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 winfieldbrian
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What is it in my profile that makes average sized or athletic sized women pass me by?

I by no means have a bias against overweight women, whether by a little or a lot. I lost my virginity to a chubby woman, almost every woman I've ever date were chubby or heavy, and I married a chubby woman who became heavy as the years passed. But on my bucket list is have a relationship, preferably one that includes sex, with any average sized or slender woman.
 mahwahgirl339114
Joined: 10/31/2017
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why do only overweight women look at my profile?
Posted: 9/15/2018 2:59:22 PM
Because it's a problem your state has! Fat is average!
 johnfromzelie
Joined: 3/8/2018
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Posted: 9/15/2018 3:00:40 PM
the average or athletic women are being approached by every man on here.
 RareLiam1994
Joined: 8/12/2018
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Posted: 9/15/2018 3:44:39 PM
It’s harsh but the reality is overweight women look at you because no one else will take them. Online dating is nothing more than a shallow market place where people are searching for the best looking products. My value here is extremely low and so i don’t even get page views from women that are deemed undesirable. I think you should be proud really that you’re even being noticed here at all. I’m not exaggerating but women on here are in a position where they can select a guy that is far better looking than themselves.
 Strawberry_Jello
Joined: 5/13/2014
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Posted: 9/15/2018 6:38:42 PM
You are out of shape yourself. You have a potbelly. Why would athletic or average women be attracted to you?

And you have "wants to date but nothing serious" a real turn off for most women.
 mahwahgirl339114
Joined: 10/31/2017
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Posted: 9/15/2018 8:11:15 PM
^^^That's true too. Your pictures are old and blurry, why not post new ones? If you walk 2 miles every day you have got to be in better shape than what your pictures show, I bet.

Also, you disqualify Republicans and Trump voters? That makes pickings even slimmer for you. I don't think politics has to drive divisions between people, but apparently you do. There have always been two parties in this country, people voted one or the other, and it was private information which one. Now apparently we are in a full-on civil war in this country? I'm a size six-eight, but I'm a Republican and a Trump voter, so I guess you wouldn't end up dating me.
 MeramecRiverRat
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Posted: 9/16/2018 8:47:22 AM
One of your photos is probably extremely old because of the POF watermark. The other two are too old. Get new ones. If you walk two miles a day and haven't gained tons of weight since those photos were taken, you should be glad to show current ones.




I like women who have a great sense of off-the-wall humor and can laugh at bad jokes and puns.


It's fine you like such women, but I believe it's bad to mention women in the plural because they might think you're a player, not focusing on just one. Try "I would like to be with a woman who …" Your choice of "date but nothing serious" is the biggest factor in turning away women who seek a monogamous relationship.




Not a fan of C&W or rap.

If you're a Republican or voted for Trump, we won't get along, so don't bother contacting me.

Ladies: be brave! Don't click on my photo on the "Meet Me" function - write me a short note. I'll reply back, I promise!


Bad, bad, bad. Delete all three lines. They are in a gazillion other profiles. Most people hate country and rap, many people hate Trump. You're not weeding out many rap listeners or Trump supporters (though there might be many country listeners and Republicans in Texas), but you are in danger of annoying people who are sick of seeing the same clichés in so many profiles. Telling someone to message you won't increase the number of messages you get (will reduce the number unless already zero), and anti-Meet Me rhetoric is another cliché in seemingly every profile.

Vague professions apparently are a turnoff. They assume the worst: unemployed, criminal, on disability, etc.

The "blue collar" might be a turnoff to many Democrats, as they tend to be elitist and snobby (there was a limousine liberal on the forums who was notorious for attacking people who do real work such as driving trucks). Most people with a blue collar mentality are conservative.

One advantage you have is the gender ratio at your age. There are many more women than men.


Thin gals might be more likely to view in stealth mode because the more attractive ones who show up in a viewed me might get messages. As someone else said, the thin ones might get so many incoming messages, they just answer from the many choices who message them.


This site is good at deleting fake accounts quickly, so the fake thin ones get deleted before you log on (they often name you as a favorite or vote yes or maybe in meet me, only existing in the spam folder of your real email, typically with a username ending in numbers).

Maybe thin girls don't want to be with someone who chows down on deep dish Chicago pizza and hot dogs while she eats healthier? Might be difficult to find a thin middle aged woman with a fast metabolism who can join you at high calorie restaurants. I suggest you leave those two food items in your interests section as they're distinctive, unlike the dreadful clichés which you ideally will remove from your profile.
 johnfromzelie
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Posted: 9/16/2018 9:17:55 AM
I would ditch the trump thing. stating 'liberal' is enough. not bashing your views (can do that in off topic) but your choice of words screams extremist. if that is truly a major concern, put snowflakes only. any profile containing trump haters only or trump supporters only would be bypassed by me. it isn't the left/right thing, it is that you exclude because of it. again, if this is a big part of your life, certainly worth mentioning but if it is just a small part, leave it out.
 spot4username
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Posted: 9/16/2018 9:44:46 AM

why do only overweight women look at my profile?

I just looked at your profile and I weigh 125 lbs. But you can't see that I looked at your profile because I have that disabled. Oh well.

Your photos are old. Your photos are awful. You look overweight in your photos. As a woman who would be in your demographic based on your profile and your post here I wouldn't want to meet you. I would wonder what you are hiding with your old photos.

Just one more reason why real life is so much easier. You can see what you are getting (at least physically).
 Forums_only
Joined: 7/20/2014
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Posted: 9/16/2018 9:50:12 AM

What is it in my profile that makes average sized or athletic sized women pass me by?


Your photos. (2 and 3 yr old photos with double chins)
Your Interests (beer, pizza)
Your profile body for a 58-yr old is insufficient for someone to get a real connection for anything other than a casual encounter (as 'wants to date but nothing serious' implies). Fit and average women can get that anywhere. Here, they are looking for more. Your forum history would indicate you'd be trying to hump her leg over a first coffee.

If you want to attract someone who takes care of themselves and looks a certain way, you will need to actually present yourself in the same way. Show photos of you outdoors (implying excersize/activities); talk about where you like to walk (gives your viewer a picture in her mind); expand on other activities you enjoy so she can imagine participating with you.

Your clear bitterness about sex in your other posts could possibly be damaging your future meet-ups if you come on too strong. Women in our age range do enjoy sex - with the right guy, at the right time. If there's a good intellectual connection, you'll know soon enough as we do bring up the subject relatively soon.

You've been on this site a long time. Perhaps it's time to scrap the profile and start fresh with a new attitude and more vibrant presentation. Good luck!
 mahwahgirl339114
Joined: 10/31/2017
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Posted: 9/16/2018 10:29:59 AM

But you can't see that I looked at your profile because I have that disabled. Oh well.

I have that disabled too. Some people checked who viewed them and get upset that they get viewed but not contacted.
 spot4username
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Posted: 9/16/2018 11:29:23 AM
^^^ Bingo. Sometimes I would be on my phone and "fat finger" it. That is, click on a profile without meaning to. Sometimes thumbnails are hard to see so you open a profile to get a better look. It only takes a couple aggressive messages wanting to know why you didn't message them or have any interest to decide to disable a person's ability to see you viewed them.
 whiterose0
Joined: 2/3/2009
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Posted: 9/16/2018 1:21:17 PM
Average and athletic-sized women can pretty much pick and choose on here. Since they have a larger dating pool, they can afford to be more selective. They're going to be looking at other things besides just your photos.

Many women your age (58) are likely seeking men whose children are already grown. Yours are under 18. Even though you claim to want a relationship, your profile intent says you aren't looking for anything serious.
 ksuser
Joined: 7/17/2018
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Posted: 9/17/2018 1:34:08 PM
"Why do only overweight women look at my profile"

I agree with strawberry on this one....I wouldn't have even given this guy the time. For one thing I feel that there is some arrogance with this one. All weight can be lost or gained....dud it's superficial to pick someone on weight. And I agree, you are not athletic looking yourself. "Change your attitude, Change your life".
 ksuser
Joined: 7/17/2018
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Posted: 9/17/2018 1:44:01 PM
winfieldbrian "why do only overweight women look at my profile"

I haven't looked at your profile, and don't want too. It has nothing to do with my weight.
 cooldog65
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Posted: 9/19/2018 8:08:56 PM
Brian...Are you not getting enough answers from your other thread?

https://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts16710120.aspx
 winfieldbrian
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Posted: 9/20/2018 5:22:42 PM
mahwahgirl339114 says:



Because it's a problem your state has! Fat is average!


Sadly, she speaks the truth.
 winfieldbrian
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Posted: 9/20/2018 5:34:39 PM
Strawberry_Jello says:



You are out of shape yourself. You have a potbelly. Why would athletic or average women be attracted to you?


And yet her images are private so no one can see what her physique looks like. As the fortune cookie says "Physician, heal thyself!"

According to this web site from February 2018 https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/321003.php the average woman today weighs 168 pounds. Since Strawberry_Jello says she has "a few extra pounds" I'll bet she thinks 15 - 20 pounds count as only a "few extra".

According to this web site from February 2018 https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/320917.php the average man today weighs 195 pounds. Since I currently weigh 205 I'm 10 pounds above average. I'll keep plugging away at it, but I'm certainly not "out of shape" as Strawberry_Jello implies.
 winfieldbrian
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Posted: 9/20/2018 5:50:33 PM
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Your choice of "date but nothing serious" is the biggest factor in turning away women who seek a monogamous relationship.


Countless women have that on their profiles. Nobody seems to have a problem with that, but if a guy has it ...? I have no problem becoming serious and exclusive with a woman over time, but I don't put pressure on myself right off the bat hoping that "this one is the one". I take things at their own pace and see where relationships go.




Telling someone to message you won't increase the number of messages you get


This thread isn't about messages - it's about barely getting any views and being ignored by average sized women. Thin ones are ignoring me and I can handle that. It's being ignored by the average sized women that is frustrating.




Maybe thin girls don't want to be with someone who chows down on deep dish Chicago pizza and hot dogs while she eats healthier?


It's not like I eat that way every night. I've lived in this state for over 20 years and have yet to find a pizza worthy of competing with what I had earlier in life. I eat healthy all the time but will not deny myself culinary pleasure on occasion.




Vague professions apparently are a turnoff. They assume the worst: unemployed, criminal, on disability, etc.


Do you know how many women say "I work" for that item? Why can't I do the same as them? And from what I've heard at POF functions over the years plenty of men post it too. Maybe I should just change it to "Ask me".
 winfieldbrian
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Posted: 9/20/2018 5:56:42 PM
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I would ditch the trump thing. stating 'liberal' is enough. not bashing your views (can do that in off topic) but your choice of words screams extremist. if that is truly a major concern, put snowflakes only. any profile containing trump haters only or trump supporters only would be bypassed by me. it isn't the left/right thing, it is that you exclude because of it. again, if this is a big part of your life, certainly worth mentioning but if it is just a small part, leave it out.


Remember: this thread is about hing my profile ignored by a significant minority of female members her. They never see my "extremist" (as you call it) views on politics. However, any women who supports Trump, a male who has cheated on all 3 of his wives, who is a serial adulterer, who has sex with porn stars and then pays them hush money, who has been accused of sexual assault by almost 20 women (so far), is not the kind of woman I want in my life. As my father said, "Son, life's too short to spend it with stupid people".
 winfieldbrian
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Posted: 9/20/2018 6:05:51 PM
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Many women your age (58) are likely seeking men whose children are already grown. Yours are under 18.


I don't know where you came up with this, but I just looked at my profile and nowhere on it does it state my children are under 18. They have been out of college for several years now.




Even though you claim to want a relationship, your profile intent says you aren't looking for anything serious.


I've gone into too many relationships trying to get into a serious one, only to be burned by the women who claim they wanted a serius relationship but later admitted that they "weren;t ready for a serious relationship right now". Because of that I've decided to protect my emotions right off the bat, and will go slowly until discussions lead towards seriousness and exclusiveness.
 winfieldbrian
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Posted: 9/20/2018 6:07:09 PM
ksuser:

I looked at your profile, and I would never want to meet you either.
 Ladyinred0407
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Posted: 9/20/2018 7:30:36 PM
whiterose0 says:



Many women your age (58) are likely seeking men whose children are already grown. Yours are under 18.




I don't know where you came up with this, but I just looked at my profile and nowhere on it does it state my children are under 18. They have been out of college for several years now.


Here's the simple answer to your dilemma brian
From the profile of winfieldbrian
Do you have children?
Yes


From my profile
Do you have children?
All my kids are over 18


Read the above very carefully...……………...take note...………..I used the option, "All my kids are over 18". Easy peasey. You're welcome
 Forums_only
Joined: 7/20/2014
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Posted: 9/20/2018 9:48:45 PM
So if you didn't want to hear any of the answers you got here, why did you ask? In all seriousness, why? Arguing back solves nothing and the "I-know-you-are-but-what-am-I" attitude is beyond embarassing.

I have decided to recant my original suggestions and believe you should not make any changes to your profile in any way. It just wouldn't be fair.
 mahwahgirl339114
Joined: 10/31/2017
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Posted: 9/21/2018 6:19:29 AM
OP, about Trump... does it ever occur to you that not everyone believes/pays attention to the above bs, and more importantly that a lot of people are more concerned with how he does his job? My town has 400 new jobs coming soon. It's more important to us than a porn star's sex life. I am job searching now and I've never seen the market this good since 15 years ago. Oh now they made a new movie smearing him... enjoy watching. Maybe you want to re-read Mark Twain's story about how he ran for governor of New York, and how that worked out. :)

Yeah... :( I only respond to profiles that make no mention of politics.
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