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 mike1003
Joined: 8/26/2005
Msg: 2
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first you will have to explain what polyamony is lol then I will be able to give you a opion of it
 smile with your eyes
Joined: 9/4/2005
Msg: 3
Polyamory
Posted: 10/16/2005 6:18:37 AM
A polyamorous relationship is a romantic relationship that involves more than two people.

Not for it sorry. Wish I could help...but I want it to be only me and J. :) I'd get way too effing jealous.

I have a friend who's wife kept trying to talk him into a 3some....mind you I always got the impression that she liked me more than a friend. Anyway...he decides to go ahead with it..and he told me this "You have no idea what it is like to hear your wife scream/moan louder for someone else than they ever did for you." She later divorced him...took half and is now an out and proud lesbian.
 maa_97
Joined: 7/25/2005
Msg: 4
Polyamory
Posted: 10/16/2005 6:22:31 AM
I can't do that... umm I don't share well with others..lol Well I don't share my man well with anyone..unless it's a just a friend thing
 smile with your eyes
Joined: 9/4/2005
Msg: 7
Polyamory
Posted: 10/16/2005 6:28:15 AM
Oh ok....well um..NOPE! Sorry...but I would rather he love just me. Selfish I guess. I want that feeling of knowing that he's thinking of me as much as I am of him! And with other folks in the mix..that's not a given. But hey to each their own. I think you would be a better woman than I if you could do that. I'm selfish
 HB2
Joined: 5/11/2005
Msg: 9
Polyamory
Posted: 10/16/2005 6:34:59 AM
What about satisfying kinks/fetishes your partner doesn't share?
 hot4teacher
Joined: 6/15/2005
Msg: 12
Polyamory
Posted: 10/16/2005 6:52:09 AM
ERRR NO! NO THANKS. I get wayyyyyyyyyy too jealous.
 OnTheBus
Joined: 9/12/2004
Msg: 13
Polyamory
Posted: 10/16/2005 7:07:27 AM
I totally believe it is possible to love several people at one time.

But the question remains, is love stronger than jealousy?
 smile with your eyes
Joined: 9/4/2005
Msg: 14
Polyamory
Posted: 10/16/2005 7:08:54 AM
Damn you and your yoda logic! ^^^ too early to think about all that. Yikes!!! I'll take the no answer on that. Wow that hurt my head...thanks OTB!
 OnTheBus
Joined: 9/12/2004
Msg: 15
Polyamory
Posted: 10/16/2005 7:10:32 AM
Use the Force, Miss smile with eyes. And repel the forces of darkness and evil. Seek the genuine love and don't let emotions cloud your vision
 OnTheBus
Joined: 9/12/2004
Msg: 17
Polyamory
Posted: 10/16/2005 7:13:45 AM
so nice to know we are on the level of a toy
 smile with your eyes
Joined: 9/4/2005
Msg: 18
Polyamory
Posted: 10/16/2005 7:15:06 AM
OK OTB...you know how guys always look at dogs when they are licking themselves and say "If I could do that I wouldn't need a woman." Well if toys could spoon and tell us we are pretty we wouldn't need men haha :)
 OnTheBus
Joined: 9/12/2004
Msg: 20
Polyamory
Posted: 10/16/2005 7:17:44 AM
yes, but do you LOVE your toys?

Polyamory isnt about multiple sex partners, it is about multiple LOVE relationships
 smile with your eyes
Joined: 9/4/2005
Msg: 21
Polyamory
Posted: 10/16/2005 7:22:32 AM
Yes I do love my toy but in a totally different way...I love it like I love my favorite pumps...but I love guys way differently. And usually longer hehe ;)

As far as op's above post..I'm sorry...but I have had true/pure love and I couldn't for a second think of anyone else being involved in that mix. Again..it's a choice for different folks...I just am way to posessive for that stuff. But hey at least I'm being honest. :)

If it works for you and your partner(s) then that is great! I wouldn't say you shouldn't cuz it's not my life.
 good2bebad
Joined: 9/28/2005
Msg: 22
Polyamory
Posted: 10/16/2005 7:24:08 AM
I don't care. Fine with me. Up to the people in the relationship to make up the rules. We are all in one actually, people just don't think in terms of "rounds", which is what we do. Take turns with one another.

Oh, this works well if you are a pornstar like me! /wha-wha peddle as I leave the room
 OnTheBus
Joined: 9/12/2004
Msg: 24
Polyamory
Posted: 10/16/2005 7:26:17 AM
well, if you are going to bring god into the picture, I think it was his intention that we love only one. but I am not going there
 OnTheBus
Joined: 9/12/2004
Msg: 26
Polyamory
Posted: 10/16/2005 7:56:42 AM
well, go there then

I think that organized religions have used the notions of monogamy to control people.

In the days of Polytheism, it was quite common for rulers to have multiple wives. This left a lot of dudes without a hope in hell of mating. So in order to throw em a bone they decided that they could let em have ONE wife
 arri
Joined: 10/5/2005
Msg: 27
Polyamory
Posted: 10/16/2005 7:58:48 AM
Don't you think even 1 can be too many sometimes
 OnTheBus
Joined: 9/12/2004
Msg: 29
Polyamory
Posted: 10/16/2005 8:11:28 AM
Yes And if they choose monogamy then so be it!!!! I applaud it.
 Sorka Spellbound
Joined: 8/6/2005
Msg: 32
Polyamory
Posted: 10/16/2005 8:58:36 AM
I've known some people over the years that believe strongly in polyamory and chose that as their way of life. It is my understanding that there is a "primary" relationship, where the bond between the two is so strong that jealousy and insecurity just don't play any parts. The others that these two love are considered "tertiary" relationships, and may or may not involve intimacy. For this to work, I think there has to be that unselfish love between all parties involved, otherwise someone is going to get hurt.
 mcbobly
Joined: 8/28/2005
Msg: 33
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Polyamory
Posted: 10/16/2005 3:32:37 PM
**"You have no idea what it is like to hear your wife scream/moan louder for someone else than they ever did for you." She later divorced him...took half and is now an out and proud lesbian**

That is exactly why I never let the fantasy become a reality. Rejection is bad enough, but to be left for another woman? holy cow, that must be the ultimate rejection. Besides, I can't help but feel when one partner is so serious about a 3 some there must be an underlying issue there and might possibly use it to end the relationship.
 sammysalt
Joined: 9/7/2005
Msg: 34
Polyamory
Posted: 10/16/2005 3:43:31 PM
Thats more than I am use to, so I will leave it to all of you. Not my thing.
 Sorka Spellbound
Joined: 8/6/2005
Msg: 36
Polyamory
Posted: 10/16/2005 4:45:06 PM
No, married men with mistresses don't fit in the sense of polyamory that the OP was talking about, neither do the kinky threesomes. Polyamory is agreed upon by all parties involved, not something that one partner does in secret from the other. Polymaory IS about the emotional attachment.
 fishbill
Joined: 3/19/2005
Msg: 38
Polyamory
Posted: 10/16/2005 5:12:50 PM
I dont know anything about it, except the female partners often seem kinda fat and ugly and desperate.
 jimb77
Joined: 8/30/2005
Msg: 39
Polyamory
Posted: 10/16/2005 5:35:34 PM
no, i don't share.
 Sorka Spellbound
Joined: 8/6/2005
Msg: 40
Polyamory
Posted: 10/17/2005 8:13:19 PM
To the OP - I'm guessing from the replies to this topic that there aren't many around who either a) know what pollyamory means or b) aren't into it.

I try to understand things about the people I know as friends. The things I learn about may not always be my "cup of tea" but I'm open minded enough to really believe that there are "different strokes for different folks" and enjoy learning about any number of subjects.

By the way, I did a google on polyamory and found a couple of decent sites.
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