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 simsbr82
Joined: 10/17/2017
Msg: 1
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I chatted with a guy on Pof for 5 days and today he asked for my number. I gave him my name and number and he gave me his name and number, if its a real number. He never called and want to say something to him about it in a message on Pof ,or would I be wrong and need to just let it go?
 Robyn143
Joined: 7/19/2016
Msg: 2
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He asked for my number and never called
Posted: 10/30/2017 3:00:56 PM
ummm, why dont YOU call or text him? simple as that
 simsbr82
Joined: 10/17/2017
Msg: 3
He asked for my number and never called
Posted: 10/30/2017 3:11:17 PM
I forgot to add he say will call you in a few and that was hours ago.
 Cynderella
Joined: 3/8/2007
Msg: 4
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He asked for my number and never called
Posted: 10/30/2017 3:48:12 PM
It's been a shot time if it was just hours ago...
Work
Busy
Life
Shithappens
Be patient he will call or won't simple as that.
Good luck
 PlutoLover68
Joined: 7/28/2016
Msg: 5
He asked for my number and never called
Posted: 10/30/2017 4:35:21 PM
it happens. People disappear and are never heard from again. I had coffee plans with someone two weeks ago. He disappeared and I never heard from him again.

Have you googled his number to see if it leads to anything?

I always google to see if it comes up as a landline, cell, or VOIP. If it links to a VOIP number it is very likely a scammer.
you can also put it in the search bar on Facebook and see if it links to a profile.
 simsbr82
Joined: 10/17/2017
Msg: 6
He asked for my number and never called
Posted: 10/30/2017 4:38:57 PM
I did that already lol
First thing I do when get a number. He is still in Pof and really want to say something to him about it.
 sun___flower
Joined: 5/8/2015
Msg: 7
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He asked for my number and never called
Posted: 10/30/2017 4:49:30 PM
Perhaps you could text him and ask if now is a good time to talk?
 LiliMarleen
Joined: 5/24/2009
Msg: 8
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He asked for my number and never called
Posted: 10/30/2017 5:11:39 PM
Just let it go. 90% of the people you chat with will not lead to a phone call, 90% of the people who call you will not lead to a date, and 90% of the people you go on a first date with will not lead to a second date.

This is just the nature of online dating. If you cannot deal with that, you are not cut out for this type of dating. It's a learning curve, but it's really best to not invest any kind of emotion in people until probably date three or four.

Until then they are strangers to you, and you need to exercise a certain level of detachment. Otherwise you're just going to go nuts, and this really isn't worth it.
 simsbr82
Joined: 10/17/2017
Msg: 9
He asked for my number and never called
Posted: 10/30/2017 5:18:59 PM
Ok thanks
so that leads to 5 or 10% of guys actually will follow though in which is crazy. I'm seeing that giving your number out to guys interested in is not a good idea. Would is a better option?
 LiliMarleen
Joined: 5/24/2009
Msg: 10
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He asked for my number and never called
Posted: 10/30/2017 5:21:07 PM
I gave my number out because it helped ME weed out people I had no interest in meeting. But, yeah, some of them didn't call. I learned not to care.
 simsbr82
Joined: 10/17/2017
Msg: 11
He asked for my number and never called
Posted: 10/30/2017 5:24:18 PM
Well myself I do need to not worry about it because is true you get caught up in words and photos but they are still strangers. I texted the number he gave just to see if I will get a reply and I didnt so that is confirmation for me to move forward and he is not serious.
 Ladyinred0407
Joined: 2/6/2016
Msg: 12
He asked for my number and never called
Posted: 10/30/2017 5:24:45 PM

..............would I be wrong and need to just let it go?


Yes..and yes.

On-line dating /
Rule number one. Nothing is real until you meet face to face.
Rule number two. See rule number one.
 fullmoonguy2
Joined: 6/14/2017
Msg: 13
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He asked for my number and never called
Posted: 10/30/2017 6:27:41 PM

he say will call you in a few and that was hours ago.


I hear you.

22 years ago, a woman I met in a nightclub said she would have me over for Thanksgiving leftovers.

I'm still waiting.

And starving.
 simsbr82
Joined: 10/17/2017
Msg: 14
He asked for my number and never called
Posted: 10/30/2017 7:28:40 PM
Well he just called and every other word was a curse word, ummm no!
Thats the reason I like a phone call
 aintnodeal
Joined: 4/10/2016
Msg: 15
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He asked for my number and never called
Posted: 10/30/2017 8:25:09 PM

so that leads to 5 or 10% of guys actually will follow though in which is crazy


And men who send messages to women on POF have a response rate of less than half that. Who's crazy NOW?!?
 __TEXASCHICK__
Joined: 11/9/2011
Msg: 16
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He asked for my number and never called
Posted: 10/30/2017 11:21:31 PM
well recken that dude is a bust.
next,,,,,,,,,,
 hemingway234
Joined: 6/6/2015
Msg: 17
He asked for my number and never called
Posted: 11/6/2017 9:03:39 AM
People have a right to say "no" or stop pursuing you at anytime. Don't you enjoy that right also? Rejection is a painful part of dating. Let it go and talk to the next guy.
 south_city
Joined: 10/12/2013
Msg: 18
He asked for my number and never called
Posted: 11/10/2017 6:03:06 PM
I know the OP is gone and he did call her. But in general, people should be more patient and not immediately dismiss someone because they didn't contact you right away. Perhaps they had cell phone problems or they were sick or became preoccupied with work, family or other obligations.
 OneInAQuadrillion
Joined: 10/1/2017
Msg: 19
He asked for my number and never called
Posted: 11/11/2017 10:33:46 AM
You waited 5 days? LOL. 5 minutes is too long dear.
 bringabigladder
Joined: 8/10/2016
Msg: 20
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He asked for my number and never called
Posted: 2/14/2018 4:55:56 AM
Many insincere people on here.. give me your number and I will ring you
 DrivingHarmony2018
Joined: 2/10/2018
Msg: 21
He asked for my number and never called
Posted: 2/17/2018 5:05:06 PM
OP:

I am with many of the other posters - let this one go. If a man is truly interested, he would text/call. Simple. If not, move on. Once you give your phone number out, don't invest anymore thought into it. If he calls/texts - great. If not, who cares.....And just like another poster mentioned - you could always contact him first since you exchanged numbers.

When I online dated 2011-2014, I used to give my number out. Second time around end of 2017 - I specifically asked for the guy's phone number. This way, I contacted him first via text or phone call. Simple.

If I learned ANYTHING from online dating - NOTHING IS REAL UNTIL YOU MEET. No text, no phone call, nothing until you actually meet face to face. Keep this in mind and you will save yourself a lot of time. Good luck :)
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