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 ChrisB287
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I’ve been alone for 12 years and didn’t socialize at all during that time. What do women look for in friendships these days?
I’ve always felt more comfortable with women and trust them more, but I have no idea how to establish a friendship with one. I don’t even know where to go to meet women for friendship instead of dating.

Where can I find some female friends?

What do they like when considering friends?
 julystorm7
Joined: 12/25/2017
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Posted: 2/21/2018 9:14:15 AM
Join a bowling league or a pool league or take a cooking class. Start volunteering for some sort of organization. I think you have a better shot at making friends that way than online dating.
 2ufo
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Posted: 2/21/2018 12:38:17 PM
Smile.
At least occasionally.

Ask a question or two.
Nothing terribly personal or invasive - just a simple little question or two.

Recognize by name people you see often (i.e. cashier or delivery person). Make sure they know your name.
 julystorm7
Joined: 12/25/2017
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Posted: 2/21/2018 12:57:38 PM
If trying to find girls to be your friend (and not just a hookup) on POF:

1. Do not send unsolicited dic pics.

2. Do not ask women for a hookup 3 minutes in or even 3 hours in. Women appreciate patience.

3. Do not keep answering questions with yes or no. Communicate in longer sentences to keep the convo going.

4. Don't call a girl "Beautiful" or "Gorgeous" constantly or refer to them as Sweetie, Honey, Baby or Sugar. Please don't.

5. Message women you have things in common with. Read women's actual profiles rather than just looking at their pics.

6. Ask women questions about themselves (not sexual questions).

7. Tell women what they want to know. How do you know what they want to know? Ask them. For instance, say, "So what brought you to Plenty of Fish? What are you looking for?"

8. Remember that women are people, not just targets. Think about how you'd like someone to talk to and treat your sister, mother, daughter, etc.

9. Many women are scared of meeting guys in person because men are more physically powerful usually so we feel a little vulnerable. When you want to meet up, find a place to meet that a woman would find safe. Don't be angry if she doesn't want to meet you at your house or have you pick her up at hers or meet in the middle of nowhere.

10. Practice practice practice. The more women you talk to, the better you will get at it, hopefully. Message women and tell them you aren't sure how to talk to women and ask them to help you work on your communication skills. Many women love a project like that.
 Cynderella
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Posted: 2/21/2018 11:33:03 PM
Being you're from a small town and closest city is 4+ hours away....it's hard.
I'm with joining something that interests you but then again that's no guarantee.
Being there is a couple of Casinos, try there better than a bar.
Lots of regulars even if you don't gamble there is lots of socialization.
Wait for beach weather....Kelowna rocks!
 NewYorker58
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Posted: 2/21/2018 11:45:18 PM
Check out Craig's List Personals. You'll find a lot of friends there.
 HanoverFella
Joined: 1/16/2018
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Posted: 2/22/2018 10:49:44 AM
Get a dog, they are better company and shut up during a movie. 😆
 NewYorker58
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Posted: 2/22/2018 12:01:44 PM
Hanover, I'd like to introduce your talker to my talker. Did yours get shushed by people in the theater too? This was him and the couple sitting in front of us that were telling him to shut up

Dogs....they can make you wonder if you need anything or anyone beyond them. My dog is talkative and an excellent communicator🐕🐕🐕🐕
 cooldog65
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Posted: 2/22/2018 7:15:55 PM

Where can I find some female friends?


Find male friends first. Build a good support system with them. Then find women that you're not sexually attracted to. Makes things easier.
 feirene
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Posted: 2/23/2018 11:54:13 AM
online chat rooms can be good, mostly they're filled with women chatting while blocking all the men who are going on about their****
 1990shaun1990
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Posted: 2/24/2018 10:28:50 AM
i am lookimg for a girlfriend
 HanoverFella
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Posted: 2/24/2018 1:33:42 PM
^^^^ on a dating site????? Are ya looney???😆😏
 fullmoonguy2
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Posted: 2/24/2018 1:36:20 PM

Where can I find some female friends?


Your local animal shelter.

Dog = Man's best friend.
 NewYorker58
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Posted: 2/24/2018 6:06:05 PM
A dog is a woman's best friend, because it's easier for men to find women with the traits dogs have, affectionate, loyal, enduring love, devotion, etc🐕
 SiennaBear2
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Posted: 2/25/2018 7:12:20 PM
Women do not usually want to have sex with their friends and they dont appreciate a guy who wants to be just a friend trying to sleep with them.
On dating sites literally everyone will think you want fwb if you are trying to find friends on there.

Anyway. Women want a guy who will listen and be supportive and that they can talk to about things I they need to. Also a guy that is fun and will do stuff with them and go to places or just chill
 norwegianguy456
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Posted: 2/25/2018 11:01:41 PM

I’m bored and trying to find something to do to distract me from how horrible everything is

First, to find FEMALE friends, as you mention -- and they're Not going to be Just friends, so that's sort of misleading... you gotta fix yourself, first. I would consider making friends with guys, first -- to have a better mindset/perspective in life, to at least a tolerable level for the ladies.

What do women look for in friendships these days?

A 1-on-1 "friendship" -- basically, nothing serious, just-dating or FWB. Basically the same as it always has been. To get it kicked off though, not much changed besides women being a little more guarded, since there's tons-o-dudes with their zipper open online nowadays.

What do they like when considering friends?

Again, you mean just-dating/nothing-serious or FWB. They like guys who aren't feeling miserable, and guys who are social creatures to some extent. To be JUST friends -- no more a friend than their gay guy friend who helps them pick out drapes -- nothing's changed. POF isn't a place to find that. I would suggest going to some bars, but you don't drink, so that's a strike against you by default (feasibility & a bit otherwise).

To make new friends + the opportunity with females being friends-but-more-than-friends, I would suggest certain types of bars, and open yourself up to drink a little. Drinking some low-alcohol beers slowly, in combination of drinking some non-alcoholic but good tasting beers, won't put you in the socially "different" zone. But, since you seem to be in an emotionally sh!tty spot right now (from your profile) -- drinking may not be the best idea... so again, I'd focus on resolving that, first. Read some books at the bookstore, find some entertainment + learning value from it. If anything, it'll help cure your boredom, by at least a little bit.
 Belleatrix
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Posted: 2/28/2018 9:20:14 AM
To find friends.......join Meetup and start going out in groups, you meet people and from there you hang out separately.

I can't say that people who join Meetup are looking for friends, but it definitely an avenue to find yourself with a group of people with the same interests.
 NewYorker58
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Posted: 3/1/2018 12:37:34 AM
Hi Panderous! I'm previously from Brooklyn and the city. I'm in WA state now. Reading your profile, it's making me miss NY. I like your profile. Good luck to you!
 ohenryx
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Posted: 3/1/2018 7:42:44 AM

Panderous
To find friends.......join Meetup and start going out in groups, you meet people and from there you hang out separately.

I can't say that people who join Meetup are looking for friends, but it definitely an avenue to find yourself with a group of people with the same interests.

Excellent advice from Belle, as usual.

I have, over the last nearly 5 years, made a number of friends through attending Meetup events. And the majority of those friends are women, simply because the majority of people in most any Meetup group are women.

Or maybe that’s because when I go out dancing with a Meetup group, I pay more attention to the women than the men? Yeah, I guess that could be part of the reason. (smile)
 Chromis1
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Posted: 3/1/2018 1:04:49 PM
A bowling league is a really good idea. Best: summer mixed leagues. That way, you don't need to commit to 36 weeks of dragging yourself to the lanes. Most summer leagues are around 10-12 weeks, and most folks don't care much if you don't show up all the time.
 Yetiontheloose
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Posted: 3/2/2018 7:45:41 PM
You can't have sex with your dog; that would be Bestiality! But then, there are some beastly women out here anyway! LMAO!!!
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