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 40 Something
Joined: 8/21/2005
Msg: 3
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It takes two to tango.... Why does a woman have an affair with a married man? What intention or results does she intend to acheive by committing such an act?
 bucsgirl
Joined: 3/2/2005
Msg: 16
Why do men have affairs?
Posted: 9/11/2005 8:48:03 AM
The common thread that I've seen from articles I've read and a few that I've known is that they're not getting "attention" at home. Not always just sexual, but their spouse doesn't make time to be with then anymore, or doesn't seem to care to and they go outside the marriage mainly for attention, sure there's sex, but that's usually secondary. A mistress or lover is usually someone unattached or another spouse with the same problem and they lavish attention and time on the cheating spouse.
 who_the_fox
Joined: 4/29/2005
Msg: 20
Why do men have affairs?
Posted: 9/11/2005 9:09:18 AM
For pretty much the same kind of reasons women do.
 40 Something
Joined: 8/21/2005
Msg: 31
Why do men have affairs?
Posted: 9/11/2005 12:37:48 PM

Simple, men are genetically programmed to propagate the species


This is a scientific fact. Not making an excuse here but women "in heat" give off a "scent or vibe" to which males are genetically programed to respond.

After the first time you cheat with a woman, well ..... you can only get hung once for the same crime, right?
 carribeanking7
Joined: 4/10/2005
Msg: 50
Why do men have affairs?
Posted: 9/12/2005 1:14:49 AM
Simple...this goes for both genders..

By disrespecting your partner,yourself & your relationship...

And frankly I am tired of hearing it blamed on the lunar orbit,primal instincts, pheromones and the rising tide......
 Tick Tock
Joined: 2/27/2005
Msg: 52
Why do men have affairs?
Posted: 9/12/2005 3:57:44 AM

If you are going to **** around, why the hell get married in the first place...
Because we are socialized into accepting something that goes against the our deepest and darkest urges. Monogamy is something that has been in existence for very short period of time, relatively speaking. When cracks appear in the facade of what we've been told that we want, then we are prone to those urges we've tried to repress. Whether or not one decides to cheat is determined by how strong their convictions (or rather, what they've been programmed to think is right and wrong) really are.
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Joined: 4/15/2005
Msg: 54
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Why do men have affairs?
Posted: 9/12/2005 4:06:02 AM
Some people are just to spineless to call it off before they have a back up plan. Male or Female its the same schtick, insecurity.
 Tick Tock
Joined: 2/27/2005
Msg: 55
Why do men have affairs?
Posted: 9/12/2005 4:11:36 AM
^ Could be that they just couldn't understand their feelings until the right catalyst came along.

By the way, outstanding shots of tornadoes touching down!
 Tick Tock
Joined: 2/27/2005
Msg: 57
Why do men have affairs?
Posted: 9/12/2005 5:18:58 AM
^ There are just so many variables which lead to the path of infidelity - many of which seem contradictory in nature. The real question is would you forgive someone who strayed since, in all likelihood, this is what will happen in the majority of relationships?
 sammysalt
Joined: 9/7/2005
Msg: 61
Why do men have affairs?
Posted: 9/12/2005 7:25:57 AM
I think some people, do it so they can brag about it to there freinds. They aren't smart enough to see it makes them look like a real big loser. Most of them are big time liers to. Gee makes a person really want one. (NOT!!!!!!) Oh, I have never cheated in my life, and have no plans to do so. I have heard some men say that they see someone that they can't have, and its like they do everything to get that person to prove they can do it. Then they are proud of them selfs for being able to get it, they think they still got what it takes. Yea, they still got the old creep factor.
But people do it for different reasons. Not all people are the same.
 Tick Tock
Joined: 2/27/2005
Msg: 70
Why do men have affairs?
Posted: 9/12/2005 4:14:36 PM

Most men are ****ing dogs not all but most!


I would submit that REAL men no not have affairs... only older boys.


This kind of thinking is sheer stupidity. Since women cheat in roughly equal numbers, then you are painting them with the same brush, are you not? This is NOT a male thing but rather a matter of opportunity.
 Tick Tock
Joined: 2/27/2005
Msg: 72
Why do men have affairs?
Posted: 9/12/2005 7:23:50 PM
^ Nope. I think you missed my point. They are not older boys or silly girls, but people who during the trials and tribulations of relationships were given an opportunity to cheat while they were at a weak point. I pass no judgement on them as individuals since the real test of character is how they deal with it afterwards.
 Tick Tock
Joined: 2/27/2005
Msg: 74
Why do men have affairs?
Posted: 9/12/2005 7:34:29 PM

Can't imagine why
Sounds like making excuses

Nah. Just trying not to see the world in such absolutes.
 Tick Tock
Joined: 2/27/2005
Msg: 76
Why do men have affairs?
Posted: 9/12/2005 7:38:03 PM
^

because they are uncreative in the bedroom so
they have to learn more tricks to please their wives


Hmmm...with that kind of thinking then you women should encourage us to have more affairs.
 Double Cabin
Joined: 11/29/2004
Msg: 78
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Why do men have affairs?
Posted: 9/12/2005 7:59:58 PM
OP: Because polygamy is illegal one might guess.

Why do women? See, there you go sterotyping us again. Seriously, some of us are insatiable, some of us are fridgid, and in the end were all just different.

As to buying a porno mag, I'd appreciate a couple of good beers followed by a heapin' helpin' of wild, hot, mind blowing 3D seismic activity far more. But then again we've all got our choices, if only that were one of mine this first snow of the season this low.
 Tick Tock
Joined: 2/27/2005
Msg: 83
Why do men have affairs?
Posted: 9/13/2005 12:43:11 AM
^ Call me crazy if you will, but I get the feeling that you don't like bucsgirl.
 techgirl27
Joined: 9/5/2005
Msg: 91
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Posted: 9/13/2005 1:16:06 PM
Do you think an affair HAS to include sex? or does seeing someone and dating/spending time with them still count as that??
 pepy
Joined: 9/7/2005
Msg: 94
Why do men have affairs?
Posted: 9/13/2005 1:34:42 PM
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mmm................... Becuz they can!



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 kristi_21
Joined: 6/28/2005
Msg: 97
Why do men have affairs?
Posted: 9/13/2005 2:23:16 PM
they have these affaires cause its the tempation......and why some one would do it knowing the other person is married is simple if she or he aint married wats the problem if a men wants too cheat on his wife whos problem is that not mine not yours......!



if his married and dont know whats right or wrong than thats his beef,!



and men are pigs but again so are women


 kristi_21
Joined: 6/28/2005
Msg: 98
Why do men have affairs?
Posted: 9/13/2005 2:23:30 PM
they have these affaires cause its the tempation......and why some one would do it knowing the other person is married is simple if she or he aint married wats the problem if a men wants too cheat on his wife whos problem is that not mine not yours......!



if his married and dont know whats right or wrong than thats his beef,!



and men are pigs but again so are women


 YamIhere
Joined: 3/17/2005
Msg: 102
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Posted: 9/16/2005 7:15:37 PM
^^^That's frightening


OT: Easy solution here - stay single.
 lost wee fish
Joined: 6/5/2005
Msg: 109
Why do men have affairs?
Posted: 9/25/2005 4:54:25 PM
aaawwww Blast - such a cutie!


OT: Why do women have affairs?

both cause their insecure or cause they dont really care about who their with.
 kitcat822
Joined: 9/14/2005
Msg: 111
Why do men have affairs?
Posted: 9/25/2005 5:31:03 PM
HE NEEDS SOMEONE TO TELL HIM HE'S GOOD,IF WE'RE NOT GOING TO.....THEY CHEAT BECAUSE THEY THINK THE GRASS IS GREENER ON THE OTHER SIDE....WHAT THEY DON'T KNOW IS IT TAKES MORE WATER......
 who_the_fox
Joined: 4/29/2005
Msg: 114
Why do men have affairs?
Posted: 9/25/2005 10:12:25 PM
Bull

My needs weren't met physically or emotionally and I never cheated. Some of us believe in our vows completely.
 cutiebbwncali
Joined: 6/30/2005
Msg: 117
Why do men have affairs?
Posted: 9/26/2005 12:47:31 PM
I don't know the answer to that question... I'd sure like to know though.

I found out about this site because someone told me that my boyfriend was on here.

I was able to get into his account(he was stupid enough to sign into the site on my comp) - and read tons of emails to women. I also read an email that verified that he had slept with 1 woman on this site.

We tried working at it - then a week ago I found out that he was on here again... different name, said he was another age, different state.. all that... and found out again that he had slept with someone on this site.

He said that he didn't know why he did it - that he had so many screwed up relationships in the past that he just felt like he had to screw this one up... and finally, that he wasn't at the point in his life where he could be in a committed relationship. I was like, WHAT??? we've been together a year and three months... couldn't you have figured this out sooner and broken it off with me before you went around sleeping with other women.

It's him... but also, women don't care a lot of times. Both women said they thought he was single... as they should b/c that's what he told them.

Anyways... cheating just sucks!!! that's all I have to say!
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