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 JAXTC
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I’ve sent several nice first messages to women I find highly attractive on POF and in return have gotten many #Metoo replies. As in just a #Metoo as the reply. Has #Metoo invaded OLD?

Is it even possible for Donald Trump himself to make OLD Great again?
 siisaa
Joined: 8/6/2017
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Posted: 6/8/2018 11:48:41 AM
Maybe your definition of "nice" differs from theirs. We're only getting one side of the story. I'm highly skeptical when a guy claims he's "nice" or respectful but still gets ax over and over again.
 BretIAm
Joined: 3/25/2018
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Posted: 6/8/2018 1:05:24 PM
I have no idea what you could say that would trigger a #MeToo response. Please provide a sample message.
 JAXTC
Joined: 3/7/2018
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Posted: 6/8/2018 2:02:53 PM
Example of first message: Damn girl! You are looking FANTASTIC. I bet you get hit up all the time with offers for sex. I’m not like that. Have a great day. =)

I know a lot of women get perverted first messages so I just wanted them to know I know in my first message but I am not one of those guys.
 BLONDE_ANGEL_1
Joined: 4/27/2018
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Posted: 6/8/2018 2:08:40 PM
"I didn't eat that cookie" said the Little Boy w/ crumbs in & on his mouth & hands!

Freud would have a field day with you!
 JAXTC
Joined: 3/7/2018
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Posted: 6/8/2018 2:24:48 PM
How could I have ate the cookie if I get #Metoo responses to my first email?
 siisaa
Joined: 8/6/2017
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Posted: 6/8/2018 2:32:35 PM

Example of first message: Damn girl! You are looking FANTASTIC. I bet you get hit up all the time with offers for sex. I’m not like that. Have a great day. =)


Not good. I would have just ignored you. If you're really not one of these poonhound types, you don't need to proclaim that you're not. Let your actions speak for themselves. Also, lay off any comments about her appearance. If she is attractive, she's probably already heard that a million times before.

You sound like you have A LOT to learn.
 moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
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Posted: 6/8/2018 2:36:46 PM
(I bet you get hit up all the time with offers for sex.)

That is the first thing you say in a message and you do not understand why women would not like that.
Wow just wow.
 IgorFrankensteen
Joined: 6/29/2009
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Posted: 6/8/2018 3:38:17 PM
This is impressive. OP managed to get the Me Too movement entirely wrong, while demonstrating directly, most of the attitudes and illogical thinking that led to the movement coming alive.

Oh, and by the way, using the old middle-school style trick of claiming to NOT be reprehensible, while openly BEING reprehensible, was hilarious.

A bit clumsy in execution, though. You're not supposed to use the word "I" when you are trying to say what you are really thinking, as you deny thinking it. That gives a plotter away completely every time.

It reminds me of an old 1943 Elmer Fudd/Daffy Duck cartoon, where a fellow duck is pretending to show Daffy what he's NOT allowed to do during a boxing match, by doing it to Elmer.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wQywdYKur1Q
 purplerider1200
Joined: 9/10/2011
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Posted: 6/8/2018 3:48:25 PM

Maybe your definition of "nice" differs from theirs. We're only getting one side of the story. I'm highly skeptical when a guy claims he's "nice" or respectful but still gets ax over and over again.


Claiming that we're nice is about the only way we can counter women complaining about finding nothing but PUA's. I've grown tired of women that won't give me a chance to prove what type of guy I am. I think I'll start a movement called "Nutz to you!"

Question anything I've said? You're history. I'm not going try to prove myself over and over.

Expect certain things? Don't stand on one foot waiting, it ain't happening.

Conversation is a two way street. When Men were drafted into the service, They were told that they have to write letters to get them.

No effort on your part, means don't bother on my part. Take a flying leap.

I see no reason to be nice to you, when you won't give me a chance- NUTZ TO YOU!
 MsMicki
Joined: 10/2/2006
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Posted: 6/8/2018 4:06:08 PM
Oh someone has a lot to learn about women!!!
 siisaa
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Posted: 6/8/2018 4:07:41 PM

Claiming that we're nice is about the only way we can counter women complaining about finding nothing but PUA's. I've grown tired of women that won't give me a chance to prove what type of guy I am.


talk is cheap. actions > words. Anyone who has to claim too hard to that they're _____ is usually suspect. The men I've encountered who were actually gentlemen or good men (good man > "nice guy" ANYDAY) didn't tell me they were. Their actions and behavior were indicative of such honorable traits.


Question anything I've said? You're history. I'm not going try to prove myself over and over.


Hmmm...so women are just supposed to smile, nod & believe everything you say? You may as well just get a love doll which, judging by your attitude, is going to be right up your alley, especially combined with your stupid-ass proposed movement.

From your above post and other posts I've read of yours, you don't sound too nice anyway, more like a bitter man who's resentful towards women. Good luck w/ your movement. The women aren't losing out on much anyway.
 flowersinthelake
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Posted: 6/8/2018 4:19:30 PM

I’ve sent several nice first messages to women I find highly attractive on POF and in return have gotten many #Metoo replies.


They don't find YOU highly attractive, among other things, I surmise.


As in just a #Metoo as the reply. Has #Metoo invaded OLD?


The Me Too movement isn't an invasion of anything; it's a movement in response to sexual violence and harassment. Jeeze, what messages did really send to those people? WTF.


Is it even possible for Donald Trump himself to make OLD Great again?


He's trying to make rape, sexual abuse, and harassment, and thuggery American, again.

#MeToo
 feirene
Joined: 1/3/2017
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Posted: 6/8/2018 4:58:54 PM

(I bet you get hit up all the time with offers for sex.)

That is the first thing you say in a message and you do not understand why women would not like that.
Wow just wow.


Exactly this. The first thing you thought about when you saw this person is sex, and even told her that indirectly.
Women aren't stupid.
 dragonbytes
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Posted: 6/8/2018 5:07:52 PM

Example of first message: Damn girl! You are looking FANTASTIC. I bet you get hit up all the time with offers for sex. I’m not like that. Have a great day. =)


So that sort of MSG worked well a few years ago?
 MachIMustangII
Joined: 2/16/2018
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Posted: 6/8/2018 5:48:22 PM
"Is it even possible for Donald Trump himself to make OLD Great again?"

>>>we can ask Melania...or the nearest porn star what DJT can do to help dating.

"you are looking fantastic"

>>>that's so original, 50 other guys told her that before you. not counting the ones she met in person.

"I bet you get hit up all the time with offers for sex"

>>>what does that matter to, "hey, I want to get to know you the real you"?

"I'm not like that"

>>>that's right up there with every sentence that begins with

no offense...but...

next time, don't end such a witty pickup line with a smile, end with a salacious wink
 JAXTC
Joined: 3/7/2018
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Posted: 6/8/2018 6:41:33 PM
So I get attacked for being and nice guy NOT looking for sex. Not even Bill Cliton had his good name dragged through the mud like I am by responders. Bill did not have sex with that woman and I haven't had sex with any woman so why am I the punching bag?

My first emails have been nice, polite and upfront that I am not looking for sex but a relationship. Perhaps I should sign up for Adult Friend Finder. I heard the women on there aren't so stuffy.
 Ladyinred0407
Joined: 2/6/2016
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Posted: 6/8/2018 6:46:30 PM
"The lady ( or man) doth protest too much, methinks"

is a quotation from the 1599/ 1600 play Hamlet by William Shakespeare. It has been used as a figure of speech, in various phrasings, to describe someone's too frequent and vehement attempts to convince others of some matter of which the opposite is true, thereby making themselves appear defensive, and insincere.
 MsMicki
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Posted: 6/8/2018 6:54:11 PM
Doesn't matter what site you use if you don't learn how to approach a woman!!

If you are truly looking for a relationship.....why would you even mention the word sex in a first message???

in your profile....as a conversation starter...you say
Would your ex say good things about you?


the combination of bringing up sex and their ex is not making a good impression!!

If you are getting no reply or negative replies - what is the common denominator?? Your first contact and your profile....
 feirene
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Posted: 6/8/2018 7:01:11 PM
It's not polite to ask a woman about sexual stuff.
 purplerider1200
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Posted: 6/9/2018 4:10:46 AM

Oh someone has a lot to learn about women!!!


I did. You taught me. Aren't you pleased with the result?

I'm fed up with your shenanigans. Go away with your double standards. Nutz to you.
 spot4username
Joined: 12/15/2015
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Posted: 6/9/2018 4:16:13 AM

It's not polite to ask a woman about sexual stuff.

It's not polite to ask anyone about sexual stuff. Especially a stranger.
 Llove2LaughToo
Joined: 4/14/2018
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Posted: 6/9/2018 7:24:04 AM

I’ve sent several nice first messages to women I find highly attractive on POF and in return have gotten many #Metoo replies. As in just a #Metoo as the reply. Has #Metoo invaded OLD?

Is it even possible .....


Is it even possible that a self appointed PofLegend, self described as one of the "top daters in POF history", who claim to have written a book on dating and relationships, is asking such a question?


PofLegend
I am one of the top daters in POF history, been here for 10 years, dated around 200-300 women on this site, had several long term relationships. Can write a book on dating and relating.

https://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts16397453.aspx
 MissRoseMallow
Joined: 2/2/2018
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Posted: 6/9/2018 8:49:35 AM
JAX, I'll tell you why your messages aren't working.

First, you start with a comment about the woman's looks. Every single woman on POF gets messages about her appearance, which are intended as compliments, but they never feel that way. Even I get those "Wow, you're hawwwt" messages, and I'm 51; God knows what it's like for younger girls. I know you think you're paying a big compliment, but it comes across as "I haven't bothered to read your profile, so I'll focus on your appearance."

Secondly, saying that she "probably gets hit on for sex all the time" immediately brings a sexual element into the conversation. Even if your point is that you're NOT one of those guys, you've introduced a seedy feeling.

Thirdly, that message doesn't feel personal. It's generic enough that you could copy-paste it to hundreds of women, and nobody wants to be the victim of a copy-paster.

The messages that really get my attention are the ones that mention something in my profile, preferably with a sense of humour. The "DAMMM, you be hawwwwwt!" ones just induce eyerolls.
 Ladyinred0407
Joined: 2/6/2016
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Posted: 6/9/2018 9:26:47 AM
LMAO, Thanks Love2laugh2, I KNEW there was buried history, but I didn't have time to dig for results.
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