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Some people have a laundry list of requirements in their profile. I've seen a few that say "Tell me what you bring to the table". It sounds like a business transaction. I don't care if someone is a CEO or cashier at Target. It's about who they are and how we connect. It's nice to be with someone who isn't struggling financially and can hold their own but none of our lives are perfect.
 dragonbytes
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Posted: 8/12/2018 6:15:27 PM
It's much more typical for a woman to care what a man does for work than a man to care what a woman does. Just the way it usually is.
 johnfromzelie
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Posted: 8/12/2018 6:16:25 PM
it does matter to me. not for the money though. more of a lifestyle/compatibility thing. someone with a masters degree and highly motivated probably wouldn't have much in common with the high school drop out on welfare. not that the jobs even need be remotely similar, just that they share a similar off work lifestyle and circle of friends.
 siisaa
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Posted: 8/12/2018 6:35:16 PM
If I'm just casually dating them, then not as much. If I'm looking to potentially build a life with this person, then yes, I do care more. It boils down to what a person's priorities are and our long-term goals.

With my ex-fiance, it took him over 2 years after earning his masters to find a permanent, full-time, well-paying job. In those 2 years, we kept separate residences & he had a series of odd jobs. I had a permanent FT job the entire 4+ years we were together. We did not move in together until he also found a permanent FT job.

Yes, I do care and it does matter especially if we're moving to that next step.
 MsMicki
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Posted: 8/12/2018 6:48:10 PM
Nope....never did....
I was always far more concerned with "who" they were...
as long as they could support themselves...and enjoyed what they did...it doesn't matter to me what they do for a living.
 __TEXASCHICK__
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Posted: 8/12/2018 6:48:27 PM
I'm a Federal Employee, and will retire end of next year. If a guy is still working, fine, as is if he is retired and on Social Security. What is a must is that he has his own place, and own wheels.
 Ladyinred0407
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Posted: 8/12/2018 7:13:49 PM
I agree with Ms Mickie and TEXAS CHICK, I don't care...………...except...………..if he had to kill animals, I'm certain I couldn't stomach that.
 RoxyMoronic
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Posted: 8/12/2018 11:56:48 PM
^^^^it depends in what context. I guess a vet would be exempt.
I’ll say straight off the bat.....I wouldn’t date a copper.
I don’t care for cold caller types/salesmen.

When I was young I always imagined I’d live the life of a starving artist.
Trouble was I had to eat, realised I wanted a home, and didn’t develop a creative bone in my body.
Flipping heck! I had to work, I’ve hated it ever since that realisation.
So yeah, I’m not bothered what someone does for work as long as it isn’t the above I’ve mentioned or any shady stuff.
 Love2Laugh__too
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Posted: 8/13/2018 12:49:15 AM

"I can't be with someone if I don't respect what they do..."

https://youtu.be/TyKlJbe1frc
 cooldog65
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Posted: 8/13/2018 1:01:06 AM

I don't care if someone is a CEO or cashier at Target.


Chances are the cashier from Target is more likely to be attractive than the CEO.
 LoveOnAShip
Joined: 7/24/2018
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Posted: 8/13/2018 6:18:33 AM
When I was young and just looking for sex, no.

For a serious relationship, hell yes.


If I'm just casually dating them, then not as much. If I'm looking to potentially build a life with this person, then yes, I do care more. It boils down to what a person's priorities are and our long-term goals.

With my ex-fiance, it took him over 2 years after earning his masters to find a permanent, full-time, well-paying job. In those 2 years, we kept separate residences & he had a series of odd jobs. I had a permanent FT job the entire 4+ years we were together. We did not move in together until he also found a permanent FT job.

Yes, I do care and it does matter especially if we're moving to that next step.


Siisaa, smart and gorgeous, can't believe your single. I bet you're too smart for 95% of the men you come into contact with.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/insight-therapy/201412/laws-attraction-how-do-we-select-life-partner

"On the other hand, 'social role theory,’ developed by the American psychologist Alice Eagly, argues that social—rather than biological—processes dictate our social choices. According to this argument, the mate selection rules are dictated by the roles that women and men occupy in society. Thus, people's preferences in the search for a mate are expected to shift as social roles and norms shift. For example, women are attracted to men with power and money because society limits their own ability to gain power and money. If, tomorrow, most positions of power and money go to women, then a man’s status and wealth will matter much less to women, while male beauty, youth, and stamina may come to matter more."

"Indeed, studies over the past fifty years show some fundamental changes in mate preferences among both men and women. For example, since maintaining a comfortable life on one salary has become difficult in the west, and since most women work and earn income, both men and women currently put more emphasis than before on the partner’s economic and social status when choosing a life partner."

"Love vs. Status/Resources

When choosing a partner, we frequently engage in internal negotiations whereby the value of romantic love is pitted against the value of social status and economic security. If the love is strong, we may sacrifice security or economic status. If the potential partner’s status is high, we may compromise regarding the intensity of our romantic feelings.

Dependable/Stable vs. Good Looks/Health

When choosing a partner, we tend to compromise regarding emotional stability if the potential partner is very attractive physically. Alternatively, we may agree to accept a less attractive partner if they are exceptionally stable and emotionally sound."

"Education/Intelligence vs. Desire for Home/Children

We tend to forgive a partner who’s pursuing higher education and a career if they are not interested in having many children. Conversely, we may forgive the limited educational and career achievements of someone who really wants to have children and raise a large family.'


Sociability vs. Similar Religion

Someone of the same religion as us will be seen as an attractive choice even if he or she does not possess a particularly sociable character. A potential partner who’s very sociable by nature will attract us even if they don’t share our religious background."

"These four factors operate, independently, in both men and women; but for the first three, significant differences were found between the sexes. In general, women place more importance on socio-economic status than romantic love. Women also prefer emotional stability to attractive appearance, and they prefer intelligence to the desire to have children. Status, emotional stability, and intelligence are less important features for men when they seek a long-term partner. Men emphasize the value of external beauty, youth and physical health, and a desire for children.

In addition, studies indicate that women are more selective and demanding than men when choosing a life partner. One reason is that women have more to lose in making a bad choice.
The poet Margaret Atwood once said: "Men are afraid that women will laugh at them. Women are afraid men will kill them." Women are more vulnerable, and so they need to be more cautious. Another reason for female selectivity is that bringing an offspring into the world is a much more demanding and dangerous matter for a woman than it is for a man. The one who is going to invest more and take a greater risk necessarily examines the investment more carefully.

This article could be applied to many of the topics in this forum.
 sun_water
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Do you care what a person does for work?
Posted: 8/13/2018 6:34:15 AM
No. Provided that it's a legal job and he makes enough money to support himself. Even if he lives a modest lifestyle.
 2ufo
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Posted: 8/13/2018 8:38:30 AM
I don't think I care WHAT a person does for work but rather HOW he does his work.
 hemingway234
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Posted: 8/13/2018 12:03:23 PM
What a person does for a living can be very important! There is a chance that what a person does is who they are. There are many people in certain power positions that have a higher chance of being control freaks.

As an example, there is a saying, "Firemen cheat, cops beat". Some women won't date cops.

Also, should a man date a prostitute or stripper? I'll tell you one thing, unless she quits and finds Jesus, I'm not goin' there!
 Clytemnestra
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Posted: 8/13/2018 12:12:08 PM
msg#14:
"Firemen cheat, cops beat".


I've never heard that saying. And having known quite a few fireman, professional and volunteer---I can testify that most are upstanding people who put their lives on the line for others.

"Firemen cheat"???
I think you just made that up to rhyme with the 'cops beat' part of your made up saying~

;-(

(I don't personally know any cops so cannot comment on that part)
 hemingway234
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Posted: 8/13/2018 12:23:12 PM
I wish I was clever enough to invent that phrase. I'm sure if you google it there will be many references to it.

I don't mean to vilify any certain profession (except porn, strippers, and prostitution!), but dating is a controversial subject.
 siisaa
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Posted: 8/13/2018 12:36:26 PM

I don’t care for cold caller types/salesmen.


Me either. Brings up another point: I wouldn't want to share finances/a home with someone whose income is based on 100% commission. Too unstable.
 LoveOnAShip
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Posted: 8/13/2018 3:01:37 PM
No one mentioned postal workers----"going postal"

plus correctional officers...very volatile environment

AND
anyone who works in the White House :0(
Do you care what a person does for work?
Posted: 8/13/2018 3:02:10 PM
I find that the most popular professional for woman here is something in the medical field. I see that in at least half of the profiles that I look at.

Ladies - is there a profession that is common for men?
 siisaa
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Posted: 8/13/2018 3:28:45 PM

Ladies - is there a profession that is common for men?


I'm pretty sure that information can be found online (Bureau of Labor Statistics). Anyway, in this region, most of the men I've met (that did not work at my job) were in IT. When I lived in San Diego, there were a disproportionately high number of men in the military I'd meet in my day to day. I also had a civilian job on the Naval base & when I'd go out with my girlfriends in the major club/bar district, the scene was crawling with military dudes.
 ksuser
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Posted: 8/13/2018 4:20:58 PM
siisaa ....did you say military dudes.

Where I grew up I never say military dudes except on tv. I just so happen to marry one, that lasted 25 years. It was not the best experience of my life.
But, let me think about this: Lots of drinks, allot of men (even if they are military), wow would I ever want that problem. Lol, I would be saluting all of them.

It really doesn't matter what job they have, it's who they are that counts. FYI I would not want a male dancer, or mortician.
 MsMicki
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Posted: 8/13/2018 4:38:59 PM
I would think men's profession would be geographical...
my area....a lot of factory workers....anywhere from pork ( kill 'em and butcher 'em), Delco Electronics to 4 Chrysler plants... and 1/2 hour drive to the next town there is Subaru, Catapiller and Frito Lay....
The jobs run from unskilled line workers up to skilled trades...
We also have our fair share of agricultural workers....Pioneer and Monsanto are the biggest employers.

and yes, the medical field is huge in just about every town now...
Do you care what a person does for work?
Posted: 8/13/2018 4:41:12 PM

FYI I would not want a male dancer, or mortician.


People are dying to see a mortician once!
 TomásIasan
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Posted: 8/13/2018 4:59:53 PM
No it's about who they are as people, not how much or what they do for a living.
 purplerider1200
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Posted: 8/13/2018 5:03:43 PM
I've had many women look down their noses at my line of work. I've been a building contractor all of my life. Most, I believe, think that I spend a lot of my time looking for work. Yup, I must have spent, Ohh, perhaps 20 days in my working life not having another job to start after I've finished my last job. Most, however do not know of all of my talents.

Anything you have sitting under the peak of your house, I can build or fix. This includes most of your major appliances. (Short of Refrigeration) May as well add into that mix, your car, mower, or anything with a gas engine. I've built a number of grain handling, and mixing equipment operations from the ground up. Most farm equipment. I can fabricate most anything out of steel. I can repair any swimming pool, or spa tub. I know how to run any piece of heavy equipment. I can drive anything, including semi tractors. I can operate most machine shop equipment. I know how to pull water wells, or fix any plumbing issue. Electric, all, including some three phase industrial. Until the digital age came along, I could even fix analog. Heating, well, if it's got a standing pilot light, I can repair it.

I can even miss vacations on a regular basis. Mainly because people will swamp me with work- quite often. I'm a first call on most household disasters, because people know I can bail them out of many situations.

Yes, I'm one of those nasty folks that does "Dirty Jobs". My days are never dull. How many can say," I went to work on a roof, but instead, I got an old flat head Ford V-8 started, tuned, and installed in a '52 Ford ratrod- And got paid to do it".

Sometimes, life can be more interesting than a date.
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