I once sent a gift to a woman, and some guy the woman was talking to for a while got pissed at her for getting the gift and broke up with her.
I have always believed that showing gifts received is silly. You'd think the site would refrain from showing gifts because people might send fewer messages (therefore less potential revenue for the site) to someone who has received them.
The only practical power of gifts I've noticed is the ability to communicate with someone outside the 14 year age limit. Apparently you can send a gift to someone with a larger age difference and add a written message. Once a nice mature lady on the forums sent me a gift along with a nice message. She complimented me on a post I had made in the forums. She was 25+ years older.
As to tokens, I now have a better idea what you're able to do with them thanks to a lame automated message from "Markus". He sent two messages about a sale on tokens, touting them for 3 things you can do with them: 1) have your email show at the top of the recipient's inbox (I see a problem: what if multiple people use a token for that purpose!) Already forgot the other two, and I already deleted the messages from Markus. Am sure everybody got that email and can see the other two unless they deleted the message. I do remember both of the others being useless for someone in your situation of seeing someone and not looking. They're only for trying to make contact with someone new.
My inbox still has a "1" though I read everything. This site has more bugs than a rotting stump.