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How many messages do women receive each day? There are days when I receive 1-2 and days when 4-5 different people will contact me. I think a lot of women receive enough messages that they can't keep up with them all. Let's hear the numbers! :)
 SiennaBear2
Joined: 12/2/2017
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Posted: 3/8/2018 7:42:46 AM
As many as it takes to exhaust the supply in close proximity
Might start as 20-30 then go over time to 10 then like 5 as there are little left who are in proximity, haven't already messaged, or are uninterested.
Although I don't go online as frequently as time passes so its also a factor. Either way I found someone I want to try dating now so I'm only here for forums and don't read messages
 Canelas19
Joined: 7/17/2017
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Posted: 3/8/2018 8:08:56 AM
Depends, 30 +/- a day. If one goes online the site puts you as online so I think that encourages guys online too to text you. I see also the site let others know if you were recently online which also encourages others to contact you the same day. That is what I've seen so far. also I don't log in as much so messages pile up and then is hard to read them all. Although I try.
 Cynderella
Joined: 3/8/2007
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Posted: 3/8/2018 3:53:41 PM
Too flipin many.
I use to reply to all, by the time I was half way thru, it would double...for now you showed "online".
I don't use that side as much anymore. So in all I check my mail once or twice a month.
 ThePigOfYourDreams
Joined: 6/30/2017
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Posted: 3/8/2018 4:32:43 PM
^ Did you delete the pic I sent of my butt?
 MachIMustangII
Joined: 2/16/2018
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Posted: 3/8/2018 7:15:09 PM
you have a pic of Arlo?

:)
 __TEXASCHICK__
Joined: 11/9/2011
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Posted: 3/8/2018 8:23:51 PM
I'm old,,, so not many. lol
 spot4username
Joined: 12/15/2015
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Posted: 3/9/2018 3:08:20 AM
Are we talking quantity or quality? It really does matter. Logging in and having ten messages that say u sexi does not equate to having one real message from a man who can form sentences.

Back when I had real profiles here and on other sites (free and paid) I never received loads of messages. I am in a small area and even though I was always more than willing to travel to the nearest big city for dates it was still a deal breaker for many. I also never pulled any punches in my profile. That can put a lot of men off. /shrug/

I have met and dated a number of men from OLD so I know that it can work. I do agree with others that it is not what it was five, ten years ago. It has definitely changed. I just never cared for the whole process. It wasn't/isn't for me. Real life always has worked a zillion times better for me personally.
 Cynderella
Joined: 3/8/2007
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Posted: 3/9/2018 3:11:36 AM

^ Did you delete the pic I sent of my butt?


DAMN Hit Resend!


you have a pic of Arlo?


Too funny!
 south_city
Joined: 10/12/2013
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Posted: 3/9/2018 10:13:27 AM

How many messages do women receive each day? There are days when I receive 1-2 and days when 4-5 different people will contact me


I rarely got that many messages. My usual max amount was getting messages from 4-5 different women a week on Match. I would get messages from even fewer women on POF.


I do agree with others that it is not what it was five, ten years ago. It has definitely changed.


I don't think OLD has changed that much. The things that people complain about today are largely the same things people complained about 5-10 years ago. Flakes, people looking for an ego boost or text buddy, people dishonest about their appearance, people just looking for sex, people looking to cheat on their partner etc. Maybe this depends on age, geography, which OLD website(s) a person is using among other possible factors.
 julystorm7
Joined: 12/25/2017
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Posted: 3/9/2018 10:21:51 AM
I get maybe 5 messages a day. I'm 34, a mom of 3 little kids and a little bit overweight though so that doesn't surprise me. I usually read all the profiles but I don't message people back when I dislike their profiles a lot or if they are more than an inch shorter than me or a smoker. And if I get a message from someone without a pic but I like the rest of their profile I will message them a bit but if no photo within two convos then I won't continue.
 afinewineandyou
Joined: 12/1/2017
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Posted: 3/9/2018 10:22:51 AM
Summer Night (Like the user name btw)

I figured since I was putting the word "boyfriend" I wouldn't get any. Was then shocked at how many I got. (Still would have been shocked either way.) Reset profile so there are none. Did read the ones I received -but didn't count them- but probably around 16

Spot4
"Quantity or Quality?"
Now that was FUNNY! hahahaha

Never thought about it that way- but you know what? You make a really good point. Thanks for the laugh! There is a reason why I stay on these forums after all! There were "3" Quality"
 fullmoonguy2
Joined: 6/14/2017
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Posted: 3/9/2018 10:24:38 AM

I do agree with others that it is not what it was five, ten years ago. It has definitely changed.


I don't think OLD has changed that much.


Well, it has certainly changed as far as my experiences.

10-12 years ago, on one site I had over 200 messages that I couldn't even open and read, because you had to be a paid member to read messages.

On another site, I was on 108 women's favorites.
I had to start signing in as "invisible" because I would get hit with 3-4 chat invitations (real women) within the first minute.

I sent my pictures out over 400 times on OLD sites, including POF.

Now..........

Women are just not participating as much overall in the process as they used to.

Mostly cobwebs, crickets, and messages from Markus.
 ThePigOfYourDreams
Joined: 6/30/2017
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Posted: 3/9/2018 11:04:58 AM

I just never cared for the whole process. It wasn't/isn't for me.


I had a good run with POF back when I was using it, but I still prefer meeting someone when I'm out and about. I like the spontaneity of the moment.

As for the women who say they receive tons of messages and have been here for eons, sorry, I'm just not buying the idea there are no suitable men. (especially if you're in a major city). You may be afflicted with LHS. (Literate Hiker Syndrome) But hell, even *she* went as far as meeting the men.
 Chromis1
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Posted: 3/9/2018 11:42:47 AM

You may be afflicted with LHS. (Literate Hiker Syndrome)


LOL, wish I had some friends in the AMA.

Would insurance cover this?

All the Big Pharma guys would be scrambling to be first to market. Well, maybe not. Guess that's what a good benzo is for.
 afinewineandyou
Joined: 12/1/2017
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Posted: 3/9/2018 12:59:25 PM

I also never pulled any punches in my profile. That can put a lot of men off. /shrug/


Yes. That matters.
If I were to fill out my profile my "count" would go way... "Oh" way down!
I'm fine with it as well. Prefer it actually. (There's the door honey- Do slow down just long enough for it to hit you on the way out!)
Crickets in the box...hmmm
(sigh)...." Hey Marcus- You busy?
 purplerider1200
Joined: 9/10/2011
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Posted: 3/9/2018 3:51:28 PM
I was thinking about converting mine to a birdhouse. It would be easy to clean out after the birds get done nesting in it. It's hardly been used, so it's in great condition. The door hinges just might be a bit rusty, however.
 sundress1
Joined: 10/29/2017
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Posted: 3/10/2018 8:02:35 AM

Are we talking quantity or quality? It really does matter. Logging in and having ten messages that say u sexi does not equate to having one real message from a man who can form sentences.


Good point. Most women I know that have used internet dating have told me they got many emails. But the quality was poor. In particular from POF. The men that were emailed them were often unattractive, way too old or young etc. When they get emails from attractive men, there was often something written in the profile or the email was a turn off. Such as vulgar emails.
 wadeinwaves
Joined: 8/7/2017
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Posted: 3/10/2018 8:35:24 AM
Due to my age and lack of features that fit in to what society deems as attractive, I receive between 1 - 4 per day. Twenty years ago it would have been different because I had youth on my side.

The city I live in has about 200,000 people. It's not a big city. I also think many men spam women in hopes to get any of them to reply back. Last night I was texting with a much younger hot bodied man who was trying to find out if I wanted a physical relationship. I told him I prefer to get to know someone a wee bit first before diving in. He said, "I would take any woman at this point because I'm at my peak". I told him he should be selective.

It would appear that when some men are 'in the mood' they will spam woman no matter how old or what she looks like because they consider them game in order to get their end goal. To be honest, his comment was insulting because I am part of that woman pile he's messaging.
 cooldog65
Joined: 6/27/2011
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Posted: 3/10/2018 8:52:41 AM
I get about 1-2 a month. About half of them are winks...
 MadameBoisseau
Joined: 5/11/2017
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Posted: 3/10/2018 9:00:09 AM
I was on this site 10 years ago, I got a MASSIVE volume of mail then, at least 12-50 letters a day.

I'm 42 now, and because so many men value youth its common for men in my age group and above to not even include women in their mid thirties and above in their search ranges (why so many men in their 60s and 50s are retarded enough to think they deserve a 20 year old bride is a whole other conversation). So the volume of my mail most certainly has decreased, but I still get at least 3-10 letters a day.

Men might see this and think women have a better deal. But in actuality most of the mail is extremely lame. Its a copy and paste job that is completely impersonal, its simply a guy playing the numbers game where he message bombs EVERYONE hopping for one or two bites. Then you have the "gm" (because typing good morning is too much work!), the "hey", "was'up" and "holas" out there, as if any of those will make the ladies hot in the pants to start a conversation. Then you got the social rejects who talk to you like a prostitute. Literally asking if buying you a pizza will get them sex, or calling you a slut on their FIRST message because they watched so much porn they think dirty talk straight out the gate is a turn on...

Honestly, about 95% of the letters are some lame single sentence that spark no interest, or just insult you, so in the end - women do end up with about as many messages as men, 1 or 2 sincere ones every couple of days....
 julystorm7
Joined: 12/25/2017
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Posted: 3/10/2018 9:23:01 AM
It's to be expected that men will get a lot less as men are usually the pursuers. I rarely message a guy first. My biggest reason is that at first I tried but after a few "I'm not interested because you have young kids" I decided to not bother.
 south_city
Joined: 10/12/2013
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Posted: 3/10/2018 10:41:56 AM

Well, it has certainly changed as far as my experiences.
10-12 years ago, on one site I had over 200 messages that I couldn't even open and read, because you had to be a paid member to read messages.
On another site, I was on 108 women's favorites.
I had to start signing in as "invisible" because I would get hit with 3-4 chat invitations (real women) within the first minute.
I sent my pictures out over 400 times on OLD sites, including POF.
Now..........
Women are just not participating as much overall in the process as they used to.
Mostly cobwebs, crickets, and messages from Markus.


I know people that claimed they got more emails 10-15 years ago. I think age is a big part of it. Back then, they were around 30-35 years old. Now they are over 40 years old. Some of them are pushing 50. That makes a difference.

A few people here have mentioned the quality ( or lack of quality ) of emails. Unless it is crude ( sexual content ) or overaggressive ( such as asking a woman on the first email ), for the most part the content of the first email won't make much a difference in my experience. I have written various types of first emails and it didn't have much impact. When I got more emails, it was often after I added new and better pictures and/or to a lesser extent revising my profile.

Also I don't think a woman can always tell if an email is cut and paste or not. A man could have sent the same message to several women that all mentioned they like reading or hiking or some other interest. Yet apparently some women would consider that to be a "better quality" email because he had mentioned something in her profile. LOL.
 siisaa
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Posted: 3/10/2018 11:44:25 AM
When I first began online dating, I was 23 and thus in my "prime" as far as women's desirability and sexual market value is concerned. The most messages I ever received in one day was 15...maybe 20. The last time I had an active online dating profile (which I didn't take all that serious) was last summer and I'd receive 1-2 messages per day. Sometimes 0. My profile picture was also of me with no makeup and my glasses on. And they say that "natural beauty" is hetero men's holy grail, eh? LOLOLOL
 Belleatrix
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Posted: 3/10/2018 1:27:08 PM
Now that I'm in my 30s, I get about 10 messages a day.

90% of them are some variation of "hi", "how are you", some general compliment, and bs introduction, etc. It is not about the quantity, its about the quality.
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