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 a88ie100
Joined: 8/26/2017
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Hi Guys

Just a little random question.

I have been at my work for a year now, and there is this one guy who 100% fancies me and i really like him too, for the whole year we been sneaking glances and flirting. weve had this mega crush on each other, but he is shy and i dont have the balls to ask him out directly. I went to ask him out on Monday when he came down to see me and i lost my balls and i said that "us lot" should go out sometime, and not what i wanted to say which was lets go out sometime as in me and him only.

The reason why this is tricky is cos its at work, in a different part of the building. And id be massively embarrassed if he said no, and i tried to save face so this is why i said us lot go out again sometime as in the group.

So any tips from the boys, i am not used to approaching men like this and could do with some pointers?? whats a good way to ask them out but not be too direct.
 Sweet_Danimal
Joined: 10/31/2015
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Posted: 9/21/2017 8:53:04 AM
SEDUCE the guy at work - or just simply connect - and leave the seduction to your bedroom?

People connect socially thru office e-mail all the time - you just can't keep that your primary means of communication. Send a brief message asking for a phone number, and use direct texts to flirt. At least that way you have a chance to edit your message before hitting 'send'.

If you are trying to keep this a strictly 'at office' romance - well, that's like trying to change a tire in the MIDDLE of a busy highway. More than likely it will end in a bad accident. Find a safe place OUT of prying co-workers eyes to conduct your romance. Like a hotel.
 Butterchickenchuck
Joined: 9/18/2015
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Posted: 9/21/2017 9:00:22 AM
Don't risk losing your job by seducing him at work !

Just because there are a lot of scenarios in porn where they boink at work in bathrooms, on desks, etc doesn't mean it would be ok in reality !
 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
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Posted: 9/21/2017 10:52:51 AM


Don't risk losing your job by seducing him at work !

Just because there are a lot of scenarios in porn where they boink at work in bathrooms, on desks, etc doesn't mean it would be ok in reality !

Many people find the excitement associated with the risk of discovery will enhance the experience. When I was younger, I hooked up with a number of women who would only do it when there was that risk. The greater the risk, the more excited they were.

I was “caught” as it were, more than once. Never got arrested, thank goodness. And no, I probably wouldn’t do it now. Unless, of course …
 Yule_liquor
Joined: 12/7/2011
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Posted: 9/21/2017 5:08:06 PM
@ OP


So any tips from the boys, i am not used to approaching men like this and could do with some pointers?? whats a good way to ask them out but not be too direct.


do not send any e-mails at work, because they have a habit of coming back to haunt you...especially if naughty.
If you are fearful that he will turn you down if you ask...then ask him if he is in a relationship...if he says "no" then ask if he is looking for anyone...if he says "yes"...then tell him "me too" with a nice wink to go with it!

If he still doesn't get the message...then IMO, there is not too much else that is likely to work (from your end)...and there could be other factors at play. If he declines, then I would advise you to stop with the flirting....and look elsewhere
 Canandaigua_Momma
Joined: 12/16/2015
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Posted: 9/21/2017 9:23:30 PM
Somehow obtain his number so you can call.
Or work from home and call him at the office!
 NewYorker58
Joined: 6/11/2013
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Posted: 9/22/2017 9:53:50 AM
Get some people together and ask him to go to something specific. If he goes, be prepared with a suggestion to do something alone together, unless you feel bold enough to do that now. See if you can feel him out for what he may like to do.
 Iredurbio2
Joined: 4/18/2013
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Posted: 9/24/2017 11:45:57 AM
It's a smarter and more responsible idea to have another job lined up first.
 PennyAnte
Joined: 4/17/2016
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Posted: 9/25/2017 8:15:17 AM
If you are so sure "100% " that he fancies you, why are you making this so complicated? You really like him, you are certain he has a thing for you.
What is the harm in asking simply... Hey, do you want to grab a drink or sup after work? You are hardly opening a can of worms with a simple request. A lot of people that work together get together after work.
KEEP IT SIMPLE... the rest, if it is meant to be, will fall into your lap.

I wish I was as young and beautiful as you are. You are absolutely stunning and look adorable. What could possibly be in your way, but yourself????. Get out of your own way, hang up the hang up and just ASK.

If there has been ongoing "flirting" as you suggest there is no threat to your job. Just ask if he would like to get a drink, coffee or dinner after work someday. Calling him could be an option but why waste your time doing that when you could pin him down for a face to face which would reveal so much more than a phone chat.

You invite so you pick up the tab. It's opening a door for more and if he slams it shut you have your answers. No need to ponder this over and over analyze and question every move. JUST DO IT !!!

Youth... it is so wasted upon the young.
 PlutoLover68
Joined: 7/28/2016
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Posted: 9/25/2017 1:50:52 PM
Are you at an equal level of at work, neither in a management type position or potential to be in a supervisor management position? If you are not currently equal, or there is potential for that to change I would not get involved. It could easily become an uncomfortable situation where sexual harassment comes in to question.

Tread carefully on work place romance! And, take a few minutes to check and make sure there aren't rules against dating coworkers BEFORE it becomes an issue.
 norwegianguy456
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Posted: 9/25/2017 10:14:09 PM
You're a hot gal, so there's a lot less you have to worry about than you think.

If you're totally worked up over it -- don't make it a Date Date, but just, ya know, grab a drink together 1-on-1 after work some time. Don't give it a label. If you asked a gal at work who you chat with a bit once in a while, to grab a drink after work sometime this week -- is it some crazy big deal? No. Do that with him. Meet up after work at some point for a few drinks... Flirt, talk, etc. Let one thing lead to another... whether that's hitting the sheets or a standard-issue "Date" is then set up.
 aintnodeal
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Posted: 9/27/2017 10:57:02 PM
The XEROX machine seems to be the spot where office folk tend to "get it on".
Double-entendre's usually get the point accross well. Give him a seal manila envelope with a photocopy of your undies. Tell him "I need you to examine these briefs." when you hand the envelope to him.
The storage room tends to be a good make-out spot. Privacy. Inventory. My god....the INVENTORY!
In the old days, a guy could puff on a pipe and say "In my office!" Now, I guess you have to go outside to the designated smoking area and ask him what vape shop he frequents. Just not so romantic in the alley by the dumpster.

Oh, and when you ask a very SPECIFIC question about a SPECIFIC person in a SPECIFIC scenario - that's the very opposite of RANDOM.
 south_city
Joined: 10/12/2013
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Posted: 9/28/2017 12:37:49 PM
Very simple. Get his work or cell number. Then ask him out for a drink after work.
 Butterchickenchuck
Joined: 9/18/2015
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Posted: 9/28/2017 4:42:16 PM
Yes, take him OFF the worksite and THEN seduce him


Don't seduce him AT work


Slow the f down !
 PopCultureGeek
Joined: 11/27/2016
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Posted: 9/29/2017 5:44:12 AM
i'm surprised, thought women are just stubbornly passive
 cooldog65
Joined: 6/27/2011
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Posted: 9/29/2017 12:02:27 PM
OP...So you were dating the abusive guy you mentioned in another thread while flirting with this guy? Sheesh!
 ThePigOfYourDreams
Joined: 6/30/2017
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Posted: 9/29/2017 3:00:35 PM
Cooldog, is there an emoticon to express "cuckoo"?

Former forumite known as shakti discovered a pig one years ago, let me see if it still works..

 PopCultureGeek
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Posted: 9/29/2017 3:44:24 PM
interesting discussion anyway because I always thought women are just stubbornly passive to initiate with a guy, to make the first move no matter how interested they are in a guy, which is something I've always resented with a huge passion, I've always hated being the hunter.
 cooldog65
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Posted: 9/30/2017 8:36:03 AM

Cooldog, is there an emoticon to express "cuckoo"?


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 ThePigOfYourDreams
Joined: 6/30/2017
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Posted: 9/30/2017 10:29:27 AM
Cool. I will now refer to that as the official NewYorker58 emoticon.
 NewYorker58
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Posted: 10/1/2017 12:44:30 PM
It's a crazy world, and I do love to get crazy👅
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