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 prettybrwneyedone
Joined: 6/1/2017
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I prefer some notice being that I tend to plan what I'm doing or not doing during the weekends and I reserve impromptu dates for those that I already know. I've had 5 guys ask to either meet up or go out, because the weather is nice. I was just curious if you have never gone out with someone, do you accept short notice dates?
 hey_suze
Joined: 8/28/2017
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Do you accept short notice dates with someone that you've never met online?
Posted: 4/14/2018 3:51:03 PM
I prefer a bit of notice and forward planning, but a few times Iv gone with the flow and it is nice to get out of that comfort zone I sit in 😊
 CynthiaSM
Joined: 7/23/2017
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Posted: 4/14/2018 4:57:53 PM
Yes, I accept short notice meets if I don't have anything else going on.
 HanoverFella
Joined: 1/16/2018
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Do you accept short notice dates with someone that you've never met online?
Posted: 4/14/2018 5:10:04 PM
Yes I go out on meets on short notice, but usually no woman has ever wanted to go out on a real date on short notice.
 Tyro327
Joined: 4/5/2018
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Do you accept short notice dates with someone that you've never met online?
Posted: 4/14/2018 5:27:36 PM
Yes have depends on situation and what's going on if there is open time I prefer spur of moment things, but sometimes plans have been made and you just gotta tell her no. Another time? Somehow I don't get a following response after the initial rejection though.
 spot4username
Joined: 12/15/2015
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Posted: 4/14/2018 5:34:24 PM
Yes. I work a lot so if I get asked out and I have the actual opportunity to go... I go. Life is short.
Do you accept short notice dates with someone that you've never met online?
Posted: 4/14/2018 6:17:00 PM
How is it there are so many beautiful women in this forum that are singlel?

Cynthia, where forth art thou?
 oneofthefew13
Joined: 3/13/2013
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Posted: 4/15/2018 7:19:11 AM
If I have nothing going on I don't have a problem with a short notice meeting or "date", though an advance notice is always nice. I usually don't plan far ahead aside from things that are important or necessary. If anything short notice shows the person is actually interested in meeting you rather than stringing things out and possibly never doing so.
 MeramecRiverRat
Joined: 10/12/2017
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Posted: 4/15/2018 8:06:46 AM
I'm most often the asker, and have suggested meeting within 24 hours of first contact, and these have resulted in actually meeting on extremely short notice.

One girl I messaged on POF in the evening when she was brand new. Took things to a phone conversation the next morning. She and I attended an event that afternoon / evening. On the way, she told me that several other guys had asked her to the same event after I did (didn't ask specifics, perhaps they asked her to the event in their first contact message on POF!)

Another I messaged on a Sunday morning. She responded quickly. In our communication, she mentioned she was attending a family picnic at a park I frequent. I suggested she and I meet at that park, and we did.

Nice weather, being in a convenient place, it's good to seize the opportunity.

People who are interested can find the time to meet soon, but if they're truly busy and cannot meet immediately, if they're interested they can suggest an alternative meet in the near future.

Better too soon than too late. If you wait to ask to meet, the other person might lose interest. If you arrange a date days in the future, the other person might lose interest and cancel / forget / no-show / get and take a better offer.

My short notice suggestions always have good reason, such as the other person already being at a nearer location or there's a one time event. It would be less appealing if someone suggested a generic meet ("coffee" or "drinks") immediately after matching (typically on photos that might not be realistic), not knowing much about the other person.
 MachIMustangII
Joined: 2/16/2018
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Do you accept short notice dates with someone that you've never met online?
Posted: 4/15/2018 10:29:33 AM
since I don't get those offers often, b/c I live in the snow belt where the first days of spring bring out the...well, something in people, then IF someone said let's meet in public at an event I wanted to go to anyway....i'd go.

your post reminded me of a former coworker, when I quit he wanted to stay in touch, and I called one time during the winter to see if he was free the next evening for dinner. he complained it was too short-notice, and I pointed out its winter--who knows what the weather will be like next week (which is how much notice he wanted). But then I made plans for him to meet next week, and he...blew it off at the last minute b/c some woman was in town he hadn't seen in a while. We made far-ahead plans, which he blew off a second time. I pointed it out, and he kept the third plan we made....and I haven't heard from him since :)

ah well, some people just need you for a backup plan, in case a better offer doesn't come along.
 CBGB77
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Posted: 4/15/2018 11:04:06 AM
About 3 years ago I needed a date to go with me some concerts because I had tickets to 2 shows the same night and didn't want to wasted them so I went on and found a woman who live nearby to go with me. First we saw Echosmith at The Varsity Theater. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SSCzDykng4g After that show we had to rush over to First Avenue to see Gaslight Anthem https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G1lq40tR72Q . It was a fun date.
 L_LuuLuu
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Posted: 4/15/2018 12:01:26 PM
there are actually guys on sites that find some unexpected free time and decide to message women for a meet date at right at that moment. No way. If you're bored watch Netflix.

But if we had been messaging and decided to meet that day or evening, I'd be open IF I had the time free. Usually I have to make plans.
 Ladyinred0407
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Posted: 4/15/2018 1:23:00 PM

........ I have the actual opportunity to go... I go. Life is short.


Yes it is! Seize the moment! Meeting someone for the first time, ................is just that. Nothing more.

When I was free to meet, on many occasions I met a man on the same day he first contacted me. Why not?
A public place, coffee, lunch, inexpensive dinner, an ice cream cone, a stroll in the park, a drink at the casino.
I saw it as an opportunity, knocking. No expectations, just have fun.
 south_city
Joined: 10/12/2013
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Do you accept short notice dates with someone that you've never met online?
Posted: 4/15/2018 2:45:35 PM
Not often. But that has happened. We would be talking during the early afternoon and both of us are free later that day. Another example would be when I'm talking to a woman on Friday and we had a date scheduled for Saturday. One of us needs to change the time. It ends up that Friday night is the only mutual free time we have in the next week or so.

Another time a woman asked me out on short notice and I said I wasn't available. Then she claimed that we weren't compatible. LOL. Either she was looking for an convenient excuse or she was the type of person that thinks the world revolves around her and I should suddenly change my schedule to go out with her.
 mahwahgirl339114
Joined: 10/31/2017
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Posted: 4/15/2018 10:15:40 PM

Yes. I work a lot so if I get asked out and I have the actual opportunity to go... I go. Life is short.

Same here.
 __TEXASCHICK__
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Posted: 4/16/2018 12:12:51 AM
I will go a short notice date,,,,,
---if said guy ask me. lol
 cooldog65
Joined: 6/27/2011
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Posted: 4/16/2018 1:22:19 AM

Do you accept short notice dates with someone that you've never met online?


I can't answer since I've never met anybody in person from online. Oh well...
 Canelas19
Joined: 7/17/2017
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Posted: 4/16/2018 7:28:41 AM
If I think it could be fun and safe why not. Although I prefer at least 1 day of anticipation.

Are you serious Cooldog? you never met someone in person from online?


I can't answer since I've never met anybody in person from online. Oh well...
 cooldog65
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Posted: 4/16/2018 8:03:12 AM

Are you serious Cooldog? you never met someone in person from online?


If I met you...
 cindi_rella
Joined: 7/25/2016
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Posted: 4/16/2018 9:43:43 AM
I always feel like last minute invites are only because their original plans fell thru and I was a second option, so no.
 norwegianguy456
Joined: 6/11/2015
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Posted: 4/16/2018 12:20:14 PM

I can't answer since I've never met anybody in person from online. Oh well...

You should try it. It's not the 90s anymore! :)
 BretIAm
Joined: 3/25/2018
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Posted: 4/16/2018 6:24:35 PM
I'm all for short notice. Keeps it exciting. Yes, I have gone on one date that was last minute. It was fun.
 south_city
Joined: 10/12/2013
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Posted: 4/17/2018 6:41:29 AM

I always feel like last minute invites are only because their original plans fell thru and I was a second option, so no.


Not necessarily. Some possible counter examples....

1. It could be spur at the moment. Perhaps
2. They were supposed to work that day and ended up getting the day off or leaving work early.
3. They were supposed to have their kids. But ex ended up having the kids that day
4. They had been sick the previous few days. But now are feeling better.
 prettybrwneyedone
Joined: 6/1/2017
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Posted: 4/17/2018 10:41:47 AM
I understand where everyone is coming from in regards to - if they feel comfortable, want to and don't have anything else planned.

I think I may start doing a round of them, like accepting a few in a day and spacing them out, being that it's last minute. Meet at a bookstore, since I don't drink or a museum, but somewhere that there are places to walk to.
 Ladyinred0407
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Posted: 4/17/2018 10:47:40 AM
LOL That's the spirit prettybrwneyedone. !
Public place, where you can be seen, and if there is a "no show" or he's uglier than a wart hog, you can enjoy the venue on your own. You go girl, HAVE FUN!
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