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 five-marie
Joined: 7/31/2011
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Not the first time I've received messages similar to this. A man whom lives across the border in the US (I'm in Canada) messaged me saying he had 56 3D movies and 4 pair of 3D glasses. Wanted me to drive to Ohio to watch these movies with him.
I replied "You think I'm going to drive to Ohio to watch TV with a stranger?"
He replied "It be worth it good 3D movies a large pizza meet me."
Do they really think they can join this site and have women showing up on their doorstep like the mail? That women will trust a stranger like this? Drive for hours to watch TV? This man is 62, not attractive. Just floored that some men think they can just message a stranger and she will drive to their house for dinner/movies.
Any other women experience unrealistic expectations or odd messages from older men?
 aintnodeal
Joined: 4/10/2016
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Posted: 1/10/2018 11:40:49 AM
Sing the chorus "Women do the same thing."

Drive 60 miles to pick me up for dinner, then sit in my "House of Cats" while I tell you 100 stories about my grandkids, and water the 100 house plants. BTW - you have been called to this remote location to "die together".

Insidious.
 CBGB77
Joined: 12/15/2017
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Posted: 1/10/2018 1:13:21 PM
I invited a woman across the border in St Paul to come over my house to watch movies and eat pizza but we have already dated 5 or 6 times and she has already been here a couple of times so..
 PlutoLover68
Joined: 7/28/2016
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Posted: 1/10/2018 2:38:13 PM
Ive been texting with a guy a couple of weeks. It was over the holidays so neither had time for a meet up. On Sunday evening he asked if I wanted some company before I went to bed. It was already 9:30pm. I asked if he meant would I like I like to talk on the phone or text for a little bit. He said no, he wanted to drop by.

Seriously, he thought he could just drop by at 9:30-10 on a Sunday night as a first meet. WTF.
 purplerider1200
Joined: 9/10/2011
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Posted: 1/10/2018 4:33:26 PM


Drive 60 miles to pick me up for dinner, then sit in my "House of Cats" while I tell you 100 stories about my grandkids, and water the 100 house plants. BTW - you have been called to this remote location to "die together".


Why do I stay here? For good laughs like that.^^^^^^^
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Posted: 1/10/2018 5:20:51 PM
Ditto on the laughs....

yeup, I get a few of those 'Sunday night 9:30' swing by 'self' invited" suggestions... .... lol
 greatgal1977
Joined: 3/1/2017
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Posted: 1/10/2018 6:18:47 PM
Not just older men. When I was dating, I was asked countless times something similar. Hey, I am in town now, can you come to my hotel room? lol. Hey, can you come to my place? Never mind that it's 12 am and we've never met. Can you to come to another province? How does tomorrow sounds? You can stay in my place, lol. Can I come to your place even thou we never met? No, why on earth not? Hey, it's my birthday today, can you see me? Or maybe I can see you.

Guess it doesn't hurt to ask on the net. Some lonely soul might say yes to their requests, you never know.
 DrivingHarmony
Joined: 1/7/2018
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Posted: 1/10/2018 7:43:39 PM

Any other women experience unrealistic expectations or odd messages from older men?


Yes, I am also on POF parent company dating site and I recently received a message from a 75 year old (older than my father.)
Let's just say it had words like kissing, touching.....you get the idea. This guy ended his message with his name and xoxoxoxox.

Eeeeewwwwwww and it made me laugh. Then I said eeeeeewwwwwwwww again, and then I laughed harder.
 BlackLady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
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Posted: 1/10/2018 8:26:42 PM
Yes...crazy requests for all manner of things.
 forumslady
Joined: 12/7/2016
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Posted: 1/10/2018 9:18:19 PM
five-marie- Embrace your inner smarty pants and say, "Sure, on my way, hold your breath." :D
Nothing that happens related to OLD surprises me anymore.
I've trusted men with my number, been asked to send more pics, sent one or two, then, BAM! Next thing I know they send me a dic pic, notice the word THEY, it happened 4 times, one sent a video, don't ask. :0

@ Aintnodeal- That was funny (post#2). I'm a dog person myself. I thought only dogs went to heaven and Insidious was a movie. ;) (Cats are the devil, that's my story, I'm sticking to it. :D)
 Seki1949
Joined: 9/4/2013
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Posted: 1/10/2018 9:54:53 PM

Drive 60 miles to pick me up for dinner, then sit in my "House of Cats" while I tell you 100 stories about my grandkids, and water the 100 house plants.


D*mm, you dated her too? Some women want flowers, some women want chocolate, some women want litter.
 Seki1949
Joined: 9/4/2013
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Posted: 1/10/2018 9:59:07 PM
I showed up once and she had another guy there cooking dinner for us. I left by the side door when they weren't looking. Called later asking where I had went.
 hemingway234
Joined: 6/6/2015
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Posted: 1/11/2018 2:29:29 AM
Some men moving too fast has always been a problem. Just learn to block and delete, and talk to the normal men.

It's easy to see why some people are single, they are doing it all wrong.
 Iredurbio2
Joined: 4/18/2013
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Posted: 1/11/2018 10:50:04 AM
Why even reply in the first place?
 flyover_boy
Joined: 12/28/2016
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Posted: 1/11/2018 11:08:58 AM

I recently received a message from a 75 year old (older than my father.)


Where I live, they would think you were his sister. That hot 30 year old Filipino girl next to him...THAT must be his girlfriend. :)
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
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Posted: 1/11/2018 11:32:08 AM
OP, you are amazed he's this clueless. But the odds are, it worked...once. By someone desperate and clueless. And since it worked once...he's putting the least bit of effort into trying it again. Heck, I get told I should invest far more in a woman who's out of my league :)

the person who makes little effort, and gets rewarded once in a great while...isn't dumb. the person rewarding him, gets that benefit of a label. Or the person who puts a lot of effort into a longshot.
 fullmoonguy2
Joined: 6/14/2017
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Posted: 1/11/2018 11:39:56 AM

Do they really think they can join this site and have women showing up on their doorstep like the mail?


Well, yeah !

The US Post Office DID have a category called "Special Delivery" for many years.



It's easy to see why some people are single, they are doing it all wrong.


Yes.
Apparently they are just not as accomplished a liar as "Dirty John".
 aintnodeal
Joined: 4/10/2016
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Posted: 1/11/2018 1:54:01 PM
When I think back over the years, EVERY TIME I went to a woman's house on the first or second date - it was bad news. The condition of the house or the mental state of the woman. I stopped that after a second date when the woman turned bunny boiler on me. Oh, no....we need 5 dates in public next to the police station first.
 magicstillaroundme
Joined: 10/2/2017
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Posted: 1/11/2018 2:38:53 PM
The expectations are legitimate. There are girls who will do that and that do do that... lots of them.
 NewYorker58
Joined: 6/11/2013
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Posted: 1/11/2018 11:42:04 PM
Seki, I'm LMAO, she calls and asks where you went!!!

Then Hemingway calling it men moving too fast, lol.

Yes, I've had plenty of requests to go to a guy's house to go in their Jacuzzi on a first date. I didn't date any of them. This is why they're alone. Some say come to their place under first date, they'll make dinner, lol!
 five-marie
Joined: 7/31/2011
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Posted: 1/12/2018 1:51:45 PM
I've done plenty of block/delete. I responded to this one because I was just amazed that he could be this clueless. I thought maybe he was new to internet dating and had heard wild exaggerated stories.
It's also not even that I thought he was moving too fast, I thought he was being unrealistic. Short message, no interest in getting to know me, just wanted a body there, now! Not attractive at all, nothing that would cause a woman to even want to meet him. And messaging women from another country to drive over there for a 3D movie? Is anyone this lonely?
 NewYorker58
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Posted: 1/12/2018 2:15:22 PM
He's not clueless at all. He's looking to find someone that has no self respect. POF is filled with men like that.
 Ladyinred0407
Joined: 2/6/2016
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Posted: 1/12/2018 2:56:27 PM
Seeking sex with a movie appetizer.
 aintnodeal
Joined: 4/10/2016
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Posted: 1/12/2018 4:57:58 PM
Women hate 3D movies and hot tubs? Who knew? What about video games and VR? What do women think of that? NETFLIX...?
 NewYorker58
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Posted: 1/12/2018 5:12:54 PM
Aint, not on a first date(s), silly☺ After that, bring on those indoor activities. Though where I live, I have mild winters. It was a balmy 52° today.
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