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 captainkitty1
Joined: 6/7/2016
Msg: 1
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I posted pictures on here that show my life, I wasn't looking for unwanted attention, but am wondering if I would be better off with just my main picture as its the only one I have where I'm not wearing a hat or sunglasses, in a bikini or holding a pet.
 mahwahgirl339114
Joined: 10/31/2017
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Should i delete most of my pics?
Posted: 9/24/2018 9:34:01 AM
sorry what's your question? what do you mean by unwanted attention?
 captainkitty1
Joined: 6/7/2016
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Should i delete most of my pics?
Posted: 9/24/2018 9:42:35 AM
My question is based on that 99 percent of the messages I get are solely based on my pictures, which were simply posted to show my actual life. So would I be better off just posting my head shot and men would actually read my profile
 captainkitty1
Joined: 6/7/2016
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Should i delete most of my pics?
Posted: 9/24/2018 9:43:52 AM
Unwanted attention simply means generic messages complementing my appearance
 whiterose0
Joined: 2/3/2009
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Posted: 9/24/2018 9:43:53 AM
No, I think you should keep all your pictures, including the ones with your dogs. You're in great shape, and the bikini pics are totally appropriate, since you're on the beach.
 captainkitty1
Joined: 6/7/2016
Msg: 6
Should i delete most of my pics?
Posted: 9/24/2018 10:15:59 AM
Thank you white rose... The pictures show my life. If I lived in Colorado and snow skied for fun, I suspect my pictures would be quite different :)
 ontheotherhand
Joined: 6/24/2018
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Posted: 9/24/2018 10:22:38 AM
Even if you wore a turtleneck men would be complementing you on your appearance. It's an easy opening and because they get a lot of rejection most men have given up on carefully thought out first messages. If anyone gets your attention read their profile then you decide if you want to answer.
 siisaa
Joined: 8/6/2017
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Posted: 9/24/2018 10:22:54 AM
Honestly I don't think it'll make much of a difference. Most guys treat these sites as children's books with the big colorful pretty pictures and very little text. Only respond to guys if it shows that they have actually read your profile and are not just complimenting your appearance.

If a man is messaging a woman, it's pretty much a guarantee he finds her physically attractive on some level. There is no use in commenting on her looks.
 captainkitty1
Joined: 6/7/2016
Msg: 9
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Posted: 9/24/2018 10:32:48 AM
I once temporily changed my profile to say I am a serial gold digger and boil bunnies for fun... I still got the same amount of messages...can men actually take a look at this and see why women think men aren't too bright ?
 cooldog65
Joined: 6/27/2011
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Posted: 9/24/2018 11:00:39 AM
I took a peek at the pics. No big deal. No need to delete anything.
 mahwahgirl339114
Joined: 10/31/2017
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Posted: 9/24/2018 11:02:44 AM
I get compliments too with only one headshot picture... No complaints, let's enjoy it while it lasts!
 captainkitty1
Joined: 6/7/2016
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Posted: 9/24/2018 11:06:30 AM
I'm not here for attention. I would actually like to find a compatible man to spend time with...
 johnfromzelie
Joined: 3/8/2018
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Posted: 9/24/2018 11:16:49 AM

they get a lot of rejection most men have given up on carefully thought out first messages.
as the majority of mine are never read, I keep my first message brief.
 captainkitty1
Joined: 6/7/2016
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Posted: 9/24/2018 11:24:12 AM
Its apparently too much to ask to look at some one's profile, where they live, their age , their lifestyle and interest and respond appropriately...
 captainkitty1
Joined: 6/7/2016
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Posted: 9/24/2018 11:30:13 AM
Given my weight/ height appropriate body description...I'm going to give up on this site and go buy a giant bag of potato chips and binge watch some tv :)
 johnfromzelie
Joined: 3/8/2018
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Posted: 9/24/2018 11:36:12 AM
well that's just common sense. a quick read tells me if we live similar lives or are even compatible at all. a looked at yours and would not of messaged you as we live very different lives. had I lived in your area, had a boat and spent my free time on the boat or at the beach, my brief message would of been introducing myself and telling you where I docked or what beach I hang out on. 2 sentences tops.
 cooldog65
Joined: 6/27/2011
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Posted: 9/24/2018 11:36:36 AM

Its apparently too much to ask to look at some one's profile, where they live, their age , their lifestyle and interest and respond appropriately...


What was your point in making this statement? You asked about your pictures. I read your profile. You have basic interests that are much different than mine. Nothing special...no big deal.



Given my weight/ height appropriate body description...I'm going to give up on this site and go buy a giant bag of potato chips and binge watch some tv :)


Somebody's fishing for compliments/attention...sheesh.
 mahwahgirl339114
Joined: 10/31/2017
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Posted: 9/24/2018 11:57:30 AM
^^^That was my first thought when I saw this thread...
 spot4username
Joined: 12/15/2015
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Posted: 9/24/2018 12:07:10 PM
^^^
Right? And she wasn't even subtle.

I already did the bikini photo + the HORRIBLE profile experiment. It was hilarious and more than a little sobering.
 captainkitty1
Joined: 6/7/2016
Msg: 20
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Posted: 9/24/2018 12:20:44 PM
I've actually enjoyed being able to vent my frustrations on here, offer advice to others, share a little humor, take a peak into others lives..its been quite enjoyable
 captainkitty1
Joined: 6/7/2016
Msg: 21
Should i delete most of my pics?
Posted: 9/24/2018 12:30:09 PM
I'm new to the forums, so I appreciate the replies..just an average person looking to connect with others while taking a break from the redicuolous dating site :)
 flowersinthelake
Joined: 5/11/2018
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Don't delete any of them.
Posted: 9/24/2018 12:40:08 PM
No way! You're doing what you love and what you enjoy. If anything, you're doing everything right and that's not just what you have included as your photos.
 johnfromzelie
Joined: 3/8/2018
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Posted: 9/24/2018 12:41:41 PM

I've actually enjoyed being able to vent my frustrations on here, offer advice to others, share a little humor, take a peak into others lives..its been quite enjoyable
same experience here. we can sometimes clearly see what others could or should do but miss it in our own lives. that, and several other opinions lay out options, better or worse.
 captainkitty1
Joined: 6/7/2016
Msg: 24
Should i delete most of my pics?
Posted: 9/24/2018 12:51:45 PM
Like I said, I joined the forums for some thing different and to talk to others. If I were only looking for attention I would reply to the messages to my profile saying "hey sexy"
 captainkitty1
Joined: 6/7/2016
Msg: 25
Should i delete most of my pics?
Posted: 9/24/2018 1:02:57 PM
As much as I would like to chat with others, I don't think its worth being scrutinized by strangers who are clearly more skilled at making feeling feel unwelcome on forums like this...I suppose some need to feel like a big fish in a small pond :)
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