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 Aggers
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I was reading on the relationship thread and came about this quote from someone.


If someone is not popular with the opposite sex in real life, how does meeting someone through a dating site magically all of a sudden make them a hot ticket?


This sentence hit-home a little bit as I believe there are a lot of people on here that do subscribe to this theory. I can certainly relate to it, as I feel this way sometimes. Let me explain, I am on this dating site and I am available. I only want one partner and I want them to be the best "one" ever, absolutely stunning looking, ambitious and intelligent. Then I realise I might not have the attributes that would necessarily attract this type of person, as I am not the "Hot-Ticket" I think I am? Hence the reasoning that I have that OLD does not have the type of person I seek.

Now I know it was debated mostly by our American cousins but Spectralight had contributed and with his usual common sense approach! But don't you think that it is quite a strong quote and is certainly a warning to all the "ego's" in OLD.
 UKBunny
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Posted: 12/10/2018 7:29:59 AM
........... valid point, but, seriously what drop-dead (& intelligent) bird
needs to be on a 'free' dating site?
Time for a reality check perhaps?

 woz1968
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Posted: 12/10/2018 12:09:13 PM
Someone "drop dead" gorgeous needs to be on a dating site just like anyone else, that's assuming they want to date and meet potential mates.
Just because they may be attractive doesn't mean they'll be walking around with a cupid on their shoulder and a request for a date or phone number everytime they're queueing in the post office or waiting for a bus.


If someone is not popular with the opposite sex in real life, how does meeting someone through a dating site magically all of a sudden make them a hot ticket?


This is such a generalisation it's impossible to quantify. Someone may class themselves as unpopular with the opp sex based purely on lack of opportunity, which OLD (i like that aggers) will easily rectify. Then again someone who suffers from shyness may be able to pen a fantastic dating profile and could be very popular online but will struggle to get it over the line when given the opportunity to sit in front of a potential partner.
 Clear_River
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Posted: 12/10/2018 12:40:27 PM
I get my fair share of interest in the 'real world,' but not necessarily the sort of interest that I would like. Dating sites just casts the net that little bit further and gives me a few more options and enables me to meet people who I wouldn't necessarily meet in every day life.
 Aggers
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Posted: 12/10/2018 3:37:08 PM

........... valid point, but, seriously what drop-dead (& intelligent) bird
needs to be on a 'free' dating site?
Time for a reality check perhaps?


Bunny, I can agree that Drop dead and (intelligent) gorgeous, might not need to be on a free dating site! I think Woz though, eloquently covered some reasons in his post.

However, you cannot really tell a person with 6-8 pictures and a few paragraphs. Indeed, I myself, about 4 years ago, was confused about my lack of success on here, so I went on the review side. Christ why DID I BOTHER? I got slaughtered by our North American brethren for being too boastful (there was one guy from the UK that will get a big fist in the nose, if I ever meet him) and seriously my profile was "true" to what I am IRL at that time. My confidence was rattled, I can tell you. But who is to know what the real circumstances are, after all it is only a dating site.

I find now rather than tell through my profile what I truly am, I have to give a subdued version of what I am, to match in with the OLD status quo! TBH, that version of me will never attract what I really want, because I am unable to get across what I am, for fear of being chastised by others. If only they knew the real circumstances of where I am in life. But then again, If I was the sort of person that people would like to fall in love with (obviously I am not) I maybe would not be single? Hence I have decided that I will be the one doing the choosing and let them get the benefit of my lifestyle! Arrogant, yes. But they are probably missing out in my opinion? If only they knew what I have to offer!

I cannot believe I have finally said it after all these years. I cannot go into detail as I like to keep certain things private! The only thing truly missing in my life is a partner!
 Justanotherchap
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Posted: 12/11/2018 2:35:02 AM
Hope that's not me getting the fist! That's the dangers of course of a profile review.

I know a couple of drop dead gorgeous females in their late 40s. Definite head turners. But there the interest stops. Not just because we have ero in common but because they are both after drop dead gorgeous blokes with money and I can't tick any of those boxes. (that's the problem with serious lookers btw).

But I agree with the above - Pof is just one tool in your box.
 woz1968
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Posted: 12/11/2018 4:03:41 AM
But chap how do you know this? Have you spoken to them? We seem to be making a lot of assumptions about good looking women.

I’ve realised that my previous post was a little naive, obviously very attractive women get hit on in the real world but I doubt if there is a single (and looking) woman anywhere in the world with internet access who isn’t on a dating website, it is practically online shopping after all.
 Spectrallight
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Posted: 12/11/2018 8:30:19 AM

I’ve realised that my previous post was a little naive, obviously very attractive women get hit on in the real world but I doubt if there is a single (and looking) woman anywhere in the world with internet access who isn’t on a dating website, it is practically online shopping after all.


Men are scared of talking to attractive women so a lot get ignored then their friends can't fathom why thier very pretty friend is single and it's all because a lot of men don't have a set between their legs. Faint heart never won fair lady.

I know a few decent looking women and one springs to mind. She said "You will never see me using online dating because I don't need it to get laid or get a guy and any woman that has to use it has issues.you know what issues I have so I couldn't imagine what their issues are like". Not what you want to hear.
 Wrightbus71
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Posted: 12/11/2018 8:54:54 AM
I`m totally with Aggers on this one....
 RoxyMoronic
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Posted: 12/11/2018 9:17:18 AM
—-stands up—-
I’m Roxy and while I want to be in a ‘relationship’ (of sorts) I don’t want to house or finance share.
There I said it.....true to myself.
It’s tricky but not impossible. I’ll admit I’m more successful ‘offline’. I have a charm that surpasses my looks :)

You guys talking about womens issues need to consider your own.
Attractive?
Are you stud muffins still drooling over blondes with big tits?

 Spectrallight
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Posted: 12/11/2018 9:35:17 AM

Are you guys still drooling over blondes with big tits?


Not done that since reading the sport in the 80's :)

They're a set of tits nothing special.
 woz1968
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Posted: 12/11/2018 9:37:23 AM
You know full well I’m a brunette love



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Since 2 of the last 10 posts are yours you can not post to this thread.
 woz1968
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Posted: 12/11/2018 9:37:49 AM
You know full well I’m a brunette lover



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 Spectrallight
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Posted: 12/11/2018 9:40:13 AM
Brunette buxom 5 ft 3 n a bit size 12/14 plox ;)

But not got a specific type as such. Why limit yourself.

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 Chastirin
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Posted: 12/11/2018 2:51:47 PM

I know a few decent looking women and one springs to mind. She said "You will never see me using online dating because I don't need it to get laid or get a guy and any woman that has to use it has issues.you know what issues I have so I couldn't imagine what their issues are like". Not what you want to hear.


That's that then. I'd better start increasing my cat collection
 Justanotherchap
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Posted: 12/12/2018 12:58:36 AM
Woz - yes I know them. Even spent a weekend with one of them (and 12 other friends). Err, well, that doesn't sound right - I hired a hotel for the weekend with 13 bedrooms etc. The blokes (not me of course) were lining up to outdo each other, demonstrating their dance moves, would told the best jokes, could run up the hill etc. Highly amusing watching grown men behaving badly :-)
 RoxyMoronic
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Posted: 12/12/2018 10:07:41 AM

You know full well I’m a brunette lover

Good man :)


They’re a set of tits nothing special

woah.....a bit far

Chap, I’ve seen women friends act in very similar ways.
 Spectrallight
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Posted: 12/12/2018 4:19:41 PM

woah.....a bit far


Not really.

In the past I have made custom website modifications for a guy that used to be affiliated alongside a well known porn brand hence not that big of a deal. Paid well though.
 Justanotherchap
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Posted: 12/14/2018 1:57:11 AM
Indeed Roxy. We're very similar in that respect, could you send a few of them my way, I need an ego boost.
 RoxyMoronic
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Posted: 12/16/2018 9:42:59 AM
Irina not doing it for you chap :)


I can’t work out how:

If I was the sort of person that people would like to fall in love with I maybe would not be single?


Leads to:

Hence I have decided that I will be the one doing the choosing and let them get the benefit of my lifestyle!
 Aggers
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Posted: 12/20/2018 5:56:22 PM

I can’t work out how:

If I was the sort of person that people would like to fall in love with I maybe would not be single?


Leads to:

Hence I have decided that I will be the one doing the choosing and let them get the benefit of my lifestyle!


You see! I can identify the Good in everyone I come across, but for some reason that is never reciprocated? I can see light at the end of every tunnel and can never understand why everyone else is so dismissive? I am a very successful businessman, a good father and well liked, but cannot understand why I cannot find "her?"

Well actually I can! It has got to this point. My age, 52, is now against me, from 49 to 52 is aeons in OLD. I am bald and wear glasses (everyone knows there is an unwritten law that you can't be attractive with this criteria) I am very confident in my abilities. Most women don't like the thought they will lose the upper hand, especially when they are over a certain age, sorry it is true!!!! We then are at an impassé and the cognitive battle of the sexes begins. I get this impression just reading the profiles telling me they don't want this/that etc, I am very fortunate to spend Internet space with them? they will never reply to any messages from good people, from good stock (boring Aggers, the age old debate!) Which ultimately leads to women holding the upper hand in OLD. Leaving good men bored, uninterested and sad.

It is really dead - Online Dating R.I.P.
 Justanotherchap
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Posted: 12/21/2018 3:15:14 AM
My friend is 75. he's found a woman and they're very, very happy. That was through meeting up in real life through the meetup group I organise.

I was talking to another member last Friday who'd finally got out of her marriage with a controlling man a couple of years back and managed to get straight into another relationship with a controlling man. She was asking me why she attracted such men. I don't know the answer although there does seem to be a type that people do go for. It is particularly confusing as this woman is a well respected professional in the psychology field, is very much a go getter in her personal life, loves challenges and is now off hiking up jungle mountains to do some wildlife photography for a month or so.
 Chastirin
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Posted: 12/21/2018 10:50:41 AM


I was talking to another member last Friday who'd finally got out of her marriage with a controlling man a couple of years back and managed to get straight into another relationship with a controlling man. She was asking me why she attracted such men. I don't know the answer although there does seem to be a type that people do go for. It is particularly confusing as this woman is a well respected professional in the psychology field, is very much a go getter in her personal life, loves challenges and is now off hiking up jungle mountains to do some wildlife photography for a month or so.


Her picker is broken. https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/the-blog/ is a great website if she wants to explore fixing it.
 woz1968
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Posted: 12/21/2018 2:40:54 PM
Aggers POF has been overtaken by dating apps nowadays, I’d recommend Tinder and Bumble if you’re not already on them?
 LiverpoolFriendsMore
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Posted: 12/21/2018 3:26:53 PM

... valid point, but, seriously what drop-dead (& intelligent) bird needs to be on a 'free' dating site? Time for a reality check perhaps?

I'm not stupid but most definitely not in the category drop-dead-gorgeous either.

Anyhow, I use a free dating site because I want to widen my search. But not only, on here I can make it clear that I do not want a relationship and that I am only here because I have an itch to scratch, if so to say. Conversely the guy is sinlge, or at lest knows he is available. On a night, and attempting to pull, I could be wasting my time chatting up someone who is not avilable in the way I want him to be at the end of the night.

If I were after a relationship I would use eharmony or, more likely, The Guardian Soulmate. Hence, I would be paying.
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