattababy
Joined: 6/10/2017
Msg: 24
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Posted: 7/10/2017 12:33:27 PM
Less talk, more pictures, people. I don't care if they're real.
 PollyR107
Joined: 4/8/2016
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Posted: 7/10/2017 2:22:45 PM
I'm glad to see you back on here, NJgirl. You were one of my favourite forumites:)

I found advice on the forums very insightful. When I first started online dating on POF, I got frustrated, confused and stressed over some folks' behaviours. I stumbled across one of the topics on Google and found out more related posts which were useful for my dating and how to get myself back on the right track when things didn't go as I expected.

Now, I've been in an exclusive relationship with a guy I met on here and I was thankful for things forumites posted which, I believe, have made me see more sense in dating and life in general. Some of the forumites are funny as well.

Therefore, I've started posting replies to others' threads and seen the pattern of human behaviour which is very similar across the globe. I'd like to help others by giving them advice from my experience and hope that they find it helpful. I wanna make myself useful to folks struggling with similar problems when I was looking to date.

My profile has been hidden. Only forumites can see it and I don't have mail settings because I want everyone on here to message me if they wanna talk off the forums. I have got some folks messaging me discussing some of the posts with me privately. I get the satisfaction out of knowing that people find my opinions useful.
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