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 magleep
Joined: 8/23/2018
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please review. I tend to get guys who don"t even seem to bother reading my profile or go ghost after a few words. i just want a man who would be willing to talk and slowly progress a friendship to possibly build a relationship. someone with morals and values. maybe pof isn't the best option?
 feirene
Joined: 1/3/2017
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Posted: 2/16/2019 11:39:20 AM
Probably not. My partner i'm with now was on here but we never found each other here but on another site. We'd even signed up to the same POF event but never got to it because we were chatting to each other on the site we did meet, lol.

I'd try and look for more niche sites with specialised interests (that you enjoy) that the douchebags don't bother signing up to, there should be a few free ones suitable. Basically anyone can sign up to here and not read your profileor care what you're into.
 olglez
Joined: 1/26/2019
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Posted: 2/17/2019 12:48:27 AM
Your intent is listed as "wants to date but nothing serious". I'd suggest changing that to "actively seeking a relationship" or "wants to get married". It can help to filter out those who aren't serious.

Also, you can change your inbox settings. Making sure you're only contacted by certain users and even ensuring there's a minimum character count in the opening message.

Can you review my profile please?
 feirene
Joined: 1/3/2017
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Posted: 2/17/2019 8:13:21 AM
No idea what women of your age want olglez buti like your profile and think it has a good variety of pics and plenty of information.
 olglez
Joined: 1/26/2019
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Posted: 2/23/2019 12:01:05 AM
Thank you. I suppose it's the long hair. It's like marmite to girls. Some go crazy for it, others detest it.
OP sorry for making this post about me! I hope the feedback you've got is useful in anyway. Have you had any luck or are the problems you're experiencing still similar?
 feirene
Joined: 1/3/2017
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Posted: 2/23/2019 6:54:10 AM
Could be the hair, most women i know like long hair but aren't against bald either. Dunno if there's metal dating sites or something out there?
I didn't really find anyone on here my type so joined some more specialist ones, found my now partner on one of those.
 Spectrallight
Joined: 9/14/2018
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Posted: 2/23/2019 2:22:09 PM

please review. I tend to get guys who don"t even seem to bother reading my profile or go ghost after a few words. i just want a man who would be willing to talk and slowly progress a friendship to possibly build a relationship. someone with morals and values. maybe pof isn't the best option?


Have you considered messaging guys that have viewed you, but haven't resorted to hey wanna sick my duck etc. Some blokes are shy so if you like one of their profiles. Give it a whirl if they really float your boat :)

Maybe , a bit to many I/I'm in the profile. You could try make it flow a bit better and lessen the frequency..

It could come down to one thing though. The main deal breaker, hence, off they go.
 MeramecRiverRat
Joined: 10/12/2017
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Posted: 2/27/2019 4:23:29 AM
Most of your messages are from people who didn't read your profile because those who do read find something incompatible / something they don't like and they move on without messaging you. For example, I hit the back button whenever they say "God" (it's good you express the religion / belief as a requirement so you weed out non believers).

You're married. Separated is married. Most decent men don't want anything to do with married women. I sure wouldn't want to waste my money on a date with a "separated" woman: she'll take a doggy bag back to share with her husband and never see me again. You say you want a Christian. If he's in the less than 1% of Christians who follow the 10 commandments, he will obey "thou shalt not covet thy neighbor's wife". Other sites cater to poly married people: there are many openly married people on Tinder, and there's that specialized site for married people that got hacked a few years ago.

In the past, people here have suggested writing when you expect the divorce to be finalized: month and year.

One bad consequence is some separated people change their status to single, lying (a woman on "Ask a Guy" recently did this when posters told her she wasn't getting messages because of the separated status). Much better to be honest and get zero attention than to lie and get some initial interest from people who will be furious when they find out the truth.

As already said, men with morals and values will avoid someone who puts "date but nothing serious".

Best to have at least one photo that goes all the way down to your feet so people get a better idea of your shape. Otherwise people might assume the worst about the "few extra pounds".

The headline is terrible: "." Those of us who do searches, headline is one of the main first impressions. A period is something to avoid in a woman's profile for obvious reasons.
 flyover_boy
Joined: 12/28/2016
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Posted: 3/5/2019 8:55:57 AM
There are a couple of turn offs from the profile.

- Where’s ‘L, Texas’ ? Give the city, please.

- Lots of pictures, none full body...get some.

- You have a child but want no more, while looking for men in this age bracket. Humm. How about if HE has kids...deal breaker ?

- Your religiosity. May turn off some, it doesn’t me. However, the somewhat lecturing like tone I feel from your profile, does ring a certain hypocrisy.

- You’re not divorced yet.


This is not directed against you personally. But, I see profiles with elements like this all the time. The short speak it gives me is...’Life was too fast, too soon, need to hit the reset button and start again.’ Sure, second chances, third and forth...agreed. But, you can’t ‘undo’ in life. As the late radio psychologist Dr. Toni Grant said, ‘...Life is not a dress rehearsal, it’s opening night.’

Not specific to you...because you're actually a bit young, but I see some of this from postings here and on profiles. What is sometimes called a 'slow burn.' Phrased as 'friends first.' While I certainly don't see anything wrong with it, but this is a dating site, not a 'friends' one. There's also an age differential and life conditions. It's one thing to be 30, never married and no kids, contrasted with being divorced with a teen child (or several children). To ask, in the 'dating market' to the effect '...let's go out for a few months, see where this goes, before we explore any adult connections...' That's in investment of time in you, that most won't be interested in. Further, it is a reasonable presumption you know your life and yourself well enough to what you want and the kind of person you want to spend time with. Again, contrasted with a...say 27 year old, 'never married/no kids' who just broke up with her college boyfriend. She wants to go a little slower, not sure about things in life. She has less experience...understandable.

No, I think there is a case to say on line dating, as it were, may not be for you, given your expectations and approach. You might do well meeting more organically, i.e. through church functions, social events, MeetUp groups and so on. You meet people, w/o the pressure of '...is this dating...’ and things might develop into just that.


Good luck !
 worthatry54
Joined: 3/2/2019
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Posted: 3/6/2019 1:50:41 AM
Blimey - no wonder you are not having much luck on pof, as the minute I see some religious overtones I am off.
There are Christian dating sites, so surely that would be a far better place to look ?
From what many women have told me in messages, many of the men here are not interested in religion, unless it is a dislike for one particular one (not Christianity, but begins with m), and the only messages I ever get which mention God are from foreign scammers, likewise I don't remember reading a profile which mentions God unless it's a scam.
You sound and look like a lovely lady, but I honestly feel that this is not the site for you, although I am British, and perhaps religious people over there in the states use this site, but not in my country.
Good luck, honestly, I hope you find what you want
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