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 Blonde_Bunny
Joined: 10/9/2005
Msg: 2
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I like to learn things from my partner. However, it's great to share some interests. It can be a good ice breaker.
 sammysalt
Joined: 9/7/2005
Msg: 3
Is it necessary to have common interests?
Posted: 10/16/2005 10:12:10 AM
I don't think its about living different as much as being able to both give, and get a little to make it work. If people can do that, then what differents doesn't it matter.
 jimi77
Joined: 7/13/2004
Msg: 6
Is it necessary to have common interests?
Posted: 10/16/2005 10:15:36 AM
no.. my brother and his wife share differant intrest and get along fine.. i think it matters if they have an intrest.. i have dated women that had none..that was terribal.. but i would love to share the same intrest with someone and do it with them.. still in all there has to be some common ground to work off.
 indigo rose
Joined: 11/25/2004
Msg: 7
Is it necessary to have common interests?
Posted: 10/16/2005 10:24:41 AM
naww I NEED my alone time and expect him to go off and do his thing too..we can both like sex
 Sorka Spellbound
Joined: 8/6/2005
Msg: 9
Is it necessary to have common interests?
Posted: 10/16/2005 10:26:34 AM
I think there needs to be some common ground, but to have all things in common would be a little boring, at least for me.
 HB2
Joined: 5/11/2005
Msg: 11
Is it necessary to have common interests?
Posted: 10/16/2005 11:43:13 AM
No....

There is such a thing as too much time together
 smile with your eyes
Joined: 9/4/2005
Msg: 12
Is it necessary to have common interests?
Posted: 10/16/2005 11:53:22 AM
I think of different interestes as an opportunity to learn. I don't know about everything..and I love to learn about anything and everything. So I prefer different interests...it makes the conversations last so much longer. And keeps the spark alive in my opinion.
 arri
Joined: 10/5/2005
Msg: 14
Is it necessary to have common interests?
Posted: 10/16/2005 12:05:08 PM

naww I NEED my alone time and expect him to go off and do his thing too..we can both like sex


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 HB2
Joined: 5/11/2005
Msg: 15
Is it necessary to have common interests?
Posted: 10/16/2005 12:06:51 PM
^^^^^yeah baby!

As long as he's in MY bed at night who cares?
 ~Dangerous Liaison~
Joined: 8/22/2005
Msg: 16
Is it necessary to have common interests?
Posted: 10/16/2005 12:15:07 PM
you need to have some common things to create a foundation, but you dont need to have everything in common...you still have to be an individual...and what is better than a good old fashioned debate and then make up sex if anyone gets offended...lol
 HB2
Joined: 5/11/2005
Msg: 17
Is it necessary to have common interests?
Posted: 10/16/2005 12:18:12 PM
I do agree that there has to be some common ground...but not everything.
 arri
Joined: 10/5/2005
Msg: 18
Is it necessary to have common interests?
Posted: 10/16/2005 12:19:49 PM
My partner is just starting to get used to my sarcasm and appreciate it, but thank god for make up sex .. saved us a few times ..
 arri
Joined: 10/5/2005
Msg: 21
Is it necessary to have common interests?
Posted: 10/16/2005 12:34:40 PM
Linda

I totally understand what your instructor is saying. I don’t need my partner to share my passions but it hurts when they insult it,

it feels very personal and hurtful.
 arri
Joined: 10/5/2005
Msg: 23
Is it necessary to have common interests?
Posted: 10/16/2005 12:50:21 PM
Sarcasm is fun and I love sarcastic women. The wittier the better. BUT

Our passions determine who we are and taking a jab at someone’s passion is a personal attack.
 HB2
Joined: 5/11/2005
Msg: 24
Is it necessary to have common interests?
Posted: 10/16/2005 12:58:21 PM
I totally agree with that^^^^^

All I'm saying is that couples don't need to do everything together.

Yes, I'm willing to try a new activity and would hope my partner felt the same but it's not a requirement.
 arri
Joined: 10/5/2005
Msg: 25
Is it necessary to have common interests?
Posted: 10/16/2005 1:07:47 PM
There are also a lot of lifestyle and couples things like the entertainment that you better both enjoy besides sex, or the relationship will be very boring.
 HB2
Joined: 5/11/2005
Msg: 26
Is it necessary to have common interests?
Posted: 10/16/2005 1:17:09 PM
True.....

I love to dance and the X hated it so I had to do my dancing at home for the most part.
 Cindy***
Joined: 10/14/2005
Msg: 27
Is it necessary to have common interests?
Posted: 10/16/2005 1:17:09 PM
I think common values are much more important than common interests. However if a guy is into an expensive and/or time consuming hobby like flying or SCUBA and the girl is not. She will eventurally be unhappy about the amount of time and in a long-term relationship, money, that he spends on his hobby. Diverse interests can be fun as long as one partner is not really against any of them.
 kingfisher1
Joined: 5/20/2005
Msg: 29
Is it necessary to have common interests?
Posted: 10/16/2005 5:09:50 PM
Yeah, I would want a girl who is interested in at least some of the stuff I'm into. Hopefully I'm also interested in some of the stuff she's into. I would think common interests are a major ingredient in the glue that bonds two people together.
 bucsgirl
Joined: 3/2/2005
Msg: 30
Is it necessary to have common interests?
Posted: 10/16/2005 5:11:48 PM
I think it's more a question of how much TIME is spent on the interests. If it's a casual hobby or something you spend nearly all your free time on. I think it's good to have some interests common and some different. Makes for a good mix.
 BarnBabe
Joined: 5/12/2005
Msg: 31
Is it necessary to have common interests?
Posted: 10/16/2005 5:38:35 PM
I introduced the guy I'm seeing to the world of Horsedom the other day. If I can get him hooked on that, then we're good as gold woohoo!!
 ksue44
Joined: 6/20/2005
Msg: 32
Is it necessary to have common interests?
Posted: 10/16/2005 6:57:59 PM
Some similar interests but I'm not seeking my siamese twin. It's more about relating than just dating for me. A strong couple is one who grows together, they may not share the same views, but they will have great tolerance and respect for the other's opinions as well as interests.
 am70sguy
Joined: 6/11/2005
Msg: 33
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Is it necessary to have common interests?
Posted: 10/16/2005 11:21:02 PM
Very similar core values, a good compliment of interests as well as knowing the interests of the other are ones you can live with.

Some hobbies are so time and expense intensive they really do require that has the same kind of interests in those areas.
 Anazdaddy
Joined: 7/12/2007
Msg: 34
Is it necessary to have common interests?
Posted: 7/20/2007 8:45:42 AM
Some. I do not want someone who has EVERYTHING in common with me. To me, that would be a bore and the idea of dating myself or a clone of myself is not appealing. I am attracted to someone with some common interests/ideas/values, etc..and some different. I am often attracted to very opposites but have never persued because I know the rejection rate in that type of search is quite high.
 Christian seeks Christian
Joined: 4/20/2007
Msg: 35
Is it necessary to have common interests?
Posted: 7/20/2007 9:40:50 AM
Common interests are very important. I like religion and could never enjoy time with an atheist and he would not like going to church or temple with me, so our core values would be way different and incompatable.
I like to eat healthy and do not like the smell of junk food eaters who do not take care of their health with good diet, exercise and clean lifestyle, no sti's. So it would be impossible for me to want to be close to someone who ate a junk food diet and did not eat right, exercise or pay attention to their diet and lifestyle.
Pipe or cigarette smoke bothers some people, not me, as my dad smoked, so I am okay with cigarette, pipe or cigar smoker, and that would bother other people.
Some people are okay with alcohol, I never drink alcohol, never touch the stuff, so a drinker would be incompatable with me.
I like to swim and sun and it would be unusual for me to meet a guy who did not like to swim or sun.
If you are physically attracted, share similar values, interests and beliefs, if you both like reading the same books, and enjoy the same lifestyle, then you have a lot in common and that is good to share common interests, values and beliefs etc. as kindred spirits and compatable partners.
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