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 UOnlyliveOnce_86
Joined: 7/16/2018
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In all honesty I am annoyed with myself.
1. Met a guy
2. Got intimate
3. Texting/calling regularly
4. And I screw it up. I confessed I had feelings for him and
mentioned a few other confessions. Felt like I had to be
honest.
5. Now his very quiet. But he wants to talk real soon as in the
Next 24 hours
I really don't want to lose him as a friend, lover, whatever we are.
Any advice peeps?
 Spectrallight
Joined: 9/14/2018
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Posted: 12/30/2018 8:24:24 AM

But he wants to talk real soon as in the Next 24 hours


All I can say is make sure this is a talk in person and in no other shape or form. No text, no phone call. Eye to eye. That's my advice.

You have already said what you have to say. It is, what it is. Never tell someone something that's important over text and I'm gathering that's what happened?
 LeFouGamboj
Joined: 11/17/2018
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Posted: 12/30/2018 11:26:19 AM
At OP

seems like you got a bit ahead of the relationship
telling him stuff, he was not ready (or didn't want) to hear
sometimes you got to hold back until he is on the same level

If he does call, you have a chance to clear it up.......tell him you didn't mean any of it, and you were just fantasizing, and like to keep things the way they were...........but he might not believe it, and you have to be ready for him to break it off.
 UOnlyliveOnce_86
Joined: 7/16/2018
Msg: 4
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Posted: 12/30/2018 12:48:31 PM
Unfortunately yes I over stepped the mark. But you only live once.

I tend to wear my heart on my sleeve. (Just ask the kids I raised while still a child myself) I am not scared to take that next leap into an exciting new chapter in my life and I don't feel bad about it either, lifes short. Always have been strong willed and called a spade a spade. Just so frustrated. Sorry feel a rant coming on.
 PennyAnte
Joined: 4/17/2016
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Posted: 1/1/2019 10:13:49 AM
Don't lie to the man. Tell him that IS how you feel and let the chips fall where they may. I don't think you should re-invent yourself for a man. Be true to yourself. Why betray your own feelings?
 whiterose0
Joined: 2/3/2009
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Posted: 1/3/2019 10:44:32 AM
OP, do you have any updates for us?

If this guy was scared off by your intensity, he probably wasn't right for you, anyway.
 hemingway234
Joined: 6/6/2015
Msg: 7
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Posted: 1/16/2019 8:50:43 AM
It's really sad that expressing feelings can scare a person away.

Sometimes playing hard to get and not wearing your heart on your sleeve works best. Sometimes they will only love you fully when they know that you can leave them.
 UOnlyliveOnce_86
Joined: 7/16/2018
Msg: 8
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Posted: 1/16/2019 4:01:45 PM
Update: all is well. 2019 started with many surprises. :p
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