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 Hank10651
Joined: 5/31/2017
Msg: 1
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What gives when a transgendered woman shows up in my search results? I am a "male" seeking a "female" and have indicated it in my search criteria. I have been a POF member for many years. I think that this is unacceptable.
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 2
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Posted: 10/27/2017 4:31:12 PM
I'm computer illegitimate, but I believe if a TGW has herself as "Female", the computers will use that keyword to put her into your search.
 Hank10651
Joined: 5/31/2017
Msg: 3
doesn't do d1ck
Posted: 10/27/2017 8:43:49 PM
I am a retired computer tech. However, I just wish that there was a separate category listed for "transgendered" so it does not show in my searches.
 Algernon
Joined: 10/19/2017
Msg: 4
Transgendered Woman Appearing in Search Results
Posted: 10/28/2017 6:08:52 AM
Transgendered women *are* female.
 aintnodeal
Joined: 4/10/2016
Msg: 5
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Posted: 10/28/2017 4:23:12 PM
You figured out she was transgendered, so it was easy to ignore the profile and on.
You decided to throw a tantrum and reveal your uneasiness to the rest of the POF membership. Now ALL women can see how easily you can be upset. Mission accomplished, I guess....they will know not to respond to you.
 IgottaName
Joined: 3/29/2014
Msg: 6
Transgendered Woman Appearing in Search Results
Posted: 11/3/2017 5:20:12 PM
WTF, Dude? Sorry this has traumatized you so much. If even just seeing the word makes you feel icky maybe you need to find a safe place away from the interwebs...

P.S. Put a f*cking shirt on, will ya. I find it unacceptable...
 Arlo_Troutman
Joined: 6/16/2017
Msg: 7
Transgendered Woman Appearing in Search Results
Posted: 11/4/2017 4:53:03 AM

(hank10651) What gives when a transgendered woman shows up in my search results? I am a "male" seeking a "female" and have indicated it in my search criteria. I have been a POF member for many years. I think that this is unacceptable.


*BUTT-HURT ALERT!!!* *BUTT-HURT ALERT!!!*

Aren't interested in TGW? Click "Next". There, fixed that for ya...

How anyone can be so technically accomplished, but such an emotional wreck, is beyond me...
 halcyon_skies
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 8
Transgendered Woman Appearing in Search Results
Posted: 11/4/2017 1:16:17 PM
All straight men on here receive profile matches from transgendered women. You are not being singled out. POF considers them to be women, rather than men.

Try not to take it personally, and just move on to the next profile.
 norwegianguy456
Joined: 6/11/2015
Msg: 9
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Posted: 11/9/2017 12:45:57 PM

However, I just wish that there was a separate category listed for "transgendered" so it does not show in my searches.

Who cares? I'd prefer it if huge large ugly girls who even if they lost 150lbs would still be unattractive wouldn't show. So what? :)

Yeah, the site has Male OR Female. And there are trans Males & Females (who they trans toward) -- so yeah, you'll see one of those once in a great while. There's not enough Trans people in society for a "Trans Male" & "Trans Female". There are SO few of them in society in actuality. But sure, a checkbox/answer that you're Tran -- and a search filter by default "Don't Care" but you can say Yay or Nay to a rare possible Tran YES answer -- yeah, ideal I guess. A lot for way way less than 1% of the population, tho.

Just grin and bear it. It ain't no thing, man. :)
 cw35
Joined: 4/8/2005
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Posted: 11/20/2017 4:16:25 PM
This is the funniest thing I have ever read. Why do you care who shows up in your matches? You aren't obligated to date them or email them. Are you really that transphobic? I get men in my matches on OK Cupid every so often for some reason. I don't have a coronary about it.
 Arlo_Troutman
Joined: 6/16/2017
Msg: 11
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Posted: 11/24/2017 3:37:16 AM

(cw35) This is the funniest thing I have ever read. Why do you care who shows up in your matches?


Because he's a big wienie.


(cw35) Are you really that transphobic?


I really dislike the use of the suffix "-phobic". It's an intellectually lazy attempt to claim the moral high ground by relegating the newly-outed "-phobe" as morally barren. Not likingsomething, is not the same thing as having an irrational fear of it, which is what a phobia actually is. The morally pure are having a real field day with this here in Canada.

Besides, phobias are real, recognized psychological maladies, that can and do have a real impact on people's lives. Stop cheapening a real medical term by (mis)using it to Virtue Signal.

Love your subject change, though...
 norwegianguy456
Joined: 6/11/2015
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Posted: 11/24/2017 10:13:14 AM

It's an intellectually lazy attempt to claim the moral high ground by relegating the newly-outed "-phobe" as morally barren. Not likingsomething, is not the same thing as having an irrational fear of it, which is what a phobia actually is.

Starting a thread being WTF about a Small fraction of a % of the population rarely showing up in a listing -- is more than merely not liking something. It's being way too wigged out about it -- an indicator of having an irrational fear of it. But I get it -- it may not be a fear like a fear of spiders, but certainly can be in a particular way, as it is with some, notably with those who'd be wigging out like the OP. And I'm sure freaking out about spiders (as some gals are) -- doesn't require some official psychological issue about it. Don't have a phobia about one using the term phobia not so stringently, when the person in question certainly can have a fear of something. :)

Love your subject change, though...

Thanks! :)
 Arlo_Troutman
Joined: 6/16/2017
Msg: 13
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Posted: 11/24/2017 4:34:40 PM


(AT) It's an intellectually lazy attempt to claim the moral high ground by relegating the newly-outed "-phobe" as morally barren. Not likingsomething, is not the same thing as having an irrational fear of it, which is what a phobia actually is.


(norwegianguy456) Starting a thread being WTF about a Small fraction of a % of the population rarely showing up in a listing -- is more than merely not liking something. It's being way too wigged out about it -- an indicator of having an irrational fear of it. But I get it -- it may not be a fear like a fear of spiders, but certainly can be in a particular way, as it is with some, notably with those who'd be wigging out like the OP. And I'm sure freaking out about spiders (as some gals are) -- doesn't require some official psychological issue about it.


Phobias are real, actual, psychological maladies requiring medical intervention. As it is too often used by Social Justice Warriors, it seeks to denigrate any position with which they disagree by suggesting that it is some sort of Real Thing -- which is highly insulting to actual sufferers of actual phobias (and I'm not talking about the "Spiders are icky!" crowd, but people, say, who have claustrophobia to the extent that they cannot get in an elevator. I have met two such people in the last three years.)


(norwegianguy456) Don't have a phobia about one using the term phobia not so stringently, when the person in question certainly can have a fear of something. :)


First of all, I don't have a phobia about people misusing the term "phobia" -- I'm having a cow. Get your terminology right.

Second of all, a "fear of something" does not necessarily rise to the level of a phobia. As cw35 was using it (perhaps not even being aware of it, so pervasive has it become in our society), he was seeking to shut the OP down. Shutting people down is *WAAAY* less effective than mocking them; b'sides, as I've already said, calling everything under the sun a "phobia", is insulting to those who have real phobias. Let's not.



(AT) Love your subject change, though...


(norwegianguy456) Thanks! :)


Were there really 455 norwegianguys before you?
 norwegianguy456
Joined: 6/11/2015
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Posted: 11/24/2017 5:13:09 PM
A phobia is: "an extreme or irrational fear of or aversion to something". Doesn't necessarily require medical intervention, no. A gal has a phobia of spiders and freaks out about them -- yeah, people are going to call it a phobia. There's a difference between a medical term and social use term where I'm sure in the former, it's going to be more stringent. In the same sense a gal freaks out about spiders too much having a phobia of spiders -- a guy going off starting a thread about transgender people online that he doesn't even want to see in a list that sets him off .... yeah, on the same level.
 Arlo_Troutman
Joined: 6/16/2017
Msg: 15
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Posted: 11/24/2017 8:24:18 PM

(norwegianguy456) A phobia is: "an extreme or irrational fear of or aversion to something". Doesn't necessarily require medical intervention, no. A gal has a phobia of spiders and freaks out about them -- yeah, people are going to call it a phobia. There's a difference between a medical term and social use term where I'm sure in the former, it's going to be more stringent. In the same sense a gal freaks out about spiders too much having a phobia of spiders -- a guy going off starting a thread about transgender people online that he doesn't even want to see in a list that sets him off .... yeah, on the same level.


Okay, Playah, slow your roll. You know good-n-gawddamn-well that SJWs use the suffix "-phobic", not to describe a psychological malady, but to try and silence (and shame) anyone who disagrees with them. Don't even pretend that it's a value-neutral term when used by leftists.

We've gone around the block before, where you tried to argue that you were right by your own peculiar (and wrong) definition. Why are you so eager to repeat that magnificent failure?
 ThePigOfYourDreams
Joined: 6/30/2017
Msg: 16
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Posted: 11/25/2017 4:12:03 AM


Okay, Playah, slow your roll. You know good-n-gawddamn-well that SJWs use the suffix "-phobic", not to describe a psychological malady, but to try and silence (and shame) anyone who disagrees with them. Don't even pretend that it's a value-neutral term when used by leftists.


I couldn't care less whether T-girls show up in search results, but this is 100% true.
 norwegianguy456
Joined: 6/11/2015
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Posted: 11/25/2017 12:54:38 PM

SJWs use the suffix "-phobic", not to describe a psychological malady, but to try and silence (and shame) anyone who disagrees with them.

They'll overreach on a lot of things and overblow tons, yep. But it doesn't take a SJW to call someone tranny-phobic if they're starting a thread about freaking out about seeing a tranny in the listings. That's my point. And yes, the term is fitting in that situation. :)
 Arlo_Troutman
Joined: 6/16/2017
Msg: 18
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Posted: 11/25/2017 4:54:02 PM


(AT) SJWs use the suffix "-phobic", not to describe a psychological malady, but to try and silence (and shame) anyone who disagrees with them.


(norwegianguy456) They'll overreach on a lot of things and overblow tons, yep. But it doesn't take a SJW to call someone tranny-phobic if they're starting a thread about freaking out about seeing a tranny in the listings.


They'd be more accurately labelled a Butt-Hurt Wienie. Because, you know, that's what they're being.


(norwegianguy456) That's my point. And yes, the term is fitting in that situation. :)


Nope. The suffix "-phobic" is so widely thrown about, that it has lost any real meaning, except to signal that the person using it is out of real arguments, and is desperately trying to claim the Moral High-Ground. That's *MY* point.

For the third -- and last -- time, you Great Thundering Idiot, "phobia" refers to a real psychological malady, often requiring some degree of medical intervention. It is not, repeat *NOT*, any idea that is socially unpopular at the time.

On a tangential note: I used to like to tell people that I have Sub-Clinical Seasonal Affective Disorder (i.e., doesn't require medical intervention). There's actually no such thing -- I was just using it so I'd have an "out" for being a cranky asshole. But, once I realized what an insult that was to people with actual psychological issues, I stopped. Instead, I'm now insufferably arrogant... but, I own that sh!t, and don't make excuses for it.
 Canandaigua_Momma
Joined: 12/16/2015
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Posted: 11/25/2017 10:49:32 PM
I like your approach and style, Arlo_Troutman!
 norwegianguy456
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Posted: 11/26/2017 1:20:16 PM

"phobia" refers to a real psychological malady, often requiring some degree of medical intervention

That's not in it's definition, no. I agree that "phobia", like many things, can be too hastily-applied, sure. However, my point is this: It's no more over-the-top in OP's case, than telling him he's freaking out over nothing. If one feels he's not going over-the-top at all being so affected by it that he wants to start a thread as he thinks it's UnAcceptable -- then sure, you're right, saying he's freaking out over nothing or that he's "tranny-phobic" shouldn't apply.

Personally, I do think he's freaking out "too much" and it's more than a preference. Otherwise he wouldn't start a thread saying it's Unacceptable. If he was someone just commenting in a thread just saying "Yeah, I'd prefer POF to have two other gender categories for transvestites," no, I wouldn't say that. THAT is where someone criticizing That statement would be too-hastily calling one "tranny-phobic" (ie freaking out too much about seeing a tranny thumbnail & headline).
 Arlo_Troutman
Joined: 6/16/2017
Msg: 21
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Posted: 11/26/2017 1:59:57 PM

(Canandaigua_Momma) I like your approach and style, Arlo_Troutman!


I do class up the joint! :laugh:



(AT) "phobia" refers to a real psychological malady, often requiring some degree of medical intervention


(norwegianguy456) That's not in it's definition, no.


(Arlo massages his temples to try and dissipate the tension head-ache that's starting up...)

I see you're repeating your failed strategy of trying to redefine terms until you're "right" by definition. It bombed spectacularly the last time you tried it, so I'm curious as to why you're trying it again?


(norwegianguy456) I agree that "phobia", like many things, can be too hastily-applied, sure.


Shhh! Just... just stop talking. :roll:


(norwegianguy456) However, my point is this: It's no more over-the-top in OP's case, than telling him he's freaking out over nothing.


Then why *NOT* just say, "Dude, you're freaking out over nothing!", instead of trying to sound all hoity-toity by (mis)using a term that has a very specific, medical definition? That's like just using any old word to describe a mathematical function.

Words, especially medical terms, have very specific meanings. If you don't understand them, just avoid them all together. Otherwise, if/when you come up against someone who actually knows words, you'll just look like a Dumb-Ass.


(norwegianguy456) Personally, I do think he's freaking out "too much" and it's more than a preference. Otherwise he wouldn't start a thread saying it's Unacceptable. If he was someone just commenting in a thread just saying "Yeah, I'd prefer POF to have two other gender categories for transvestites," no, I wouldn't say that. THAT is where someone criticizing That statement would be too-hastily calling one "tranny-phobic" (ie freaking out too much about seeing a tranny thumbnail & headline).


Well, look who thinks *HE'S* the Boss of Language, and who can (mis)use terms, and under what circumstances!

Norwegianguy456, you couldn't organize a fart after a bean cook-out. People, other than me, aren't remaining silent because they agree with you -- they couldn't be bothered. Me, I'm just toying with you.

Arlo Troutman -- "Truth-bombing the fcuk out of ignorance, one post at a time!" :roll:
 halcyon_skies
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 22
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Posted: 11/26/2017 8:18:21 PM

Then why *NOT* just say, "Dude, you're freaking out over nothing!", instead of trying to sound all hoity-toity by (mis)using a term that has a very specific, medical definition? That's like just using any old word to describe a mathematical function.


The word, "nothing" is subjective. What may be "nothing" to you could be "significant" to the OP. If you're really striving for verbal accuracy, why not just say that the OP is intolerant of transgendered individuals?
 Arlo_Troutman
Joined: 6/16/2017
Msg: 23
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Posted: 11/27/2017 3:24:00 AM


(AT) Then why *NOT* just say, "Dude, you're freaking out over nothing!", instead of trying to sound all hoity-toity by (mis)using a term that has a very specific, medical definition? That's like just using any old word to describe a mathematical function.


(halcyon_skies) The word, "nothing" is subjective. What may be "nothing" to you could be "significant" to the OP. If you're really striving for verbal accuracy, why not just say that the OP is intolerant of transgendered individuals?


Sure, one could say that. Glad to see my insistence on the accurate usage of terminology is rubbing off on you! There may be hope for you yet! It must be nice to be on the right (i.e., my) side of an issue for once!

I was, and am, irked by the co-opting of a very specific medical term (the suffix "-phobia") by the socially progressive, to describe a socially unpopular idea. The guy has a dislike of MTF transsexuals. On the spectrum of psychological maladies, that doesn't even register. That Big Stupid-Head, norwegianguy456, is implicitly arguing that it *DOES* meet the standard of a psychological malady. He needs to stop.
 ThePigOfYourDreams
Joined: 6/30/2017
Msg: 24
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Posted: 11/27/2017 4:02:56 AM
The OP's default picture cracks me up. It looks like Ben Vereen getting excited during a session with his favorite porn cam girl.
 9Pluto
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Posted: 11/27/2017 9:40:16 AM

I was, and am, irked by the co-opting of a very specific medical term (the suffix "-phobia") by the socially progressive, to describe a socially unpopular idea. The guy has a dislike of MTF transsexuals. On the spectrum of psychological maladies, that doesn't even register. That Big Stupid-Head, norwegianguy456, is implicitly arguing that it *DOES* meet the standard of a psychological malady. He needs to stop.
There is no conclusive evidence the OP has a dislike (not stated he dislikes), phobia (Not said they give him ED) or intolerance (not generalized this except in the preference of search results) of XY women.

Arlo, careful with that innocent irk, it could become progressive much as FDR may have instilled upon a nation "the fear of fear itself". Phobophobia is a serious disorder.
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