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Joined: 4/29/2005
Msg: 7
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"Even worse, I dislike intelligent people who think that their knowledge is always "right" and yours is "wrong" and even when they find out that they are "wrong," wont admit to it. They try to get around it to avoid admitting to a mistake..."

Hmm, depends on your definition of "intelligence" then perhaps?

To me, TRULY 'intelligent' people would not be like this..

Intelligence generally IS attractive to me..

Do you prefer the dumb-as-a-bag-of-hammers people who can ALSO be very opinionated and never admit that they are wrong? (LOTS of those around too..)

"know-nothings" who nevertheless HAVE to have an "opinion" on everything they know nothing about..:)
Joined: 5/11/2005
Msg: 8
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Posted: 10/9/2005 5:58:07 AM
I will take it you define intelligence as:

someone who well aware of their surroundings
someone who has a clue what is going on in the world
someone who has general idea of how things work(electronically, socially, etc)

I would rate intelligence on a scale of 1 to 10 as being a 7 to 8 out of 10. I wouldn't someone who is a smart ass, meaning, they think they know it all, or someone who is clueless and that makes you wonder where were they for past 20 years.

At the same time, I would like someone who could challenge me a bit and be like, wow, I didn't know that or that is not how I thought it was like, etc.
Joined: 9/10/2005
Msg: 16
How Sexy Is Intelligence?
Posted: 10/9/2005 10:14:36 AM
I love women who are smart and confident and have a kinky side....the kinky side is sooooo hot when I know the woman is really really the attorney I.........well thats another thread!
Joined: 8/17/2005
Msg: 20
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Posted: 10/9/2005 11:50:14 AM
It's a 10 on my scale.

Fortunately for me.....they're all smarter than me anyway.

Joined: 11/11/2006
Msg: 27
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Posted: 10/9/2005 7:00:01 PM
intelligence is not only supremely sexy, it's an absolute requirement as far as I'm concerned.
I don't "do" dumb.
Joined: 2/3/2005
Msg: 31
How Sexy Is Intelligence?
Posted: 10/9/2005 8:52:14 PM
I need a woman who gives great MIND.....
Joined: 4/10/2005
Msg: 40
How Sexy Is Intelligence?
Posted: 10/9/2005 10:57:06 PM
Quote :On a scale of one to ten, how sexy is intelligence? Is it way up there on your list of turn-ons, or would you rather do a dumb-as-a-rock stud?

You mean,You've never met an intelligent stud ?
Joined: 4/15/2005
Msg: 43
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Posted: 10/10/2005 2:12:34 AM
Gosh I wish I had something really profound to say at this point...
Joined: 10/6/2005
Msg: 44
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Posted: 10/10/2005 6:22:13 AM
"intelligent" does not necessarily equate to "pedantic"..
Joined: 4/29/2005
Msg: 46
Political Correctness??
Posted: 10/10/2005 7:39:50 AM
For all the guys who seem to say "intelligent is sexy" ..

then WHY do so many guys (about, oh, 99.9%) love Paris Hilton & Jessica Simpson..?

Now, these ladies may actually BE quite intelligent..As they have certainly learned to milk media attention for money & fame..

But their "public persona" as MOST of us "know them" certainly doesn't reflect gargantuan IQ's...

Similarly for the ladies, many/most SAY they are all about intelligence, but I see how many get excited for Vin Diesel over Stephen Hawking.. (approaching 100%)

Vin may be smart, but he is not KNOWN for THAT! :)

I suspect that this is a "pitical correctness" thing..

the "right" thing to SAY is that you are attracted to intelligence & personality over all.. (words..)

BUT, watch most people's ACTIONS and they go ga-ga over dumb & hot!! :)

Many guys I know actually PREFER "dumb girls" because it makes THEM feel relatively 'smarter", they don't WANT a woman who knows more than they do..

Maybe the same applies to some women, they'd like to have a "dumb hunk" whom they can control & who would do their bidding, mindlessly.. ;)

(not me, of course..I love brains! ) :)
Joined: 4/29/2005
Msg: 49
How Sexy Is Intelligence?
Posted: 10/10/2005 8:34:22 AM

Yes, easy to say here because it's not an option..I wonder how many guys would actually turn Paris or Jessica away or "kick them out of their bed"..?

or how many ladies would turn the cold shoulder if Vin Diesel was interested in them..?

a bit like the dirt-poor guy who says: "yeah, I wouldn't WANT a Ferrari, anyway.."

LOL :)

Sort of easy/comforting to disdain that which you cannot have, anyway.. :)

That's often the reaction of those who can't have something or won't work for it..

The obese person: "No I wouldn't want a fit body..those fit people are stuck-up losers.."

The high-school dropout: "what good is that fancy edumacayshun anyway.."..

The poor: "All rich people are mean b***tards.."

etc., etc..
Joined: 4/29/2005
Msg: 53
Political Correctness??
Posted: 10/10/2005 8:57:08 AM

So the definition of "intelligence" on these boards is:

"people who think the same way as I do" ?

Who parrot the same thoughts back at me, act as a mirror of my own preconceived thoughts?

that's almost the opposite of real intelligent conversation/interaction to my way of thinking..

No, it's not "JUST" about physical attributes..

but it sure isn't "just" about mental/intellectual attributes, either..

Come on, how many of you women would give Stephen Hawking a fair chance?? (HONESTLY)

I think his IQ is around 190-200, but in a wheelchair..?

Joined: 3/1/2005
Msg: 55
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Posted: 10/10/2005 9:13:54 AM
hey buzzing bee...aching limbs?...explain
Joined: 3/1/2005
Msg: 56
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Posted: 10/10/2005 9:15:13 AM
buzzing bee...i just read all your gosh...
Joined: 4/15/2005
Msg: 59
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Posted: 10/10/2005 11:10:36 AM
I find myself dull and absent minded, but I have gotten the "your so smart" thing from a few people before. I find emotional intelligence or cunning and wit to be the sexier things. Overall wisdom trumps reason when it comes to sexiness in my book.
Joined: 12/5/2005
Msg: 72
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Posted: 12/15/2005 2:56:07 AM
If Intelligence is the prerequisite it would appear to be within this thread, then why the hell am I sooo lonely... (crys into cup of tea)... PhD, member of MENSA, wicked sence of humour, damn, it girls whats wrong with me... aha..maybe it is the minging photos...damn damn damn, what a bloody shame as kids we can not choose our own Gene pool...

Love to you all
Joined: 4/15/2005
Msg: 75
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Posted: 12/15/2005 3:35:26 AM
To me it is all about someone who is emotionally and intellectually complete. Even if perhaps especially if, she don’t know how perfect she is; I find usually people are smart about something, even if it isn’t book smart, mostly our minds seem to have a purpose.

I find people who are smart in ways I am dumb to be very mysterious, mystery is always sexy. I like to learn, & I like to teach, having one or both those things in a girl helps a relationship last. I love dreamers, someone who has a curious and creative mind, someone who doesn’t believe what people tell her, someone suspicious, that is what I find sexy in a girls mind.

The mind is the most erogenous part of the body.
Joined: 4/15/2005
Msg: 82
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Posted: 12/29/2005 11:55:08 PM
How sexy is stupidity?
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Joined: 10/19/2005
Msg: 91
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Posted: 12/30/2005 10:54:48 AM
Just out of curiousty is there such a thing as toy boy smart. Always wondered why the nerds sat at their own table in school. but I do give a 10
Joined: 8/18/2006
Msg: 110
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Posted: 2/8/2007 7:22:40 PM
Well, its been said before, the brain is the largest sex organ. Think about it, what percentage of your time is spent having sex with a mate? In most cases, you're gonna spend a whole lot more time talking than ****ing!! I like being with someone who is intelligent, who can challenge me, and believe me, intelligent women tend to be more creative in and out of the bedroom!! I understand if you don't find my jokes funny, but it just sucks when you don't get them at all!!
Joined: 7/22/2006
Msg: 115
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Posted: 2/12/2007 9:53:03 AM
Intelligence is crucial. I have a hard time retaining a relationship with someone that never catches on to anything.
Joined: 8/30/2006
Msg: 118
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Posted: 2/13/2007 5:13:08 PM
Intelligence is number one on my hot list. My friends used to make fun of me because of some of my 'nerdy' boyfriends when I was younger. I have gone out with all types of guys, but the truest turn on for me were guys who were good looking and also nerdy.....oh ya...
Joined: 12/9/2007
Msg: 132
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Posted: 12/26/2007 7:42:39 PM
Intelligence is a big plus (10) for me. If the women can't keep up with what I have to say, then they really can't be with me... Idiots do kind of annoy me.
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