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 AlmostContented
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50+ 5 years past divorce, 10 years since I've touched a women. Towards end of sexual part of marriage started to have some ED Cialis did a good job, wife's affair put that fire out quick after that.

I've had a couple dates with a women and we are starting to hit it off (nothing intimate yet). However, I can't shake the worry that I won't be able to get it up.

Part of me says just see where it goes, and deal when/if it gets to that point. The other part of me says find a massage parlor or prostitute (never been to one) to make sure I can perform.

I think I have a lot to offer someone in a relationship, however if I can't get it up I am thinking what's the point.
 johnfromzelie
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Dating after 10 years (50+) worried about ED
Posted: 1/13/2019 8:24:11 AM
in the 10 years, have you needed to deal with things on your own? does it work then?
 AlmostContented
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Posted: 1/13/2019 8:27:57 AM
Yes, I san pull that off on a regular basis without cialis, just nowhere near "rock hard". I am in good shape, fit, do decent cardio work 5+ days a week. Testosterone seems ok.
 suszka
Joined: 11/6/2018
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Dating after 10 years (50+) worried about ED
Posted: 1/13/2019 9:23:47 AM
I know someone with the same worries. alot of you troubles stem about how your feel with the person you are with and your confidence. Boost your confidence and if you are really into that other person. Everything should work well.

Hope that this has helped
 hemingway234
Joined: 6/6/2015
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Dating after 10 years (50+) worried about ED
Posted: 1/16/2019 8:06:49 AM
So go ahead and use the Cialis or Viagra. That's what it's for.
Dating after 10 years (50+) worried about ED
Posted: 1/16/2019 11:11:12 AM
1) give you credit for sticking it out there (pun intended)

2)good news/bad news is, a bunch of this is in your head (the big one). that's not a put down, that's saying where the solution may lie. i dated women i wasn't attracted to, and made things in bed work with orally or digitally stimulating them. also, they may have been attracted not to my body, but my brains or personality, and so their stimulation wasn't all physical. the thing is, at this age, how we do things has to change. we have to adapt. if you can tell yourself, "it doesn't matter that one part of the entire relationship doesn't work, the rest is on solid ground", then you may be able to handle the old soldier not reporting for duty. hopefully you're dating a woman of similar age who can be understanding of such things. if you have a lot to offer, than that is the point of the whole thing. a woman who's only looking for a stud in bed will disagree, but a woman looking for a partner, hopefully realizes a relationship isn't going to be like two teens in the backseat of dad's car. be a companion, be caring, add to her life don't subtract from it...who knows, she may have her own issues. she may not ask you to spend the night b/c she has own "my body failed me" concerns.

3) finding a pro to practice on, only shows you a pro knows what they are doing.
 pfif
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Dating after 10 years (50+) worried about ED
Posted: 1/16/2019 2:09:33 PM
See a doctor.

Also: get tested for HIV at a public health place, and ask
them about this during the intake.

It's anonymous.

This way you get your street creds which you can report
to the woman (when asked; don't volunteer) plus you get
access to someone (public health worker) who is very (very)
used to open discussion (they're problem solvers; you will
probably come away from the visit with new information).

Some of the things the public health worker said made
me blush. It was pretty funny. They're good at this.

In any circumstance, a sex professional is not an option.
Just .. cross that off your list right now (says I).
 LeFouGamboj
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Dating after 10 years (50+) worried about ED
Posted: 1/17/2019 8:08:09 AM

Yes, I san pull that off on a regular basis without cialis, just nowhere near "rock hard"


don't beat-off too much........at age 50+, you need to go for longer periods.....otherwise you won't have any left in the tank for the "big" moment.
 MsMicki
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Posted: 1/23/2019 7:05:08 AM
1) What does "testosterone seems ok" mean?
Have you actually had it checked or are you guessing?

2) Have you had your prostate checked?

3) Honesty....honesty...honesty!!
If you get to the point that intimacy is the next step....have a conversation with your girlfriend.
Women have a bad habit of taking a man's erection personally....so explain to her that you do have difficulty in that department and it in no way reflects your desire for her.

at our age.....we should be understanding of each other's physical limits in the bedroom....
a woman that isn't empathetic about the situation....isn't the woman for you.
 gavs321
Joined: 1/15/2019
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Dating after 10 years (50+) worried about ED
Posted: 1/26/2019 10:13:53 AM
Please consider going to an "Endocrinologist" and request to be put on "Clomid".

Clomid is traditionally used for "infertility" and what it does it raises your testosterone.

Doctors are scummy and want to give "quick fixes" - Viagra / Cialis or put you on "TRT" which means "give me a 25 dollar co-payment once a week for your shot".

Clomid works works works works. And not enough men know about it.
 am70sguy
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Dating after 10 years (50+) worried about ED
Posted: 1/28/2019 2:13:58 AM
Yes, but to high of a testosterone level is not good either.
 Strawberry_Jello
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Dating after 10 years (50+) worried about ED
Posted: 2/5/2019 11:46:21 PM
Don't say you have a problem. Tell the woman it's been 10 years, and you're not sure how things will go. She will probably be relieved to hear you aren't going to be pounding her.
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