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 sussex11
Joined: 12/24/2017
Msg: 1
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Anyone ever have this problem? It was a problem for me, I had a quick divorce but the sting of that bad relationship stayed with me. Then I met the new person, nice guy just looked like ex. I tried to get over that, and later on when we kissed I had to shut my eyes so that I wouldn't see ex. It's funny cause, one time I saw that he too had his eyes closed...I wondered if I looked like his ex. Didn't ask. Anyone else ever had this issue?
 halforhalfnot
Joined: 9/13/2016
Msg: 2
New person looks like an ex.....
Posted: 1/1/2018 12:08:04 PM
Just seems like you've got a type.
 forumzfishonly
Joined: 12/17/2017
Msg: 3
New person looks like an ex.....
Posted: 1/1/2018 12:09:48 PM
I thought it was automatic to close your eyes while kissing, kinda like sneezing. ??Hmmmm
 sussex11
Joined: 12/24/2017
Msg: 4
New person looks like an ex.....
Posted: 1/1/2018 12:31:45 PM
That's funny....I never thought I had anything. How do I lose it?
 sussex11
Joined: 12/24/2017
Msg: 5
New person looks like an ex.....
Posted: 1/1/2018 12:33:05 PM
Men don't close their eyes for anything.....they want to see every dang thing. Maybe I should have wore sunglasses, I could have told him I was blind.
 from site to sight
Joined: 11/30/2007
Msg: 6
New person looks like an ex.....
Posted: 1/1/2018 1:50:44 PM
The question is: If the guy looks like your ex or reminds you of him, why did you bother going on a date with him? I'm assuming you saw a picture of him beforehand. It's only a problem if you want it to be.
 sussex11
Joined: 12/24/2017
Msg: 7
New person looks like an ex.....
Posted: 1/1/2018 2:44:11 PM
He only looked like him, he did not act like my ex. But, for me there was a little fear that it was because it was the beginning. How do I know that he couldn't have started acting like my ex? True it wasn't a real big problem or I would have never gone out with him to begin with. I knew looks aren't everything. But, looks are something. I don't have problems, I deal with them or wave bye bye. Come on I know you men, must have some insight.
 sussex11
Joined: 12/24/2017
Msg: 8
New person looks like an ex.....
Posted: 1/1/2018 2:45:05 PM
This is my type....anyone as dumb as my ex can take a hike.
 forumzfishonly
Joined: 12/17/2017
Msg: 9
New person looks like an ex.....
Posted: 1/1/2018 3:12:45 PM
Sounds like you’re not over your ex, perhaps that’s why you imagine him in them?
 overunity
Joined: 8/16/2014
Msg: 10
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New person looks like an ex.....
Posted: 1/1/2018 3:39:45 PM
Does he look like Paul Reubens wearing his Pee-wee Herman costume?
 sexandthepof
Joined: 10/1/2012
Msg: 11
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New person looks like an ex.....
Posted: 1/1/2018 5:54:24 PM
LOL. You really have sense of humor. This OP can be in both here and Humor forum. The more I read, the more I laughed.
 Cynderella
Joined: 3/8/2007
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New person looks like an ex.....
Posted: 1/1/2018 6:18:51 PM
Twin brother adopted at birth
 halcyon_skies
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 13
New person looks like an ex.....
Posted: 1/1/2018 8:18:47 PM
If you didn't want to be reminded of your ex, why did you choose this new guy who resembles him?

Did you just want to prove to your ex how easily he could be replaced?
 LLove2LaughToo
Joined: 10/25/2017
Msg: 14
New person looks like an ex.....
Posted: 1/1/2018 8:55:04 PM
Imagine dating someone that looks like your ex, and calling out the wrong name in the throes of passion.
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 15
New person looks like an ex.....
Posted: 1/1/2018 9:04:51 PM
people keep their eyes open during kissing? what do they expect to see that wasn't there two seconds prior? :)

Sometimes, we date similar looking people, just b/c we have a physical type. For example, I like curves on a woman, so I've only dated one skinny girl (and that was my first). if you date for the purpose of getting physical, it makes sense. if you date just for companionship, and end up with partners leading you to sex, then perhaps you don't date the same physical type, but personality type.
 norwegianguy456
Joined: 6/11/2015
Msg: 16
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Posted: 1/2/2018 1:35:15 PM

Then I met the new person, nice guy just looked like ex.

You gravitated toward him, it's what gravitated you. Problem is, when the rubber meats the road, you get freaked out by it. Mixed feelings, I guess. Some people will noticeably go for someone who looks A Lot like their ex, or the polar Opposite. Best thing to do is recognize what you're chasing. When on the rebound though, there's learning to do; everything's not so cut n dry.
 south_city
Joined: 10/12/2013
Msg: 17
New person looks like an ex.....
Posted: 1/2/2018 1:39:42 PM
A current girlfriend looking like an ex would not be a problem for me. If a current girlfriend behaved like an ex and the ex had some annoying habits, that could be a different story.
 sussex11
Joined: 12/24/2017
Msg: 18
New person looks like an ex.....
Posted: 1/2/2018 1:54:49 PM
I don't go out looking for that type, and all the other men I've dated over the years have not resembled the ex, so I don't feel that its a picking problem. I try not to let looks be the only deciding factor.' Actions always speak loader than words, anyhow. What if the girlfriend looked like your mother, would that be ok? Or would you just say: Next!!!
 norwegianguy456
Joined: 6/11/2015
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Posted: 1/2/2018 2:19:16 PM

What if the girlfriend looked like your mother, would that be ok?

I wouldn't have a girlfriend who looked like my mom, let alone even consider a date -- sheesh! :) So the question is -- why did you go out on a date with the guy? Attraction, even if you don't put a Ton of stock in looks. Just because it didn't happen immediately after rebound doesn't mean it didn't well up some. One of the facades in the dating scene is when one thinks they're over an ex, but really aren't, as it's passively still welling underneath it all.

Again, you went on a date with him. Would I with a a gal who looked just like an ex who screwed me over? Maybe, to get some anger-sex in (then apologize to her; "it's not you, it's me"). ;)

Or would you just say: Next!!!

Saying "Next!" is one of the dumbest self-righteous things - lol. So no, I wouldn't say that! lol
 hemingway234
Joined: 6/6/2015
Msg: 20
New person looks like an ex.....
Posted: 1/3/2018 4:38:55 AM
It sounds like you are on the rebound, not over your ex yet. If you were over the ex, it would not matter.

How long were you with the ex and how long have you been single?
 aintnodeal
Joined: 4/10/2016
Msg: 21
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Posted: 1/3/2018 10:29:59 AM
I wouldn't care. It's not the same person. There are types of body shapes I prefer. It's not strange for me to look at & fantasize about women who look similar to ex-girlfriends.

Bottom Line - it's not the same person.
 from site to sight
Joined: 11/30/2007
Msg: 22
New person looks like an ex.....
Posted: 1/3/2018 2:44:35 PM
If your ex looks like the guy you met and you all live in the same area, you better check to make sure they're not related. That could make family reunions awkward. If they're not related and it still bothers you, deal with your issues first.
 sussex11
Joined: 12/24/2017
Msg: 23
New person looks like an ex.....
Posted: 1/4/2018 6:00:48 PM
forumzfishonly if I was so good at imagining, I would have imagined some sexy little hunk. Thanks for your expert advice.
 LetitiaLeGrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
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Posted: 1/5/2018 4:47:01 PM
sussex11

you are right, men are very visual but do they all keep their eyes open... I dont know.... I do think you probably have a type and maybe the guy has one also and you are both dealing with other images lol!.
 LetitiaLeGrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
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Posted: 1/5/2018 4:48:44 PM
As has been inferred elsewhere we get what we project. What is our inner male or female is largely put on a suitable hook of the opposite sex....
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