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 Cappygirl70
Joined: 3/31/2011
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I met my son's dad on this site 13 years ago and we fell in love. Our son is now 11 yo. Guys back then are more respectful and not afraid to commit. NOW; what happened to POF is now a hook up site. So disappointing. My son's father passed away 2 months ago and I have NOT met anyone on here that will measure up. I'm still hoping...maybe I'm being a fool. Anyone else feels the same way I do???
 Kissfromarose77
Joined: 4/2/2018
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Posted: 4/6/2018 12:33:37 AM
I’ve been on and off this site for over 10 years and there was always complaints about men sending****pics and asking for hookups. There was even a casual encounter option before. Now it’s against the rules for a profile to contain anything sexual. I don’t think men’s behaviour has changed on online dating.
 cooldog65
Joined: 6/27/2011
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Posted: 4/6/2018 6:01:13 PM

My son's father passed away 2 months ago and I have NOT met anyone on here that will measure up.


You joined here 7 years ago. We're you with him the entire 13 years? Something's not adding up.
 __TEXASCHICK__
Joined: 11/9/2011
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Posted: 4/7/2018 7:06:07 PM
Think the math not adding up somehow. You have been on here for many years? and your hubby died very recently? I recemend to wait a year after his passing before dating, that helps in the grief process. (i am a widow).
And be very mindful of men in regards to your child.
 julystorm7
Joined: 12/25/2017
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Posted: 4/8/2018 12:05:12 AM
I agree with the OP. I never got a single****pick or offer for casual sex when I was on this site from 2007-2008. Every guy I talked to was respectful and looking to find a girlfriend. Coming back in 2017 I noticed a huge difference. Now most guys that message me try to sext in the first conversation and almost no guy states his intention to find a girlfriend, I'm not sure if that's because of changing time or the fact that I'm older with kids. Maybe guys think I'll be more desperate now so they try less.
 from site to sight
Joined: 11/30/2007
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Posted: 4/8/2018 8:11:35 AM
^^^It might have something to do with conflicting statements in your profile. You list intent as: " Wanting to date but nothing serious", but put in the About section: "If you message me I might answer but I'm not interested in meeting anyone right now in person...As much as I would really love to be in a relationship, I need to face the fact that I don't have the time to really dedicate myself to one. " Gee, I can't figure out why you're not overwhelmed with messages. You're basically telling guys to stay away from you.
 mikeparkin2
Joined: 7/25/2016
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Posted: 4/8/2018 6:20:03 PM
When you have really got to know someone and become accustomed to their ways no one else is ever going to come close. You will always be comparing people to your dearly departed.
Every one is different and you will have to accept that if you want to move on.
 julystorm7
Joined: 12/25/2017
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Posted: 4/8/2018 11:49:27 PM
Lol, I am telling guys to stay away from me right now. I made a decision in mid-March to quit dating for a while until I get some things figured in my life. There's still a couple guys I talk to on pof who are just long-distance friends who I said upfront I would never date because they live too far away and I come on the forums but I put those things in my profile to halt a lot of the messages I was getting from random dudes. And I'm definitely not going to put "Just here for the forums" on my profile because most people don't even know the forums exist and if a person looking on my profile saw that they might find the forum and see all the messages I posted which wouldn't be ideal.
 Goyswontbereplaced
Joined: 4/3/2018
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Posted: 4/10/2018 5:58:49 PM
POF has been a hook up site since the first strong swimmer was loose. I know a Lady who has resided in the murky waters for 20 plus years. Getting more male tale then counterparts half her age. My gf used to find attractive guys and arrange one nighters. That was 8 yrs ago. Times don't change ; we love sex. You may not like these random dudes but when the right one pops up ; you'll know.
 feirene
Joined: 1/3/2017
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Posted: 4/11/2018 12:12:27 AM
Dunno about POF, as i was in a relationship 13 years ago, but pretty much most sites people were wanting hook ups, dirty chat, pic trades all that time ago as well.
I joined a dating site (that POF does not let you post) for the games they had there and loads of asian guys were pestering for that stuff, so i found another gamesite and Uk guys were doing the same, although i will admit they did seem better socialised and were able to chat for a bit first before asking.

Men are just sh1t at chatting up women these days, maybe they always were? Sometimes the best guys at chatting up women are just all talk as well so just as much of a waste of time as the ones not wasting it with small talk and cliches.
 Kelley300698
Joined: 3/21/2018
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Posted: 4/23/2018 12:06:12 AM
No doubt there have been changes, but POF will make changes to increase profits; not changes that benefits the people that sign up. I have gotten a couple of messages from guys wanting to hook up, but the large majority are from guys wanting to get married. Therefore, I suspect it is age related. That last time I checked from 18 or 20 to 25, there are five single guys to every four single girls and the guys have competition from older guys that are established with much higher incomes. Girls my age have a huge advantage.

At your age that ratio is probably reversed or even worse. Furthermore, most of single men in your age range have been divorced and even I know that the courts greatly favor women and treat men only as a wallet. So likely, having gone through that experience, they choose to avoid the risk of going through it a second time. And, why not, sex with women your age is probably very easy.

I don't what to tell you. You can't change the way things are. Therefore, I believe you must decide to settle for considerable less than what you had or else choose not to remarry.
 VeeDub_EVO_III
Joined: 3/10/2014
Msg: 12
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Posted: 4/29/2018 5:22:09 PM
Huh? POF was worse in 2008 when I first signed up... there's been many changes to combat this "hook up site" label you're mentioning.

What's noticeably worse now is the scammers.
 __TEXASCHICK__
Joined: 11/9/2011
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Posted: 4/29/2018 7:42:56 PM
My spouse (2nd) passed away in 2010, my daughter talked me into trying OLD. I have had a few BF's and one bombed engagement (2015) in the last 12 years. I enjoy a mellow life, and at the age of 58 I am not really confident that that a special someone really will be in the cards. Good thing I like my own company. lol
 hemingway234
Joined: 6/6/2015
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Posted: 5/12/2018 7:37:47 AM
As women age, their demand goes down. The demand for men goes up slightly as they age.
 fullmoonguy2
Joined: 6/14/2017
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Posted: 5/12/2018 10:10:29 AM

The demand for men goes up slightly as they age.


Yeah, that explains all those limousines pulling up in front of my house, full of women looking for a rose.
 __TEXASCHICK__
Joined: 11/9/2011
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Posted: 5/12/2018 9:48:36 PM
SILLY YOUNG KELLY writes
"I don't what to tell you. You can't change the way things are. Therefore, I believe you must decide to settle for considerable less than what you had or else choose not to remarry."

sucks to be you when ya get older too lol
 flowersinthelake
Joined: 5/11/2018
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Posted: 5/18/2018 10:44:12 AM

As women age, their demand goes down. The demand for men goes up slightly as they age.


Nah.

It comes to a point where all middle-aged parties become increasingly unattractive and they have to learn to rely on something other than what their looks once gave them. Some have failed miserably in cultivating their interests, hobbies, outlook, and personality, something that should have been done long before middle-age set in.

It's all about money: whether you're a man or a woman or any other gender, you're looked at for what you have rather than your appearance. (I can't imagine there's an increase in demand for a man in his mid-fifties with an expanding girth and scant bank account.

This is when you should be smart than take it for granted that some elusive demand for an older, saggier man without self-awareness, exists.
 flowersinthelake
Joined: 5/11/2018
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Posted: 5/18/2018 10:47:24 AM

My spouse (2nd) passed away in 2010, my daughter talked me into trying OLD. I have had a few BF's and one bombed engagement (2015) in the last 12 years. I enjoy a mellow life, and at the age of 58 I am not really confident that that a special someone really will be in the cards. Good thing I like my own company. lol


That is not a casualty of your age or your life experiences. There isn't anything wrong with enjoying your own company and cultivating yourself without some human anchor dragging your spirit down because he imagines himself for the elusive Barbie he'll never have.

I consider this is a gift to yourself.
 BLONDE_ANGEL_1
Joined: 4/27/2018
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Posted: 5/18/2018 12:41:54 PM
^^
There are old, fat men who want nothing less than DDG, I bet there a few right here in the forums ;0D

Of course, they can always keep dreaming...

In general, there seems to be a lack of self-awareness in OLD.
 hemingway234
Joined: 6/6/2015
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Posted: 5/21/2018 9:49:32 AM
This dating site is the bottom of the barrel. I've seen better behaved teenagers. I wish I were joking.

But there are a few good peeps here.
 JGL209
Joined: 5/1/2018
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Posted: 5/22/2018 1:19:42 PM

This dating site is the bottom of the barrel


I didn't use to think that but now I'm starting to think that way. But I'm still holding out there will be a super cool chick for me on here.
 julystorm7
Joined: 12/25/2017
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Posted: 5/22/2018 2:01:45 PM
I think a major part of the problem is that as we get older, the pickings get slimmer. Many of the good ones are already taken so are not on OLD.
 feirene
Joined: 1/3/2017
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Posted: 5/23/2018 1:19:21 AM
At least many of the cr@p ones are taken as well. If only they'd stick to their wives and gfs and not come onto dating sites.
 Iredurbio2
Joined: 4/18/2013
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Posted: 5/23/2018 1:30:31 AM
Didn't the hookup culture start about the time a lot of
your kids were getting out of the house?You could always blame
the 24 hour instant access to porn and it's longest running
genre the younger guys and older women.

Everyone has their own reasons as well as their own
definitions of dating sites.
 ssm508
Joined: 5/27/2018
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Posted: 6/24/2018 9:50:22 PM
The things people complain about OLD now are largely the same complaints I heard 5 or 10 years ago. Men that are just looking for sex, men not getting responses, women getting emails from men that didn't read her profile, people are flakes / dishonest / liars / jerks / looking for a text buddy or ego boost etc.
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