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I've been on dating sites for 6 months, and this thing is probably what puzzles me most.
I often see in guys profiles: "I am drama-free" or "I don't want any drama". What do they mean? I understand that an ex with an ax is probably a drama. :-) But that doesn't happen often, right? I wouldn't put in my description "I don't want a convicted murderer". It feels like this drama that everybody is talking about is something easy to run into.
Please share examples of what you think is drama AND happens often enough to talk about in a profile. Trying to determine if I'm eligible to put "drama-free" in mine. :-))
Thank you.
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 2
Posted: 11/6/2017 11:23:50 AM
Try this thread for some insight:
Joined: 6/14/2017
Msg: 3
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Posted: 11/6/2017 11:33:13 AM

Please share examples of what you think is drama

Making mountains out of molehills about everything.

Engaging in self-destructive behaviors.

Creating a life that is mostly going from one crisis to the next.

I often see in guys profiles: "I am drama-free"

What do they mean?

Well, I'm not sure of what all the other guys mean, but, here's one fine example of actual "drama-free"":

"Very healthy SWM, not married, never married, no kids, non-smoker, no drugs, no diseases, no addictions, no medications, no allergies, no tattoos, no criminal record, financially secure."
Joined: 10/15/2007
Msg: 4
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Posted: 11/6/2017 12:06:07 PM
Drama comes in two types:
Drama-addiction: Someone who is addicted to the pleasure-producing hormones that result from intentionally feeling large emotional swings and uncertainties. They live their lives as actors in a soap opera, never allowing for resolution off their high. (manufactures stress to feel alive where it does not exist)

Drama-carrier: Someone who has prior external pressures that affect your pursuit of happiness in being their partner, even if these undesirable factors have entered against their wishes. (a rebellious child, a recurrent ex, an unstable job history causing a need to leech)

Joined: 4/10/2016
Msg: 5
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Posted: 11/6/2017 9:56:17 PM
Means NO "baby-momma-drama", that is, his kids' mother/moms are not going to:
- burst into the home you while you're smooching on the couch with your date
- walk up to the table while you're eating dinner at a restaurant - or "coincidentally" be in the same restaurant or store
- call frequently EVERY SINGLE TIME you meet your date
- disrupt your date/weekend/travel plans because "something came up" with the kids that HE has to deal with right away
- critique your "lack of style", "lack of class", "lack of assets", or "lack of love skillz"
- stalk you on social media, in the streets, at work
- vandalize your car/property
Joined: 5/13/2017
Msg: 6
Posted: 11/7/2017 8:38:28 PM
A person who puts that in their profile has the intelligence quotient of a snow pea. Turn around, do not pass go.
Joined: 8/28/2017
Msg: 7
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Posted: 12/3/2017 11:02:02 PM
Ima assume it’s about kids and no baby mamas
Joined: 3/2/2016
Msg: 8
Posted: 12/4/2017 6:49:36 PM
Mentioning commitment before sex is the worst drama

Mentioning compatibility before sex is more drama
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 9
Posted: 12/6/2017 8:28:22 PM
its a reduction of bulls#$. Drama is caused by people who engage in life's challenges not logically, but emotionally. Their impulse control is low, b/c they look good enough to get away with it. They start arguments over any little incident, rather than have any trust. They get off on the thrill of emotional roller coasters. They want that angry sex. Breakup sex. They don't worry about the ramifications, they always choose to do what feels good.
Joined: 6/6/2015
Msg: 10
Posted: 12/10/2017 11:31:42 AM
It just means that they don't want someone with a bad attitude or too many problems. Both men and women write this in profiles.

Of course it's negative and does not belong in a profile, it's a turnoff......most normal people don't want drama, it goes without saying.
Joined: 5/30/2017
Msg: 11
Posted: 12/16/2017 4:41:18 PM
Wimp drama free I come with drama I'll give you drama all day every day ! You want easy go to you want to sit say fetch for a pizza and beer and have me be your side dish sex doll ? Go for it see how far you drama free boys get I come with baggage plenty of baggage and it's my mission to make your life a living hell
Joined: 11/6/2017
Msg: 12
Posted: 12/23/2017 8:26:38 PM
Most drama is drummed up artifically by people who enjoy drama. "Drama-free" people aren't necessarily conflict-avoidant, they're just not compelled to escalate bullshit in order to have it around.

There's your answer.
Joined: 10/11/2017
Msg: 13
Posted: 12/24/2017 10:02:13 PM
As you can tell most guys have their own versions of what drama is actually I think everyone does.
Joined: 10/12/2013
Msg: 14
Posted: 12/26/2017 7:09:38 AM
I have seen this written in both men's and women's profiles. In general I would take this cliche with a grain of salt. I think it often means some combination of the following.

Unresolved issues or problems with an ex
Needing to be the center of attention
Having emotional reactions or exaggerating relatively petty or trivial things
Joined: 1/7/2018
Msg: 15
Posted: 1/24/2018 6:33:00 AM
It means they are drama. Most people lack perspective about how they really are. If you are intuitive you can read through the lines and save yourself a lot of time.
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Msg: 16
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Posted: 2/11/2018 9:19:08 AM
"drama" = mental disorders, substance abuse, financial instability, relationship issues.

Anything that might cause stress in a relationship.
Joined: 2/6/2016
Msg: 17
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Posted: 2/11/2018 10:20:32 AM
When he states, "Drama free".
Interpretation: As long as we do things my way. Period
There will be no drama!
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 18
Posted: 2/11/2018 10:54:25 AM
My interpretation of "drama-free" is that it means: "I provide drama free of charge."

Just don't be fooled by the words---it will actually cost you.
Joined: 10/11/2017
Msg: 19
Posted: 2/14/2018 9:49:28 AM
drama free is single life unless you have daughters then you have to listen to it and give advice on it. Happy daughter will off to college but at the same time sad have to admit baby is all grown up and fleeing the coop. Well it opens up some more free time for a lady though guess that is a plus, oh wait nevermind with her comes her drama too it never ends.
Joined: 6/11/2015
Msg: 20
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Posted: 2/15/2018 3:41:40 PM

"I am drama-free" or "I don't want any drama".

I see those being different, if it's just that conveyed in the profile.

I see just "I'm drama free" as a descriptor -- they don't have to be full of drama at all (see rest of profile for any indicators). They just know it's a single site, and sure, there's many drama-ripe people around juggling kids & baby-momma/daddy drama, but I'm not one of them.

But I see "I don't want any drama" raises an eyebrow a bit. "I don't want any trouble here Mister..." is the first thought that popped in my head. They're already being defensive. Means that they've had drama come their way too often. Not good when you're playing the odds-game, even by just that statement.

... of course, if they're hot, and you're not going down the Relationship-or-bust route, who cares, right? :)
Joined: 6/27/2011
Msg: 21
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Posted: 2/19/2018 11:01:57 AM
Let's wrap up this drama thread...
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