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 KPOL52
Joined: 3/14/2018
Msg: 1
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I think most people know that anyone in the world can read these Forums but ONLY real PoF members can post?

Someone on the street - whether you live in a city of 500 thousand plus or some tiny little one horse town - walks up to you and says "hey, I see you are fellow Fish" WILL you be ready?

IF you would be ready, chances are good, IF you spotted a fellow Fish while out and about, you would at least say hi or wish them luck?

I have a feeling some of you would reach for your taser or pepper spray or whistle?
 MachIMustangII
Joined: 2/16/2018
Msg: 2
oh, i'm definitely fool enough.
Posted: 5/3/2018 3:27:02 PM
I did do this to a cutie once. Years ago I'm at the country's oldest rose park for an outdoor summer concert (here's photos to give you the setting):

http://elizabethparkct.org/gardens-and-grounds.html

and I spot amongst the blankets and wine bottles and picnic baskets and young parents in J Crew playing on the freshly mowed grasswith their toddlers to the sounds of the Nields (or maybe it was Eight to the Bar)....someone who looks just like her POF photos. and she's there with her little dog--what a great icebreaker. So I pet the dog, we chat a bit, I finally admit she looks like someone on POF (Don't mention that she never answered my emails, I know I'm not in her league), we both commiserate about the poor state of OLD. a couple with a dog come by, the dogs greet each other, the couple assumes we are a couple b/c we're hitting it off

(which is why I am leery of people seeing two people together and figure they are a couple and not worried about physical looks)

and the cutie points out we aren't a couple.

So, to answer your question, if you reveal yourself after a good convo bridge, if you are in a location where people are laid back, and the other person is cool....it can be pulled off. Just walking up to a stranger and announcing, however...yeah, that would be creepy. Like a Hare Krishna saying hello, you know something else you don't want is coming.

Later that summer I saw another hottie at a farmer's market

https://www.bozrahfarmersmarket.org/happening

that had wonderful food trucks (shrimp po'boy, mm), sold organic dog treats and had tiny bands play live music and car shows once a month. That lady didn't bring her dog, but her daughter...so obviously I left her alone. I didn't imagine that turning out well.
 siisaa
Joined: 8/6/2017
Msg: 3
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oh, i'm definitely fool enough.
Posted: 5/3/2018 3:55:22 PM
PlutoLover68 and NewYorker58 live in my town. Cooldog lives a few cities south. If I encountered either of them, I'd smile and say hi. I never forget a face and love recognizing people when I'm out and about.
 julystorm7
Joined: 12/25/2017
Msg: 4
oh, i'm definitely fool enough.
Posted: 5/3/2018 4:50:15 PM
I constantly see people from POF in the grocery stores. Because there's not too many people in my area, I often see the same people's photos on the nearby section all the time. Sometimes I see guys who I wasn't interested in whatoever look at me and I hope they don't recognize me. I saw this one guy who sent me a message saying all the things he wanted to do sexually to me in very gratuitous terms, in Walmart and I was so alarmed I accidentally rammed my cart into a middle aisle stand and knocked a bunch of stuff off it. Sometimes I wish I could run into a guy I like from online in real life and we could hit it off.
 wadeinwaves
Joined: 8/7/2017
Msg: 5
True or False? Only a fool would do such a thing?
Posted: 5/3/2018 5:10:22 PM
If a fellow fish approached me I'd be racking my brain trying to remember if the person had sent me a message at some point and was ignored and would feel embarrassed because even in person the answer would still be, "We're not a match". If I ever see a man who didn't reply to an initial contact message I sent I would not approach him as the same 'we're not a match' rule applies to me also.

I have encountered men messaging me after they saw me somewhere. One man who saw me at the movies messaged me afterwards to let me know he saw me there. Another man who saw me in the grocery store messaged me and told me he saw me there. For the second individual perhaps too much was going on in my life where the messages just fizzled out.
True or False? Only a fool would do such a thing?
Posted: 5/3/2018 8:28:36 PM
I've just joined a Wastebook group of older 'singles' - joined just before me is a POFer I corresponded with about 18 months ago... he probably remembers me... but I'm not phased... I don't see much to worry about since he lives way north of me (now)...

yeah, previous dates and I have discussed who we have 'seen' on POF... being a 'free' site, I wouldn't be surprised if creating a profile became rite of passage....
 PlutoLover68
Joined: 7/28/2016
Msg: 7
oh, i'm definitely fool enough.
Posted: 5/4/2018 11:57:33 AM
PlutoLover68 and NewYorker58 live in my town. Cooldog lives a few cities south. If I encountered either of them, I'd smile and say hi. I never forget a face and love recognizing people when I'm out and about.

Please do say hello and tell me you know me from here! Otherwise I'll be trying to figure out which FB singles group I know you from. LOL!
 blackbeauty744
Joined: 12/1/2015
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oh, i'm definitely fool enough.
Posted: 5/4/2018 12:29:49 PM
^^ your profile picture is giving me life
oh, i'm definitely fool enough.
Posted: 5/4/2018 3:36:30 PM
I was coming out of the local Timmys and a man held the door for me and said,"pof, right?" I'm like, "No, you must have me mixed up with someone else". He said, " you have a twin then". Yes, yes I do.
 BLONDE_ANGEL_1
Joined: 4/27/2018
Msg: 10
oh, i'm definitely fool enough.
Posted: 5/4/2018 5:02:48 PM
The only ones close to where I live is a young lady in Clarksville who recently left the forums/pof & the OP grew up in Nashville, he left too.

I'd say hi if I saw another forumite, there are a few that I'd avoid but I won't give names ;0P
 BretIAm
Joined: 3/25/2018
Msg: 11
oh, i'm definitely fool enough.
Posted: 5/4/2018 6:45:46 PM
I would say hello if I recognized a fellow/lady POFer, but I'm fairly certain no one from my area posts here.
 purplerider1200
Joined: 9/10/2011
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oh, i'm definitely fool enough.
Posted: 5/4/2018 7:20:16 PM
I've met up with another forumite twice, and have enjoyed talking with her. One other lives in my area, but we've never crossed paths. From what I've ever seen, just a few in the midwest ever get on here. Oh well, I'll live.
 JGL209
Joined: 5/1/2018
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True or False? Only a fool would do such a thing?
Posted: 5/4/2018 8:32:47 PM
Goood question.. I doubt I would recognize most women of off POF because they probably look different in person from their glamour or filtered pictures online. And If did recognize someone I probably wouldn't say anything.. it would be awkward. All though I did stumble across this chick's profile I use to date in my early 20's on here. I was relived sometimes we dodge bullets against our will .. And no I didn't message her.. lol I kept fishing !
 Kissfromarose77
Joined: 4/2/2018
Msg: 14
I pity the fool
Posted: 5/4/2018 8:43:55 PM
Only once I saw a profile of somebody I knew, and I would never mention it. I figure that dating is private business.
 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
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I pity the fool
Posted: 5/5/2018 10:11:07 AM
People seem to be crossing back and forth in their comments, from talking about people on the dating side and forumites.

I would definitely greet a fellow forumite, but not someone I had seen on the dating side. Big difference. As KissFromARose said, just above, “dating is private business”. No, not shameful, just private.
 cooldog65
Joined: 6/27/2011
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oh, i'm definitely fool enough.
Posted: 5/5/2018 11:23:52 AM

PlutoLover68 and NewYorker58 live in my town. Cooldog lives a few cities south. If I encountered either of them, I'd smile and say hi. I never forget a face and love recognizing people when I'm out and about.


Puget Sound area representing. Jessiebunnies and Trustinkarma were both pretty close by where I live.

It would be a shocker if I ran across a forumite. Maybe a trip to the Commons Mall or Muckleshoot Casino is in order.

If I saw siisaa my jaw would drop. She's absolutely gorgeous!
 Tyro327
Joined: 4/5/2018
Msg: 17
oh, i'm definitely fool enough.
Posted: 5/5/2018 11:55:48 AM
If a person said Oh I see a fellow fish I would think there was something wrong with them. If they talked to me first and the online dating came up sure have no problems with it as part of a conversation. Has nothing to do with the mentioning of the sites more of proper etiquette and manners, you know a simple hello, introduction of name etc... and bring it in. It's no wonder people have problems finding and meeting people in real life they forgotten how to talk to them.
 BLONDE_ANGEL_1
Joined: 4/27/2018
Msg: 18
he was charming & Italian
Posted: 5/5/2018 1:59:12 PM
I went on a few dates w/ a former forumite 11 years ago...he had 2 runs on POF (Tramp/AlfredoDP) - he lived 1 hr away in CT when I was living in NY & we met for dinner. (he paid LoL)

Nice man. I hope he found someone.
 curvylady1965
Joined: 12/31/2017
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Posted: 5/5/2018 5:15:47 PM
I had one guy message me to tell me he saw me at a mall I just left and said I was better looking in person. That felt a little strange, but it comes with being on a public site. I often have men at work look at me a little too long and I suspect it's because they have seen me on pof and they are connecting the dots. I don't think I'd mind if someone approached me. I'm not sure if I would approach someone. Perhaps I would just give them a friendly nod of acknowledgment .
 LucilleDixon
Joined: 12/18/2016
Msg: 20
oh, i'm definitely fool enough.
Posted: 5/15/2018 2:12:09 AM

The only ones close to where I live is a young lady in Clarksville who recently left the forums/pof


I live in Clarksville.

I've actually ran into someone from POF when I was going through the gates on post. I handed him my ID card and he said "I know you". I replied "you sure do" and drove off. He looked nothing like his profile and maybe I didn't neither but at least I was the same size. He wasn't.
 2ufo
Joined: 12/25/2017
Msg: 21
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Posted: 5/15/2018 8:34:21 AM
I have a terrible photo-to-real-life memory so I probably wouldn't approach anyone on the street since I wouldn't recognize them.

If someone approached me, I'd probably reply "I'm sorry but I don't remember you/your profile." Then I'd probably ask if they had time for a coffee meet. That's assuming I wasn't in a hurry to finish tasks.
 prettybrwneyedone
Joined: 6/1/2017
Msg: 22
True or False? Only a fool would do such a thing?
Posted: 5/15/2018 9:19:31 AM
I think it would depend on the level of rapport. I've been approached by someone last week who said he recognized me from somewhere and then he said online, but he didn't say where, which would either be facebook (but I don't broadcast my location) or on here (and I still don't list my exact location). He was decent and didn't say anything crazy, but he was trying to engage in a semi-busy area. He finished with telling me to stay out of trouble to which I told him to stop causing trouble. It all depends on the person and their approach.
 CynthiaSM
Joined: 7/23/2017
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oh, i'm definitely fool enough.
Posted: 6/13/2018 7:04:29 AM

PlutoLover68 and NewYorker58 live in my town. Cooldog lives a few cities south. If I encountered either of them, I'd smile and say hi.

Not too far south of where I currently live. But looking for property in your area to expand the business I own with my son. So, hopefully, the end of this year I'll be moving to the FW area to oversee the build-out and opening.

OT - I have run into people IRL that I recognized from POF dating side and said 'hi'. It never lead to anything more than a few minutes conversation but that's ok. Last summer I was sitting in the food court area of a local mall where totally out of the blue a man chatted me up for about 30 min. I didn't give him my contact info but a couple months later he wrote to me through POF. Funny thing was that, while we were chatting IRL neither of us recognized that we'd previously exchanged email through POF. And when he wrote to me a few months later, he didn't recognize that we'd met IRL. Guess it's time to get new pics.

P.S. Plutolover68 - fabulous new pic.
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