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 prettybrwneyedone
Joined: 6/1/2017
Msg: 1
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So the guy that I've been getting to know is pretty cool, funny, down to earth, PATIENT, but highly allergic to dogs. I feel for him. He had a hitch moment and needed some benedryl after encountering a puppy that kept licking him. He said his eyes swelled up really bad, got really itchy and he started itching. It's funny now, because he's fine, but ummm, I have a dog and he's a permanent part of my life. He seems open to the possibilities as am I, but I think I'm going to keep some benedryl on hand. lol. He seems determined to explore the future possibilities. If you were highly allergic to dogs/cats, do you still date the person? Is it a deal breaker?
 wadeinwaves
Joined: 8/7/2017
Msg: 2
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Posted: 5/13/2018 9:06:29 AM
There is a very long thread about this topic here:

https://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts8953907.aspx


More threads here that are informative:

https://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts8872025.aspx

https://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts2988253.aspx

https://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts9291515.aspx

https://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts8982213.aspx

These threads help me because I own animals people can be allergic to. It's interesting reading other points of view. One individual said it is a deal breaker because meds only work temporarily. My profile states which animal I have that could a concern for someone allergic to them. People need to read profiles if they are allergic.
 Ladyinred0407
Joined: 2/6/2016
Msg: 3
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Posted: 5/13/2018 9:21:24 AM
Pets and allergies are blessings and curses we learn to adapt to / live with.
If I avoided everything that brought on a reaction, I'd have to stay home, indoors.
I keep an OTC allergy pill in a small pill container, in my purse, in my truck, in his car, on the bike. Easy peasey!
 curvylady1965
Joined: 12/31/2017
Msg: 4
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Posted: 5/13/2018 9:44:56 AM
I have six animals and am allergic to two of them. Because I have asthma, the impact can go beyond itchy eyes. The two who stay most attached to me are also the two I am most allergic to. There are ways around the allergy thing. I have an understanding physician (some would refuse treatment unless I got rid of the animals) and the vet has been helpful with shampoo that helps with the dander. It's not that I never have symptoms, I certainly do. But they are certainly reasonable and more than an appropriate trade off for what I get from the furred and feathered ones.
 BretIAm
Joined: 3/25/2018
Msg: 5
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Posted: 5/13/2018 11:14:07 AM
1. Keep Benadryl around.
2. Consult an allergist.
3. If that doesn't work it was fun while it lasted?
 cooldog65
Joined: 6/27/2011
Msg: 6
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Posted: 5/13/2018 11:21:44 AM
The sex would have to be porno worthy...
 L_LuuLuu
Joined: 8/2/2009
Msg: 7
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Posted: 5/13/2018 11:42:34 AM
OP --

This man has a Serious allergic condition that is most likely to get Worse. Maybe even leading to anaphylactic condition resulting in his death.

Medications are a blessing when needed. But each one has side effects and contains a tiny amount of poison. You just don't keep taking them if you can avoid it. Besides, most meds tend to quit working after a while.

Maybe keep dating him away from your place and the dog to see how things go, first.

THEN, if you think you might want to make things permanent.

AND;

You still think more of a Dog than the Human love of your life -- do the poor Man a favor and let him go.

There are plenty more fish in the sea for the Man. And for you -- plenty of animal lovers for you to choose from. Maybe, even one that thinks more of a Pet than he does of Your needs.

Just sayin'....
 IgorFrankensteen
Joined: 6/29/2009
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Posted: 5/13/2018 12:58:30 PM
I can't answer for you. I know that whenever I see "allergic to cats or dogs" in a profile, that I personally move on.

On the other hand, my own father is allergic to cats, AND suffers from asthma. He spent his entire adult life with my mother, who always liked having cats around. That was a marriage that lasted over sixty years. He outlived her.
So it depends.

I have heard various people claim that they were so perfectly matched that everything was wonderful for them all the time. Sounds great. Most of them hadn't been together very long, though, so I wonder if it's just that they were still enjoying the "in love" phase, followed by romanticizing everything.

I myself long ago gave up on ever finding that level of perfection, even for a short time. All of my relationships, within my families and outside of them, have had problems. Frankly, although I stay away from people who feel the need to say they have allergies to animals that I know I will have around me, I wouldn't put the same restriction on myself, unless the allergy was very bad. Because I know what I can and can't handle, and sniffles isn't a big deal.

Things like medical concerns are far less important to me, than character ones. I know all too well from my experiences, that the most fabulous lover, who was perfectly matched in lifestyle and other such ways, can be the absolutely most destructive person for me to be around, if they have fundamental character or moral issues.
 MachIMustangII
Joined: 2/16/2018
Msg: 9
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Posted: 5/13/2018 6:33:34 PM
Sleep over only at his place. Don't give rides in your car if you give your pet rides in your car. You may want a separate set of evening wear for dates with him. its going to end up like you have a kid with food allergies, you're going to have to think about exposure before you do the things you take for granted.

the good news is, if you weren't so attractive, this problem would have been solved instantly--by him. We go as far as we want to get laid.
 blackbeauty744
Joined: 12/1/2015
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Posted: 5/13/2018 6:54:46 PM
As someone allergic to cats and dogs, this is a dealbreaker.
 __TEXASCHICK__
Joined: 11/9/2011
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Posted: 5/13/2018 8:06:17 PM
Would have cut that dude loose already.
 L_LuuLuu
Joined: 8/2/2009
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Posted: 5/14/2018 10:23:48 AM
Going to have to agree with you, Texas Chick. Pet owners have feelings, too.

For anyone who is interested in a serious relationship: A potential S/O who can't or won't tolerate your pets and/or house rules is a bad bet. It can only end badly, so don't waste a minute getting attached.

Especially for the lady pet owners. If your new guy "loves" you (and promises to accept your pet "later") but won't come over because of the pet, remember this:
Good chance he's only stringing your along for the "love life".

For you "Girls who just wanna have fun": no worries IF you're SURE that is ALL you want.
 hemingway234
Joined: 6/6/2015
Msg: 13
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Posted: 5/14/2018 12:23:27 PM
Oh wow, so you have a dog and are dating someone who is allergic? That's a heart breaker.... yeah, it's probably a dealbreaker. The medication probably won't be that effective.

This could be part of the reason he's single - lots of people have pets.....his dating pool is cut in half from just that. But with the other half of the population who don't have pets, it's no problem.

Unless you can just date him at his place and never bring him to yours. Some married people live apart, it can work - but it's an extreme. If you date others, make sure you say you have a pet in your profile.
 prettybrwneyedone
Joined: 6/1/2017
Msg: 14
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Posted: 5/14/2018 3:59:17 PM
Thanks Wade, I'll definitely check those other posts out.

I agree Lulu, he didn't tell me right off that he was allergic. I've been getting to know him for about a month now and we've been out a couple of times. I'm certain if he would have told me right off that I would have cut things short. I appreciate everyone's feedback, I do agree and I talked to him about it again last night.

I agree Hemingway. He doesn't seem concerned about it, but I am, because that does limit how we would engage - his home, his truck, etc. I agree Hemingway.

The funny thing is even before sharing that important information with me, he was trying to invite me to bring my dog to meet him to go for a walk on a trail. I can't imagine how that would have played out - my dog is very affectionate and likes to interact with anyone he's in close contact with.

Back to the drawing board. At least the weather is starting to warm up, so it's nice to get out and do some things.
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